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2 under 2 dealing with two pregnancies during one unaccompanied tour... Need help

NikkiBell1991NikkiBell1991 member
in September 2015 Moms
So, my husband left for an 18 month tour to Guantanamo Bay (navy) four months after we got married, while I was three months pregnant with our first. I was literally not pregnant for only nine months, then during our last visit, In December, I became pregnant again. Since he left I became paranoid, irritable, depressed, and terrified that he would leave me... All of my views on human sexuality have changed, as well as most of my moral and ethical beliefs... They haven't neccisarily changed for the better, as they are due to an unending pit of hollow insecurity... I've been trying to explain to him that it has a lot to do with hormones... That I can't control what I say sometimes, let alone the things I feel. After my first pregnancy I experienced ppd (being a first time mom who is alone), and solely breastfeed the first six months, before I got pregnant again I had only experienced two cycles of menstruation... My hormones are ruining my marriage... He thinks this psycho is who I am now, and doesn't realize it's only temporary because I've been this way almost our entire marriage... And he just won't listen when I tell him my hormones never regulated before getting pregnant again... I need advice, or help. He's getting out of the navy in august so his your was extended an extra six months... That's two years of us being apart. And he's starting to break.
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Re: 2 under 2 dealing with two pregnancies during one unaccompanied tour... Need help

  • bethhart66bethhart66 member
    It is just as hard when they are there with you when your emotions are raging.  My hubby takes "short vacations" to the store when I am really hormonal.  Not seeing the hormones come on and flux in person it would be hard to deal with. Just try to have him communicate with your other friends who have been pregnant.  Their husbands might be helpful too. 
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  • nursekatie47nursekatie47 member
    You need to get in to counselling. I can only imagine who hard all this has been in you and your husband.
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  • NikkiBell1991NikkiBell1991 member
    One of the issues is that we are still pretty young and we don't have any friends who are married or have children... So he really has no one to relate with. On the base he only hangs out with single guys, so I can only imagine the things they must say to him if he talks about our situation and he is not very open to counseling... I know that I am tough on him and too controlling, but I feel so threatened by the distance and because of my changing body. I've used my 8 allowed psychology appointments already (tricare is unfortunately not very good to their mentally ill).
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  • BeachBabe22BeachBabe22 member
    You get twelve free sessions through military one source. If they decide you need to be seen more than that then you put it through Tricare. I would definitely call them and set up an appointment asap.
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  • NikkiBell1991NikkiBell1991 member
    What is military one source? I don't live near a base, I moved home when he left.
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  • NikkiBell1991NikkiBell1991 member
    I'm disappointed that no one has any advice other than counseling.
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