I moved to a new area after college graduation and haven't made a lot of friends yet. A close friend of DH offered to host the baby shower for us. The shower is supposed to be next Sunday and obviously all the invites have went out but the host is sick with bronchitis and a sinus infection, cancelled on the trip today to get much needed decorations, and has been pretty flaky in general about planning. We ended up sending out the invites after she still didn't have them even bought in the middle of February. I understand being sick sucks but there isn't anybody else to step in last minute. Should we just cancel as it is too late to reschedule (I'm already 35 weeks) or should we break etiquette and host ourselves as the invites have already gone out? I don't mean to sound ungrateful but I feel like she hasn't really contributed much anyway (except stress about last minute changes). We're paying for it all as she doesn't have a job atm. Her only role was to help pick out invites (bailed on that), pick out decorations (bailed on that too), help set up/clean up (I've already got back up help from my brother for that in case she is still sick or bails again), think of some games, and keep things flowing smoothly at the shower.