Here's my gripe. This makes me sound like a total dick but..... I got zero gift receipts with my shower gifts..... And I don't need that many clothes for the baby ... I'm mostly using hand me downs. Why don't ppl include gift receipts?! ..........
Edited because I am not allowed to post websites apparently: **** DOT proboards DOT com - the June Board has a looooong thread dedicated to mocking threads from the Bump
I don't care enough to be frustrated, but am always amused at the old members' irony in what they do. In the above thread, they have been commenting on threads from the Bump for MONTHS - and yet within the thread, they comment on how they don't like the feeling of being "watched." Ahem!
This beyond the fact that they have a website called Goodbye Cruel Bump...the term they used to mock the dramatic farewell posts that would happen here when someone was so mercilessly teased, they would vow never to return.
Pure. Internet. Gold.
Love to the GBCB ladies and cross-posters. Thank you for keeping me entertained! Making Alanis Morisett proud with all that irony!
That's BS! I like what we have going here. We have hardly any drama (well other than the cat thing). I think we have a nice balance and we definitely have better things to talk about every day besides what others are doing (other than now, ya know) ...well, we are basically a well rounded group! They are missing out.
I am on antibiotics for the tooth extraction I had on Weds. I now have a mild yeast infection due to antibotics. I fell down and took off half my knee. I'm basically falling apart. Baby seems to be fine however.
I feel like I'm falling apart, too! I also tripped over my own stupid feet in a parking lot and fell, scraping up both knees and twisting my ankle. I have never had worse back pain in my life, and working 12 hour shifts is starting to become impossible (night shift, no less!) By 3am I feel like I am dying. And it seems like all of the sudden every single patient I take care of needs me to bend over/squat down and put their socks on (at least my coworkers have been great about not letting me lift and pull people up in bed recently). Then I get home and DH wants me to rub HIS back. I just want to be like "I'm the one growing a human, here!" Ugh.
@devyns2nd@amark11 aaah! I always wondered how the GBCB board ladies get their kicks and entertainment given that they don't have any "speshul snowflakes" to make feel like crap anymore. I figured they must be bored shitless over there. Hi girls - this place is SO much better without you Hope you're just as happy with your group as we are! xxx
completely NPR but I am getting so frustrated with this mobile app!! I feel like I have to sign in after I read any single thread!! Anyone else have this going on?
completely NPR but I am getting so frustrated with this mobile app!! I feel like I have to sign in after I read any single thread!! Anyone else have this going on?
Yep, we had a discussion about this a few weeks ago and basically came to the conclusion that the app sucks haha. Hopefully the bump will get its act together and fix it soon... mine has been doing this for like a month now though.
completely NPR but I am getting so frustrated with this mobile app!! I feel like I have to sign in after I read any single thread!! Anyone else have this going on?
Yep, we had a discussion about this a few weeks ago and basically came to the conclusion that the app sucks haha. Hopefully the bump will get its act together and fix it soon... mine has been doing this for like a month now though.
Same here. I gave them "feedback" twice, with no replies from them. I'm pretty frustrated with the quality now. Hoping they will get their poop in a group soon!
Here's my gripe. This makes me sound like a total dick but..... I got zero gift receipts with my shower gifts..... And I don't need that many clothes for the baby ... I'm mostly using hand me downs. Why don't ppl include gift receipts?! ..........
I'm going to sound awful, but to piggy back off of this...why do people not look at the registry? I registered for plenty of inexpensive things because I wanted them. I don't need random crib sheets that don't go with anything in my nursery or a ton of onesies. I don't even have hand me downs and I'll never get him in all the 0-3 month stuff we have. I need the necessities and blankets and things that I spent a Saturday hand picking!
Edited because I am not allowed to post websites apparently: **** DOT proboards DOT com - the June Board has a looooong thread dedicated to mocking threads from the Bump
I don't care enough to be frustrated, but am always amused at the old members' irony in what they do. In the above thread, they have been commenting on threads from the Bump for MONTHS - and yet within the thread, they comment on how they don't like the feeling of being "watched." Ahem!
This beyond the fact that they have a website called Goodbye Cruel Bump...the term they used to mock the dramatic farewell posts that would happen here when someone was so mercilessly teased, they would vow never to return.
Pure. Internet. Gold.
Love to the GBCB ladies and cross-posters. Thank you for keeping me entertained! Making Alanis Morisett proud with all that irony!
That's BS! I like what we have going here. We have hardly any drama (well other than the cat thing). I think we have a nice balance and we definitely have better things to talk about every day besides what others are doing (other than now, ya know) ...well, we are basically a well rounded group! They are missing out.
I went over to lurk their board last night and must say I wasn't impressed. It was hardly entertaining. I came right on the tail end of that entire debacle, so I wasn't witness to all of the drama but I must say I really like our community.
Edited because I am not allowed to post websites apparently: **** DOT proboards DOT com - the June Board has a looooong thread dedicated to mocking threads from the Bump
I don't care enough to be frustrated, but am always amused at the old members' irony in what they do. In the above thread, they have been commenting on threads from the Bump for MONTHS - and yet within the thread, they comment on how they don't like the feeling of being "watched." Ahem!
This beyond the fact that they have a website called Goodbye Cruel Bump...the term they used to mock the dramatic farewell posts that would happen here when someone was so mercilessly teased, they would vow never to return.
Pure. Internet. Gold.
Love to the GBCB ladies and cross-posters. Thank you for keeping me entertained! Making Alanis Morisett proud with all that irony!
That's BS! I like what we have going here. We have hardly any drama (well other than the cat thing). I think we have a nice balance and we definitely have better things to talk about every day besides what others are doing (other than now, ya know) ...well, we are basically a well rounded group! They are missing out.
I went over to lurk their board last night and must say I wasn't impressed. It was hardly entertaining. I came right on the tail end of that entire debacle, so I wasn't witness to all of the drama but I must say I really like our community.
I haven't even bothered looking... it'll just make me upset, probably, and I'm not into that! Like all of you have said, I like what we have going here. I hope they like what they have there, but if their main concern is bump drama, I do have to wonder how much they could possibly have to talk about. The shit show was months ago - time to move on!
Here's my gripe. This makes me sound like a total dick but..... I got zero gift receipts with my shower gifts..... And I don't need that many clothes for the baby ... I'm mostly using hand me downs. Why don't ppl include gift receipts?! ..........
I'm going to sound awful, but to piggy back off of this...why do people not look at the registry? I registered for plenty of inexpensive things because I wanted them. I don't need random crib sheets that don't go with anything in my nursery or a ton of onesies. I don't even have hand me downs and I'll never get him in all the 0-3 month stuff we have. I need the necessities and blankets and things that I spent a Saturday hand picking!
My mom told me that people in my family were complaining because I hadn't put enough expensive stuff on the registry! While I appreciate that they're willing to spend money, I don't need a $250 swivel bassinet that plays music and vibrates (this was a gift that someone very seriously suggested that I add because I "needed" it), in addition to the pack n play and crib that we already have, nor do I have room for it even if we wanted it! I'm very curious to see what people end up getting us for my mom's shower on Saturday, because 2/3 of the (very reasonably priced and much-needed) gifts are still available on our registry.
@karaelaine1991 how was the circus .... Er I mean the shower?
I think it's @KarasTwin who had the giant one - I hope it went well! My MIL had one for me last Saturday though, which was much smaller (I think around 30 people) and it was very nice
@karaelaine1991 how was the circus .... Er I mean the shower?
I think it's @KarasTwin who had the giant one - I hope it went well! My MIL had one for me last Saturday though, which was much smaller (I think around 30 people) and it was very nice
Ack so sorry I got that wrong with the "K" names - blame mommy brain!
@karaelaine1991 how was the circus .... Er I mean the shower?
I think it's @KarasTwin who had the giant one - I hope it went well! My MIL had one for me last Saturday though, which was much smaller (I think around 30 people) and it was very nice
Ack so sorry I got that wrong with the "K" names - blame mommy brain!
What is wrong with Babies R' Us?? Why are they so damn disorganized!? Every time I go in there it's a shit show! My best friend is having a baby and that's the closest big chain store to her family so she registered there. After getting her gift I had to come home to de-angry before doing anything else. They have no idea where anything is or whether they even have it. They sent my other friend two completely wrong things that she had ordered online. Gah!! Get it together a-holes! And no I don't want your coupons, for the fourth time I'm not coming back! Thank god for Amazon and buy buy baby.
I'm just really annoyed with my husband but don't want to say anything because on the other hand I realize that with his 2nd job he works *every day* now and he deserves to enjoy some time to do what he wants, be that Xbox, or daredevil on Netflix, or whatever. But, there is so much stuff that needs to be done that I really should not do that he just ignores. Technically, he's not ignoring it, he's putting it off until the last minute. My man is a champion procrastinator. Or that I can do but need an extra person to help with. The yard needs to be treated for grubs. We have the stuff to do it, and he was all talk about doing it yesterday, but surprise, decided to play Xbox instead. I'm pretty sure that a 32 week pregnant woman should not be handling insecticide, so I can't do this task. The baby's room still needs to have its stuff dismantled and removed, and the boxes with crib and stuff brought up. I can disconnect all the TV and stuff in there, but I can't carry the TV out of there by myself (its probably light enough, its a flat screen, but this belly will get in the way of carrying it safely - down 2 small sets of stairs, even). Nor can I move the boxes with the baby furniture into that room, either. They're huge and heavy (a two person job that I can help with - push from behind or steer from the front while he pushes). And should I decide to dismantle his game room stuff (which he hasn't been in for months) then he's going to get all pissy about it - that I did it wrong or that I shouldn't have done it by myself.
Bless him, I love him, he works really hard and is entitled to enjoy his free time when he has it, but sh!t needs to get done and its not! Argh, nesting vs procrastination! Its driving me batty! Thanks for letting me rant, I have nowhere else to turn to (I don't want to rant to my mom or my sister about this stuff)
@mellymar mine is the same way. I had to make a list point by point of what needed to be done and set specific days for him to do it and write it on his calendar so there was no getting out of it
I'm just really annoyed with my husband but don't want to say anything because on the other hand I realize that with his 2nd job he works *every day* now and he deserves to enjoy some time to do what he wants, be that Xbox, or daredevil on Netflix, or whatever. But, there is so much stuff that needs to be done that I really should not do that he just ignores. Technically, he's not ignoring it, he's putting it off until the last minute. My man is a champion procrastinator. Or that I can do but need an extra person to help with. The yard needs to be treated for grubs. We have the stuff to do it, and he was all talk about doing it yesterday, but surprise, decided to play Xbox instead. I'm pretty sure that a 32 week pregnant woman should not be handling insecticide, so I can't do this task. The baby's room still needs to have its stuff dismantled and removed, and the boxes with crib and stuff brought up. I can disconnect all the TV and stuff in there, but I can't carry the TV out of there by myself (its probably light enough, its a flat screen, but this belly will get in the way of carrying it safely - down 2 small sets of stairs, even). Nor can I move the boxes with the baby furniture into that room, either. They're huge and heavy (a two person job that I can help with - push from behind or steer from the front while he pushes). And should I decide to dismantle his game room stuff (which he hasn't been in for months) then he's going to get all pissy about it - that I did it wrong or that I shouldn't have done it by myself.
Bless him, I love him, he works really hard and is entitled to enjoy his free time when he has it, but sh!t needs to get done and its not! Argh, nesting vs procrastination! Its driving me batty! Thanks for letting me rant, I have nowhere else to turn to (I don't want to rant to my mom or my sister about this stuff)
I have this frustration with my husband as well sometimes. Usually he's really good about doing all the stuff I can't do - actually, he's overprotective, IMO - he actually told me on Saturday that I'm "not allowed" to lift over 6lbs. Ha, okay, if you say so! But, anyway, like your husband, while he doesn't want me to do certain things, he wants to do them on his own time. Which is generally not in line with when I want those things to be done. It's frustrating, and even more so because he's trying to be helpful so I feel like I can't get mad!
@Serenamarr I wish. He doesn't have a calendar (well, his phone, but I'm not going to be getting all up in his phone setting reminders and stuff). So I'm left with reminding him, which feels like nagging to me since he's usually just home from his major job (Coast Guard) and is trying to enjoy a couple of hours to himself before he goes to his 2nd job (lifeguard at the Y), or its his day off from the Coast Guard, but he has already worked a 5 hour shift at the Y that morning, starting at 7am, on his only day he could have potentially slept in that week (but obviously couldn't, because he's working his 2nd job to bring in extra funds). Or that if I let him sleep in on the one chance he does get to sleep in, he's losing out on time to do this stuff because he has to work the Y that afternoon.
My mom is in town visiting and I love having her. With that said, she keeps interjecting little comments about our wedding, which was originally in September of this year, but we pushed back to June 2016 because baby decided 2015 was his year and I didn't want to feel rushed planning/getting into shape. Ideally, I would have wanted to be married first and baby second, but that's not what happened and I'm completely fine with it. I don't see any reason to change our wedding (other than date) because baby came sooner than expected. But my mom thinks we should just march down to the courthouse and get married before baby comes. I understand she is old-fashioned, but I just can't stomach doing this. Just WHY? There is no financial or legal reason to do so and I want our actual wedding day to be special, not just for show. So yesterday we were walking by the beach and started talking about houses and she said, "you know instead of having a wedding you could use that money for a down payment on a house." ....................JUST BECAUSE WE ARE HAVING A BABY DOESNT MEAN I NO LONGER DESERVE A WEDDING.
Whew. Rant over.
DH and I were suppose to get married later this year as well. But we ended up getting pregnant sooner than thought. We ended up getting married in a courthouse with just our families and a few close friends. It was still perfect. We plan on doing a bigger wedding in a year with everyone, but our little ceremony was perfect, even if it wasn't our original plan. I still married the man I love, no ideal wedding would change that.
But with all that, do what ever makes sense to you and your family. Everyone else will just have to get over it. Best of luck.
@karaelaine1991 you get me. I know it WILL be done, just that we're working off different time ideals, here. And I feel bad for wanting to pressure him to do it NOW. So I don't pressure him to do it now, which increases my annoyance its not done! Vicious circle, that
I get so frustrated with my in-laws! My poor husband works about 50 hours a week as a mechanic, so a very physically demanding job, then has to come home to his nesting (and nagging ) wife and do house work/construction to prep for the baby and the shower we are having in 2 weeks. On top of all of this, his mom and step-dad have the nerve to be constantly bugging him to work on their two cars, after work, FOR FREE when they know how busy we are the next 2 months prepping for the baby! After all of this, neither of them have offered one ounce of help with the house, baby or shower when they know my parents and DH's dad have pitched in quite a bit on big ticket items and house work and the shower. I am extremely grateful for all the help we have received and by no means expect them to be helping us just because others have, but it just blows my mind that they can see all we have to do/buy and how busy we are and get angry when he says he can't work on their cars and then offer no help in return!
@hoodoll82 and @karaelaine1991 I survived. Unfortunately most of the people I actually knew were the ones who didn't show. I didn't even try to count how many were there. I probably looked like a rude b**** because I didn't get up and introduce myself to everyone but I had some spotting yesterday morning and the on call nurse told me to stay off my feet. I thought MIL would try to introduce me to people, but no. We did get lots of gifts. I'm glad my mama, sister, and niece were invited or I don't think I would have made it.
@hoodoll82 and @karaelaine1991 I survived. Unfortunately most of the people I actually knew were the ones who didn't show. I didn't even try to count how many were there. I probably looked like a rude b**** because I didn't get up and introduce myself to everyone but I had some spotting yesterday morning and the on call nurse told me to stay off my feet. I thought MIL would try to introduce me to people, but no. We did get lots of gifts. I'm glad my mama, sister, and niece were invited or I don't think I would have made it.
I'm surprised that your MIL didn't make more of an effort to introduce you to people! Isn't that kind of the job of a hostess, if she's inviting guests who the guest-of-honor doesn't know? I'm glad your family members were invited, at least, and that it sounds like you at least benefited from the gifts. At least it's over!
@KarasTwin booo for a not so fun shower. I'm glad you had some support won your family being there, but it definitely does sound like a big drag. Glad you followed medical orders and kept off your feet. MIL should have advocated for you and introduced people. On the other hand - lots of stuff, yay!
@mellymar have you guys or are you guys taking a birthing class at your hospital? My husband was being like this, but after the class yesterday he started making lists and telling me we need to start getting a bag together. I think shit just got real for him. Lol.
@KarasTwin booo for a not so fun shower. I'm glad you had some support won your family being there, but it definitely does sound like a big drag. Glad you followed medical orders and kept off your feet. MIL should have advocated for you and introduced people. On the other hand - lots of stuff, yay!
@KarasTwin - I'm sorry that you had to go to that fawkward shower, but I'm glad you got some baby swag and freebies out of it! :-)
@mellymar have you guys or are you guys taking a birthing class at your hospital? My husband was being like this, but after the class yesterday he started making lists and telling me we need to start getting a bag together. I think shit just got real for him. Lol.
Ahh! Yes our baby class is soon. Since we are in such a small town the hospital hosts them only every other month. Our labor and delivery class is all day Saturday, May 2nd. And our baby care and feeding class is the afternoon of Tuesday, May 5th. You may be right, that may be exactly the thing to bring it home. I've also decided that next time I see my Dr, since he usually comes to appointments, I'll ask the nurse while she is weighing me and he is already in the room, to mention time's growing short and to ask if we have everything ready. Its a sneaky bitch move, but I'm down with some subterfuge.
@karaelaine1991@mellymar@Westypet thanks, ladies! My sister wound up being the one to hand gifts to me and a girlfriend I know thru DH wrote down who the gifts were from. Neither of these ladies were hostesses. So awkward. Finally my SIL started helping. As we were leaving MIL told my sister sorry, that her family was kinda "laid-back". I guess they just felt like providing snacks and buying gifts were enough. Definitely glad it's over and beyond grateful for all the gifts.
@KarasTwin the family is 'laid back' but decides to invite 180 people you don't even know. A laid back event would seem like less of a deal with less people to me. :-/
@KarasTwin the family is 'laid back' but decides to invite 180 people you don't even know. A laid back event would seem like less of a deal with less people to me. :-/
You would think. I'm curious to see how my SILs wedding is going to be.
@KarasTwin glad you made it through! Now just the home stretch
@mellymar I hear ya! My DH works so hard and so I always feel like I am nagging. I packed four boxes of crap to move to the basement but 1. If I ask him to move them on his first day off in a while I'll feel like I am nagging but 2. If I try to move them I will get nicely yelled at. Pregnancy is so unfair!
I'm also tired of hearing that I need to slow down more. I get stressed out by slowing down. I feel much better getting sh*t done! Poor DH. He just wants me to take a rest and it's just not in my DNA!
Here's my gripe. This makes me sound like a total dick but..... I got zero gift receipts with my shower gifts..... And I don't need that many clothes for the baby ... I'm mostly using hand me downs. Why don't ppl include gift receipts?! ..........
I'm going to sound awful, but to piggy back off of this...why do people not look at the registry? I registered for plenty of inexpensive things because I wanted them. I don't need random crib sheets that don't go with anything in my nursery or a ton of onesies. I don't even have hand me downs and I'll never get him in all the 0-3 month stuff we have. I need the necessities and blankets and things that I spent a Saturday hand picking!
All of this. Also, why can't they get the registries scanned at checkout? I'm grateful for gifts but there was one set of onesies we registered for and got 3 of them! I'm grateful for the gifts but is it not simpler for the gift giver to scan the registry than to make a busy pregnant lady have to return a bunch of duplicates? Also do people not count out how old baby will be when bobuying gifts? I'm pretty sure he's going to be 6 months old in the winter and not need shorts and t shirts. I always make an effort to be mindful of these things, why can't others? We didn't spend 6 hours registering for people to pull this crap.
@KarasTwin yeah I recieved many gifts that were never taken off the registry and it's frustrating ESP if your family lives out of town and accidentally buys you those things as well. I feel kind of like I shouldn't of even registered lol......... It's more of a hassle and hardly anyone followed it. I appreciate all the gifts though because it's thoughtful.
I'm planning to have a conversation with DH about this very thing tonight! I hate to nag but we can't do it all ourselves no matter how much we want to. Sometimes they just need a little push! Trying to figure out a tactful way of approaching him so he doesn't feel attacked. Good luck!
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@karaelaine1991 so glad yours was awesome!
@karastwin I think we are all dying to know how it was with 185 people! Are you still recovering?
Not even hangry today, just real life angry. Arg.
Bless him, I love him, he works really hard and is entitled to enjoy his free time when he has it, but sh!t needs to get done and its not! Argh, nesting vs procrastination! Its driving me batty! Thanks for letting me rant, I have nowhere else to turn to (I don't want to rant to my mom or my sister about this stuff)
Just - arh! Grateful. But arh! Annoyed.
But with all that, do what ever makes sense to you and your family. Everyone else will just have to get over it. Best of luck.
@mellymar I hear ya! My DH works so hard and so I always feel like I am nagging. I packed four boxes of crap to move to the basement but 1. If I ask him to move them on his first day off in a while I'll feel like I am nagging but 2. If I try to move them I will get nicely yelled at. Pregnancy is so unfair!
I'm also tired of hearing that I need to slow down more. I get stressed out by slowing down. I feel much better getting sh*t done! Poor DH. He just wants me to take a rest and it's just not in my DNA!