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Idiot husbands

whitemn04whitemn04 member
in October 2015 Moms
does anyone else have trouble with their husband not using their brain? Mine tends to get irritated when I tell him how his night will go when he hangs out with certain people. Then turns out I'm always right! When do they learn it's not just "him" or "us" anymore? Last weekend I let him go out with friends after a wedding and he got lost in a big city we aren't familiar with. He passed out in a post office! It's so stressful and then his cousin is mad at me cuz I was upset.. I thought I controlled my feelings well but I still want to throat punch them both. Any advice?
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  • pinkj4182pinkj4182 member
    My advice is, he is a grown man. Not a child. If you treat him as one, he will act like one. Limiting a man to what he can and can not do is never a good thing. From your wording it sounds like you "let him" do things occasionally. Your only making it worse. How would you like it if your husband said "I let her hang out with friends." Getting married doesn't change a person. Having kids doesn't change a person. Sounds like you need to have a talk and figure out your issues together. Being a controlling wife is not fun. This is just my opinion based off your wording here.
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  • DeidreHarrDeidreHarr member
    I totally understand your wording... I'm sure you don't mean it literally, I'd assume you mean you allowed him to go WITHOUT putting up a big fuss. However, he's gonna have to want to change. He can careless about living on the edge sounds like to me. He'll come around, just pray it's not to late.
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  • whitemn04whitemn04 member
    The way it's worded does sound bad. He's free to do his own things as am I. The thing is we tend to have the same discussion when he's out with his cousin because the same type of out come happens. I guess I just feel like I'm going to become a controlling wife and I don't want to keep him from his own fun but if these things keep happening because he can't limit the fun to a reasonable safe manner, I'm afraid we will both begin to resent each other. Did anyone else's hubbies do weird things after the news of a first child is on the way? Maybe all this stuff is a phase from change.
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  • CupcakesandquiltsCupcakesandquilts member
    I doubt this is related to you guys having a baby. Sounds like he really enjoys partying with his cousin. Until he sees more negative than positive, he'll keep doing it. My advice: just stop talking to him about it all together. It's his business and his life. He needs to draw his own conclusions. He may even come to the same ones you have if he didn't have to listen to you getting on his case.
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  • dparker721dparker721 member
    I agree that I would be very unhappy if my husband went out and passed out in a post office and didn't come home and we probably wouldn't have a nice conversation about it....but, I made sure that we were both past these types of behaviors before we were married. We were both young and stupid but are past that now. We both like to go out and have a good time and we enjoy time together and separately. I don't really have any advice except that I don't believe you can change anyone and they have to come around to see and want things for themselves. I also never want to be the nagging wife, regardless of the situation because I don't think it's good for anyone.
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