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kristenm88
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to tell my sister I'm pregnant or not?
kristenm88
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Me an H are 10 weeks pregnant with our 4th child and we are extremely excited. We had a miscarriage with our 3rd and we were devastated being we were trying for over a year. Now I know I am fortunate enough to already have 2 beautiful, healthy little girls but the miscarriage was still upsetting. We also got pregnant 2-3 weeks after our miscarriage. We didn't want to wait.
When I told my older sister about the miscarriage she showed me no compassion or support an sounded relieved that I had a miscarriage. I am the matron of honor in her wedding in May and I feel like it is best if I hold of on telling her until after the wedding but can't help feeling like I am taking away from my family's happiness. My parents know as well as my other siblings an are all extremely excited because they know how upset I was. . My problem is that I don't know if I should tell her now or wait until after the wedding. My sister wants everything to be about her all the time and I agree it should be on her wedding day. I am not showing so it is not like I will be the talk of her wedding. But I know how she will react an will be mad I didn't wait until after her wedding to get pregnant. . My sister is a big drinker an that is all she talks about doing on her wedding day. I on the other hand am not a big drinker being that I have my kids all the time. Even if I wasn't Prego I wouldn't drink a lot at the wedding because I will have my 2 kids with me. I don't feel I should have to put my family on hold for one day. I can still have fun an be pregnant at the wedding I just don't want to upset my sister but I don't want to hide I am pregnant anymore. I should be excited!
When I told my older sister about the miscarriage she showed me no compassion or support an sounded relieved that I had a miscarriage. I am the matron of honor in her wedding in May and I feel like it is best if I hold of on telling her until after the wedding but can't help feeling like I am taking away from my family's happiness. My parents know as well as my other siblings an are all extremely excited because they know how upset I was. . My problem is that I don't know if I should tell her now or wait until after the wedding. My sister wants everything to be about her all the time and I agree it should be on her wedding day. I am not showing so it is not like I will be the talk of her wedding. But I know how she will react an will be mad I didn't wait until after her wedding to get pregnant. . My sister is a big drinker an that is all she talks about doing on her wedding day. I on the other hand am not a big drinker being that I have my kids all the time. Even if I wasn't Prego I wouldn't drink a lot at the wedding because I will have my 2 kids with me. I don't feel I should have to put my family on hold for one day. I can still have fun an be pregnant at the wedding I just don't want to upset my sister but I don't want to hide I am pregnant anymore. I should be excited!
Re: to tell my sister I'm pregnant or not?
TTC #2: Oct 2017, BFP 12/19/17, CP 12/22/17
BFP 2/20/18 - EDD 10/31/2018
Elizabeth 5yrs old Jane 3yrs old
If she reacts badly, it's on HER, not you. Let her throw a fit or whatever she does. She controls her own actions. You don't have to bring attention to your pregnancy at all on her day if you didn't want to. If she wants to bring the attention to you, that's her problem.
I am terribly sorry for your loss. I am sorry that your sister showed no compassion to you about it either.
And congrats on the new pregnancy!
Tell her. She will have to get over it, life happens.
So, I totally get where you're coming from. Some people are really selfish and weird when it comes to their wedding day.
I say you tell her, if she's worried you'll be showing assure her you won't be (or will be and tell her to get over it) it's not the end of the world to have a pregnant girl in your wedding party lol
Good luck to ya sweetie.
And sorry about your loss, I've got 2 angel babies too and am pregnant with our rainbow. This baby is a blessing and anyone not treating it as such doesn't need to be bothered with (;