Unpopular Opinion (UO) Thursday

lovethatcolosun · April 2015

One of my favorite spicy threads. What's your UO this week?

BabyList · April 2015

I dislike breast feeding pictures on social media. I did not breast feed my 1st due to medical issues, so I realize that I may just not "get it", but I think it is inappropriate. I am all for breast feeding, I plan to try to breast feed this baby. I don't think you should feed your babies in bathrooms, or have to leave establishments because people are uncomfortable. I personally don't plan to be a mom that is comfortable with breastfeeding in public without a cover, but I also know that experience changes a lot of things, so I am sure I will feel differently once I am personally in the situation. All that being said, I don't want to see your child breast feeding on my social media pages. I feel like posting those pictures is the opposite of normalizing breast feeding. I feel like they are a giant "look at me", and bring more negative attention from people who are opposed to public breast feeding instead of normalizing feeding your child. I'm sure my opinion may change once I am a breast feeding mother, but for now when I see pictures of your precious babies tugging at your nipples all I can think is "ouch, that looks painful".

ngaines27 · April 2015

At the risk of getting flamed. . .I HATE cats. There. I said it. I still love all of my J15 moms and hope we can be friends, but I needed to get that off my chest.

Frogger5 · April 2015

ngaines27 said:
At the risk of getting flamed. . .I HATE cats. There. I said it. I still love all of my J15 moms and hope we can be friends, but I needed to get that off my chest.

I know how you feel - not about cats, because I love them and have 3 - but about that dang thread! I have political opinions I'm keeping inside because they probably really aren't all that unpopular, and I don't want to get too personal (people are very sensitive about politics, right? I am!). But if someone else starts it, I'm in!

ksimo6 · April 2015

I'll bite @Frogger5 - the idea of Hilary Clinton in the White House is terrifying to me. I will not be voting for her.

Mommaswizz · April 2015

I hate politics completely. I like to stay relatively well-informed on both sides (i consider myself smack in the middle of the road) but I really don't like talking about politics whatsoever. I'm already getting peeks at which facebook friends I'm going to want to dump as next year's election comes closer. For what it's worth, I have many friends who are political regardless of whether or not it's an election year, they just voice their opinion all the time. I'm okay with that. What i REALLY cannot effing stand are the people who become expert politicians once every four years. I seriously wish I could cork their stupid faces lol.

Frogger5 · April 2015

ksimo6 said:
I'll bite @Frogger5 - the idea of Hilary Clinton in the White House is terrifying to me. I will not be voting for her.

It doesn't terrify me, but she's not my favorite. I wouldn't pick her in a primary, but you bet I'll vote for her in the general if it comes down to it! What about her don't you like?

ksimo6 · April 2015

Frogger5 said:

ksimo6 said:
I'll bite @Frogger5 - the idea of Hilary Clinton in the White House is terrifying to me. I will not be voting for her.
It doesn't terrify me, but she's not my favorite. I wouldn't pick her in a primary, but you bet I'll vote for her in the general if it comes down to it! What about her don't you like?

I don't find her to be truthful in any situation. Mind you, I have issues with finding politicans truthful (no matter the party), but her line of BS every time she is challanged on anything is tough to swallow.

Frogger5 · April 2015

ksimo6 said:

Frogger5 said:

ksimo6 said:
I'll bite @Frogger5 - the idea of Hilary Clinton in the White House is terrifying to me. I will not be voting for her.
It doesn't terrify me, but she's not my favorite. I wouldn't pick her in a primary, but you bet I'll vote for her in the general if it comes down to it! What about her don't you like?
I don't find her to be truthful in any situation. Mind you, I have issues with finding politicans truthful (no matter the party), but her line of BS every time she is challanged on anything is tough to swallow.

Truthfully I'm not even planning on paying much attention until later on. Lots of things will shake out by that time - I think our election cycles are way too long! I understand what you mean, though, and I agree that I have a hard time trusting anyone with that much (potential) power.

I'm glad you didn't say that you were afraid a woman be too hormonal! I'd have flipped. out.

mvargas12 · April 2015

Mommaswizz said:
I hate politics completely. I like to stay relatively well-informed on both sides (i consider myself smack in the middle of the road) but I really don't like talking about politics whatsoever. I'm already getting peeks at which facebook friends I'm going to want to dump as next year's election comes closer. For what it's worth, I have many friends who are political regardless of whether or not it's an election year, they just voice their opinion all the time. I'm okay with that. What i REALLY cannot effing stand are the people who become expert politicians once every four years. I seriously wish I could cork their stupid faces lol.

YES on getting peeks at which facebook friends to drop as the election gets closer!!

HoosOnFirst · April 2015

Frogger5 said:

ksimo6 said:
I'll bite @Frogger5 - the idea of Hilary Clinton in the White House is terrifying to me. I will not be voting for her.
It doesn't terrify me, but she's not my favorite. I wouldn't pick her in a primary, but you bet I'll vote for her in the general if it comes down to it! What about her don't you like?

Rug roh, here's how this whole thread might go downhill

Internet political discussions almost never go well!

Anyway, my UO is that I hate all pregnancy movies. When I saw a thread about everyone's favorite one last week, I wanted to roll my eyes. I find them all silly and cloying.

KaLikeAWind · April 2015

I REALLY want to see a woman in the White House, but I don't know if she is the one. The problem is that I'm really beginning to sour on almost all 'career' politicians so I don't know that I could honestly pick any of them for who I would have in that spot. I know who I definitely DON'T want in there, but nobody that's left after the ones I don't like has really made me feel excited

mvargas12 · April 2015

I just peeked at the May board and basically freaked the f#^€ out!!!! There are a lot of fussy, unhappy babies mentioned!!!! :-SS

mvargas12 · April 2015

Also, if a discussion on politics is gonna be a thing can we have a thread specifically for that?

Zeuskay01 · April 2015

@BabyList you are NOT alone!! I was on fb yesterday and I follow a lot of local buy/sell/trade pages, and there was a photographer advertising her work and how she was having a special on a breastfeeding photo shoot. The pictures were of a mother in a forest, her baby was completely naked, and she just had her in different poses while she was hanging onto her boob. I'm sorry, I just don't want to see that. I'm all for breastfeeding but why do you need to show the world on social media? Idk....I'm sure someone out there would be extremely upset with these point of views and like @BabyList, maybe I just don't get it. *shoulder shrug*

@ngaines27 I'm another cat hater here lol but maybe it's because I'm extremely allergic to them but then again....I also am a crazy dog lady. I cannot wait to see how my dog acts around the baby!

Frogger5 · April 2015

mellymar said:
I REALLY want to see a woman in the White House, but I don't know if she is the one. The problem is that I'm really beginning to sour on almost all 'career' politicians so I don't know that I could honestly pick any of them for who I would have in that spot. I know who I definitely DON'T want in there, but nobody that's left after the ones I don't like has really made me feel excited

Yup, same. Actually, I don't care so much if it's a woman, just so long as "women's issues" are taken seriously. We'll all have to wait and see who's in and who's out in six months, etc!

knwilliams01 · April 2015

I'm really fed up with and about to go off on the obviously pregnant women who are outside the hospital smoking when I get my daily wheelchair trip outside with DH. I ate healthy, exercised, started taking prenatals 1 year before I conceived, used clomid to conceive, stopped drinking the whole year we were trying to conceive, etc and yet I still ended up in the hospital for what is looking like it will be 4-6 weeks with complications. This is no one's fault - not even my own. But when I see women doing things that we know are harmful and put baby at risk that are not essential - I.e. Smoking, it really pisses me off.

KaLikeAWind · April 2015

mvargas12 said:
Also, if a discussion on politics is gonna be a thing can we have a thread specifically for that?

I was just thinking we should maybe not hijack this UO thread and put the whole politics thing in a separate place. That way its all contained and people who want to avoid it can do so

laurendutch · April 2015

Maybe we should add a religion board too

keep things really interesting! Hahaha...kidding

MrsWiggleWaggle · April 2015

MY UO is crazy cat lady related. I have no patience for people with "allergies" it's totally unfair but people lie about that stuff all the time. Especially girls with eating disorders who suddenly become deathly allergic to gluten...never mind what is being served is rice which is gluten free...its a carb so it must have gluten.
So, seriously feel guilty when someone has an actual allergy but I feel like the majority of the time it's just fussiness.

aj1327 · April 2015

knwilliams01 said:
I'm really fed up with and about to go off on the obviously pregnant women who are outside the hospital smoking when I get my daily wheelchair trip outside with DH. I ate healthy, exercised, started taking prenatals 1 year before I conceived, used clomid to conceive, stopped drinking the whole year we were trying to conceive, etc and yet I still ended up in the hospital for what is looking like it will be 4-6 weeks with complications. This is no one's fault - not even my own. But when I see women doing things that we know are harmful and put baby at risk that are not essential - I.e. Smoking, it really pisses me off.

That would piss me off too!

Westypet · April 2015

My UO is that I get irked when people say "I'm pregnant, not disabled." I don't feel like myself anymore, and feel incapable of doing the most basic things. I know I'm not disabled, but I certainly feel disabled, like I'm less of the person than I once was!

-can barely do stairs (3 flights in my house)
- can't lift more than 10 lbs (used to carrying everything)
-major food aversions (was a foodie)
-vomiting 10x+ day (used to joke that I can eat barbed wire)
-insomnia
-fatigue (was peppiest person ever!)
-unmotivated (was career go-getter)
-can't take medicines
-sexless (I'm a sexual health educator!)

And so much more. 9 weeks to go. Terribly jealous of you ladies capable of working full time still. Pregnancy is so difficult for me.

karaelaine1991 · April 2015

I'm glad I read through this before posting my UO, because it was going to be political - I'm going to go ahead and open a politics thread instead to keep things separate for those of you who don't want to see it

Soooo instead of my political gripe, my UO is going to be... I get tired of people pushing gender neutral. Don't get me wrong, DD is going to be dressed in a healthy amount of blues in addition to her pinks and purples, but I think gender neutral can go to extremes, just as gender stereotypes can. At my shower on Saturday, I actually had a guest lecture me on how she was giving me a blue gift specifically because she didn't want my baby to be surrounded by pink and I shouldn't push DD to be a girly girl. I was able to control the eye rolling because the lecture came from a 15 year old who is in an antagonistic phase and probably said that partially to get a reaction. But seriously... give me a break!

SandBetweenMyToes79 · April 2015

I totally agree on the smoking thing! Disgusting.

seesea · April 2015

There are some days I can't stand that nursery thread. Don't get me wrong, some of those rooms look really nice, others though, not really my cup of tea. Maybe I'm jealous because I don't have one set up yet? Or I could just be too cheap or too lazy to go all out. I consider myself an artsy person but I'm not too into decorating. I just want a simple set up for my boys. Then maybe I'll worry about the decor later.

devyns2nd · April 2015

Well I am legit allergic to mushrooms guys.

I don't LOVE cats either but, I do love my cat. My MIL has a cat I despise. She rips her fur out and growls if you touch her. Ugh. She attacks my feet under the table. Not any of the other seven people at the table. Just mine. I think we equally dislike each other.

Animal related, my UO is I hate ASPCA commercials. If I'm going to donate $20 a month to anyone it would be children. So many suffer from hunger and abuse it's crazy. $25,000 was raised for ONE dog here and social workers have to ignore abuse because they don't have the funding to house the children. A three year old little girl died in her own vomit because she was being "punished" but that dog had every luxury he could ever want or need. The two women that abused that girl to death served three years in prison. The boy that accidently drug the dog (and yes I say accident because I knew him personally and he is the biggest softy ever) served 7.5 years. The dog survived and the girl did not. that imbalance bothers me a lot. Maybe it was how I was raised and maybe I'm wrong but I hate seeing how much effort goes into saving the dogs around here and the children are neglected. We have ONE orphanage and several shelters.

I don't believe in animal abuse or anything. I myself have a hard time not taking in strays. I'm also not saying drop animal rescue centers or anything. I'd just like to see more go into child protection services in my area.

Emilywooddesign · April 2015

My UO is that It makes me sad when subway sandwich makers don't put love into my sandwich- they just slap a huge chunk of onion or a gross tomato and don't even think twice about it! Forrrr shammeee

devyns2nd · April 2015

That makes me sound like a huge animal hater. I'm not!! I have a farm with goats, pigs, chickens, three dogs, four cats and soon we will have cows. I almost bought a baby sloth yesterday but DH thought it was ridiculous. Pfft that sucker was adorable.

karaelaine1991 · April 2015

devyns2nd said:
Well I am legit allergic to mushrooms guys.

I don't LOVE cats either but, I do love my cat. My MIL has a cat I despise. She rips her fur out and growls if you touch her. Ugh. She attacks my feet under the table. Not any of the other seven people at the table. Just mine. I think we equally dislike each other.

Animal related, my UO is I hate ASPCA commercials. If I'm going to donate $20 a month to anyone it would be children. So many suffer from hunger and abuse it's crazy. $25,000 was raised for ONE dog here and social workers have to ignore abuse because they don't have the funding to house the children. A three year old little girl died in her own vomit because she was being "punished" but that dog had every luxury he could ever want or need. The two women that abused that girl to death served three years in prison. The boy that accidently drug the dog (and yes I say accident because I knew him personally and he is the biggest softy ever) served 7.5 years. The dog survived and the girl did not. that imbalance bothers me a lot. Maybe it was how I was raised and maybe I'm wrong but I hate seeing how much effort goes into saving the dogs around here and the children are neglected. We have ONE orphanage and several shelters.

I don't believe in animal abuse or anything. I myself have a hard time not taking in strays. I'm also not saying drop animal rescue centers or anything. I'd just like to see more go into child protection services in my area.

100% agree with you on this!! I have my Amazon Smile set to donate to the National Council for Adoption for this very reason. Hopefully one day DH and I will have a more flexible income and will be able to donate a bit more to charities like this, but I agree - I like dogs and cats, but I'd want to help a child more any day!

iheartpancake · April 2015

I have three unpopular opinions today and I'm going to blame my negativity on the crap weather outside.

1. Hate cats. Can't stand them. Think they're assholes.

2. I do not like maternity pictures where women wear those long flowy gowns that blow open to reveal their belly. Like with no pants on, just boobs and vag covered. I guess I just don't see the appeal? And why are they always in the woods, like that's natural?? Not for me, I guess.

3. I don't like it when people call their kids their "little". And I don't mean like, me and little man are going shopping. I mean, me and little are going shopping. Little is not a noun! It is a description. Don't know why that really gets under my skin. Again, not for me.

I think maybe I'm hangry...

Frogger5 · April 2015

Emilywooddesign said:
My UO is that It makes me sad when subway sandwich makers don't put love into my sandwich- they just slap a huge chunk of onion or a gross tomato and don't even think twice about it! Forrrr shammeee

I think that's a popular opinion!
Relatedly: Anyone else think the tomatoes at Jimmy Johns are always disgusting? I don't know what the deal is, but they are consistently gross at two stores I go to.

ngaines27 · April 2015

iheartpancake said:
I have three unpopular opinions today and I'm going to blame my negativity on the crap weather outside.

1. Hate cats. Can't stand them. Think they're assholes.

2. I do not like maternity pictures where women wear those long flowy gowns that blow open to reveal their belly. Like with no pants on, just boobs and vag covered. I guess I just don't see the appeal? And why are they always in the woods, like that's natural?? Not for me, I guess.

3. I don't like it when people call their kids their "little". And I don't mean like, me and little man are going shopping. I mean, me and little are going shopping. Little is not a noun! It is a description. Don't know why that really gets under my skin. Again, not for me.

I think maybe I'm hangry...

Every. Single. Word! AND it made me laugh.

ElRuby · April 2015

karaelaine1991 said:
I'm glad I read through this before posting my UO, because it was going to be political - I'm going to go ahead and open a politics thread instead to keep things separate for those of you who don't want to see it

Soooo instead of my political gripe, my UO is going to be... I get tired of people pushing gender neutral. Don't get me wrong, DD is going to be dressed in a healthy amount of blues in addition to her pinks and purples, but I think gender neutral can go to extremes, just as gender stereotypes can. At my shower on Saturday, I actually had a guest lecture me on how she was giving me a blue gift specifically because she didn't want my baby to be surrounded by pink and I shouldn't push DD to be a girly girl. I was able to control the eye rolling because the lecture came from a 15 year old who is in an antagonistic phase and probably said that partially to get a reaction. But seriously... give me a break!

Agreed.

ElRuby · April 2015

My UO is that just because we are a bunch of pregnant ladies does not mean we all need to be understanding and supportive in every post. Frankly, it scares me that I am going to have to coexist with certain types of parents while I raise my own children!

KaLikeAWind · April 2015

I'm piggy backing on the whole animal thing. Obviously I like animals, having worked in vet offices for so long. I do like to advocate for them. I do appreciate the work that shelters do. BUT some of these shelters or rescue organizations are just cray cray. I have seen adoption contracts from these places that say that they retain the rights to the animal even after adoption, and can re-possess it at any time if there is cause (but they don't specify what would be a cause). They won't release the microchip company to change contact info to the new owner, so if the animal becomes lost, its the rescue organization that gets the call to recover it. And then, the rescue won't give the animal back to the owner because the dog somehow getting off leash shows you're a terrible pet parent.
Same thing with declaws. I'm not for declaw surgery, I would never do it to my pets. There are medical reasons to not do it. But, I believe in education and making an informed decision. Some of these anti-declaw people are madness. I worked with a girl who took photos of a cat in surgery recovery post declaw and posted it to one of those anti declawing fb groups (with its little feet in bandages). Its sad, yes. It hurts my heart, yes. I feel bad, yes. But damnit, I had a client who could not have a pet for a long time because of a clotting disorder. But, she was able to adopt a cat if it was declawed. So I'm supposed to deny this woman the joy and love of a pet because she needs it declawed? No...

Don't get me started on de-barking, tho. That's beyond the line for me

KaLikeAWind · April 2015

ElRuby said:
My UO is that just because we are a bunch of pregnant ladies does not mean we all need to be understanding and supportive in every post. Frankly, it scares me that I am going to have to coexist with certain types of parents while I raise my own children!

This too. I'm allowed to disagree with you (not YOU specifically @ElRuby, the figurative 'you'). I'm open hearing your views of things, but in return you should be open to hearing mine. This is how we learn.

Mommaswizz · April 2015

devyns2nd said:
That makes me sound like a huge animal hater. I'm not!! I have a farm with goats, pigs, chickens, three dogs, four cats and soon we will have cows. I almost bought a baby sloth yesterday but DH thought it was ridiculous. Pfft that sucker was adorable.

Can I come visit you? lol For my 30th birthday my DH called a farm and arranged for me to have a private hangout session with all the goats!! When we arrived the people looked very shocked because they expected him to show up with a small child instead of a grown crazy lady from the suburbs who's obsessed with goats. One day I want a farm!

Addelie · April 2015

@mellymar I just googled debarking because I'd never heard if it - I can't believe what I just read! Unbelievable how a veterinary surgeon would ever ever agree to do that?! Don't they take some sort of oath or something like doctors do?!

Serenamarr · April 2015

@mellymar a few years ago when I was trying to adopt a dog I had the hardest time because the shelters in my area were beyond snobby. I had a house in a good neighborhood with a fenced in back yard, references from my veterinarian, no small children or other animals in the home, and was only out of the house for 6-8 non-consecutive hours a day. Despite all of this, 4 different places refused to even consider letting me adopt solely because I was 21. It was infuriating.

Penwater1 · April 2015

Stop asking the bump community if a medication is safe, if you should call your OB over spotting, a fall, or other major stuff and just call your OB. That is why they are there, none of us know you and your pregnancy like your OB. Call them, share your experience and cincers but after you Call your OB.

Frogger5 · April 2015

mellymar said:

ElRuby said:
My UO is that just because we are a bunch of pregnant ladies does not mean we all need to be understanding and supportive in every post. Frankly, it scares me that I am going to have to coexist with certain types of parents while I raise my own children!
This too. I'm allowed to disagree with you (not YOU specifically @ElRuby, the figurative 'you'). I'm open hearing your views of things, but in return you should be open to hearing mine. This is how we learn.

And no one's expecting our SOs to be all calm and nurturing all the time just because they're going to be fathers. Truth be told they probably need more practice with that than we do as a whole.

Also, I did not join this forum to be supportive and hold every ignorant or common sense-less hand through their ridiculous "problems." I joined because none of my close friends are pregnant right now, and especially in the beginning when no one else knew, I needed a place to obsess over everything with other people in the same place as myself. That's it! I never said I'd be nice all the time and pat everyone's hair. I've learned a lot and had fun, and what the hell else would I have been doing all these hundreds of hours

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