Who have you told? When are you going public?

WYPhD · March 2015

So . . . my husband told his sister because he was just too excited and I've told three close friends and my yoga teacher (safety first!) I'm dying to tell other people because it's hard to keep a secret and I don't want people to think I'm just getting fat or that I'm being lazy at work. But also, of course, I'm afraid of telling and then miscarrying. My first appt. is April 22 and I was planning on spreading the news about a week after that, if everything looks ok. But now I'm not sure I can wait that long! What are your plans for going public?

aplcakes · March 2015

I'm 7 weeks 3 days we will tell family at 12 weeks as for fb and stuff not till 25 weeks due to high risk

Crestonbaby · March 2015

I'm also scared of telling too many people and then having a miscarriage. I just moved to a new town a little over a month ago and don't really know anyone here outside of the people I work with so it makes it a little easier to not tell people I interact with. My husband doesn't even know yet. He's currently away for 6 weeks on business and haven't had the chance to speak to him yet. He left the day before I retook the pregnancy test. While he was here I took one and it came out negative. So the only people who currently know are my doctor and I... I think I'm going to wait until about 12 weeks to start telling people, just because the risk of a mc decreases significantly by then

Penguin81 · March 2015

My husband told everybody before the pee had a chance to dry lol.

Its a personal choice when to tell, and I completely respect what @aplcakes is saying about her choice

For me I'm to lazy to make up excuses why I'm not drinking, or tried or look like I've had intimate relations with a Mack truck and I'm at a point in my walk of life where I've decided sh!t happens it isn't rainbow and glitter farts - I'm not worried about too early anymore.

lizztheo · March 2015

All of our family knows. My doctor pushed my due date back so we thought I was 8 weeks when I told them. All of my close friends know. It's not really a secret but we'll probably wait til 10-12 weeks to make it "Facebook official".

kmd91 · March 2015

We will probably tell family and a couple close friends at 8 weeks after my first appointment (though I probably won't even find out anything about baby then). And I'm thinking I want to make it facebook official on Mother's Day, when I'll be 13 weeks

jerseymack23 · March 2015

I am 6 weeks, 3 days and told my coworker (who knew everything about our 2 year struggle with infertility and is an amazing mom herself). We work side by side like 80% of the time, so I just let it out around 5 weeks! Hahaha.

emanneyprenger · March 2015

If you tell people early on, just remember that you MIGHT have to give them bad news later. My hubby and I went through that over Christmas when we had a miscarriage at 8 weeks after telling closest friends and family. Telling the sad news was not fun but I agree with @Penguin81...I didn't want to change my lifestyle to hide the pregnancy.

We're approaching it the same way this time- I'm 5w4d and our closest friends and family know. It's kind of nice knowing I have lots of people to talk to if I get freaked out about something going wrong and also having lots of people praying for us. Just my advice

Good luck!!

Bootsie81 · March 2015

The only person I've told is my neighbor because I ran into her in the grocery store and it came up. We'll probably tell my in-laws at Easter so I'll be just over 7 weeks. And my parents a week or so after that.

RNmommy13 · March 2015

I am 8 weeks and just told today

MamaFleck14 · March 2015

Told bosses in advance, told parents, and siblings. Waiting for my first ultra sound to see how far along I am. But most likely waiting until twelve wks.

WYPhD · March 2015

Congrats! That's so exciting. I love telling people. It's the best news. Still not sure when I'll tell family or work.

kelsojohnso · March 2015

Just two friends know, I'm dreading telling my over-baring mother in law... Once I do, I won't be left alone... I'm enjoying the silence (telling people after my first appointment at 12wks)

gorb2015 · March 2015

Telling family on easter. I'll be 10 weeks and I'm so bloated already and not drinking which I normal drink it up with the family at holidays.. It's Going to be very hard to hide from the family.

Cardiganmom2 · March 2015

We've told some family and a friend. We'll probably tell the rest of the immediate family on Easter. Then we'll make a fb announcement after the first trimester for the same reasons above.

mjfrost821 · March 2015

I have told my boss (I share everything with her) and my two besties. We are waiting to tell both families at Easter when my parents are in town. I will be over 9 weeks then. Might wait for gender reveal to go facebook official!

blonddnyc · March 2015

this is our second so i told basically everyone close to me family/friends/coworkers as soon as i peed on the stick. my appt is at 8 weeks and if everyong looks ok i will make it work official and facebook official at12weeks.

shkilborn · March 2015

Hubby told all his coworkers & boss and I told my boss since my morning sickness was so bad. I also told another coworker since she's a mom of 2 and my best friend who just had a baby.
We're planning to tell all the family on the weekend of April 18, first us is on the 16th.

peachmuffins · March 2015

I told my parents, I accidentally told the grandmother of my first child (my babies will have different dads) because of a text message screw up.... and she's also my boss at work so that made it extra dumb and I told a few of my online friends who are out of my regular circle of friends and who don't talk to anybody else I know.

pregnantteacher2 · March 2015

I told family about five days after we found out. I told some coworkers and my bosses the following week. I'd tell them all if I miscarried anyway, so I saw no need to wait. I have my first u/s in two weeks, and if all looks good, I'll probably spill the beans then. If it's iffy, I'll wait until 12 weeks or more.

kmnewton1 · March 2015

Honestly I tried to keep it secret but I've ended up telling more and more people. I've vowed to stop so I can do an official reveal after my first appointment. With my DD I told everyone right away. Now that I'm more familiar with the frequency of MC I want to wait buy I'm just so excited. Plus I look and feel like crap on most days so I really want to explain myself.

nessytessy · March 2015

We are telling my parents this weekend as we don't live in the same state. We are flying down to visit and coincidentally it's my mothers birthday so we are incorporating a birthday/congratulations gift to announce it. We will be telling my in laws in about 2 weeks when we see them next and I'll be about 10 weeks at that point. We are taking pregnancy announcement pics and will put them on Facebook at around 12 or 13 weeks.

oxley09 · March 2015

I am about 7 weeks and this will be our 4th. We told our parents and siblings right away, and then slowly started sharing the news with close friends and family. And we just did the social media announcement today.
I know the unspoken rule is to wait until after the first trimester, and we respect those who choose to wait because of the fear of a loss. We have been through miscarriage before, and for us, it was hard to feel we were alone in it because no one knew.
We feel like this little life is something to celebrate, no matter how brief. So we're trusting God, not being afraid, and spreading the news!

ERstx · March 2015

We've told close friends and family. He has already told his boss and his ex boss. I have told my female coworkers. My boss is out of state, so he hasn't noticed my frequent bathroom trips or exhaustion. I might not tell him till 15 weeks. Or more. His boss is at our location, in another building, so I should speak up before I waddle past her at eight months, but aside from that I haven't really decided. This is our first so I don't want to tell the world too soon.

angrosewells · March 2015

I felt like I had to tell my boss because for days she asked me if I was sad. I wasn't sad just trying not to barf all day every day! I felt like crap, still do. We told parents and siblings this last weekend at 8 weeks and planning to just out it to whoever I know and come across on April Fools day because that is just funny.

oliviasantos · March 2015

I called my parents and my in laws when we found out. I am from Brazil and never heard anyone waiting 12 weeks to tell everybody but i do understand why. I think my parents would think i am weird if i waited 3 months. But then my mother in law, who lives in America and experienced miscarriage with my sister in law, seems to be more reserved about it. I told a few close friends and will wait for the belly to show to tell at work. Also planning to tell my brothers in law on Easter. I am almost 7 weeks. Not planning the whole facebook thing with big belly showing, one million posts about how many times i peed or got sick, and my bald husband hugging me from behind.

MrsCFB · March 2015

The only person I told (besides my husband) is a co-worker who is also newly pregnant.

I'll tell my mom, dad, and sister after my first appointment at 8 weeks.

Everyone else will find out when I'm in my second trimester.

JoReavesMommy · March 2015

Going to stork vision to find out gender at 15 wks (my birthday); I'll make it FB and IG official w/ the appropriate color ribbon that day ! So excited !

nbwells · March 2015

I'm 8 weeks and only telling those who I know won't constantly bombard me with too many questions. I'm telling the ones I know will support me either way. We went through a MMC 3 years ago at 12 weeks, thought we were out of the woods and then, felt I had to disappoint everyone. (Iknow that's not the case but that's how I felt)..
Now I'm dying to tell my children but would hate to have to break their heart if something bad happens but, I sort of feel my little one should know so that he stops doing karate chops on me

hacharles · March 2015

I have a question about first appointment; I will be 10 weeks at my first appointment. The rule of thumb for telling friends and family is 12 weeks. What are the chances of having another appointment so close together? Should I expect a 14 week appointment and just wait to tell my family then?

bsheppeard2018 · March 2015

Iam 6w.We told family that was the closest to us.I couldn't hold the excitement in! We Will be waiting to tell our two children after an UltraSound with heartbeat! Prolly around 12w start to tell friends:)

ks24119 · March 2015

this is such a hard one... we had 2 mcs in the fall and didnt tell anyone, one resulted in a d&c at 9 weeks, i literally had to call my mom on the way to hospital and we slowly told our friends. we are 7 weeks now and ive seen my dr every week since finding out and we really feel more hopeful about this pregnancy, we were thinking of telling my family on easter and our close friends soon after and my husband's family around mothers day, i will be out of 1st trimester. we broke down and each told our bff because we were excited. i have a friend that is also ttc and she is super suspicious, but i still want to wait for a few more ultrasounds.

meggy94 · March 2015

My boyfriend and I found out when I was two weeks late on my period. I was about 6 weeks when we found out. We are only 21 so we decided to tell our family since I'm still in school. Our families for the most part were super excited. We told his sisters and one of them posted it on Facebook while we were at dinner. We didn't plan on posting until we were 3 months along. When we looked at our phones we had a bunch of messages from people and so we just posted our own announcements as well on Facebook. Not exactly how we planned it but we just said if something happens then we will deal with it then.

ColoradoHiker · March 2015

DH told two of his friends, literally five minutes after we found out, bc we were making travel plans to participate in a Disney run together. I'll be 9 months pregnant by then, so obviously it won't happen. One other close friend of ours knows and that's it. Both sets of parents live out of state, so they will find out when we see them in two and three weeks, when I'm 7 and 8 wks pregnant respectively.

aproulx725 · March 2015

Both our moms know and 4 of my coworkers know also because they are nosey and feel like it's ok to just come out and ask if I'm pregnant. They caught me way off guard and I couldn't hid it cause I started turning every shade of red imaginable. I'm not so happy about people at work knowing so early but I guess it's not the end of the world.

Soyyoyary · March 2015

I'm 7 weeks 3 days... We shared with the very lil bit of ppl. The Gramas where first they amazingly are so happy and excited which surprised us.. Since we just had a baby Dec 18,14... (my bro and I are 17 months apart it was a hate hate relationship) I don't want that for my kids... I'm not ashamed of having Irish Twins, a lil scared lol.. Idk when will share the news just don't want to deal with friends and FAM judgement.. Don't have the patience... #3 Nov 7, 2015

vabbott616 · March 2015

We told our friends and families the day the test was positive. I orginally had wanted to wait til this dreaded 12 week mark, but why? That's like saying you are expecting to miscarry. Thoughts become things and why put the worry and those horrible vibes out there? Its such an exciting time, why not share it with those you love? I understand about waiting to post it on social media, no one will want to go back and repost about a miscarriage. So be excited, share the news and put those positive vibes out there! Best of luck to you all!!

jenn811w · March 2015

I want to scream it from the roof tops but we are keeping our mouths shut until Mother's Day. By then I'll be about 13-14 weeks. Our close family and a few close friends already know but we figured Mother's Day would be a great day to tell the rest of the family and Facebook. We had a friend miscarry at 12 weeks and we have been trying for 4 years and our first round of IVF worked so we are waiting until its safe. I think it's ok to tell early if you want, I see no harm in it and it's really hard not to tell everyone! Everyone is different, do what you want!

MamaRoni · March 2015

We told our families and a handful of friends from the beginning. We made it FB official last Monday. We already have 4 boys.... oldest who turned 8 last week... twins who will be 7 in August... and the baby who just turned 2. We had a mc/blighted ovum Oct 2013 and never told the boys are basically.... hardly anyone. And it was super tough n to get thru alone.
when I had an ultrasound with healthy heartbeat at 6w2d last week.... I couldn't contain my excitement from my kids! We posted an adorable pic and then the next day the video where we told. I own a busy medical office/spa here and everyone knows us.... so we knew it would spread like fire once it got out (over 900 likes.... my daddy said he felt like a celebrity with everyone congratulating him)...
Yes that means I may have to go back and spread sad news.... but at least I will have some support. But.... this is what works for us.... not everyone

MamaRoni · March 2015

Here is our announcement

kmorgan1130 · March 2015

I have had to tell my boss/co-workers as I am an RN and in my department we get constant exposure to x-ray. I have to change positions for at least the first trimester. Otherwise I plan to tell my Barre instructor (safety!) but otherwise not telling family or other friends until first trimester.

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