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38 weeks, 4 days- what's the hurry?

yellowdaisies84yellowdaisies84 member
in April 2015 Moms
I just want to vent and see if anyone can relate. To be honest, this won't be terribly interesting so I apologize but I'm feeling a little anxious and hoping sharing this calms me back down.

Last night my MIL called me for a chat. Nothing was upsetting at all about the phone call but later at night I woke up with anxiety about what she said (to my surprise!)

She was teasing me about getting the baby here as if she was overdue but my due date isn't until April 19. She told me I'm way too calm and I need to start walking to try to get labour going. She asked me "Don't you want that baby out of you?" And I told her honestly no, not yet, I feel comfortable and I'm very lucky I'm not having any issues or discomfort yet and I'm glad because who knows- could change before she gets here. I am actually enjoying being pregnant right now and I like this quiet time at home I'm getting with her right now. Just going with the flow- I know she COULD come any day but I also know she could be late.

My MIL asked me if it was too personal of a question to ask how much weight I've gained during pregnancy. I answered her honestly and she said she knows that women gain most weight at the end and she went a week late with her first (my husband) and basically it was a big ordeal at the time because they were concerned his head would be too big to fit through her pelvic bones. Message was basically that I shouldn't be so calm about going late because it could be an issue. We said good-bye and she said one more "Have that baby! Go for a long walk!"

Everything was fine after the phone call. I don't think she said anything 'wrong' and she's basically just super excited for baby to come. But it had an effect on me later. I guess I'm extra-sensitive right now because I woke up in the middle of the night replaying what she said and imagining better responses on my part. Remembering what she said made me feel anxious, baby will come when she comes, still 10 days until her due date- I'm so glad to be calm and zen about it but what she said made me start thinking about it in a new stressful light! Like she kind of gave me that feeling of being "over-due" when I'm actually not yet and she cast a negative light on going over your due date. I know I'm being so sensitive but I can't stop thinking about it!

"It's always better when we're together." -Jack Johnson
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Re: 38 weeks, 4 days- what's the hurry?

  • JAP09-02JAP09-02 member
    Her experience is not yours, and the bit about gaining the most weight at the end isn't necessarily true either. Just be glad you are comfortable still & enjoy the calm. I'm guessing you're all prepared since you are feeling so zen.

    I, like you, am in no rush and feeling, well I don't know how I'm feeling... My sister was much like you and in no hurry for it to be over. She even said she could be pregnant forever!

    Time is definitely still on your side - no need to rush perfection!
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  • girlygirlk8egirlygirlk8e member
    I'm sorry about your MIL. That's great that you are calm and zen. I have adopted the same feeling. Baby is going to come when baby wants to come, last week I was all worked up about going into labor. Things is whatever happens is going to happen. It's why I didn't get worked up about having a birth plan. Know that there can be ways to get baby out if you go past due. Trust in the process. Many many women have had babies before us and will continue to after us. From the sounds of it you are doing just fine!!
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  • yellowdaisies84yellowdaisies84 member
    JAP09-02 said:

    Her experience is not yours, and the bit about gaining the most weight at the end isn't necessarily true either. Just be glad you are comfortable still & enjoy the calm. I'm guessing you're all prepared since you are feeling so zen.

    I, like you, am in no rush and feeling, well I don't know how I'm feeling... My sister was much like you and in no hurry for it to be over. She even said she could be pregnant forever!

    Time is definitely still on your side - no need to rush perfection!

    Thanks for your response! I feel mostly prepared I just don't feel a huge rush. I'm relaxing at home and I know when baby comes I will be over the moon with happiness but I will also be extremely busy! So it's nice to have this "downtime" first. I'm glad to hear that other people also feel happy to be pregnant. Everyone is always feeling "all done" at the end of pregnancy so I can only assume that I will feel the exact same way at some point before she gets here- I'm glad I'm somehow not at that point yet. 

    I love your line about "no need to rush perfection"

    The more I think about it I've been easily annoyed (or irked?) by innocent comments from my MIL and SIL. I don't think it's them I think it's me. I think that I am trying to keep my attitude and stress levels right where I need them but I'm easily led off-track by simple comments that they make. 
    "It's always better when we're together." -Jack Johnson
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  • carter604carter604 member
    I'm enjoying the last week or so of pregnancy as well - the "get this baby out of me" sentiment doesn't ring true for me either. I've also had a comfortable and easy pregnancy and we are feeling prepared for the birth and arrival of our little one on her schedule. You're not alone - enjoy your zen!
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  • houser1406houser1406 member
    My MIL had comments like that, as well, and wanted the baby to come around her birthday which is March 19th. The comment rubbed me the wrong way, I wanted baby to stay in as long as possible! I'm currently over my due date and being induced tomorrow and the only complaint I have at the moment is my heartburn but I've been in no rush, I like having baby all to myself and its starting to set in that tomorrow I'll have a baby! Enjoy this time, there's plenty of time to walk and try to get the baby out--later!
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  • mamabear_28mamabear_28 member
    I'm 40 weeks and 2 days and I too am not really concerned about being over. The only time it effects me really is at night. I'm really struggling with sleep but I still am pretty content. It's like the last few weeks, which just happen to be the same time frame that I've been off work, have been really relaxing. At this point we have scheduled an induction for Monday night (41 weeks) and I'm comfortable with that. My in laws have time to drive from MN to TX to be here, we have plans for the dog all lined up, and I have a mental picture of what is going to happen. The only thing that is bothering me is when people, who know that I'm ok with my induction, keep saying "Is he here yet?" I love my sister and she is far away so i know she is upset that she won't be here, but she calls and texts me multiple times asking that and telling me to walk and clean. It is super annoying and just about the only thing that gets me out of my "zen" mode! Hoping the rest of your pregnancy is relaxing. Glad we have this vent too. My poor husband gets a good vent every night, but he is a saint and listens and nods his head in agreement. Love him.
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  • yellowdaisies84yellowdaisies84 member
    Ah I love all of these responses! Thank you so much!
    "It's always better when we're together." -Jack Johnson
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  • wenandbenwenandben member
    I have the same estimated 40 week mark. And remember it's an estimation. No one gestates the same as one another. The baby will come out at some point. And it's best for you and baby to go into it naturally.
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  • kjuryflkjuryfl member
    I'm enjoying the last few weeks as well. I've had my fair share of complications this time around but those issues have either leveled off or subsided a bit recently. My husband and I were just talking last night that while we are very excited to meet this baby boy we are also enjoying special time just as a family of 3.
    Married: 3/01/08
    Baby Girl: 7/29/11
    Angel Baby: M/C 7/15/14 at 7wk
    BFP: 8/23/14 - Due 4/28/15  - It's a BOY!
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  • andiwolfe91andiwolfe91 member
    My due date is the 15th, and between my mother, MIL, and grandmother I get multiple calls a day asking if I'm in labor or not. I know it's all just excitement (and they want to know asap bc they are a 6 hour drive away).. but I totally understand it can get pretty tiring. It's definitely making me have mixed feelings about wanting to go into labor/staying pregnant as long as possible! My DH keeps joking about "scaring me" into labor like I have the hiccups or something haha!

    Just listen to your body and don't let anyone other than your doctor tell you what is or isn't normal!! 

    Like what @JAP09-02 said.. you can't rush perfection :) 

    Good luck to you!
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