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August 2015 Moms
lap018
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Anyone else already worrying about baby health during the holidays?
lap018
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so last night my MIL texts me and says "oh I just realized we will have a baby for thanksgiving and Christmas!" At first I was like yay it's going to be so fun and cute and then the worry set in. Everyone and their mom, dad, brother, sister, cousin, girlfriend, etc is going to want to touch, kiss, and get germs all over my newborn baby! I told her "if I even hear a sniffle or a cough I will have masks and gloves in my diaper bag to hand out. Also for those who don't pass my questionnaire regarding whether or not they have been around anyone sick, or have been sick in the last 7 days!!" ️Lol!! I don't want to be a germ nazi but seriously 4 months old at the height of cold and flu season?? That's too much for me to be comfortable with. I guess my response made MiL mad too because she never responded. Any moms out there with advice on getting a newborn through their first holiday season without a severe illness?? (I am planning on BF so I know that will help)
Re: Anyone else already worrying about baby health during the holidays?
People generally aren't assholes and anyone who knows they've been sick probably will keep themselves away from the baby without you policing them.
You maybe over thinking things
My immune system is already compromised and I'm pregnant, so I been trying my best to stay away from anyone who is sick. My mil niece came over yesterday and had a fever for few days but the mother said there is no more fever today. Let's say I'm pretty pissed!!!! You risk my unborn child to get your hair done!!! Selfish
Relax.
Kids that are exposed, in my opinion, are healthier anyway. Plus if you ask people to wear masks and sanitize their hands it won't make them feel very comfortable around you or your child. Just enjoy the holidays!
I wore a mask at work, to the car, in the doctors office and back home. It is the most uncomfortable thing. If I knew a baby would be where I was I would stay home or if I was getting over it stay away from the baby. Give people some credit. You can't micromanage your child's environment it will start to drive you crazy and isolate you from the people who care about you the most.
Fwiw I work in a hospital. I get exposed to
Ungodly things eveyday. My child we will 12 weeks when I go back to work. I have to trust I can come home take a shower and that will be enough. Or my kid is going to be festering cesspool of germs.
My son didn't get his first cold until he was 6 months old. And I am almost 100 % sure it was because we put him in a shopping cart for the first time.
At thanksgiving I just refused to pass my son around to anyone who didn't wash first. They got the point real quick
If you are afraid of a single sneeze in a room traveling across to your baby , better think twice about going out anywhere in public
And I would never ask anyone to wear a mask. If I found out someone at Christmas had the flu, I would leave before asking them to wear a mask. Most people (family especially) have enough common sense to wash hands before holding baby or staying away if they are sick.
However, on a practical note... a 3 plus month old with a fever is a million times less scary than if it happens sooner. A baby with a fever in the first 3 months often requires an ER visit, full lab work up (I'll spare the details) and likely hospital stay until fever gone. Because of this.. I am THRILLED that by the time the holidays and the bulk of cold and flu season come around our kiddos will be older.
Fwiw if I know someone is anti vac or know they have not vaccinated their children my baby will not be around them.
family member during the holidays to wear a mask no matter what the circumstance may be. Just stay home.
DS1 -6/25/11
DS2 -3/23/13
Missed MC D&C 8/26/14
DD - 8/26/15
LO#4 due 5/30/17
I'm also super glad this baby will at least be 4 months old at Christmas and past the extreme danger zone. It does seem like some kids get sick more than others, but I don't think you can control that, it's just the way they are made. I seem to never get sick, but my husband gets sick all the time. Who knows why?!
Asked them to wash their hands but that is it
Basic germs build immunity in my mind
Actually most fevers do not require an ER visit, lab work, or a hospital stay, This is a good thing as a FTM to talk to your pedi about (when should you be concerned and take them to the ER and when should you just monitor the fever and/or give them a cool bath to bring it down). It can be insanely scary though as a FTM because newborns spike much higher fevers that will scare the crap out of you. I remember DS spiking over 105 once and I freaked, threw him in the car and rushed him to our Dr (which is only about a mile away). They checked him out and gave me a llist of, "as long as he doesn't start showing signs of xy or z...and the fever doesn't get above 106..." and they sent us home. You don't want to be needlessly taking a newborn into a germ infested ER unless absolutely necessary. Talking to your Dr will help though so you know what to look for (rashes, etc.) that are more of a cause for concern, and of course a call to the Pedi when they do spike a fever is always a good idea so they can make sure to ask any important questions on signs/symptoms baby may be exhibiting.
Do you a source for this and are you referring to newborns 90 days old or younger? I am a nurse and it is widely accepted in the medical community that those under 90 days with fevers 100.5 or above should be ruled out for sepsis. Since infants have their mother's antibodies it should be more difficult for them to get sick, so if they do get sick it should be taken seriously