I don't think anybody who is venting about their showers or their gifts is acting entitled at all ( @KarasTwin your shower with a million people would have had me hiding in the corner from all those strangers). But @amark11 sums it up well, so far from family, don't really know a lot of people (at least I don't), it sounds like fun and we're missing out, and a bit jealous. So I guess my vent should read instead like - I wish I were closer to my family and friends
@Frogger5 Yeah I agree no one is trying to be snotty. The way I see it is we are all very particular about following etiquette and I'm the same way about gift giving. Give a receipt is all I said and I also said I appreciate every gift because it's thoughtful. Babies are expensive and I am using a ton of hand me downs and I don't NEED brand new clothes for him...... It makes me feel excessive and frustrated because what we need are the basics... Diapers, etc. I get what your saying from your prospective but this is a venting thread and I'm not taking back anything I said.
I am fuming... I saw my regular ob this week and last week to follow up from an appointment with a specialist.I told my specialist the 1st & 2nd time I wasn't getting chromosome tested. Well he told my ob that he was worried about high amniotic fluid, and basically that my child was going to be still born due to things he "saw" during an u/s. So of course my ob is paranoid. What he was complaining about was heart, lungs, and movement. Funny thing was both times I saw him they have bragged about my baby's organs ( heart and lung). And today at my appointment they were upset my baby was moving too much. Also when they checked my amniotic fluid it was exactly where it was supposed to be. I just cannot figure out why the guy would blatantly lie to my ob. And because of it I have to go get weekly scans which stresses me out.
I get that this is a vent thread, but there have been so many posts bitching about gifts people gave them! It sounds really snotty and entitled. At least someone threw you a shower and people brought gifts. It's just gotten a bit over the top.
I'm thankful for the things I've gotten and theshowers being thrown, I just feel awkward because most of the people there were strangers and I already felt gift grabby even though it was not my decision to invite so many people. I would honestly rather have a few useful and meaningful tthings from people I'm close to than for strangers to buy me random things that they may or may not be able to afford. I totally sympathize with all the ladies who don't get showers or have support systems, I simply wanted to express my frustration. I'm tired, cranky, and frankly still a little scared after bleeding Sunday morning. I don't want anyone to feel that I'm snotty or entitled because I can assure you that is not the case. I never intended to offend anyone.
I am often the first to call people entitled and spoiled. Probably because I am jealous of the showers, being so far from home and definitely not having one of any type - if I am honest! But I didn't think you were coming off badly. Especially since others were asking you, and it is a Vents thread.
My $0.02. But I know what Frogger means, usually.
Thanks @amark11 I honestly hate being the center of attention and having to be the guest of honor. I'm a twin so I never had to be the center of attention even for birthdays and such, I always had someone to share with. DH and I eloped because things like that make me cringe. I wish I could have had a co-shower with one of you ladies.
Yes, definitely I meant more like, ok, we get it, lots of people are pissed about the gifts they received. Let's move on! Not necessarily that any one poster was acting badly or entitled. I don't know, I guess reading through them it just stopped being entertaining!
@Frogger5 Yeah I agree no one is trying to be snotty. The way I see it is we are all very particular about following etiquette and I'm the same way about gift giving. Give a receipt is all I said and I also said I appreciate every gift because it's thoughtful. Babies are expensive and I am using a ton of hand me downs and I don't NEED brand new clothes for him...... It makes me feel excessive and frustrated because what we need are the basics... Diapers, etc. I get what your saying from your prospective but this is a venting thread and I'm not taking back anything I said.
I know, all of that's true - I said the same thing that I know it is a vent thread. I would never expect anyone to take anything back because I know it's true . . . I don't know, I guess I was just venting about it!
Ahh! We have a million projects going on at our house: bathroom remodel, paint and plan the nursery, prep the boat (DH would love to get on the water before the baby arrives), not to mention a yard that hasn't been touched because we just stopped having snow and ice a month ago.
Meanwhile, we have a 15 month old at home and a 2 1/2 year old big dog that (while an extremely gentle giant) is super jealous of cuddle time when the toddler needs to go to bed.
Oh yeah, and I'm pregnant... Not sleeping (if I do, she wakes me up anyway) and my husband is at his breaking point feeling like I am expecting him to do everything. The problem is I feel like I no longer have a brain in my head to think of how I can contribute. I'm just surviving the moment.
I've made a list of things I can do to help, at his request; but,, I just feel like he doesn't get how run down I already am. Frustrated & exhausted.
Ahh! We have a million projects going on at our house: bathroom remodel, paint and plan the nursery, prep the boat (DH would love to get on the water before the baby arrives), not to mention a yard that hasn't been touched because we just stopped having snow and ice a month ago.
Meanwhile, we have a 15 month old at home and a 2 1/2 year old big dog that (while an extremely gentle giant) is super jealous of cuddle time when the toddler needs to go to bed.
Oh yeah, and I'm pregnant... Not sleeping (if I do, she wakes me up anyway) and my husband is at his breaking point feeling like I am expecting him to do everything. The problem is I feel like I no longer have a brain in my head to think of how I can contribute. I'm just surviving the moment.
I've made a list of things I can do to help, at his request; but,, I just feel like he doesn't get how run down I already am. Frustrated & exhausted.
sounds like you both need a lazy day to just sit and be together. look over all you have accomplished and look at what still needs to be done in a way that you dont stress out over. do what you can and try to just at least get something done each day(i totally understand the exhaustion) but just take small steps if its too much for you to do big things.
@thedo as much as it pains me I have to give my husband one thing to do at a time because our list is long too...finish crown molding, paint quarter round, complete nursery art. We bought a fixer upper so I have lots of projects. So I pick what I want completed first and then go on to the next. I just don't think it bothers him as much as me to see unfinished projects but I had to walk away from that battle. He gets way too frustrated. Having said that, he likes to take lots of road trips on the weekends and I'm like those are wasted days we can be doing stuff! My frustration is that my husband tells me he's taking a fishing trip the same week I go back to work after maternity leave. I'm like your leaving me with a 4 month old and 3 dogs my first week back to work?? (I work 12-14 hour days) I was like are you kidding me. My mom said she would help but the thought of that stresses me out. I told him he had to take at least 1 dog.
@thedo as much as it pains me I have to give my husband one thing to do at a time because our list is long too...finish crown molding, paint quarter round, complete nursery art. We bought a fixer upper so I have lots of projects. So I pick what I want completed first and then go on to the next. I just don't think it bothers him as much as me to see unfinished projects but I had to walk away from that battle. He gets way too frustrated. Having said that, he likes to take lots of road trips on the weekends and I'm like those are wasted days we can be doing stuff! My frustration is that my husband tells me he's taking a fishing trip the same week I go back to work after maternity leave. I'm like your leaving me with a 4 month old and 3 dogs my first week back to work?? (I work 12-14 hour days) I was like are you kidding me. My mom said she would help but the thought of that stresses me out. I told him he had to take at least 1 dog.
I don't blame you for being upset about the fishing trip! Is there any way he can reschedule, even if it's just for the following week, so you can have a bit of time to adjust?
I've been asking my husband to clean the kitchen for five days now. FIVE DAYS! I cleaned the whole apartment and all I'm asking from him is the kitchen. I'm dying to clean it myself but I'm just going to wait for him to do it if it kills me. I even ate cereal out of a Tupperware container cause all the bowls were in the sink. Grr!!
It drives me nuts how quick my fiancé is to tell me I shouldn't be doing something (carrying laundry, using windex or bleach cleaners) but will he ever do the bathroom cleaning so I don't have to? Ha. No. So I make a mask and just do it really quick lol
Minor frustration / complaint but since last night and this morning everybody's little icons aren't loading on either my PC or phone. So, I can see all these little boxes with x's in them as 'love it's' but cant identify who has done what because they are ALL little boxes with x's in them. Either my interwebz are slow and I need to call them (which will turn into another frustration, cause every single time I speak with them I spend 15 minutes shooting down sales pitches) or tb sucks since last night.
Minor frustration / complaint but since last night and this morning everybody's little icons aren't loading on either my PC or phone. So, I can see all these little boxes with x's in them as 'love it's' but cant identify who has done what because they are ALL little boxes with x's in them. Either my interwebz are slow and I need to call them (which will turn into another frustration, cause every single time I speak with them I spend 15 minutes shooting down sales pitches) or tb sucks since last night.
I think it's the bump... I have the same thing going on, on both my phone and my computer. And it's not just my apartment's internet being wonky because I tried getting on it on campus this morning as well. So yep, I call bump shenanigans again!
Minor frustration / complaint but since last night and this morning everybody's little icons aren't loading on either my PC or phone. So, I can see all these little boxes with x's in them as 'love it's' but cant identify who has done what because they are ALL little boxes with x's in them. Either my interwebz are slow and I need to call them (which will turn into another frustration, cause every single time I speak with them I spend 15 minutes shooting down sales pitches) or tb sucks since last night.
happening for me too on my PC. it's driving me nuts
Minor frustration / complaint but since last night and this morning everybody's little icons aren't loading on either my PC or phone. So, I can see all these little boxes with x's in them as 'love it's' but cant identify who has done what because they are ALL little boxes with x's in them. Either my interwebz are slow and I need to call them (which will turn into another frustration, cause every single time I speak with them I spend 15 minutes shooting down sales pitches) or tb sucks since last night.
My Mom is driving me nuts today! It's a long story behind it and I don't really want to get into it but AHHHH!
And now she is freaking out about my c-section date and how long she is going to stay for. I thought the plan for the past 6 months or so, was that my parents were going to come for the delivery for a few days. When my husband returns to work around July, then they would come out for another week. Just to help me during the week. But I guess now she was talking about staying the whole week that I am delivering???? Oh, and she wants to fly up here and have me pick her up from the airport the night before I deliver because the "cheap" flight flies into a small remote airport that doesn't have car rental. Um, no! I don't want to pick you up from the airport the night before I deliver...plus, there is a chance I can still go early.
Minor frustration / complaint but since last night and this morning everybody's little icons aren't loading on either my PC or phone. So, I can see all these little boxes with x's in them as 'love it's' but cant identify who has done what because they are ALL little boxes with x's in them. Either my interwebz are slow and I need to call them (which will turn into another frustration, cause every single time I speak with them I spend 15 minutes shooting down sales pitches) or tb sucks since last night.
Oh, hey, my pictures are back now! Are everyone else's?
Minor frustration / complaint but since last night and this morning everybody's little icons aren't loading on either my PC or phone. So, I can see all these little boxes with x's in them as 'love it's' but cant identify who has done what because they are ALL little boxes with x's in them. Either my interwebz are slow and I need to call them (which will turn into another frustration, cause every single time I speak with them I spend 15 minutes shooting down sales pitches) or tb sucks since last night.
Oh, hey, my pictures are back now! Are everyone else's?
Mine too! Maybe our complaints alerted the powers that be...
Minor frustration / complaint but since last night and this morning everybody's little icons aren't loading on either my PC or phone. So, I can see all these little boxes with x's in them as 'love it's' but cant identify who has done what because they are ALL little boxes with x's in them. Either my interwebz are slow and I need to call them (which will turn into another frustration, cause every single time I speak with them I spend 15 minutes shooting down sales pitches) or tb sucks since last night.
Oh, hey, my pictures are back now! Are everyone else's?
Mine too! Maybe our complaints alerted the powers that be...
Or, our group vent-think aligned the powers of the universe accordingly
@laurendutch - I'm sorry about your mom, I certainly wouldn't want to pick her up from the airport day before either. Is it possible DH can get her? Or have her call enterprise - 'they'll pick you up'
Not entirely pregnancy related but just goes to show the ignorance of some people.There was this girl on the bus today I wanted to smack silly. I was on the bus earlier and I was almost at my stop and I didn't have much farther to go. So we get to This one really busy stop where a lady with a stroller was trying to get on, and I figured I'd stand and let her put her stroller in that spot. Just as this lady was trying get down the aisle to where my seat was, this young, able bodied woman (don't know if that's the right word--but she wasn't pregnant or had a stroller or anything) sits down right where I just stood up. She looked right at me and at the lady with the stroller and continued to sit in that spot, so someone else got up on the other side for the lady with the stroller. Just makes me so mad, I didn't get up out of my seat for her lazy ass.
@mellymar Thanks! I think she is just really stressed out at work at the moment and she tends to over react to things. The main reason why I want her to come later in the month, give me a chance to get my own schedule going. There's also a lot of things going on with my little sister. I spoke to my little sister about an hour ago and she was surprised that my Mom was switching up the plans. I have a feeling that my Mom hasn't even spoken to my Dad about this yet. I think I am going to suggest that she sticks to the original plan. Plus, whenever she visits she gets my twins off their schedule and that is the last thing I need when dealing with a newborn, ya know?
I find most of my pregnancy symptoms aren't so bad, and talking pregnancy can be really alienating/off-putting for some people... So I really try to downplay it and avoid talking about it with most people. I say things like, "I find it's over-hyped" or, "I'm still me, just with a basketball in there."
Sometimes friends really push me to give honest answers though, so I do, then it clearly freaks them out. Tonight a friend wouldn't give it a rest in asking how I'm doing, so I described my rib pain. It totally killed the conversation, and mumbling, "it sounds way worse than it is" didn't really fix the situation.
I get it. I felt the same way (intimidated by pregnancy) before experiencing it. But man, it makes me feel like a leper sometimes. I am still me!!
Feeling very very irritated!! I am addicted to some shows on Hulu and I'm watching one of my new episodes last night.... I had 5 mins roughly left and my computer decided to crash and burn!! Now I sit here wondering how it ended! Ugh
I could strangle DH right now. I told him I want to spend the night with my family next Saturday after our shower because it's a good 1 hour and 45 minute drive and I don't feel like riding that far twice in one day in addition to my shower. We don't see my family very often and I'd like to take advantage of the situation. He is totally opposed to it and is being so rude. I want to scream
I just... Ugh, I'd just really like to have a beer.
My OB says a single drink on occasion is fine, and my MIL's OB once recommended to her that she have go home and have a single drink to relax after a particularly stressful event during her last pregnancy. I haven't been drinking (well, I had a sip of an uncle's famous homemade wine for Christmas ) and I haven't looked it up, but it's worth asking about if you really think you need it and you're concerned about the safety of it
I just... Ugh, I'd just really like to have a beer.
My OB says a single drink on occasion is fine, and my MIL's OB once recommended to her that she have go home and have a single drink to relax after a particularly stressful event during her last pregnancy. I haven't been drinking (well, I had a sip of an uncle's famous homemade wine for Christmas ) and I haven't looked it up, but it's worth asking about if you really think you need it and you're concerned about the safety of it
I'm not concerned about the safety. And I don't 'need' it. I just miss having a nice hoppy beer while watching playoff hockey. I'm waiting for special beers or special occasions to indulge.
I could strangle DH right now. I told him I want to spend the night with my family next Saturday after our shower because it's a good 1 hour and 45 minute drive and I don't feel like riding that far twice in one day in addition to my shower. We don't see my family very often and I'd like to take advantage of the situation. He is totally opposed to it and is being so rude. I want to scream
We compromised by hanging with my fam after the shower but staying at a hotel for some alone time - then headed back the next morning. Is that an option? My MIL was nice and paid for ours, but I was planning on covering it - in the scheme if things it was worth it.
I've been asking my husband to clean the kitchen for five days now. FIVE DAYS! I cleaned the whole apartment and all I'm asking from him is the kitchen. I'm dying to clean it myself but I'm just going to wait for him to do it if it kills me. I even ate cereal out of a Tupperware container cause all the bowls were in the sink. Grr!!
Update: I came home to a clean kitchen. Oh happy day! \:D/
1. Finally got a pedicure today for my shower Saturday. Took me all of two hours to smudge a big toe -_-
2. FI came home after work at his restaurant job drunk, when he has an 8 am conference call for his actual job and we are leaving for my parents for the shower right after that.
3. I cleaned and vacuumed the house today and went grocery shopping because one of my friends decided she was going to come back home with us after my shower Saturday and stay "a couple of days" aka all effing week. On our couch. I never used to care about visitors, it comes with the territory living at the beach I guess, but it's already going to be such a stressful few days and I'm going to be organizing and setting up the nursery and stuff. Plus she is still in the wanting to go out and drink phase and guess what my big event of most days is taking a shower.
1. Finally got a pedicure today for my shower Saturday. Took me all of two hours to smudge a big toe -_-
2. FI came home after work at his restaurant job drunk, when he has an 8 am conference call for his actual job and we are leaving for my parents for the shower right after that.
3. I cleaned and vacuumed the house today and went grocery shopping because one of my friends decided she was going to come back home with us after my shower Saturday and stay "a couple of days" aka all effing week. On our couch. I never used to care about visitors, it comes with the territory living at the beach I guess, but it's already going to be such a stressful few days and I'm going to be organizing and setting up the nursery and stuff. Plus she is still in the wanting to go out and drink phase and guess what my big event of most days is taking a shower.
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Very annoying. Hopefully you can let her do some beach time alone during the days she is here and let you get some stuff done?
1. Finally got a pedicure today for my shower Saturday. Took me all of two hours to smudge a big toe -_-
2. FI came home after work at his restaurant job drunk, when he has an 8 am conference call for his actual job and we are leaving for my parents for the shower right after that.
3. I cleaned and vacuumed the house today and went grocery shopping because one of my friends decided she was going to come back home with us after my shower Saturday and stay "a couple of days" aka all effing week. On our couch. I never used to care about visitors, it comes with the territory living at the beach I guess, but it's already going to be such a stressful few days and I'm going to be organizing and setting up the nursery and stuff. Plus she is still in the wanting to go out and drink phase and guess what my big event of most days is taking a shower.
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Very annoying. Hopefully you can let her do some beach time alone during the days she is here and let you get some stuff done?
I wouldn't even mind going to the beach with her but its not going to get above 61 all week so its going to fall to me to entertain and come up with places to go, when FI and I have been scrimping all month to try to save money, and I just know we are inevitably going to end up spending money we wouldn't have otherwise. Oh well. I guess I can look at it as a last girl's extended weekend before baby.
I could strangle DH right now. I told him I want to spend the night with my family next Saturday after our shower because it's a good 1 hour and 45 minute drive and I don't feel like riding that far twice in one day in addition to my shower. We don't see my family very often and I'd like to take advantage of the situation. He is totally opposed to it and is being so rude. I want to scream
We compromised by hanging with my fam after the shower but staying at a hotel for some alone time - then headed back the next morning. Is that an option? My MIL was nice and paid for ours, but I was planning on covering it - in the scheme if things it was worth it.
Probably not. DH used to travel a lot for work and hates being away from home if not necessary, but I just don't get the big deal about one night. We would have our own room and bathroom at my sisters house so I don't know what his issue is. I guess I'll just have to let it go
@Serenamarr I have a friend that thought she was going to spend the night with me too for the baby shower! She only lives 2 hours away. I won't get home till 9pm the night before after a 13 hour day and then have to deal with 3 crazy dogs (my husband is out of town for a fantasy football draft). I tried to get someone to cover my shift but that didn't work out. I know she just wants to spend time with me but I told her she couldn't. I can't entertain this pregnant and uncomfortable. She'll understand when she's pregnant one day I hope.
@mellymar I didn't mean "need" like you're an alcoholic or something, just like cravings - like how I really "needed" a maple bar the other day. Sorry if that came off wrong
Wow guys. This is the lowest I have felt in this entire pregnancy. I just had my 33 week appointment aka pee in cup/check heartbeat/any questions/ok you're done. And when I asked if I could have a printout of my lab results because we are meeting with a potential doula today and she asked us to bring them, the doctor literally threw her head back and laughed in my face. She asked why do I want a doula, and I said this particular one is also a midwife and since I want to labor at home as long as possible, having someone there with a fetal Doppler who is trained to check my cervix and say when it is time to go to the hospital will put me at ease and allow me to relax and labor at home comfortably longer. She laughed in my face again and said that is a terrible terrible idea, that laboring at home at all is bad, that if I end up with a dead baby I would never forgive myself- I kid you not the woman must have used the words "dead baby" at least five times. I wanted to punch her in the face. She said she would never ever allow anyone to monitor the baby at home- I don't see why this is so outrageous, I am not planning to stay home until I see a head or anything, I just don't want to go to the hospital until I have to, and this stupid doctor was basically saying every minute I labor at home I get closer to the baby dying and there being nothing I can do about it. Mind you my parents house where I will be laboring is less than 2 miles from the hospital. This woman's parting words were if you use this doula and something goes wrong and I am on call that day don't even come in because I will kill you. She actually said that. AM I IN THE TWILIGHT ZONE?
Re: Daily Vents/ Frustrations/ Complaints Anyone?
I just cannot figure out why the guy would blatantly lie to my ob. And because of it I have to go get weekly scans which stresses me out.
Meanwhile, we have a 15 month old at home and a 2 1/2 year old big dog that (while an extremely gentle giant) is super jealous of cuddle time when the toddler needs to go to bed.
Oh yeah, and I'm pregnant... Not sleeping (if I do, she wakes me up anyway) and my husband is at his breaking point feeling like I am expecting him to do everything. The problem is I feel like I no longer have a brain in my head to think of how I can contribute. I'm just surviving the moment.
I've made a list of things I can do to help, at his request; but,, I just feel like he doesn't get how run down I already am.
Frustrated & exhausted.
My frustration is that my husband tells me he's taking a fishing trip the same week I go back to work after maternity leave. I'm like your leaving me with a 4 month old and 3 dogs my first week back to work?? (I work 12-14 hour days) I was like are you kidding me. My mom said she would help but the thought of that stresses me out. I told him he had to take at least 1 dog.
@laurendutch - I'm sorry about your mom, I certainly wouldn't want to pick her up from the airport day before either. Is it possible DH can get her? Or have her call enterprise - 'they'll pick you up'
Sometimes friends really push me to give honest answers though, so I do, then it clearly freaks them out. Tonight a friend wouldn't give it a rest in asking how I'm doing, so I described my rib pain. It totally killed the conversation, and mumbling, "it sounds way worse than it is" didn't really fix the situation.
I get it. I felt the same way (intimidated by pregnancy) before experiencing it. But man, it makes me feel like a leper sometimes. I am still me!!
I just miss my craft beer.
2. FI came home after work at his restaurant job drunk, when he has an 8 am conference call for his actual job and we are leaving for my parents for the shower right after that.
3. I cleaned and vacuumed the house today and went grocery shopping because one of my friends decided she was going to come back home with us after my shower Saturday and stay "a couple of days" aka all effing week. On our couch. I never used to care about visitors, it comes with the territory living at the beach I guess, but it's already going to be such a stressful few days and I'm going to be organizing and setting up the nursery and stuff. Plus she is still in the wanting to go out and drink phase and guess what my big event of most days is taking a shower.