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FFFC (Flame-Free or Flame-Full Confession Friday)

BooBerry137BooBerry137 member
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Let's hear them... and make it good, it is Good Friday, after all ;)
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  • BooBerry137BooBerry137 member
    Both my DD's wear bikinis and have their ears pierced.  We live in the pool and at the beach and having to change diapers in a one piece is a PITA.  Plus, I think they are totally adorable.  

    Most baby girls here have earrings.  I didn't want to have to mess with it when they were older, so it's done and that's that. 


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  • Kanne0729Kanne0729 member
    BooBerry137 said:

    Both my DD's wear bikinis and have their ears pierced.  We live in the pool and at the beach and having to change diapers in a one piece is a PITA.  Plus, I think they are totally adorable.  


    Most baby girls here have earrings.  I didn't want to have to mess with it when they were older, so it's done and that's that. 


    I think earrings on little girls are adorable, both of mine have them too. As far as wearing a two piece, mine wear those too, they are too adorable not too and I see absolutely nothing wrong with them.
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  • YummeeCookeeYummeeCookee member
    BooBerry137 said:

    Both my DD's wear bikinis and have their ears pierced.  We live in the pool and at the beach and having to change diapers in a one piece is a PITA.  Plus, I think they are totally adorable.  


    Most baby girls here have earrings.  I didn't want to have to mess with it when they were older, so it's done and that's that. 





    Had my DD's done at 3mo ( this was the soonest we could) and yes, she looks abs adorable. She got diamond studs for her first bday so rocks those now.

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  • lulamagoolulamagoo member
    Thanks for starting this @BooBerry137 !
    My confession is that we probably won't go to church on Sunday but we might go ahead and tell my dad we did so that we don't have to deal with the guilt trip. Flame away. Lying about church on Easter = major sin.
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  • PaigeD27PaigeD27 member
    lulamagoo said:

    Thanks for starting this @BooBerry137 !
    My confession is that we probably won't go to church on Sunday but we might go ahead and tell my dad we did so that we don't have to deal with the guilt trip. Flame away. Lying about church on Easter = major sin.

    I'm in the same boat. Holidays at church are so busy with people who only come on "special" days. Most likely will be skipping.
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  • ArcticFox116ArcticFox116 member
    I'm dreading easter with my family were telling them about the baby which should be a happy amazing thing but my cousin, who is 3 days younger then me, has spent most of her life makeing evwrything we do a contest. She got so angry when she found out we were getting married because she didn't want me to marry before her and now we all expect her to flip out and say something nasty like she always does..god i hate family crap
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  • leslie523leslie523 member
    I seem to have more energy and less energy this week at the same time. I get more energy when I think about things I want to do and less when I think about things I have to do (like cleaning and work). So everything I've wanted to do is done and everything else is not....
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  • lizerspitzlizerspitz member
    Despite being in town last weekend, we haven't told DH's grandparents yet because we aren't ready for the whole world to know yet.  His grandma will spread it around like wild fire no matter what we say.
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  • YummeeCookeeYummeeCookee member
    scw89 said:

    I told my in laws we are keeping the baby's name a surprise until delivery, even though we are finding out the sex. My reasoning is that no one can give me their unsolicited opinion about my baby's sex! Lol because my in laws sure do about names......Anyhow telling them that was kind of a white lie because my mom (who is super supportive and doesn't care what I name the baby) knows the names I like and I will probably tell her what I pick. However, the rest of the world has to wait until after I deliver to find out. Mwa hahahaha sticking it to my evil MIL

    Good idea.... I had a huge blow up w my hubby (for not keeping his mouth closed) and his mom (for being a bia and spending months trying to convince is to use a dif name) last time around.

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  • Pontot31Pontot31 member
    YummeeCookee said:

    scw89 said:

    I told my in laws we are keeping the baby's name a surprise until delivery, even though we are finding out the sex. My reasoning is that no one can give me their unsolicited opinion about my baby's sex! Lol because my in laws sure do about names......Anyhow telling them that was kind of a white lie because my mom (who is super supportive and doesn't care what I name the baby) knows the names I like and I will probably tell her what I pick. However, the rest of the world has to wait until after I deliver to find out. Mwa hahahaha sticking it to my evil MIL

    Good idea.... I had a huge blow up w my hubby (for not keeping his mouth closed) and his mom (for being a bia and spending months trying to convince is to use a dif name) last time around.
    We didn't tell anyone the name last time at all and plan to do the same again. It was like torture to our families. It was kinda fun to have a secret ;)
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  • cmb1315cmb1315 member
    I love holidays because of the food and family, but Easter makes me stabby. So many dumb religious posts from people who know no history of where holidays and traditions actually came from.
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  • Ceridwen77Ceridwen77 member
    Pontot31 said:

    YummeeCookee said:

    scw89 said:

    I told my in laws we are keeping the baby's name a surprise until delivery, even though we are finding out the sex. My reasoning is that no one can give me their unsolicited opinion about my baby's sex! Lol because my in laws sure do about names......Anyhow telling them that was kind of a white lie because my mom (who is super supportive and doesn't care what I name the baby) knows the names I like and I will probably tell her what I pick. However, the rest of the world has to wait until after I deliver to find out. Mwa hahahaha sticking it to my evil MIL

    Good idea.... I had a huge blow up w my hubby (for not keeping his mouth closed) and his mom (for being a bia and spending months trying to convince is to use a dif name) last time around.
    We didn't tell anyone the name last time at all and plan to do the same again. It was like torture to our families. It was kinda fun to have a secret ;)
    I couldn't imagine sharing names with my family or my in-laws. They are all so opinionated and in a way where they think they are right. I just couldn't hide the smile when I told them we weren't finding out the sex or sharing names. Muhuahaha!!
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  • gumby22cgumby22c member
    One of my childhood BFFs and I have drifted apart. I haven't told her about the pregnancy yet. I'm still hurt she wasn't there for me when I was in the dark hole of infertility and needed a shoulder to cry on. With our history, texting her about it doesn't seem right, but neither does calling. She never answers anyways. I'm going home in a couple weeks and will probably just tell her if we meet for coffee. That will be the least awkward.

    Truthfully, I'd rather just let her find out with the rest of our friends when I announce on FB, but she doesn't have any social media so she'd probably never find out.
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  • efrizzefrizz member
    I just got done listening to my BFf talk about drama with school. I don't want to be that person the "I used to be concerned about this stuff but then I got pregnant". But I genuinely have found it hard to care. Its not that I'm bitter but her conversations very rarely require any input on my part and I find it all needlessly confrontational. Also glad I'm going away for Easter with my youngest and my hubby. I miss my oldest ones but I get worn out with the constant issues with my oldest boy with adhd and ocd. Yep I feel like a bad mom but damn kid try to be reasonable.
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  • KatieSetlerKatieSetler member
    edited April 2015
    peachmuffins said:

    It took me a week to quit smoking after I got my BFP and it was the hardest thing I've ever done because it made me feel extra sick on top of what I was already feeling from being pregnant. I had a great support system though. 

    I just quit, too! We can stick with it, though. And our babies will be healthy and happy. ♡
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  • srotureausrotureau member
    edited April 2015
    I'm dreading easter this weekend. I love my MIL and FIL, but one of my SIL is an alocholic and all she does is make things dramatic. Easter Sunday also happens to be my wedding anniversary and her birthday. I feel guilty about this but dammit, it's my anniversary and I'm pregnant! I want to be excited and happy on this day but she ruins it every year. If the day isn't all about her for her birthday she will go on about it for years. My husband's cousins also make me feel really unwelcome so I'm dreading seeing them as well.
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  • amichael1408amichael1408 member
    We have the option at work of going home early if there is extra staff or low censes...I have only worked 12 hours this week and plan to try and come home early tonight too. I am employed full time but just do not have the energy to deal with people or work right now. Fingers crossed for tonight!
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  • justdoit93justdoit93 member
    I'm telling both sides (mom and dads) families about baby #3 on Sunday and can't wait! I am not, however, telling my in laws. I cannot stand them. My MIL and SILs are EVIL! I think I'm more excited to not tell them then I am to tell my family bahahahah it sounds so mean but they are awful! They haven't even talked to us since Christmas so hopefully we just simply aren't invited over for easter! If we are, I might just be too busy ;) hopefully they don't find out until far into the second trimester by some random on fb or something :)) @ash413 I totally stopped at gas stations 3 times last month to throw away my chic-fil-a bag because DH and I made the same rule March 1st! No fast food...what was I thinking?! 8-}
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  • Barker2+1Barker2+1 member
    My confession is this the next person who tries to tell me my symptoms this time around indicate I am having a girl is getting stabbed! Honestly people I don't give a flying F. I have two boys and all I want is a healthy baby so everyone else just needs to back off. Makes a girl not want to find out the sex of her own baby I don't want everyone else to be disappointed. Also I need to confess I stopped taking my brothers calls this week. His wife is pg and due 3 days before me they are experiencing martial problems and I just can't handle the drama right now. It makes me a bad sister I know it does but I don't feel like I can be on that roller coaster with him plus I have had the worst week. My little guy has pneumonia and I have a severe upper respiratory infection and due to the coughing now have bruised ribs and pulled a muscle. All I want to do is eat cookies and sit in my steam shower. Sorry for the rant
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  • peachmuffinspeachmuffins member
    also since its ffcf i feel like this early on in the bmb posting a loss isnt thoughtful to other pregnant women who are already worried about the same thing. There are loss boards. We all barely know eachother at this point... I am sorry for people's losses as ive had one myself... But i feel like this isnt the appropriate place to share it right now.
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  • KatieSetlerKatieSetler member
    edited April 2015
    I wanna sleep forever...

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  • SweetMelissa4SweetMelissa4 member
    peachmuffins said:

    also since its ffcf i feel like this early on in the bmb posting a loss isnt thoughtful to other pregnant women who are already worried about the same thing. There are loss boards. We all barely know eachother at this point... I am sorry for people's losses as ive had one myself... But i feel like this isnt the appropriate place to share it right now.

    I feel like posting it as a check-in/check-out might be, meh, ok. Whatever helps you. But getting irrational and dramatic and preying on the emotions of other gals in the group, especially with a history of already having done that in the short duration of our board, is not. I feel plenty of pain and sympathy for these gals, but there's a point of irrationality, lack of self-awareness, and social unawareness that starts to scare me a bit.

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  • hbrummett10hbrummett10 member
    NovemberBaby2 said:

    Confession: i can't stand to be around anyone but my DH and DD. Being at work and having to make small talk makes me gag. Teh thought of being aruond family this weekend aldo makes me gag and cry. i just want to hide away and tell everyone to F off

    I haven't wanted to be around anyone either. I'm a territory sales manager and pleasant small talk and cheery conversation is part of the job description. I'll be fired soon if the moodiness doesn't pass.. Haha
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  • BooBerry137BooBerry137 member
    peachmuffins said:

    also since its ffcf i feel like this early on in the bmb posting a loss isnt thoughtful to other pregnant women who are already worried about the same thing. There are loss boards. We all barely know eachother at this point... I am sorry for people's losses as ive had one myself... But i feel like this isnt the appropriate place to share it right now.

    I don't know, I think this is a little insensitive, especially towards posters who have been a bit more active. I think everyone here can lend a little support. It's kind of shitty to say, we don't want to be scared by your tragedy so you just go off and post in a place where we don't have to see it.

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  • peachmuffinspeachmuffins member
    BooBerry137 said:

    peachmuffins said:

    also since its ffcf i feel like this early on in the bmb posting a loss isnt thoughtful to other pregnant women who are already worried about the same thing. There are loss boards. We all barely know eachother at this point... I am sorry for people's losses as ive had one myself... But i feel like this isnt the appropriate place to share it right now.

    I don't know, I think this is a little insensitive, especially towards posters who have been a bit more active. I think everyone here can lend a little support. It's kind of shitty to say, we don't want to be scared by your tragedy so you just go off and post in a place where we don't have to see it.

    I know it's insensitive... which is why I waited to post it on FFCF. It's just how I feel about it. I just don't like seeing 3-4 posts about MC on the front page every time I get on the board, it's really discouraging. Especially from people who have only made 1 or 2 other posts on the board. The loss boards here are a great support (or at least they used to be) so I just feel like this early on... that would be the better option. I don't think anybody here continually wants to see loss in their faces when, from what I've read, everybody is already worried about it. It just adds fuel to the hormonal stress fire. I know i'm not winning any awards here for Miss Compassionate November 2015. :)
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  • LSRooLSRoo member
    edited April 2015
    peachmuffins said:

    BooBerry137 said:

    peachmuffins said:

    also since its ffcf i feel like this early on in the bmb posting a loss isnt thoughtful to other pregnant women who are already worried about the same thing. There are loss boards. We all barely know eachother at this point... I am sorry for people's losses as ive had one myself... But i feel like this isnt the appropriate place to share it right now.

    I don't know, I think this is a little insensitive, especially towards posters who have been a bit more active. I think everyone here can lend a little support. It's kind of shitty to say, we don't want to be scared by your tragedy so you just go off and post in a place where we don't have to see it.

    I know it's insensitive... which is why I waited to post it on FFCF. It's just how I feel about it. I just don't like seeing 3-4 posts about MC on the front page every time I get on the board, it's really discouraging. Especially from people who have only made 1 or 2 other posts on the board. The loss boards here are a great support (or at least they used to be) so I just feel like this early on... that would be the better option. I don't think anybody here continually wants to see loss in their faces when, from what I've read, everybody is already worried about it. It just adds fuel to the hormonal stress fire. I know i'm not winning any awards here for Miss Compassionate November 2015. :)
    No you are not winning any awards for sure. I find this highly offensive as a loss mom. Miscarriage is a reality of bmbs. And they happen. If you don't like it don't read. If it happened to you I am sure you would want to share it for support.
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  • amh0411712amh0411712 member
    EllaStaxx said:

    peachmuffins said:

    BooBerry137 said:

    peachmuffins said:

    also since its ffcf i feel like this early on in the bmb posting a loss isnt thoughtful to other pregnant women who are already worried about the same thing. There are loss boards. We all barely know eachother at this point... I am sorry for people's losses as ive had one myself... But i feel like this isnt the appropriate place to share it right now.

    I don't know, I think this is a little insensitive, especially towards posters who have been a bit more active. I think everyone here can lend a little support. It's kind of shitty to say, we don't want to be scared by your tragedy so you just go off and post in a place where we don't have to see it.

    I know it's insensitive... which is why I waited to post it on FFCF. It's just how I feel about it. I just don't like seeing 3-4 posts about MC on the front page every time I get on the board, it's really discouraging. Especially from people who have only made 1 or 2 other posts on the board. The loss boards here are a great support (or at least they used to be) so I just feel like this early on... that would be the better option. I don't think anybody here continually wants to see loss in their faces when, from what I've read, everybody is already worried about it. It just adds fuel to the hormonal stress fire. I know i'm not winning any awards here for Miss Compassionate November 2015. :)
    No you are not winning any awards for sure. I find this highly offensive as a loss mom. Miscarriage is a reality of bmbs. And they happen. If you don't like it don't read. If it happened to you I am sure you would want to share it for support.
    Definitely offensive to those of us who experienced losses. This is exactly why there is such hush hush stigma about loss.
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  • efrizzefrizz member
    I'll only say this on this particular subject unless it is our own loss here our opinion on where and when it's posted is irrelevant. We are all big girls and bigger still to come if we don't want to read it then we don't.
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  • ashsagastizadoashsagastizado member
    Honestly miscarriages are a part of pregnancy. This is a pregnancy board right? I don't think it should be a pick or choose topic. Honestly if that were the case I'm sure I wouldn't mind not reading about discharge contents anymore. But that's life. I'm high risk and this is my second. If I lose it I don't plan on going quiet in the night because someone can't handle it or am ashamed. I'm pregnant and due in November like everyone else who started here. I think it's okay to finish here too. I remember in my last board some of the more active posters who had mc actually would pop in from time to time to help others who lost later on or to give us a heads up that they were expecting again.
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  • peachmuffinspeachmuffins member
    EllaStaxx said:

    peachmuffins said:

    BooBerry137 said:

    peachmuffins said:

    also since its ffcf i feel like this early on in the bmb posting a loss isnt thoughtful to other pregnant women who are already worried about the same thing. There are loss boards. We all barely know eachother at this point... I am sorry for people's losses as ive had one myself... But i feel like this isnt the appropriate place to share it right now.

    I don't know, I think this is a little insensitive, especially towards posters who have been a bit more active. I think everyone here can lend a little support. It's kind of shitty to say, we don't want to be scared by your tragedy so you just go off and post in a place where we don't have to see it.

    I know it's insensitive... which is why I waited to post it on FFCF. It's just how I feel about it. I just don't like seeing 3-4 posts about MC on the front page every time I get on the board, it's really discouraging. Especially from people who have only made 1 or 2 other posts on the board. The loss boards here are a great support (or at least they used to be) so I just feel like this early on... that would be the better option. I don't think anybody here continually wants to see loss in their faces when, from what I've read, everybody is already worried about it. It just adds fuel to the hormonal stress fire. I know i'm not winning any awards here for Miss Compassionate November 2015. :)
    No you are not winning any awards for sure. I find this highly offensive as a loss mom. Miscarriage is a reality of bmbs. And they happen. If you don't like it don't read. If it happened to you I am sure you would want to share it for support.
    I have experienced loss before... which I mentioned on a previous post on this very thread. I did share it... on the loss boards. I could say the same thing about you, it's a flame free confession friday post, so if you don't like it don't read it. As a person who has also had an early loss I feel no need in telling people I haven't gotten to know yet, who are all in the most risky part of their pregnancy about my loss. It doesn't really serve a purpose when you can get even MORE support from a lot of women who are going through the exact same thing. I'm not going to go onto the loss threads and flame people, and also like I posted on a previous post... I do feel bad because loss is hard and can be traumatic, but maybe... just maybe it's a little bit selfish at this point to rub your misfortune in other people's faces for sympathy.... where there's a better and possibly more constructive place (for everyone) to post about what you're going through. It's practical and not hateful. Are the loss people thinking about how the constant loss posts may affect everyone else? Maybe that's a little selfish? To each their own though, I chose not to talk about loss on my BMB because it was within the first 8 weeks and I hadn't posted enough for anyone to know me well enough to care and I felt like it would just cause more worry for others who should otherwise be enjoying their pregnancy. 

    And the point isn't to NEVER EVER post your losses on this BMB. I'm just tired of seeing 4-5 on the front page every time I look from people who otherwise haven't really posted at all. 
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