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edited April 2015 in June 2015 Moms
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  • frankengibbsfrankengibbs member
    Feeling incredibly frustrated right now. I live with DH and a roommate who is my close friend of 5 years and who I love like family. We all always leave each other sticky notes (typically not the passive aggressive kind) and this morning there was one on the door saying that the door was left unlocked all night. I'm frustrated because I know this was DH's doing and I'm worried that his bad habits are going to negatively affect our living situation. And the more I think about it, the more frustrated I get. We have 3 locks on the door and we live in the city, is it really that hard to remember to lock them when you get home? But moreover, why is it that I seem to be the only person who can do the dishes and clean the bathroom? There are three of us here! I feel like shit always falls on me because I'm so afraid of having another horrible roommate situation and it's hard to get DH to catch on without feeling like I'm scolding him because he has bad habits. I'm sure I do too, but it just gets frustrating and it shouldn't be too much to ask to live in a clean, clutter-free home.
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  • JessHeppellJessHeppell member
    edited April 2015
    oh man @frankengibbs i totally understand the roommate thing, he and DH used to be really good friends but lately he always goes out to the pub with another mutual friend of ours and DH is never invited, like just last night he put up a facebook status about who wants to go to the pub while the 3 of us were all watching a show in the living. i feel bad for DH and he feels really left out. the roommate is really messy too (we all are we're 20-22 years old) but he doesnt clean anything, leaves food in his part of the fridge to go mouldy, doesnt buy TP or dish soap/any cleaning supplies, and half the time DH washes his dishes. one thing you could try would be to ask your hubby when he leaves/whatever the situation is if he locked the door, or just text him. i make sure to ask mine everynight when we crawl into bed.

    another person that bugs me is my MIL she is definitely a quantity over quality person. buys most gifts around holiday time from the dollar store she works at. and spends like $50 on useless things that are cheap and just get thrown out, often ignoring the things DH actuallys asks her to get us if anything. she is really touchy and huggy and i hate it. but i feel i cant say anything to her or she will get all whiney and moody. i swear i felt the baby move away from her when i ran into her yesterday..

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  • dancegurl1118dancegurl1118 member
    Just found out our delivery will be closer to $5k, not the $3k we anticipated. That's if it is uncomplicated. My lovely employer (and where I'll be delivering) instituted a coinsurance this year for after you hit your deductible. And that goes for my unborn child as well (baby will have a deductible and then coinsurance). I already pay $380 a month for said insurance and it is the top tier. Literally fuming in disgust at my "nationally recognized" hospital that made the most of any hospital in the state last year yet instituted a despicable coinsurance to the insurance. Ah, happy Friday everyone!
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  • Frogger5Frogger5 member
    @frankengibbs - My husband does the same thing! WTF? How can locking the door not just be part of your routine when you come in the door? You come in, you turn around, you lock it, then you go about your business. I just tell him about how uncomfortable it makes me to realize that the door is unlocked. I throw around words like "home invasion," "rape," "assault" to really drive the point home :). He agrees that I am not being unreasonable, and now when I notice or ask him if he locked the door, he's very apologetic and sheepish if he didn't. I'll make a joke like, "well, I'm glad the robbers didn't try our door yet!" I always check before I go to bed, but I really shouldn't have to check right after he comes home, I feel like. Any time there's a story in the news about like, someone going to take the trash out and not locking their door, and someone stealing their laptop or being found in their apartment in the intervening 60 seconds, I make sure to read it to him too. Sort of like targeted nagging . . . I don't know, I hope it works some day!
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  • Frogger5Frogger5 member
    JessHeppell said:

    oh man @frankengibbs i totally understand the roommate thing, he and DH used to be really good friends but lately he always goes out to the pub with another mutual friend of ours and DH is never invited, like just last night he put up a facebook status about who wants to go to the pub while the 3 of us were all watching a show in the living. i feel bad for DH and he feels really left out. the roommate is really messy too (we all are we're 20-22 years old) but he doesnt clean anything, leaves food in his part of the fridge to go mouldy, doesnt buy TP or dish soap/any cleaning supplies, and half the time DH washes his dishes. one thing you could try would be to ask your hubby when he leaves/whatever the situation is if he locked the door, or just text him. i make sure to ask mine everynight when we crawl into bed.

    another person that bugs me is my MIL she is definitely a quantity over quality person. buys most gifts around holiday time from the dollar store she works at. and spends like $50 on useless things that are cheap and just get thrown out, often ignoring the things DH actuallys asks her to get us if anything. she is really touchy and huggy and i hate it. but i feel i cant say anything to her or she will get all whiney and moody. i swear i felt the baby move away from her when i ran into her yesterday..

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    Sometimes I'll ask my H, too, in bed, and he'll say, "yes??" with just a touch of rising intonation, or he'll pause just a split second too long, and I'll know he's totally just hoping that he did. Then he'll say, "do you want me to check?" Hell yes, I want you to check. I wouldn't have asked you if it didn't matter. Sheesh.
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  • frankengibbsfrankengibbs member
    @Frogger5 I'm going to start stressing the fact that there are two women in the house and soon a baby and that if he doesn't want his expensive electronics to be missing or for us to get murdered he should really learn to lock the god damned door. I'm just frustrated...Three locks on the door and you can't even be bothered to lock one of them?! He's just now locking the car door because I told him that I did not pay $2,700 out of pocket on my old lady car for it to get stolen whether or not he thinks it looks like it's worth taking...I swear he should know better but his whole family is like that. Might as well put a please come in and rape, murder and rob us sign on the door.

    @JessHeppell Our roommate is literally my only living friend and her family is like my family and we are still really close now, but my fear is that living together will put a strain on our relationship because while I am a ridiculously clean person, DH can be a bit of a slob or do things like not lock the door which is something that I would be upset about in her shoes too. But also, I just get frustrated in general because I am the person who does the dishes, cleans the kitchen, sweeps and mops the floors, etc. and it shouldn't all fall on me and I know some of it is my fault for allowing it too but cleanliness is usually the main downfall in roommate situations because cleaning up after yourself is a matter of respect for others around you. I'd hate for her to feel like she doesn't want to live with us because of her best friend's stupid husband...
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  • frankengibbsfrankengibbs member
    @JessHeppell That one's tricky because it's hard to tell someone what to buy for you when it's a gift and a matter of their own kindness...As far as the touchy-feely thing...Ugh, I know what you mean. I just try to express how I'm kind of a hands-off person.

    @dancegurl1118 ...I would be fuming...That is complete BS
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  • Frogger5Frogger5 member
    dancegurl1118 said:

    Just found out our delivery will be closer to $5k, not the $3k we anticipated. That's if it is uncomplicated. My lovely employer (and where I'll be delivering) instituted a coinsurance this year for after you hit your deductible. And that goes for my unborn child as well (baby will have a deductible and then coinsurance). I already pay $380 a month for said insurance and it is the top tier. Literally fuming in disgust at my "nationally recognized" hospital that made the most of any hospital in the state last year yet instituted a despicable coinsurance to the insurance. Ah, happy Friday everyone!

    Are you sure there's not an out-of-pocket max that you missed that might be less than that? I've had three different health insurance plans that I can remember any details on at all, and they all had a deductible, coinsurance, and an out of pocket max. I know every plan is different and they make it complicated on purpose, but you might call and have them explain it to you if you aren't sure. Every time I've called about something that confused me, my insurance company phone people have been very nice and helpful. (Shout out to Premera Blue Sheild of WA and AK!)
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  • dancegurl1118dancegurl1118 member
    @Frogger5 yeah the out of pocket max is $2400 which is what it will be for me because the birth and stay is just about $24k, and then the baby has a deductible and coinsurance with a $2400 out of pocket max. My coworker just delivered and she said it added up to about that. Awful.
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  • Frogger5Frogger5 member
    dancegurl1118 said:

    @Frogger5 yeah the out of pocket max is $2400 which is what it will be for me because the birth and stay is just about $24k, and then the baby has a deductible and coinsurance with a $2400 out of pocket max. My coworker just delivered and she said it added up to about that. Awful.

    Fingers crossed the baby's bill won't be that much. It blows, what can you do? At least the rest of the baby's healthcare for the rest of the year will pretty much be included, then!
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  • karaelaine1991karaelaine1991 member
    edited April 2015
    Oh I have a big one. Last night DH and I went to the Pirates game. The people we were supposed to go with backed out earlier this week so we invited his friend to go instead. Well, friend was having trouble finding someone last minute, so he invited someone who he works with. The guy he works with told him this long story about how he only goes with his 5 year old daughter and they haven't gone in forever and he'd love to go but can't without her, blah blah blah... Well, DH's friend is a good guy and felt bad for the co-worker, and since he also had plans to go to the game on Sunday, he called DH and asked if he could give our extra tickets to the co-worker and his daughter. We said yes and made plans to meet the guy at the stadium at 6:30. Guy was 20 minutes late (arriving 10 minutes before the game started), NO apologies whatsoever, AND he came with a date instead of his daughter. So basically he scammed our friend out of the tickets. Oh, and he didn't pay for them - he told us that he is paying our friend on Monday... guess we'll see if that happens.

    Other than that, it was a fun night, but I'm stunned at this guy's ignorance. Our friend could've come by himself, we'd have been fine just taking the $23 loss of the fourth ticket.. Oh well.
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  • karaelaine1991karaelaine1991 member
    mellymar said:

    @karaelaine1991 - booo, that was a dick move on that guy's part. What a jerk.

    I know, right?! I was irritated about him being late because I'm big on punctuality but I kept saying to myself, "he's coming with a kid, that can tie things up..." Then he shows up with the date! I was livid. Can't believe he screwed over our friend like that - we texted him ASAP to let him know about it so he knows for the future that the co-worker's shady.
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    Serenamarr said:

    @karaelaine1991 I would've said oh you must not be the right guy, the guy we are looking for said he only comes to games with his daughter!

    Mine is a tricky little vent because although I am so glad spring is here and this is going to be the first day nice enough to lay on the beach, it's also the day the HUGE flowering tree right outside our bedroom window has decided to bloom, setting my allergies on hyperdrive. Sniffle. And my parents are coming to visit today, which I love, but on the other hand I don't want to clean up or do anything other than throw a bikini on and veg today.

    I will call the wahhmbulance on myself now.

    Honestly, if it weren't for the fact that our friend has to work with him, I would've ripped him a new one! Haha

    I hope your allergies go away soon!
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  • KaLikeAWindKaLikeAWind member
    I'm gonna call the wahhmbulance on myself. Wheah wheah whiny Mel. I still have my post vaccine just really tired feeling, its a fine day outside (45 degrees and climbing! Fantastic!), and I could have had the worse shift which would be tonight 5-close (2am). But I'm sitting here feeling all pouty because I have to go to work in 20 minutes (the ideal shift of 10-4). Suck it up, self, and go make some damn money =;
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    And somehow my facial brush for applying translucent powder (my ONLY make up ever worn) to my face got wet. So, no light softening for me.
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  • MJMum524MJMum524 member
    I really feel that the subject of some posts does not accurately reflect the topic of the post and leaves me so confused. Just putting this out there. It doesn't really bother me, more of an observation.
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    I am on antibiotics for the tooth extraction I had on Weds.  I now have a mild yeast infection due to antibotics.  I fell down and took off half my knee.  I'm basically falling apart.  Baby seems to be fine however.
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  • frankengibbsfrankengibbs member
    MJMum524 said:

    I really feel that the subject of some posts does not accurately reflect the topic of the post and leaves me so confused. Just putting this out there. It doesn't really bother me, more of an observation.

    How?
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  • celliott72celliott72 member
    I had to cut running errands short because the swelling of my ankles is out of control! We have family flying in tomorrow and I don't have time to be laying around right now! Ugh!
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  • NikelizabethNikelizabeth member
    My husband is a pain in my butt! He is so dramatic and high strung it drives me nuts. Ugh get over it and move on! Quit crying about every little thing! That's what I feel like saying to him today ;)
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  • KarasTwinKarasTwin member
    I'm about to go nuts on the neighbor children. They've been a nuisance since we bought our house 2 years ago. The parents seem to let them run wild. When we bought the house and were renovating we came back from a home Depot run and found them under a trailer in our driveway full of boards with nails sticking out of them. They draw all over our driveway with sidewalk chalk and leave their toys in our driveway and just cause all sorts of problems. I went out a few minutes ago and they are outside just screaming bloody murder. They've let our other neighbor's dogs out andthe parents don't do anything. I just know when the baby is born they are going to wake him up with their screaming. I just can't take it.
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  • jessg35jessg35 member
    Have you tried looking into different insurance? You could probably find a much better deal on the ACA marketplace.
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  • Knottie64157109Knottie64157109 member
    @karastwin that would drive me nuts too! My situation is not misbehaved kids but a bad dog owner and his yappy dog that wakes us up at all times of the EARLY am hours. Our bedroom backs up to thier backyard so it is BAD.
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  • HoosOnFirstHoosOnFirst member
    @karaelaine1991 stay strong! It will only be a few hours! I'm hoping you are not opening gifts during the shower ... Because that would be a lot.
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  • jessieR358jessieR358 member
    @jessg35 it depends on where you are and what plan you are purchasing. I work in health care and hardly any walk in clinic, urgent care or primary care facility in the city I work accepts the ACA plans. It is a very limited network of doctors....none of whom I would go to!
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  • Frogger5Frogger5 member
    Serenamarr said:

    My mom is in town visiting and I love having her. With that said, she keeps interjecting little comments about our wedding, which was originally in September of this year, but we pushed back to June 2016 because baby decided 2015 was his year and I didn't want to feel rushed planning/getting into shape. Ideally, I would have wanted to be married first and baby second, but that's not what happened and I'm completely fine with it. I don't see any reason to change our wedding (other than date) because baby came sooner than expected. But my mom thinks we should just march down to the courthouse and get married before baby comes. I understand she is old-fashioned, but I just can't stomach doing this. Just WHY? There is no financial or legal reason to do so and I want our actual wedding day to be special, not just for show. So yesterday we were walking by the beach and started talking about houses and she said, "you know instead of having a wedding you could use that money for a down payment on a house." ....................JUST BECAUSE WE ARE HAVING A BABY DOESNT MEAN I NO LONGER DESERVE A WEDDING.

    Whew. Rant over.

    There are financial and legal reasons, though. That's the whole entire point of marriage. You might say there are no ethical or religious reasons that you care about, but the others are real. Health insurance, taxes, next of kin, end of life decisions are things I think of off the top of my head.

    Totally not saying do what your mom says, because obviously it's not what you want. She's just not ridiculous for suggesting it! Good luck, I'm sure she'll be happy when it happens.
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  • SerenamarrSerenamarr member
    edited April 2015
    @Frogger5 both fiancé and I are still on our parents insurance policies for 2 more years and are buying a separate plan for LO. We have unfortunately been in a situation in the past where we had to designate one another power of attorney so that is already taken care of. I am not currently working and fi is an independent contractor for an insurance company so we pay taxes quarterly throughout the year-- he will claim LO and me both as dependents on his taxes (you do not have to be married to claim a partner- just have to have lived together for 1+ years, partner must meet minimum income requirement, and you must have paid for at least half of their living expenses that year). So there literally is no legal or financial reason.

    But even so it's not like we are never planning to marry- just not this year!

    Edit: if any of those things were different and there WAS a logical reason I would consider it.
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  • Frogger5Frogger5 member
    @Serenamarr - OK, you win! Sounds like you know what you're talking about! Still, good luck with the wedding when it's time, and I still recommend considering a court house do ;). Man, I wish we had that money back sometimes.
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  • LaurenAnn0405LaurenAnn0405 member
    @Serenamarr DH and I had DD before we were married and that horrified my big Catholic family, especially my mother. We had planned on doing it in a different order just like you said but I didn't want to rush it and I still wanted my wedding. We had a gorgeous wedding and now almost 3 years later I think everyone in my family is pretty much over the fact that we weren't married yet when we had our first. Hang in there girl!
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  • SerenamarrSerenamarr member
    Frogger5 said:

    @Serenamarr - OK, you win! Sounds like you know what you're talking about! Still, good luck with the wedding when it's time, and I still recommend considering a court house do ;). Man, I wish we had that money back sometimes.

    There are definitely times when I'm like, am I really going to spend this much money on basically one big party?? I'm usually very practical about money so it almost makes me queasy thinking about it haha
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  • WestypetWestypet member
    Serenamarr said:

    Frogger5 said:

    @Serenamarr - OK, you win! Sounds like you know what you're talking about! Still, good luck with the wedding when it's time, and I still recommend considering a court house do ;). Man, I wish we had that money back sometimes.

    There are definitely times when I'm like, am I really going to spend this much money on basically one big party?? I'm usually very practical about money so it almost makes me queasy thinking about it haha
    We spent a ton of money on our wedding, but had the time of our lives and were surrounded by so much love. We definitely felt the sting, but I think it was so worth it!!!!!
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