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  • WestypetWestypet member
    @devyns2nd --- whaaaaa?
    At this point, I'd say, "are you?"
    Or side-eye them with "...why...?"
    This deserves stank face.
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  • devyns2nddevyns2nd member
    Westypet said:

    @devyns2nd --- whaaaaa?
    At this point, I'd say, "are you?"
    Or side-eye them with "...why...?"
    This deserves stank face.

    I've seriously been asked that question 10+ times. People assume that if you have a complicated pregnancy you should give up...I mean I am getting my tubes tied because pregnancy is hard on my body but excuse me that's not anyone's place to ask or assume ugh.
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  • WestypetWestypet member
    devyns2nd said:

    Westypet said:

    @devyns2nd --- whaaaaa?
    At this point, I'd say, "are you?"
    Or side-eye them with "...why...?"
    This deserves stank face.

    I've seriously been asked that question 10+ times. People assume that if you have a complicated pregnancy you should give up...I mean I am getting my tubes tied because pregnancy is hard on my body but excuse me that's not anyone's place to ask or assume ugh.
    What do you say to people who ASSume all of these things??
    I'm running out of eye rolls.
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  • mccall35mccall35 member
    mellymar said:

    amark11 said:

    @mellymar Ugh! Rude! Your post on the Thankful thread reminded me of the one more current comment I hate:

    DH is super into craft beer, so I became so, too. People like asking if I miss drinking, and when I say, "Yes! Only three more months!" They love to say, "No, because then you will be breastfeeding and still can't drink." It seriously makes me want to kick them. Not even because of their assumptions or interference - just the idea of having to miss out on my favorite summer brews is upsetting, lol.

    Our situations are very similar! DH got into craft beer, and so did I, and I get this conversation, too! (BTW, your craft beer weekend trip sounds awesome, I meant to say that in the other thread) Dude, seriously don't remind me that in addition to missing out on the pumpkin beers, the octoberfests, the winter warmers, the stouts, the IPAs, spring seasonals, and summer shandies and wheats that I'm going to have to keep going (Especially if my fav, the Kona Wailua Wheat makes it stateside this year)! A local brewery near me that makes the *best* chocolate milk stout I've ever had even did special release of a Mint Chocolate Stout for St Patty's and I was like - seriously, its a cruel world.

    However, I did hear that stouts and IPAs are good for milk production, so there has got to be some kind of balance that be attained. We'll have the last laugh, yet!
    You ladies don't have to miss out! I exclusively BF DS for 21 months and I enjoyed all the craft beers! I obviously didn't drink while baby was latched on, but I definitely enjoyed brews between feeds.

    My "I'm so sick of hearing..." is from FIL.

    He asks me almost every time I see him to explain my decision to attempt a VBAC and also explain what that means.

    A) it's none of your business
    B) I don't want to discuss my vagina and the impact birthing may have on it
    C) it's none of your business
    D) you're interest in the subject is uncomfortable, to say the least. Just no.

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  • HoosOnFirstHoosOnFirst member
    mccall35 said:

    mellymar said:

    amark11 said:

    @mellymar Ugh! Rude! Your post on the Thankful thread reminded me of the one more current comment I hate:

    DH is super into craft beer, so I became so, too. People like asking if I miss drinking, and when I say, "Yes! Only three more months!" They love to say, "No, because then you will be breastfeeding and still can't drink." It seriously makes me want to kick them. Not even because of their assumptions or interference - just the idea of having to miss out on my favorite summer brews is upsetting, lol.

    Our situations are very similar! DH got into craft beer, and so did I, and I get this conversation, too! (BTW, your craft beer weekend trip sounds awesome, I meant to say that in the other thread) Dude, seriously don't remind me that in addition to missing out on the pumpkin beers, the octoberfests, the winter warmers, the stouts, the IPAs, spring seasonals, and summer shandies and wheats that I'm going to have to keep going (Especially if my fav, the Kona Wailua Wheat makes it stateside this year)! A local brewery near me that makes the *best* chocolate milk stout I've ever had even did special release of a Mint Chocolate Stout for St Patty's and I was like - seriously, its a cruel world.

    However, I did hear that stouts and IPAs are good for milk production, so there has got to be some kind of balance that be attained. We'll have the last laugh, yet!
    You ladies don't have to miss out! I exclusively BF DS for 21 months and I enjoyed all the craft beers! I obviously didn't drink while baby was latched on, but I definitely enjoyed brews between feeds.

    My "I'm so sick of hearing..." is from FIL.

    He asks me almost every time I see him to explain my decision to attempt a VBAC and also explain what that means.

    A) it's none of your business
    B) I don't want to discuss my vagina and the impact birthing may have on it
    C) it's none of your business
    D) you're interest in the subject is uncomfortable, to say the least. Just no.

    Well now I'm curious (and thrilled). How long did you wait between beers and feeding? Did you use those test strips?
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  • KaLikeAWindKaLikeAWind member
    Yes. Experience in this beer / breastfeeding subject appreciated.
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  • valeriemarie24valeriemarie24 member
    I hate the comments about my belly size. I'm a small person (only 4'11) and have carried small up until now. I can see my belly maybe getting a bit bigger but I don't think I'm going to get huge. I'm genuinely not trying to say how skinny I am or brag or anything, just annoys me that people automatically think if you're pregnant you're going to have this huge belly like you see on tv etc. People are ignorant of different women's sizes and the way they carry babies. But I know people look at my belly and think 'there's no way you're 6 months pregnant'.
    When I was visiting my dad and I told his landlord I was due in June she just said "oh, uh...are you sure they're right about the due date?" And "six months, really? You look maybe 4 months tops". Just ignorant comments like that.
    Like yes I know I'm carrying small but I've seen my baby in ultrasounds and it looks about the size it's supposed to be. People need to be more considerate of different women and their body types. I swear strangers really know how to make ya feel bad.
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  • ElRubyElRuby member
    mccall35 said:

    hoodoll82 said:

    mccall35 said:

    mellymar said:

    amark11 said:

    @mellymar Ugh! Rude! Your post on the Thankful thread reminded me of the one more current comment I hate:

    DH is super into craft beer, so I became so, too. People like asking if I miss drinking, and when I say, "Yes! Only three more months!" They love to say, "No, because then you will be breastfeeding and still can't drink." It seriously makes me want to kick them. Not even because of their assumptions or interference - just the idea of having to miss out on my favorite summer brews is upsetting, lol.

    Our situations are very similar! DH got into craft beer, and so did I, and I get this conversation, too! (BTW, your craft beer weekend trip sounds awesome, I meant to say that in the other thread) Dude, seriously don't remind me that in addition to missing out on the pumpkin beers, the octoberfests, the winter warmers, the stouts, the IPAs, spring seasonals, and summer shandies and wheats that I'm going to have to keep going (Especially if my fav, the Kona Wailua Wheat makes it stateside this year)! A local brewery near me that makes the *best* chocolate milk stout I've ever had even did special release of a Mint Chocolate Stout for St Patty's and I was like - seriously, its a cruel world.

    However, I did hear that stouts and IPAs are good for milk production, so there has got to be some kind of balance that be attained. We'll have the last laugh, yet!
    You ladies don't have to miss out! I exclusively BF DS for 21 months and I enjoyed all the craft beers! I obviously didn't drink while baby was latched on, but I definitely enjoyed brews between feeds.

    My "I'm so sick of hearing..." is from FIL.

    He asks me almost every time I see him to explain my decision to attempt a VBAC and also explain what that means.

    A) it's none of your business
    B) I don't want to discuss my vagina and the impact birthing may have on it
    C) it's none of your business
    D) you're interest in the subject is uncomfortable, to say the least. Just no.

    Well now I'm curious (and thrilled). How long did you wait between beers and feeding? Did you use those test strips?
    There wasnt much to it for me. My doc said, if you're safe to drive, you're safe to nurse. I usually waited an hour or so after drinking a pint regardless, but I never really worried much about it. I didn't use the strips, I never felt the need, if I had more than a pint I usually just tapped into my freezer stash for a feeding. I know for some people drinking and nursing is a hill to die on, but for me I took a more relaxed approach and TBH my DS is a normally developing, happy 2 year old so I'm glad I did.
    I think it works similarly to your BAC... Best time to drink was immediately after a feeding I believe and it was out of your milk by next feeding (as long as you were not drinking in excess)... The whole "pump and dump" thing is faulty logic if you do it properly.... I am remembering from a few years ago so double check with your doctor and lactation consultant.
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  • ahersheahershe member
    NotISaidtheCat said:

    ElRuby said:

    kbbtah said:

    "If you think you're tired now...HAHAHA" and "You better get your sleep while you can...HAHAHA". Seriously? Shut the hell up.

    This one is really true though.... :(
    Not for everybody. Pregnancy is extremely hard on my body and the baby coming is always a relief - everything is better for me once that baby is born. Besides, what does one saying something like this to an expectant mother hope to accomplish, anyway? Discourage and frustrate her? Because that's ALL it does. People are so thoughtless.
    I so agree. Why do people feel the need to tear pregnant women down??? Why can't you just say congratulations and move on???? People think they are God's gift to the world with all their "advice" when all I want to do is slap them.
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  • PBS4211PBS4211 member
    My daughter will be 21-22 months when this baby is born. When I told people I was pregnant with this one, a ton of people said, "Again???" Or "Already!??" I am sorry, but as far as I am aware, there are tons of siblings who are two years apart. I don't really know why this is shocking to people.

    Because my first one child is a girl, I have also been told by numerous people, how much they hope this is a boy. Okay..... ???

    This one actually happens to be another girl and my husband and I are beyond thrilled!! The day we planned to tell my inlaws the gender, my MIL came up to me, patted my stomach, bent down and said, "Hello Sunny, I really hope you are a boy!" (Sunny is what we call my baby).
    First of all, my MIL is one of the coldest people I have ever met in my life and I am not alone in thinking this, so patting my stomach and bending down to talk to it, was really awkward to begin with.
    Secondly, it is one thing to secretly hope for one gender or another, but to tell me, my husband, and the baby that you really hope they are a specific gender, just kind of shows me how disappointed she is going to be. She already makes comments about how my 18 month old is too sensitive (because she does not like to go to her - who the heck would??), and now this baby already starts out with a target on her back, simply because she is a girl. Grrr.......
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  • btm013btm013 member
    This is what I'm sick of hearing:
    "Are you sure there's only one baby in there?"
    "How much weight did you gain so far?"
    "You look awfully big for having a due date of June 4th"
    "You're going to deliver a 10lb baby!"
    "You REALLY popped."

    I don't know what it is about a bump that makes people think they can say the most terrible things to you!! One of these days I'm going to lose my shit. haha
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  • NotISaidtheCatNotISaidtheCat member
    marinamarina said:

    Some dumb b left this on my facebook page

    "10 people you will hate after you give birth"
    https://www.scarymommy.com/10-people-will-hate-giving-birth/

    SHE DOESNT EVEN HAVE KIDS.

    What a horrible article! I feel like more and more society is trying to make women terrified of having children by making motherhood out to be this insane nightmare that you'll never wake up from. It's ridiculous! Yes, motherhood isn't for everyone...but that doesn't mean it's an intrinsically horrid endeavor!

    @ElRuby, no worries! I wasn't saying you were thoughtless, just using your comment as a jumping off point to discuss the people who tell expectant moms they're in for hell and laugh like they're being clever or something. You didn't come off as thoughtless or overly negative to me at all!
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  • EmilywooddesignEmilywooddesign member
    Ohhhhh I can so relate to most of these posts. My mother in law is a hardcore planner and she keeps asking me if I'm going to do certain things, she's mainly concerned that breastfeeding my twins won't be enough for them. How the f does she know that my hooters won't be so full of milk that I could feed a whole town? Mind your own business!!, I'm going to try to breastfeed and if I'm not successful I'll move on to plan B.

    I don't like the comments on size either " oh you look so small for twins blah blah" this is my first pregnancy and im not in control of how big my belly is, I've tried to tell people that the majority of growth will happen in the next few weeks, stop making me feel like my kids aren't healthy. I'm an average size person, maybe a bit on the short side at 5'2" but I am happy with my bump- it looks perfect to me so fuck off.

    Lastly, weird people keep posting twin articles on My Facebook page. It's really annoying me. I basically hate everyone.

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  • PBS4211PBS4211 member
    In reference to your MIL and breast feeding - My MIL keeps trying to control how I raise my kids, by questioning what my future responses will be to their behavior. My oldest is 18 months (and non-verbal at this point) and she just grilled me on how I am going to 'handle' her when she starts back talking my husband and I. Considering I am working hard to help my daughter learn to speak ANY WORDS and am also focused on carrying my (underweight) second baby, I really don't spend my extra time planning out how I will react to a situation that is so far off. Not to mention none of her damn business.

    I would tell you to ignore her, but I know it is difficult!!
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  • emaddockemaddock member
    I am pregnant with #3 and people love to say "oh wow...was this planned? You are really going to have your hands full." Seems like asking someone if a pregnancy was planned is a deeply personal question..:super tacky if you ask me
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  • klkonwiklkonwi member
    @Laurabean34 The worst part of the "just wait" comments are that people come up to YOU and ASK you how you are feeling or what's going on..... And THEN discount what you say with "just you wait...." Please don't f ing ask me then how I'm feeling. Just shut your trap if your trying to make me feel worse.
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  • courtneyp22courtneyp22 member
    I have tried not to get too annoyed by people's comments but that has been difficult when it comes to the comments/questions about my belly size and weight gain. It seems like people have been very confused by the phases of my body changes with my pregnancy and must discuss this with me every time they see me. My baby bump just seemed to "pop" out around 20/21 weeks to everyone's surprise and since then I have carried very low and out. I guess this has made me appear "bigger" much "faster" than I should be in most people's opinions. I get asked "Are you supposed to grow this fast?" and "Is your weight gain normal?". I have to bite my tongue from responding with a snippy, "I am not growing fast. You just didn't pay attention until now when I am 29 weeks along, which by the way, is the third trimester!" Most of the time I just say, "My doctor says I am doing just perfect and right on target." and that sort of shuts them up... until the next time they see me. 
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  • ladylibrarian8ladylibrarian8 member
    "How are you feeling?"
    It's innocent enough the first time, people are just being polite, but after I tell them that I'm fine, this has been a really easy pregnancy, they never believe me and keep pushing for something. I guess pregnant women are only supposed to complain all the time?

    Also, "You can't do that, you're pregnant!" Thanks, but I know my body better than you do. If I want to walk a long distance or pick something up, I will.
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  • KarasTwinKarasTwin member
    ladylibrarian8 said:

    "How are you feeling?"
    It's innocent enough the first time, people are just being polite, but after I tell them that I'm fine, this has been a really easy pregnancy, they never believe me and keep pushing for something. I guess pregnant women are only supposed to complain all the time?

    Also, "You can't do that, you're pregnant!" Thanks, but I know my body better than you do. If I want to walk a long distance or pick something up, I will.

    All of this. I have a coworker who constantly asks me how I feel and when I say "fine" she argues with me and tells me she can look at my eyes and tell I'm not ok. Yeah, I know I have bags under my eyes down to my effing chin, but I still have to come to work and there are plenty of other people with a lot worse problems so leave me alone!
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  • annatta79annatta79 member
    TLeec16 said:

    The comments and looks i get when they ask if I know what we are having and I say yes a boy "wait you mean a fourth boy?" "I'm so sorry" or "wow you have your hands full" etc

    I'm having boy #2 and I get a lot of "hands full" type comments. I can't even imagine what people say when you already have 3 boys at home!
      Blessed Mama to the sweetest boy in the world (11/9/13), one angel baby, and two fur babies: Mattie Dog and Stanley Cat.
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  • slr1229slr1229 member
    Belly comments are getting old. I am fairly small still but alllll belly and every Monday at work I get a "man did you grow over the weekend!" Why yes, baby grows every day people!
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  • yatesbaby15yatesbaby15 member
    Mine is from the doctor...every appointment it's "Well you've put on some weight since last time."  Well considering I'm 31 weeks along and I've only gained 13 pounds, I don't think that's too terribly off from where I'm supposed to be!
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