Belly Touchers...

whitfi24 · April 2015

Does anyone else not like it when people touch their belly? I love when my SO touches my belly, lays on it and talks to Baby. But I can't stand it when anyone else including my mother, my best friend or even random people just walk up and touch. I know that my eyes widen and I stiffen, but I never have the courage to say "Please don't do that." Does anyone else feel similarly? Or can anyone else offer a suggestion to say "Hands off!"?

Growingapepper · April 2015

I think it's perfectly acceptable to back away or block their hands and say "please dont!" It's so hard to do because their intentions are so good but they have to realize they are crossing a line! Not only are they getting in your personal space, but they are touching your body without your permission. Luckily noone has touched my belly except my husband. I dread the day someone takes it upon themselves to rub my belly! I hope I have enough self control not to karate chop an arm off!

AndieTessie · April 2015

I started touching other people's bellies right back. I'm normally a very shy person and would never anything like that before I got pregnant, but this baby roommate gave me a sassy side! Lol

sarahnikai · April 2015

Sometimes it bothers me and other times it doesn't. It mostly depends on the situation. Sometimes my DH touches me with a little too much pressure and then I feel like I'm going to pee! LOL! The other day my FIL put his ear up to my belly and that was really awkward! I don't mind if my kids touch my belly, but they think its weird! I would say something or move or do something to demonstrate my uncomfortable-ness if I ever get in the situation where I feel that way. (I moved away from FIL and gave him a look like hes a total weirdo!)

linziecro · April 2015

I am the same way. I want my DH to touch my belly and I love it but the other day my mom patted my belly and I literally blurted out.."eww, don't do that"! I could tell it kinda bugged her but oh well I guess now she knows

mybabynumber2 · April 2015

The only people I want touching my tummy are those whom I love....
My son, my fab hubby and my mum.

Anyone else, please don't! :-) so far so good hehe.

mybabynumber2 · April 2015

AndieTessie said:
I started touching other people's bellies right back. I'm normally a very shy person and would never anything like that before I got pregnant, but this baby roommate gave me a sassy side! Lol

Lol!! @AndieTessie

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hmburchell · April 2015

I have a pretty limited comfort level with belly touches. I'm ok with my hubby and the other day my mom took my nieces toy stethoscope (doc mcstuffins) to "listen to the heartbeat" which was super cute but anyone else, ugh... Haven't you heard of personal space?

kayleesky · April 2015

I saw a pregnancy shirt the other day that said "If you didn't put it there, don't touch it !! Haha

excited2bmommy09 · April 2015

Blah, I get shivers up my spine even just reading "belly touchers." LOVE it when my SO gives my belly attention, my mom I don't mind so much because she's not overboard about it, but everyone else...ewww stay away!

whitfi24 · April 2015

@AndieTessie that is fabulous! I'm going to do that next time someone touches my belly.

Liberty1025 · April 2015

I don't get the belly touching hate. As long as it's someone I know and not a random stranger, it really doesn't bother me. I have bigger things to get riled up about,I guess

shaunnar053 · April 2015

I always asked permission before touching my friends' bellies when they were prego (and it was literally just a hand on their belly for two seconds while I said "Hi little one!" or, "see you soon little one!"). I think if someone I know well does it, I won't mind. It's kind of sweet sometimes. But if it's someone I barely know I might say "you should really ask someone before you touch their body without permission" or something along those lines. Hopefully that'd be followed with an apology from the belly toucher lol.

Edited for spelling ugh

excited2bmommy09 · April 2015

@shaunnarose that's perfect! I think half of why I hate it is people thinking they can just rub their hands all over me without permission. If I wanted that I'd go to a night club lol

I'm finding too that the further along I get and the more baby turns into an actual firm bump and not just squishy bloat, I'm getting slightly more comfortable about being touched. I don't want my fat jiggled around by just anyone!

missliz53 · April 2015

I'm dreading this too. It's fine when DH does it, and I will be ok with kids touching when you can feel the baby move from the outside, but no one else; I think it's creepy, especially if there's nothing to feel.

Penguin81 · April 2015

AndieTessie said:
I started touching other people's bellies right back. I'm normally a very shy person and would never anything like that before I got pregnant, but this baby roommate gave me a sassy side! Lol

This when a woman in Wal-Mart tried to touch me, it was even better because I started down and said "ohhh alien baby." And walked away.

berticus87 · April 2015

I must be in the minority here but I don't mind people touching my belly at all. I generally am a touchy/feely person who loves hugs though so maybe that's why? I've always loved baby bellies and love touching them myself and am always rubbing my bump so I guess I feel like other people do too. Don't get me wrong, I don't think you're in the wrong at all for not liking people touching your belly, everyone is different

hopefully you can find a way to nicely tell people it's not ok.

williamson1983 · April 2015

I can't stand when ppl just assume it is okay to touch you should just say please don't cause from what I learnt that need to speak up cause as baby comes everyone wants to touch them and their face
Perfect strangers learnt how to speak up then. Cause drove me nuts

mrscate88 · April 2015

Totally don't mind family and friends touching my belly, but no one else. There isn't much to touch anyway yet, but towards the end of this thing I won't have any problem telling people not to touch if it makes me uncomfortable. I understand they want to touch baby, but it's not baby, it's my body and that's a little weird unless you know me personally.

jmacd22 · April 2015

I don't like people touching my belly at all. I feel like it's sensitive and some people don't even ask they just go for it with full force lol. I really only let my daughter and SO touch my belly

MelHair · April 2015

I am not a touchy/feely person at all. I have a bubble and I do not want you in it! haha

The only person that I am comfortable with touching my belly is my husband. My mom is the only other person who has even tried to touch my belly, and she did so without even asking. She did this twice! I did not like it, and backed away immediately both times. The first time, I said to her 'please don't touch my belly; it makes me uncomfortable'. The second time, I flat out told her 'do not touch my belly'. I tried to follow up with a kind of joke so that it didn't sound so harsh, 'I'm not showing and so you're touching only fat right now'.

I'm not showing a whole lot yet; I'm still in my normal clothes. I don't know what I'll do if the random stranger at the grocery story tries to touch my belly!

adtaylor2015 · April 2015

Definitely in the minority but it doesn't bother me.

joannabergeron · April 2015

I actually don't mind people touching my belly, never had a complete stranger do it yet though so I'm sure if that ever happens that's where I would draw the line, but I completely understand those who hate/dislike it, don't be afraid to tell people to stop

babypiccolatte · April 2015

My husband bought me a shirt that says "$5 to touch the belly & $10 if baby kicks"

I haven't made any money off it yet, but it keeps people away. And it's comfy!

angelargrock · April 2015

Hahaha, I'm one of the ones who really don't mind. As long as they don't sneak up on me or come out of nowhere with their arms flailing, I'm not opposed, haha. I think it's adorable!

My DH did buy me a shirt that says 'hands off the belly' with little pink handprints for our girl, hahahaha

bethhart66 · April 2015

Hot Topic sells a maternity shirt that says something to that affect. I just tell people things on my belly make me sick. Very true as well. Or I flat out tell them no. I told a close friend if she wanted to touch a prego belly she would get pregnant herself.

jessbruxanova · April 2015

In the minority here too. Please rub my belly all you want. I'll even roll over and wag my tail. :x

savwhit · April 2015

Had a girl run up to me the other day and put both hands on my tummy, and was smiling asking a thousand questions, I cut her off and immediately blurted out, "just because there's a baby in there now doesn't give you the right to just come up to me and touch me." I didn't even realize what I had said and how bitchy it was until she looked at me like she wanted to slap me and said, "oh, you must not be excited about your baby then." That's when I went apeshit. I said oh yeah that's exactly what that means, just because I don't want a girls hands I barely even know all over me, that must mean Im not excited about my baby. I said are you kidding me? I said when did you earn the privilege to touch me or my baby, do you even know my last name? She then shut up and walked away. Maybe it's just the hormones idk?

str13 · April 2015

I agree with pp that said it all depended on the person or situation. I really don't mind too bad, if you ask. And OMG!! @sarahnikai if FIL gets close to my belly I'll flip out. I'm getting anxiety just thinking about it!!!

PregNancyClark · April 2015

I don't care at all. Also I work with little kids so they have already started hugging and kissing my tummy every day! Their mommies mostly touch my belly to check if it's bigger. Basically they all treat me like family

my mom couldn't help herself last week

I don't feel weird about it- but now I think maybe that's weird! Hahah

I even had one of my kids' moms feel my belly button and tell me it was getting weird and I didn't back away or feel irritated... Idk why I'm so laid back about it! I guess I'm accidentally helping give people the wrong impression that it's ok and some of you are paying the price! Sorry!!!

hatchback4g · April 2015

This drives me crazy! My family already knows this about me thankfully so I've only had one person try so far but I've always been a big huge fan of my personal space as in I'd rather sit on the floor then the middle of a couch even if (or maybe especially if) said couch is filled with family. Although I had this issue when I got my sleeve (tattoo for those of you who don't know) people would just grab my arm and start twisting it to look at it while commenting as if it was not attached to oh I dunno the rest me or something! lol like I said big fan of personal space

sailorgal · April 2015

Not a fan. Even my 4 year old asks permission first before touching. Some areas if pressure is put on it, make me literally feel sick, other areas make me squirmy. I'm not a touchy feeling person. But on the other hand, I don't really get upset if someone does it, just don't like it and quietly wished they wouldn't. I'm a personal space type of gal, not a big hugger or anything either so it doesn't really happen with people who know me well anyhow.

Liberty1025 · April 2015

MelHair said:
I am not a touchy/feely person at all. I have a bubble and I do not want you in it! haha

The only person that I am comfortable with touching my belly is my husband. My mom is the only other person who has even tried to touch my belly, and she did so without even asking. She did this twice! I did not like it, and backed away immediately both times. The first time, I said to her 'please don't touch my belly; it makes me uncomfortable'. The second time, I flat out told her 'do not touch my belly'. I tried to follow up with a kind of joke so that it didn't sound so harsh, 'I'm not showing and so you're touching only fat right now'.

I'm not showing a whole lot yet; I'm still in my normal clothes. I don't know what I'll do if the random stranger at the grocery story tries to touch my belly!

Are you a mom yet? Honestly, I read that and felt bad for your mom

. Having my own daughter now, we are very affectionate and if she grew up to snap at me like that, I might snap back that I MADE that "fat belly", fed it and nurtured it so that someday you could have the same experience. Seriously, you don't have a real appreciation for your mom until you become one. My mom and my MIL both touch my belly, and I have no issues wih it, because I can see the sparkle in their eyes filled with love and memories. Try to be nicer.

chelseamausolf · April 2015

Sometimes I don't mind if anyone touches my belly sometimes I don't want ANY one to touch. It all depends on my mood. And then again, some times I love people talking to me about my pregnancy and other times (and certain people) I hate if they talk about it. It makes me feel kinda crazy. Lol

squigles28 · April 2015

One of my friends told me the other day a complete stranger told her, she has the right to touch my friends belly because and I quote "it's not her body anymore"... H to NO! Luckily my friend is a much nicer person to me.

Family touching, it depends. I don't see it happening all the time, so I would probably tolerate. But strangers, no way!

sweetpeasmom315 · April 2015

I want this tank!

https://pinkjulesboutique.storenvy.com/products/12662890-hands-off-the-bump-tank

barrelocarol · April 2015

I usually don't like being touched by anyone other than my husband. BUT...since becoming pregnant, I kind of like the belly touching. I think it's a bunch of hands blessing our babies

Actually, every time someone touches my belly, I do two things: I put my hands over my groin because some people seriously don't know how low is WAY too low.

Second, I tell them "You better be blessing this baby and sending some good juices through those hands!"

It gets a laugh and provides awareness that you're literally touching me, almost right on my vag, a lot of times in front of my husband. That weirds him out which makes me laugh so much!

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