My husband and I had been having marital issues a few months ago. We found out we were pregnant March 10th and that weekend, we both went to our National Guard drills. We are both in the service. Everyone at his unit was so happy and excited. Everyone at mine talked behind my back so much about our marriage that it got me called into the commander's office. I had no idea what happened. I felt so betrayed by the people who are supposed to have my back. I wanted to talk in front of the unit and tell them if they had questions about my marriage to ask me. I was afraid it would stir up more drama. I don't want to go back to drill. I know they see me as lazy because the Army doesn't allow me to do normal work for fear of hurting the baby.
Reviving this thread because I've just started telling people this week and am already sick of people blaming everything normal on the pregnancy/hormones.
My husband was bouncing his foot up and down on the pillow I was leaning against. When I asked him to stop, his mother told him I was just mad because I'm pregnant.
Saturday night, overnight guests kept us up until 1:30 am playing video games and then I had to be up at 7 to get ready for Easter. Later that day, my stepbrother's girlfriend (whom I had just met) said I was just tired because of the pregnancy.
We told my mother in law we are pregnant yesterday. We were talking about how my husband is getting his MMR vaccine, because he never got his second round of vaccines as a baby be cause he reacted to his first. My mother in law started getting all flustered and saying "measles are no big deal! They won't kill you!"....my jaw dropped to the ground. I had to go on to educate her the harm they could do to a newborn. It makes my wonder if my husband really ever had a reaction or if she just didn't get him vaccinated.
My DH and I have a few drama starters in the family. With my first pregnancy, I got these: Was it planned? Are you going to keep it? I thought you two were getting a divorce, now you're pregnant? (My hubby and I fought a bit early in our marriage, but never was the big D even discussed) and this gem from his cousins wife who found out she was pregnant then I find out I'm expecting two weeks later "you got pregnant just to steal my thunder!" smh some people I just wanna slap.
Mine is less of a say, more of a do. Yesterday I walked in on my MIL going through my husbands phone. We haven't told anyone yet, but have referenced the baby in text message so she may already know/ telling the whole family again before we get a chance to. Needless to say his phone was password protected last night.
@MommyLishy yeah, totally not happy about that. This is totally her though, every time she comes over she goes through our drawers/cabinets/medicine cabinets. Even my FIL has commented on her snooping.
I work with mostly men, in a male dominated field and a few guys were standing around telling me how so and so's wife is pregnant and so and so are thinking about having kids. When they look at me and say "you are all about the job, you don't want kids." Whoops...
My husband "there's a brew fest this weekend and I was really excited thinking we should go, then I realized that we can't ever do stuff like that again" uh wtf?!
@AshBrown86 I just saw this and totally love it. My husband said the other day "Too bad we can't go on vacation this summer." I was like, "um, Why not?" "You're pregnant and won't be able to drink, so there's no point." WTF???
With the bf and his dad they tell their friends (people iv never met) and those friends always look at their daughter's or bf's sister and says "well hopefully you learn from her stupid mistake and make better life decisions"
So this is one that drives me crazy... And MY mother is the one who says it... If I'm on the phone with her and I don't sound all happy and over joyed to speak with her.. She asks me what's wrong.. I reply with Nothing.. And then she says "oh that's right, you're all hormonal"...... REALLY?!? Thanks! I don't need you to remind me of that.. Maybe petty.. But super annoying! Lol
Oh geez. This thread is making it easier to wait to tell everyone haha! We've only told our parents, they can handle my snarky remarks, the general public probably cannot. My moms response (mind you, once she stopped laughing as she thought I was joking - I needed to send her a picture of me holding the 2 tests)... "were you guys trying?" and my personal favourite "are we excited about this or......" I said of corse and then she changed the subject I'm married, and we have our own house.
However, I would like to note the balls of some cashiers. Buying prenatal vitamins and she loudly begins to interrogate my husband and I, I was so embarrassed and we basically ran to our car. I haven't told people at work but I'm sure they will annoy the hell out of me so I'll be putting that off as long as possible
One that really threw me off was my bf dad, "Was it fast slow hard or soft sex.. that can determine the sex of the baby"... Your so sex deprived u had to find an "excuse" to ask about my sex life with your son.. -.-
Woman I hardly know stopped me in the office the other day: "I'm really offended." "Really, why is that Nancy?" "You didn't come tell me, you were pregnant." Wtf Nancy
My MIL: "Was it planned?" When we told her I was pregnant (Been married 2 years, have a house and 2 cars and stable jobs)
Another gem from my MIL, when we went to dinner on my birthday last Saturday and I barely ate anything because I felt so sick, " Oh I bet the only thing that sounds good to you is carbs. All you're eating is carbs. You know, that's how your sister in law ended up the way she did (she gained 70 pounds in her first pregnancy). I gained 37 pounds with my first." BITCH PLEASE!!! You just saw me eat NOTHING because I feel so sick, I don't even want carbs! And why is it your business what my weight is? I'm already self conscious!
You should say " Why yes it was planned I rode your son like a black stallion all night long and we mostly did soggy style and we banged the head board to hard against the wall and put a hole in it. Now would you like to know anything else?" that's what I told my brother but in very vulgar language who was not excited about my news while I am married while pregnant with a mortgage and stable jobs and he just met his Baby momma 3 months before she got pregnant.
Yesterday while at lunch, one coworker said "I have a feeling your hips and butt will get HUGE and SUPER wide" and the other said "I just want you to get really fat already." WTF. I'm a small girl but I have pretty big hips already. Felt like those comments were very unnecessary. >:/
So this is one that drives me crazy... And MY mother is the one who says it... If I'm on the phone with her and I don't sound all happy and over joyed to speak with her.. She asks me what's wrong.. I reply with Nothing.. And then she says "oh that's right, you're all hormonal"...... REALLY?!? Thanks! I don't need you to remind me of that.. Maybe petty.. But super annoying! Lol
My mom said this exact thing to me the other day too! Ugh
What is really getting on my nerves currently is we started telling family and close friends since I'm now 12 weeks and some people have said things like, "You better enjoy each other now" or "Good thing you took a vacation last summer because once the baby comes...." Once the baby comes what? We won't ever be able to go anywhere again and my husband and I will no longer enjoy one another?! Ughhh
This is us exactly we will have 3 under 3 1/2. And we get the exact same questions, also everyone always says to me, I bet your really hoping for a girl! Nope just hoping for a healthy baby!
Oh Lord I have a bunch. We have been trying for 4 years to get pregnant, but have struggled due to an unexpected, serious health issue I had to deal with (would've been dangerous to get pregnant). So since we've been married, I have heard the relentless questions from friends and family about when are we going to have kids; you're not getting any younger; it's not right you're not giving me a grandchild; etc, etc.
Now we're finally pregnant (thanks science!) and all we hear is how our lives are not going to be our own anymore; our house is going to be destroyed; my husband will never be able to hunt/fish/golf again; we're screwed; we won't be able to volunteer anymore, etc. WTH??!? I've also heard about how huge I'm going to get repeatedly since we're having twins.
And since I'm here, one more thing. There is a moron at work in our very open environment who talks loud and then decides to have his conference calls on speaker for all of us to hear. So dumb.
We're having twins
Our angel baby boy is looking over his twin sister - due November 21
I don't know about you guys but I'm kind of just tired of everyone asking me if I'm excited like 90 times a day. Yes. I am. But right now I need to fart and I'm really tired so stop talking.
On a text msg even Before saying congrats My former boss's wife said; "were you trying to?" And I said "we weren't preventing so..." Haven't heard from her since... Oh well.
MIL reaction when told I was pregnant. "Wow. Really? How did that happen? " I so wanted to go into graphic detail about how we created baby. Lol goodness.
I'm 26, been married 4 years and been actively trying to conceive for about 7-8 months. My SIL is 21, super selfish, and got pregnant 2 months before me. When I told her, she didn't say anything to me. She then proceeds to tell my MIL that she "better not take her attention away from her baby and put it on mine" and then texts my husband and asks "are you happy? " seriously?!
My MIL told me that I should have stayed on my diet longer before I got pregnant. I have lost 35lbs on weight watchers so that when I did get preggers I would be healthy. I'm not even overweight anymore, but she ended it with "all that work to get thinner and your just going to be back where you were after the baby comes"
This is my first child, and When I told my boss I was pregnant he told me "well your health is important but one thing you need to remember is that the bank is why you have health insurance, and you can't very well have a baby without insurance" Wtf..... Is that a threat, if I'm not here enough then I won't have a job. I've been employed by them for 15 years, made me pretty mad when he said that.
Omg my grandmother said well I hope this ones a boy, wouldn't be as much fun having two girls..... Ummmm I beg to differ and cannot control that Lord help me
My MIL knows that we have been trying for 4 years to have a second child. We just switched to a new Dr this year and we got pregnant on the second round of meds. So we tell them the happy news, she says "well that didn't take very long." I couldn't hold in my response, "only 4 years!" WTF.
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Was it planned? Are you going to keep it? I thought you two were getting a divorce, now you're pregnant? (My hubby and I fought a bit early in our marriage, but never was the big D even discussed) and this gem from his cousins wife who found out she was pregnant then I find out I'm expecting two weeks later "you got pregnant just to steal my thunder!" smh some people I just wanna slap.
I work with mostly men, in a male dominated field and a few guys were standing around telling me how so and so's wife is pregnant and so and so are thinking about having kids. When they look at me and say "you are all about the job, you don't want kids." Whoops...
"Was it fast slow hard or soft sex.. that can determine the sex of the baby"...
Your so sex deprived u had to find an "excuse" to ask about my sex life with your son.. -.-
"Really, why is that Nancy?"
"You didn't come tell me, you were pregnant."
Wtf Nancy
Oh Lord I have a bunch. We have been trying for 4 years to get pregnant, but have struggled due to an unexpected, serious health issue I had to deal with (would've been dangerous to get pregnant). So since we've been married, I have heard the relentless questions from friends and family about when are we going to have kids; you're not getting any younger; it's not right you're not giving me a grandchild; etc, etc.
Now we're finally pregnant (thanks science!) and all we hear is how our lives are not going to be our own anymore; our house is going to be destroyed; my husband will never be able to hunt/fish/golf again; we're screwed; we won't be able to volunteer anymore, etc. WTH??!? I've also heard about how huge I'm going to get repeatedly since we're having twins.
And since I'm here, one more thing. There is a moron at work in our very open environment who talks loud and then decides to have his conference calls on speaker for all of us to hear. So dumb.
We're having twins
Our angel baby boy is looking over his twin sister - due November 21
Haven't heard from her since... Oh well.