My gripe/complaint could probably go under the Rude Comments thread. I just stopped rage crying, and decided to post this bc I'm still pissed off.
Chilling in my car in the grocery parking lot, waiting for rain to stop.
30-something guy in red Mercedes next to me leaves his cart right beside my car. I get out and grab the cart and say kindly, but pointedly, "I'm just gonna move this because it's windy, and I don't want it to hit my car."
Guy: "oh, sorry. I thought you were leaving." Gets in his car to leave, watching my VERY pregnant self walk across the parking lot.
Me: "it's okay, I'm 32 weeks pregnant, but I'll move your cart across the parking lot so you don't have to."
I come back to the car, and he rolls down his window and waves me over.
Guy: "You should get a job here, since you're so *helpful*."
Me: "What?"
Guy: "You should get a job here, since you're so HELPFUL. It looks like you need one."
Me: "That's nice."
Nice guy. Let's comment on how I look pregnant, or the fact that I'm at a grocery store in the middle of the day, or that I drive a Santa Fe as opposed to a Mercedes in our wealthy neighborhood.
Ugh, we all leave carts around or litter or do other things we shouldn't, but you don't have to be a dick when you get caught. I probably shouldn't have been Southern "bless your heart" snarky when I moved his cart, but what a dick. I brushed my hair today and looked fairly put together so his comment about needing a job really hurt my feelings. Hate these pregnancy rage-cry hormones.
@Westypet *sharply indrawn breath that is let out as a hiss* WHAT AN ASSHOLE. I know none of us would actually DO this, but its fun to fantasize about pushing that cart into the direction of his car and watching gleefully as it bounces off the rear quarter panel. Cue helpless, mocking shrug - "it slipped"
Don't know how many of ya'll have seen Fried Green Tomatoes, but this is definitely a "Tawanda" moment. .....if you haven't seen it, look up that scene, it's amazing
@westypet I think i would have ran into the store for eggs and then thrown them at his car. bless your patience
@lovethatcolosun i love that you mentioned that. In my younger years I used to take off from my very corporate job to "celebrate" the holiday year after year hahaha responsibilitiy sucks lol
Don't know how many of ya'll have seen Fried Green Tomatoes, but this is definitely a "Tawanda" moment. .....if you haven't seen it, look up that scene, it's amazing
"Tawanda!!!!! I'm older, and have better insurance" hell yeah
OMG @Westypet I would have unloaded a string of expletives on that guy - my blood pressure is literally going up on your behalf just thinking about this...
Don't know how many of ya'll have seen Fried Green Tomatoes, but this is definitely a "Tawanda" moment. .....if you haven't seen it, look up that scene, it's amazing
"Tawanda!!!!! I'm older, and have better insurance" hell yeah
Ahhhhhh yes!!!!!!!!!!!! I should have just put the cart behind his car as he was leaving. Dill weed!
Thanks for the sympathy hissing, gals. I came home and rage-cleaned the porch. Soap and violent scrubbing everywhere.
I definitely feel better, but still feel like I need to dress up to go to the grocery store from now on.
@Westypet you need to do no such thing, if you don't want to! That guy is pathetically small - and for the record, he was also at the store in the middle of the day. Think how pathetic he is, to treat a (pregnant/ woman /other human being) that way. His issues are way bigger than that cart. Don't give him another thought!
@KarasTwin and all my other homegirls, I'm reading all this and pissed off with you xoxo
@mellymar I passive aggressively took the trash and recycling out at 10:00 pm without a word. DH apologized profusely and I just smiled. I admire your patience. Men!
@Westypet you need to do no such thing, if you don't want to! That guy is pathetically small - and for the record, he was also at the store in the middle of the day. Think how pathetic he is, to treat a (pregnant/ woman /other human being) that way. His issues are way bigger than that cart. Don't give him another thought!
@KarasTwin and all my other homegirls, I'm reading all this and pissed off with you xoxo
@mellymar I passive aggressively took the trash and recycling out at 10:00 pm without a word. DH apologized profusely and I just smiled. I admire your patience. Men!
@mellymar - start banging things around in the room you're clearing things out for baby?
Maybe he'll come running to stop you from lifting things you shouldn't and will get the point that these urges are crazy strong. We need to get this ish done right MEOW!
I'm gonna lose it if I don't vent somewhere. I was told on Thursday the the plan is to deliver me via C-section this Wednesday at 34 weeks. I have been in the hospital for 4 weeks and counting as of today. That plan was agreed upon by my ob and one of the MFM doctors. A second MFM doctor agreed with that plan on Saturday when he saw me. Today we had our growth scan (baby is still growing - woohoo) and were told surgery time would be scheduled as soon as MFM made a note in my chart that they agree with the plan to deliver at 34 weeks. Well a different (3rd) MFM doctor was on call today. The nurse practitioner came and saw me and said she would be back with the doctor. Well my nurse just informed me that the doctor decided she didn't necessarily agree with the plan and wouldn't write a note supporting delivery on Wednesday. I am fuming mad because she didn't come see me - so she disagreed but didn't come to tell me that or explain why. I am completely open to delivering or continuing to sit here - I would just appreciate being seen by the doctors who put me in the hospital in the first place. So now we have to wait for the mfm on call tomorrow to write the note - and I will never hear why today's mfm doesn't necessarily agree. Oh and we have family who are all coming Wednesday from as far as 12 hours away. So it would be nice to know if they are going to delay. Ugh.
I'm gonna lose it if I don't vent somewhere. I was told on Thursday the the plan is to deliver me via C-section this Wednesday at 34 weeks. I have been in the hospital for 4 weeks and counting as of today. That plan was agreed upon by my ob and one of the MFM doctors. A second MFM doctor agreed with that plan on Saturday when he saw me. Today we had our growth scan (baby is still growing - woohoo) and were told surgery time would be scheduled as soon as MFM made a note in my chart that they agree with the plan to deliver at 34 weeks. Well a different (3rd) MFM doctor was on call today. The nurse practitioner came and saw me and said she would be back with the doctor. Well my nurse just informed me that the doctor decided she didn't necessarily agree with the plan and wouldn't write a note supporting delivery on Wednesday. I am fuming mad because she didn't come see me - so she disagreed but didn't come to tell me that or explain why. I am completely open to delivering or continuing to sit here - I would just appreciate being seen by the doctors who put me in the hospital in the first place. So now we have to wait for the mfm on call tomorrow to write the note - and I will never hear why today's mfm doesn't necessarily agree. Oh and we have family who are all coming Wednesday from as far as 12 hours away. So it would be nice to know if they are going to delay. Ugh.
Oh no! Sorry to hear that this is going on. I hope the MFM gives you a reason tomorrow, maybe she had something else that she had to take care of ASAP today? Good luck, hope everything can continue as planned!
I'm gonna lose it if I don't vent somewhere. I was told on Thursday the the plan is to deliver me via C-section this Wednesday at 34 weeks. I have been in the hospital for 4 weeks and counting as of today. That plan was agreed upon by my ob and one of the MFM doctors. A second MFM doctor agreed with that plan on Saturday when he saw me. Today we had our growth scan (baby is still growing - woohoo) and were told surgery time would be scheduled as soon as MFM made a note in my chart that they agree with the plan to deliver at 34 weeks. Well a different (3rd) MFM doctor was on call today. The nurse practitioner came and saw me and said she would be back with the doctor. Well my nurse just informed me that the doctor decided she didn't necessarily agree with the plan and wouldn't write a note supporting delivery on Wednesday. I am fuming mad because she didn't come see me - so she disagreed but didn't come to tell me that or explain why. I am completely open to delivering or continuing to sit here - I would just appreciate being seen by the doctors who put me in the hospital in the first place. So now we have to wait for the mfm on call tomorrow to write the note - and I will never hear why today's mfm doesn't necessarily agree. Oh and we have family who are all coming Wednesday from as far as 12 hours away. So it would be nice to know if they are going to delay. Ugh.
So sorry, lady. Hope you can vent to a nurse or case manager who can get you answers. You are doing great, and I can understand how frustrating this must be. Way to focus on LO's growth. Hang in there, almost done!
Sooo, someone please tell me if this is weird. My MIL, whom I have no relationship with. Long story made short, I'm not her and I'm not Puerto Rican so I'm not good enough for her son. She asked my husband if I needed sanitary pads for after I have our son. Anybody else think this is weird??
@mellymar and all the ladies with DH's on a different schedule I feel you too, I have the same predicament a very hard working hubby but he just doesn't appreciate that due date is less than 9 weeks and that means there's a lot to do in 18 days seeing as there's no way we can do things during the week!! - Passive aggressive is a great option for me.. I "start" the task on my timeline.. With the knowledge that DH is awake and capable of completing the task and magically find that I need assistance and call him over to help. Works like magic no "I'll get to it" no feeling of being nagged... I know it's a tiny bit sneaky but it works!
@knwilliams01 - I'm upset for you as well there definitely is no excuse for overruling and not finding at least some way to communicate why the decision was made even if you are busy another attendant/nurse someone could have and should have given you her reasoning..
@KarasTwin@Westypet Exactly why I was so livid and pissed today. We finally get a plan, one doctor stalls the scheduling, and I don't even get an explanation. My nurse today knows me well and is my nurse again tomorrow - she was already starting to raise hell on my behalf.
Sooo, someone please tell me if this is weird. My MIL, whom I have no relationship with. Long story made short, I'm not her and I'm not Puerto Rican so I'm not good enough for her son. She asked my husband if I needed sanitary pads for after I have our son. Anybody else think this is weird??
Ehh, definitely a personal thing for her to ask him, but from what I've heard (I'm a FTM so no personal experience with this yet), sanitary pads are very much needed after delivery. She might genuinely be trying to be helpful. Of course, I don't know your MIL, so maybe she's up to no good. But I'd be inclined to give her a free pass on this one, even though that's definitely an awkward aspect of pregnancy for her to want to help with.
@knwilliams01 wth is up with this random doctor lady? Fine if she has a reason to throw a wrench into the plans of two other agreeing doctors, but if she does this she owes you an explanation (and, the other two doctors, too). You're not just a twig floating in a rough sea, you're a person. I'm glad your nurse is advocating on your behalf, this doctor not explaining her reasoning was a dick move.
Sooo, someone please tell me if this is weird. My MIL, whom I have no relationship with. Long story made short, I'm not her and I'm not Puerto Rican so I'm not good enough for her son. She asked my husband if I needed sanitary pads for after I have our son. Anybody else think this is weird??
Ehh, definitely a personal thing for her to ask him, but from what I've heard (I'm a FTM so no personal experience with this yet), sanitary pads are very much needed after delivery. She might genuinely be trying to be helpful. Of course, I don't know your MIL, so maybe she's up to no good. But I'd be inclined to give her a free pass on this one, even though that's definitely an awkward aspect of pregnancy for her to want to help with.
It might be a good sign that she is showing some sign of concern for your welfare after giving birth. I would say (or tell your husband to say) that you've got your "postpartum recovery kit" all taken care of, but appreciate the kind thought.
Do you enjoy her cooking? Maybe you could request her best dish as a frozen meal and that can be her way of contributing to your needs post-baby in a way that strokes her ego. If her husband asks on your behalf for a frozen dish "because you enjoy it so much", that might make her feel appreciated but also will avoid the awkwardness of discussing sanitary pads.
Orrrr maybe she saw some buy one get one free at Publix? lol
Here's my gripe. This makes me sound like a total dick but..... I got zero gift receipts with my shower gifts..... And I don't need that many clothes for the baby ... I'm mostly using hand me downs. Why don't ppl include gift receipts?! ..........
I'm going to sound awful, but to piggy back off of this...why do people not look at the registry? I registered for plenty of inexpensive things because I wanted them. I don't need random crib sheets that don't go with anything in my nursery or a ton of onesies. I don't even have hand me downs and I'll never get him in all the 0-3 month stuff we have. I need the necessities and blankets and things that I spent a Saturday hand picking!
All of this. Also, why can't they get the registries scanned at checkout? I'm grateful for gifts but there was one set of onesies we registered for and got 3 of them! I'm grateful for the gifts but is it not simpler for the gift giver to scan the registry than to make a busy pregnant lady have to return a bunch of duplicates? Also do people not count out how old baby will be when bobuying gifts? I'm pretty sure he's going to be 6 months old in the winter and not need shorts and t shirts. I always make an effort to be mindful of these things, why can't others? We didn't spend 6 hours registering for people to pull this crap.
Ugh I completely agree! I am a FTM and the things I registered for are things that we need or that I specifically wanted. Why do people spend money on a bunch of stuff that I didn't want in the first place...I'd rather them just get a gift card or no gift at all, than give me a bunch of clothes that will probably never have the tags taken off or a bumbo seat and wipes warmer that I didn't want or ask for! We invited 50+ people to our baby shower, and hardly anything actually purchased off of our registry.
I get that this is a vent thread, but there have been so many posts bitching about gifts people gave them! It sounds really snotty and entitled. At least someone threw you a shower and people brought gifts. It's just gotten a bit over the top.
I wish I wish that babies would just come when they're due. Like, pop a clendar in there and mark each passing day. Doctor says June 14th? circle that date of your calendar, baby!
The planner in me fantasizes about this kind of stuff. I just wanna know what's going to happen. Anyone have a crystal ball I can borrow?
@knwilliams01 I would be totally livid too. You probably have cabin fever like crazy so when a plan actually came together you got all tingly and excited. Dreams were dashed. I totally get it. Hopefully there will be much better communication tomorrow. At least you have a great nurse advocating for you!
I get that this is a vent thread, but there have been so many posts bitching about gifts people gave them! It sounds really snotty and entitled. At least someone threw you a shower and people brought gifts. It's just gotten a bit over the top.
I get the venting about the gifts / registries. With the ladies on this. BUT, also this. No shower, no gifts for the ewok. My mom bought the carseat and a swing / rocker. My sister got the pack n play. Every single other item is on us. There's a reason why I have a 'spend $50 every other week on baby stuff' budget. Otherwise we would have no swaddle blankets, no onesies, no crib sheets, no nothing. I have 16 onesies so far that range between nb and 3-6m size. Other than that, I have no clothes. Planning on hitting up my second hand store again maybe next week. So, yeah.
Lol. No everything she cooks she makes me vomit honestly. She's even made my husband sick. He gets the same vibe from her. In 5 years of marriage she has insulted me as a mom and as his wife. Now just the other day she comes to my house while she has bronchitis! Like WTF?? I stayed on my room for 5 hours on an 80 degree day. Then she wants to say oh I love you! Ha ha she's a damn mess!
My sister just had her baby! Yay! I watched her 3 kids the entire day but I was actually happy to because I mean she's having a baby...
We finally get to meet him and one of the first things my brother-in-law says is "I win". Apparently having his forth kid (a boy) "wins" over having one girl and twin girls after. It's so stupid that he thinks it's a competition! We have been nothing but supportive and loving towards their family and he has been nothing but douchy and nasty since we announced our pregnancy!
Plus, what is with the world that every family has to have a boy? In case you haven't noticed, it's not 1843 anymore, and we don't need boys to help run the farm! We are perfectly happy to have our 3 girls and wish everyone would stop assuming we hate our life because we don't have a boy!!
My husband has not told his boss what his plans are after LO is born. We are 6 weeks out and has not told him that he is taking 2 weeks off after she is born and that he plans on taking 12 weeks of FMLA in September because "he's so busy" and doesn't have time during the day to set up a meeting to talk to his boss about it. Then I suggest to set up his meeting when he's at home because he has time and now he's "too tired" and gets pissy at me. Grr...
frustrated with how hot it is at work, then on top of that im wearing a double breasted jacket and standing in front of a fryer, grill, flatop or stove. makes for some nasty boob sweat tbh.
Lol. No everything she cooks she makes me vomit honestly. She's even made my husband sick. He gets the same vibe from her. In 5 years of marriage she has insulted me as a mom and as his wife. Now just the other day she comes to my house while she has bronchitis! Like WTF?? I stayed on my room for 5 hours on an 80 degree day. Then she wants to say oh I love you! Ha ha she's a damn mess!
BYE FELICIA.
Oh hell no to the coming to the house with bronchitis. Screw that and other strong reactions from this germaphobe.
My sister just had her baby! Yay! I watched her 3 kids the entire day but I was actually happy to because I mean she's having a baby...
We finally get to meet him and one of the first things my brother-in-law says is "I win". Apparently having his forth kid (a boy) "wins" over having one girl and twin girls after. It's so stupid that he thinks it's a competition! We have been nothing but supportive and loving towards their family and he has been nothing but douchy and nasty since we announced our pregnancy!
Plus, what is with the world that every family has to have a boy? In case you haven't noticed, it's not 1843 anymore, and we don't need boys to help run the farm! We are perfectly happy to have our 3 girls and wish everyone would stop assuming we hate our life because we don't have a boy!!
I can't relate bc it's my first, but this makes me peeved for you.
Not saying to pee in his overexcited Cheerios, but next time I'd say something like "do you think we don't love our third baby girl? Because you keep saying odd things about us not having a boy and your reaction confuses me. We are thrilled! Please stop dissing my baby, or making confusing comments. Kthnxbye."
I get that this is a vent thread, but there have been so many posts bitching about gifts people gave them! It sounds really snotty and entitled. At least someone threw you a shower and people brought gifts. It's just gotten a bit over the top.
I'm thankful for the things I've gotten and theshowers being thrown, I just feel awkward because most of the people there were strangers and I already felt gift grabby even though it was not my decision to invite so many people. I would honestly rather have a few useful and meaningful tthings from people I'm close to than for strangers to buy me random things that they may or may not be able to afford. I totally sympathize with all the ladies who don't get showers or have support systems, I simply wanted to express my frustration. I'm tired, cranky, and frankly still a little scared after bleeding Sunday morning. I don't want anyone to feel that I'm snotty or entitled because I can assure you that is not the case. I never intended to offend anyone.
I get that this is a vent thread, but there have been so many posts bitching about gifts people gave them! It sounds really snotty and entitled. At least someone threw you a shower and people brought gifts. It's just gotten a bit over the top.
I'm thankful for the things I've gotten and theshowers being thrown, I just feel awkward because most of the people there were strangers and I already felt gift grabby even though it was not my decision to invite so many people. I would honestly rather have a few useful and meaningful tthings from people I'm close to than for strangers to buy me random things that they may or may not be able to afford. I totally sympathize with all the ladies who don't get showers or have support systems, I simply wanted to express my frustration. I'm tired, cranky, and frankly still a little scared after bleeding Sunday morning. I don't want anyone to feel that I'm snotty or entitled because I can assure you that is not the case. I never intended to offend anyone.
I am often the first to call people entitled and spoiled. Probably because I am jealous of the showers, being so far from home and definitely not having one of any type - if I am honest! But I didn't think you were coming off badly. Especially since others were asking you, and it is a Vents thread.
I get that this is a vent thread, but there have been so many posts bitching about gifts people gave them! It sounds really snotty and entitled. At least someone threw you a shower and people brought gifts. It's just gotten a bit over the top.
I'm thankful for the things I've gotten and theshowers being thrown, I just feel awkward because most of the people there were strangers and I already felt gift grabby even though it was not my decision to invite so many people. I would honestly rather have a few useful and meaningful tthings from people I'm close to than for strangers to buy me random things that they may or may not be able to afford. I totally sympathize with all the ladies who don't get showers or have support systems, I simply wanted to express my frustration. I'm tired, cranky, and frankly still a little scared after bleeding Sunday morning. I don't want anyone to feel that I'm snotty or entitled because I can assure you that is not the case. I never intended to offend anyone.
I am often the first to call people entitled and spoiled. Probably because I am jealous of the showers, being so far from home and definitely not having one of any type - if I am honest! But I didn't think you were coming off badly. Especially since others were asking you, and it is a Vents thread.
My $0.02. But I know what Frogger means, usually.
Thanks @amark11 I honestly hate being the center of attention and having to be the guest of honor. I'm a twin so I never had to be the center of attention even for birthdays and such, I always had someone to share with. DH and I eloped because things like that make me cringe. I wish I could have had a co-shower with one of you ladies.
Re: Daily Vents/ Frustrations/ Complaints Anyone?
Chilling in my car in the grocery parking lot, waiting for rain to stop.
30-something guy in red Mercedes next to me leaves his cart right beside my car.
I get out and grab the cart and say kindly, but pointedly, "I'm just gonna move this because it's windy, and I don't want it to hit my car."
Guy: "oh, sorry. I thought you were leaving." Gets in his car to leave, watching my VERY pregnant self walk across the parking lot.
Me: "it's okay, I'm 32 weeks pregnant, but I'll move your cart across the parking lot so you don't have to."
I come back to the car, and he rolls down his window and waves me over.
Guy: "You should get a job here, since you're so *helpful*."
Me: "What?"
Guy: "You should get a job here, since you're so HELPFUL. It looks like you need one."
Me: "That's nice."
Nice guy. Let's comment on how I look pregnant, or the fact that I'm at a grocery store in the middle of the day, or that I drive a Santa Fe as opposed to a Mercedes in our wealthy neighborhood.
Ugh, we all leave carts around or litter or do other things we shouldn't, but you don't have to be a dick when you get caught. I probably shouldn't have been Southern "bless your heart" snarky when I moved his cart, but what a dick. I brushed my hair today and looked fairly put together so his comment about needing a job really hurt my feelings. Hate these pregnancy rage-cry hormones.
@lovethatcolosun i love that you mentioned that. In my younger years I used to take off from my very corporate job to "celebrate" the holiday year after year hahaha responsibilitiy sucks lol
Thanks for the sympathy hissing, gals. I came home and rage-cleaned the porch. Soap and violent scrubbing everywhere.
I definitely feel better, but still feel like I need to dress up to go to the grocery store from now on.
@lovethatcolosun - dittoooooo
@KarasTwin and all my other homegirls, I'm reading all this and pissed off with you xoxo
@mellymar I passive aggressively took the trash and recycling out at 10:00 pm without a word. DH apologized profusely and I just smiled. I admire your patience. Men!
Maybe he'll come running to stop you from lifting things you shouldn't and will get the point that these urges are crazy strong. We need to get this ish done right MEOW!
@amark11 I just raised my hands into the air in a triumphant gesture and laughed aloud at your passive aggressive win
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@knwilliams01 - I'm upset for you as well there definitely is no excuse for overruling and not finding at least some way to communicate why the decision was made even if you are busy another attendant/nurse someone could have and should have given you her reasoning..
Do you enjoy her cooking? Maybe you could request her best dish as a frozen meal and that can be her way of contributing to your needs post-baby in a way that strokes her ego. If her husband asks on your behalf for a frozen dish "because you enjoy it so much", that might make her feel appreciated but also will avoid the awkwardness of discussing sanitary pads.
Orrrr maybe she saw some buy one get one free at Publix? lol
The planner in me fantasizes about this kind of stuff. I just wanna know what's going to happen. Anyone have a crystal ball I can borrow?
BUT, also this. No shower, no gifts for the ewok. My mom bought the carseat and a swing / rocker. My sister got the pack n play. Every single other item is on us. There's a reason why I have a 'spend $50 every other week on baby stuff' budget. Otherwise we would have no swaddle blankets, no onesies, no crib sheets, no nothing. I have 16 onesies so far that range between nb and 3-6m size. Other than that, I have no clothes. Planning on hitting up my second hand store again maybe next week. So, yeah.
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My sister just had her baby! Yay! I watched her 3 kids the entire day but I was actually happy to because I mean she's having a baby...
We finally get to meet him and one of the first things my brother-in-law says is "I win". Apparently having his forth kid (a boy) "wins" over having one girl and twin girls after. It's so stupid that he thinks it's a competition! We have been nothing but supportive and loving towards their family and he has been nothing but douchy and nasty since we announced our pregnancy!
Plus, what is with the world that every family has to have a boy? In case you haven't noticed, it's not 1843 anymore, and we don't need boys to help run the farm! We are perfectly happy to have our 3 girls and wish everyone would stop assuming we hate our life because we don't have a boy!!
Oh hell no to the coming to the house with bronchitis. Screw that and other strong reactions from this germaphobe.
Not saying to pee in his overexcited Cheerios, but next time I'd say something like "do you think we don't love our third baby girl? Because you keep saying odd things about us not having a boy and your reaction confuses me. We are thrilled! Please stop dissing my baby, or making confusing comments. Kthnxbye."
I am often the first to call people entitled and spoiled. Probably because I am jealous of the showers, being so far from home and definitely not having one of any type - if I am honest! But I didn't think you were coming off badly. Especially since others were asking you, and it is a Vents thread.
My $0.02. But I know what Frogger means, usually.