Am I the only one?

stephaniemsander · April 2015

I see all these posts for results from scans and tests. Am I the only one who opted out for these? Anyone else? Makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong... I am healthy and relatively young. I don't have any genetic problem that really runs in my family or my husband's. Doctor told me that I could if I wanted to but didn't necessarily mean to. I just didn't want to spend loads of extra money on tests that were unnecessary to me. Am I thinking too much into this?

MrsN092714 · April 2015

I don't want them. I am young and healthy, as is my husband. There is nothing major that runs in either side of our families and I feel like adding statistics to it would only make me worry more. If something popped up in an ultrasound and they recommended it I would but until I have something to worry about, I'm opting not to.

mommygrams0730 · April 2015

I've always opted out, this is baby #4 and again I opted to not do them. Sometimes the results can unintentionally cause stress because they can cause some initial worry and further testing which then turns out to be fine.

The other reason we've never done them is because it wouldn't charge the pregnancy for us.

sunflower1986 · April 2015

We opted out. We will do the blood draw later since we did the same with dd, the anatomy ultrasound and anything our dr feels would be helpful to the pregnancy. I didn't feel like it was necessary when the info gained isn't contrete. I am a worrier and didn't want to add to my (already full) plate.

tpete12 · April 2015

My husband and I opted out of these tests too. We heard about people getting so many false positives and we did not want that stress. We believe that what will be, will be.

ohsosonic · April 2015

Nothing wrong with opting out! My midwife friend did tell me however that they find out a lot about the health of the placenta during the early tests. The odds of having a healthy baby are in your favour no matter what though

edavis926 · April 2015

Nothing wrong with that. I would've opted out if my insurance wasn't going to cover them just because I'm young and low risk. I've just had other health problems that have me pretty used to opting to be a pin cushion! I won't have any of the invasive ones unless something is wrong though.

alinic916 · April 2015

I'm not doing them either. We are both young and healthy and no family history to be worried about. I feel it's unnecessary for us.

danixbanani24 · April 2015

There's nothing wrong with opting out if there's no risk! My insurance covers the NT scan so I'm doing it really for another peek at baby

kayceetomasita · April 2015

My husband and I chose not to do those extra tests. We asked ourselves if knowing something was wrong was worth knowing and we decided it wasn't. We decided that we love this baby so much already that a test doesn't mean anything to us.

nsaid4u · April 2015

I am not high risk and the only reason i chose to have testing is because its covered by our healthcare here in Canada,its free, so why not.

plus its another chance to see the baby.

kgregson411 · April 2015

We're opting out for the same reasons as you. As well it wouldn't change anything for us. If there was a false positive I believe it would cause more stress then anything.

cgummie · April 2015

The nurse practitioner at my doc office said that 85% of their patients opt out. We opted out, to prevent any extra worries or insurance bills, which cause even more worries...

DeeGreer · April 2015

My boyfriend and I aren't doing any either. Any bad findings wouldn't change things for us and we're both late twenties and very healthy with no major health issues in our families. My doctor didn't even recommend them because of my good health and young age

StephN310 · April 2015

We also opted out! You aren't alone or doing anything wrong!

bellasol2802 · April 2015

We've opted out with all of ours. This is our third pregnancy. I worry incessantly already about the babies...adding a possible false positive would make me insane! It wouldn't change the pregnancy for us either if something was "potentially" wrong, so no reason for me to do it. I'm young, healthy and so is my husband and we've had two healthy girls! You're doing nothing wrong ☺️

krittag · April 2015

We opted out too! Glad to see this post, made me feel much better about not doing it. Same reasons as all of you. I'm young, healthy and no family history. I don't want to add any worry as this is my first pregnancy and have been worried plenty already!

tracij12 · April 2015

We opted out as well. Honestly didn't even know some of these early tests existed. Definitely seems like it is being pushed far more heavily now than it was with my first.

MerVer · April 2015

We aren't doing it. I find that the test results are not always true and they do not offer a yes or no but just the odds of having a problem. Finding out wouldn't change anything for us and to be honest, this is just my own opinion, I don't support the test because it can results in being given the option of terminating a pregnancy based on it's inconclusive results. There are many babies given high odds of having a disorder that are born perfectly healthy. And those that are born with a disorder are born just as perfect.

KyrBo1986 · April 2015

I've had a dating scan at 12 weeks and will go for an "anomaly" scan at 20 (mainly to find out gender) but I declined all the DS testing as it really doesn't matter to me so long as my baby is healthy. I've always said I would decline it and have with all 4 of my pregnancies. Even if I had the testing there wouldn't be a "decision" to make if the results came back inconclusive/positive, I'm keeping and loving that baby just the same.

leah665 · April 2015

I'm not doing it mostly because of the cost, but I think it also would increase unneeded stress. I'm in my early 30's so I may do it for any other pregnancies, but I figure my chances for a healthy pregnancy are pretty high.

adcoxmt · April 2015

I honestly only opted for it because I'm a paranoid FTM and I was dying to see my baby again! And b/c I had the chance of (tentatively) determining the sex! I was told she was "pretty certain" it was a boy, and she's never been wrong (I used to work there so I know her track record, haha)!! I'll know for sure on May 5th, but it was nice to get an idea. I definitely didn't have any risk factors that made the NT scan necessary though.

yoopermom824 · April 2015

We opted out, too. My midwife and I don't feel as though I need anything extra done since I'm a healthy, low risk mama. I'm grateful to be able to let things happen naturally.

happywiscomama · April 2015

We didn't do any extra testing with our first and we aren't planning too this time. Our Dr. didn't suggest it but gave us all the info on all the tests. In all honesty if there was a problem it wouldn't change anything for us. I believe that everything goes the way it should.

Dreamingmommy4 · April 2015

We didn't do any testing with our first and we aren't doing anything with this one either. Just the basic gestational age US and anatomy US at 20wks. We didn't want the stress of worrying and the results wouldn't change our minds on continuing the pregnancy one way or the other so it's just not worth it. We are also both youth and healthy without anything major running in our families.

Missygirl511 · April 2015

I think more people opt out than do those tests. These boards are just full of posts about them because we are all at that 12-13 week point & that's just the exciting news people have right now.

Btw i also opted out. I didnt even look into whether or not my ins covers. I didn't want to be worried

BlueWaffleSpeshul · April 2015

Keep in mind, even if you wouldn't change your pregnancy for the results, it could change your planning for after the baby is born and what will be needed. Just food for thought. I'm not suggesting you change your mind on whether to have the tests done, but just because you wouldn't terminate your pregnancy regardless of the results doesn't mean it can't offer you valuable information.

brynagc · April 2015

We opted out of all the extra scans and tests. We had our 8w ultrasound and will have the anatomy scan at 19w. That's all we will be doing!

MerVer · April 2015

BlueWaffleSpeshul said:
Keep in mind, even if you wouldn't change your pregnancy for the results, it could change your planning for after the baby is born and what will be needed. Just food for thought. I'm not suggesting you change your mind on whether to have the tests done, but just because you wouldn't terminate your pregnancy regardless of the results doesn't mean it can't offer you valuable information.

The tests do not give definitive answers. If it did so there would be a reason to take it, but it is ultimately guess and check even if the odds do come back likely.

tyracopeland · April 2015

Opted out too. Would it make a difference to you? I figure that God will give me the perfect baby for me. I don't believe in abortion so it made no difference for me!

Amstreagle · April 2015

MerVer said:

BlueWaffleSpeshul said:
Keep in mind, even if you wouldn't change your pregnancy for the results, it could change your planning for after the baby is born and what will be needed. Just food for thought. I'm not suggesting you change your mind on whether to have the tests done, but just because you wouldn't terminate your pregnancy regardless of the results doesn't mean it can't offer you valuable information.
The tests do not give definitive answers. If it did so there would be a reason to take it, but it is ultimately guess and check even if the odds do come back likely.

What @BlueWaffleSpeshul is saying if you were given results that your lo may have a condition it gives you the opportunity to educate yourself on the condition so at birth you are prepared to help lo with what ever condition they may have to the best of your ability.

anorthro · April 2015

I did the testing. We wanted to be prepared. Even though the tests aren't diagnostic, they can help you decide whether or not to get the more accurate yet more risky diagnostic tests. If a screen told me my baby had 1:10 odds of having a chromosomal abnormality, it would be worth the 1:300 odds of having a miscarriage to get amniocentesis, in my opinion. There are other decisions besides termination when you're facing having a child with special needs, such as where to have the birth. Of course, it's a very personal decision, and I understand why low-risk women would opt out. We wanted as much information as possible, even if it meant feeling stressed out for a while.

sbeltre · April 2015

I did it because we have a woman's hospital here in rhode island and its free. So I said why not. Happy I did though. If something is wrong it will help you prepare.

Telebell · April 2015

We're doing the NT and will follow up with an amnio depending on results. I'm grateful to have as much info as possible. Sounds like I'm in the minority here but I would consider terminating depending on what an amnio and follow up tests say.

Cupcakesandquilts · April 2015

Telebell said:
We're doing the NT and will follow up with an amnio depending on results. I'm grateful to have as much info as possible. Sounds like I'm in the minority here but I would consider terminating depending on what an amnio and follow up tests say.

I'm in the same camp as you. It seems like an UO, but we all have to make decisions about what is best for us and our families.

anorthro · April 2015

@Telebell and @Cupcakesandquilts, I'm in the same camp too. It often feels like an UO, particularly on The Bump. Among my circle of friends and community, it's definitely not an UO. I would never take that decision lightly, as most women wouldn't, but it is something I would consider.

FirstTimeMamaAricka · April 2015

we opted out but one deciding factor was that insurance would not pay for it and it cost way too much in the aspect that we have to buy everything for the baby

elmann1 · April 2015

I agree! I've seen sooooo many people taking these tests and finding out the baby's sex. DH and I are very healthy and young (I guess most are recommended for over 35) so it wasn't even an option for us. It also wouldn't change anything- just add stress if something were wrong. Either way this is our baby and thats how we'd like to keep it!

jenboston22 · April 2015

Telebell said:
We're doing the NT and will follow up with an amnio depending on results. I'm grateful to have as much info as possible. Sounds like I'm in the minority here but I would consider terminating depending on what an amnio and follow up tests say.

I don't think that you're as in the minority as you feel... I think that a lot of women are afraid to admit that they would consider this, especially on a public forum. Good for you for being brave enough to admit it

On a side note, according to Prenatal Diagnosis, on average 67%-85% of women carrying a fetus with Down's Syndrome choose to terminate the pregnancy. So, if anything, you'd be in the majority, rather than in the minority. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22418958

(On a personal note, my husband and I aren't sure what we'd do, and hopefully we never have to face such a difficult decision.)

nicolett0001 · April 2015

There is not wrong or right answer. To us we felt like we are already in love with this baby. We opted out as well. I would not change anything about this pregnancy even if the tests showed otherwise. Either way nature will take its course, plus I am young and have no history of anytging genetic in his or my family.

scavuzzotammy · April 2015

I have always opted out of these test 4 th baby. I'm healthy as well and young and really feel that if there was something wrong wouldn't change my mind I would just rather not know and enjoy my pregnancy:) don't feel like you are doing something wrong everyone has there reasons why they do these test or why they don't

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