Bringing Father to Appointment?

tlburnett · April 2015

I have my 10 week appointment tomorrow and as far as I remember the Dr made it sound like it would be just a check up for me and maybe hear the babies heart beat for the first time. I'm a first time Mommy and I was wondering what the rest of you would suggest for bringing your baby's Daddy into appointments? Is it weird to bring him in for the check up? The last time they suggested not to because it was just family history, nothing exciting, so I'm confused what is protocol going forward. Thanks in advance for your suggestions!

JLW0504 · April 2015

DH has always gone to all of my appointments. He wants to be as much a part of the pregnancy as he can.

Ceridwen77 · April 2015

My husband is coming with me for my 14w appointment - it will just be a checkup but it will be the first time we hear the heartbeat so he wants to be there. It's not weird at all.

katmcgrath92 · April 2015

My husband only comes when we do ultrasounds. It's totally up to you!

Reeni101 · April 2015

Hello. I had my first appointment last week at 10 wks 5 days. I went to the appointment by myself. They just went over my diet, medication or supplements I was taking and answered all of my questions. They did my blood work and I heard baby's heart beat.

I saw other girls going to their appointments with their husbands. But they were already showing. It's up to you. My husband's schedule is busy. But he'll definitely be at the appointment when I get my ultrasound.

Jame414 · April 2015

Mine came to my first appt hoping to hear heartbeat. We did! It never gets old...pretty awesome to share it together. He just lit up...makes it real for both of you. I was a few days over 10 weeks and heard with Doppler and I'm retroverted which makes it a little more difficult. Do what you feel Is right for you. I don't think it's strange. It's great to share all the firsts. ....not necessarily every appt though.

makeoutside7 · April 2015

My husband meets me there for appointments. Sometimes, especially during US, I zone out so my doctor ends up talking to him about stuff and he fills me in later. It's a nice experience. I think once we are out of the first trimester, he will only come for US since it is harder for him to leave work. I recommend it, just so you both are in the loop and on the same page. Best of luck to you!

lrjac12 · April 2015

Mine went with me to my first appointment yesterday at 9w5d. I didn't think I'd have an ultrasound but I did! He wants to go to all of my appointments with me

it's nice having support there.

kwaldy · April 2015

My husband has been to both of my appointments and I'm pretty sure he intends to come to them all. The first appointment was nothing but medical history, but I'm glad he was there because I got really dizzy after the blood draw and he had to drive home. Second appointment he was there, they did a transvaginal u/s and we heard the heartbeat and saw our little bear.
When I was scheduling the next appointment, he asked for the date so that he could request off of work for a few hours. It's our first, so he wants to be as involved as possible.

I think you should let your him be as involved as he wants. It always feels good to know they want to be there!

Laurakat81 · April 2015

DH usually just comes for ultrasounds. Most visits are 5 minutes in and out. Quick HB check with the Doppler, weight check, urine test, and blood pressure. No need to take off work for that plus a 30 minute (or longer) wait to be seen!

kmd91 · April 2015

The nurse highly encouraged me to have my husband come to my 12 week appointment, when we will get to hear the heartbeat for the first time. If he isn't working, I'm sure he will come. However he did say that he will be coming to the following appointment for the first trimester screening, cause he wants to be there for the ultrasound. I guess we will see, since I don't know his schedule for then yet

thegingeravenger · April 2015

My boyfriend is planning on being there for every appointment. His idea, not mine. I'm blessed in the sense that his extremely excited to be a part of this entire process with me.

Alexis514 · April 2015

Mine has come to both of my appointments and plans to come to all of them. I think it makes him feel more involved. He likes to hear what the dr says and he asks questions. I think it's really sweet that he's so into it.

wedding crazed · April 2015

My hubby only comes to the ultrasounds. The appt. is really so quick. Not worth him missing work for.

lizerspitz · April 2015

I've convinced myself that I wanted my DH at the appointment I'm gong to tomorrow, and he is able to leave work early and come with me. I don't think we are having an u/s but we do plan to hear the heartbeat and I've been wanting to make it more real for him, because I'm thinking about bebe ALL THE TIME.

ajmm886 · April 2015

My husband went to my very first appointment.. While the doc did the pap he just played a game on his phone.. Once they did the ultrasound he was right there. He says he wants to be at all my appointments and I don't mind at all. It's really just his preference and yours.

oliarnmom1517 · April 2015

My husband went to my second appointment...he's seen my vagina it's all good... Lol And he's going to every other appointment too!!!!

lyankowi · April 2015

For DD he came to all of them. Now that we are separated he thinks he is coming to US appts. Probably all he would of come to if we were together since it's my second.

olga1311 · April 2015

Mu husband goes to all appts that have ultrasound. Its totally normal to bring baby's daddy with you

magnolia0212 · April 2015

Mine just comes to the first and then to the ones with ultrasounds. I don't mind him not coming.

rachrobertson · April 2015

My DH goes to any ultrasound appointment and when I get to 40 + weeks and could possibly be sent L&D but because of work, he usually doesn't go to any others. I don't think it is weird for them to be there for all appointments though, it is as much their child as it is yours so why not let them be as involved as they can/want to be.

MadBloom · April 2015

For my last pregnancy my husband went to the first appointment where we heard the heartbeat for the first time and then he went to the anatomy scan and then a random OB appointment in 3rd tri because he wasn't working that day. This time I'll probably have him come to the anatomy scan and that's it. He gets paid hourly so it doesn't make sense for him to take a half day for just my regular appointments.

karemc · April 2015

My husband came to my first 10th week appointment and we heard the baby's heart beat for first time. He was very happy and made us be closer as we both heard our baby. He couldn't take the smile of his face. I say try to both make the effort.

Pontot31 · April 2015

My husband came to every appointment last time and plans to this time as well.
It's his baby too. We work schedules that allow both of us to be there, which I like.

soberrysweet · April 2015

My husband came to the US and first heartbeat appointments. If he was off and work sometimes he came to others.

bossmomma · April 2015

It's a good experience although this is our 2nd. I took the hubby with me to my last appointment so he could hear the heartbeat. Well the time in the waiting room until we got in the room he was well behaved. Got in the room he played with everything and didn't stop after the Doc came in. Yes it was a tiny bit annoying but he kept me smiling the entire time.

Mjstern · April 2015

My husband comes to as many as he can and attends all the ultrasounds. He loves it.

wimamaof2 · April 2015

My husband has come to the first 2. For the last 2, he's been traveling for work.
He likes to be involved and seeing the progress of our baby.

Cook3133 · April 2015

I am on baby number 4, my husband has made almost every appointment with all of them. He just likes being a part of it. And with prego brain sometimes it's nice to have him there to remember questions I may of had or ask his own.

brielise414 · April 2015

My husband came to the ultrasound with me, as well as my first appt with the dr, but I was having spotting so we knew she would do another u/s. I had a miscarriage in Oct and I think he wants to be as supportive as possible. My next appt is my pap, so I told him he really doesn't have to come for that…. The Dr. said some husbands she never meets and others are there every step of the way. I think my husband will be somewhere in the middle because of his job.

ewhitledge · April 2015

Hubs has came to all of mine thus far, GoT to see the hb but Monday is the first time we will hear it and he has chemo so he can't be there. I'm going to record it for him

dalzien · April 2015

DH came to almost all of our appointments when I was first pregnant. My doctor didn't care. The only time he wasn't allowed in the room was during our dating ultrasound while the tech was doing all of her photos. It wasn't because he wasn't allowed per say, but because the room wasn't big enough. We was allowed in to see the results afterward though.

jayleekaye · April 2015

My boyfriend wants to be at every appointment, no matter how mundane. I did tell him that it was okay if he only went to milestone appointments but he was pretty firm on going every time. We work opposite shifts so he wouldn't need to miss any work.

drowe214 · April 2015

Seems like it really depends on your individual situation and what you and your partner decide. With our first, DH came to the first 2, and then all ultrasounds. Especially towards the end when they are 5 min long, every week, didn't seem worth him missing work to be there. With #2, he'll come to the first appt and if it's to early to hear a heartbeat, he'll go to the next, and hopefully ultrasounds.

erodgers024 · April 2015

bring him ! I brought my boyfriend to my first appointment and it was great because I was so nervous I forgot everything and he helped me

) and if you're hearing the babies heartbeat for the first time he will def want to be there for that!

allrightmeow · April 2015

DH loves to go to all appointments with both my pregnancies. Most times he has more questions for the doctor than I do.

lizerspitz · April 2015

I'm so glad I brought my husband to my appointment today because my ob had to share bad news. We were both able to experience it together and I didn't have to worry about reaching him or letting him know when I was in the process of moving throughout the hospital to confirm a blighted ovum. We'll be back to TTC as soon as I mc naturally.

allrightmeow · April 2015

lizerspitz said:
I'm so glad I brought my husband to my appointment today because my ob had to share bad news. We were both able to experience it together and I didn't have to worry about reaching him or letting him know when I was in the process of moving throughout the hospital to confirm a blighted ovum. We'll be back to TTC as soon as I mc naturally.

Im so sorry @lizerspitz.

japostolova · April 2015

With our first my husband came for the 20 week anatomy scan ( and gender determination). Most of the other appointments seemed in eventful to me, but he's more than welcome to come along if he wants

Kitta+1 · April 2015

I have a severe driving anxiety and the nearest ob is an hour away, so someone always comes with me. It was my fiancee the first two times, my grandparents the last time, my sis gets the upcoming. They make a show of fighting for it, but I think that's just to make me feel better, because as it is I just feel like a bother. I'm thankful to have such a nice support system, though.

kersten1280 · April 2015

Interesting that they would suggest for him not to come when doing family history...my husband was there and he was asked the questions as well (half the baby's genetics comes from dad's side). As far as other appointments I think it is nice when they (dad's) can make it but it is up to you and you alone.

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