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  • IamKeiserSoze11IamKeiserSoze11 member
    I can count on one hand how many times we've had sex since getting pregnant...actually, I only need two fingers for this equation. I'm almost 8 months pregnant and my husband refuses to have sex with me. My drive has been super high, but the thought of the baby being so close to the action creeps him out. It really hurts my feelings and leaves me frustrated, but we only have a few more weeks...right? :/
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  • toddabunnytoddabunny member
    There's that word again "sex" I can kinda remember doing it around 7-8 months ago, since then it's become a swear word in our home, my partner is a no go at all, and when we found out she was a girl that deffo hit the nail in my coffin, well as we near the end at least I can say my drive has finally decreased and I've given up trying, I told him for his bday I'll buy him a box of 100 condoms and a time limit to use them :-)
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  • 112383112383 member
    Yes super decreased over here
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  • a316ba316b member
    Only about 10x since conception and most of those were before 20 wks. Last was around 23 weeks and DH felt very uncomfortable. So we've agreed to chill. I'm exhausted, and ok with this.
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  • soontobecapeksoontobecapek member
    T left about a week and a half ago and won't be back until mid may. Before that it was pretty normal, 2-3 times a week. With that said my sex drive does and always has outdone his. I'm ready all day every day, he'd rather cuddle or go out to dinner. If be satisfied with being confined to our bed for 24 hours... Which we actually rarely have sex in...
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  • YolypujalsYolypujals member
    I haven't had any sex drive just not feeling sexy at all ugh :|
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  • joeyswife7714joeyswife7714 member
    I'm glad I'm not the only one that can count how many times we've had sex since pregnant on one hand...here I thought I was being prude by not feeling it. Husband doesn't seem to mind, at least not that he's made aware. Then again, he doesn't even like to see her moving inside me because it freaks him out, so maybe that's why he doesn't mind lol.
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  • sammistar3sammistar3 member
    I'm high risk :( had sex 4-5 times a week, now maybe once a week, every time we have sex I get contractions :(
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  • marthaudanimarthaudani member
    Before the bump it was a solid 5-7 times per week. Same into first trimester and down to about 4 times per week in the second trimester. Lately it's been twice a week.

    I just don't feel sexy anymore even though I still want it. I'm totally getting a Brazilian wax this week and digging up my sexy VS lacy one size fits all thongs. That might help me get over the body image weirdness.

    I just feel bad because he's all about pleasing me and he tells me all the time how he loves my bigger boobs and huge ass. God Bless this man.
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  • altarrosealtarrose member
    We are still at 3x a week or so but truthfully it's getting more uncomfortable :(

    Also I spot a little half the time. Dr. says it's totally normal and fine but it does make me worry
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  • MrsLawson15MrsLawson15 member
    I'm all about it until I actually have to do it lol. The thought is there, but I am so uncomfortable and feel like a beached whale. I still do it though because I love my husband and I am hoping that more sex will equal an earlier, easier labor. At least that's what I've heard. Once it gets going I get into it. I just wish I could see my lady parts to landscape them...it's like the 1970s up I'm here.
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  • beasegbeaseg member
    On top worked so well for me! We hadn't in weeks bc we've been busy and tired and every time we'd try, it hurt me! And I'm feeling fat and always tired so never wanted on top, but I gave it a try and it was awesome! Loved it! 
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  • remingtonangremingtonang member
    Typically it's been between 1 and 3x a week with me giving my husband fellatio on most of the other days. I know he still has needs and before I was pregnant we had sex on a daily basis for the most part so I'm happy to "service him" in this way. It actually has been Turing me on and definitely more appealing to me than regular sex. Lately sex has been uncomfortable or I've been too exhausted or sore to want it. Honestly I could live without it right now....my drive is way down. To be frank, the thought of putting in the energy is too exhausting so I've been taking care of it myself sometimes if you know what I mean( men do, why can't we? lol). It's so much easier and less painful. I can relate to some of the other comments about not wanting it for reasons of lack of hygiene. With two little girls under 5 and doing housework and helping out with office work with my hubby's business there's rarely time for me to bathe everyday. I feel terrible saying that but it's true and the result is I feel less than sexy or desirable during those times obviously. Most of the time I prefer minimal or at best, flattering( if there is such a thing right now) lighting during sex. There's been times my husband has made me feel like a goddess but to be honest, most of the time I just feel huge and awkward and worried about what he thinks about my 39 year old 8 month pregnant body but most of the time it doesn't stop me from having sex. I start out with the intention of wanting to satisfy him but in the end I'm usually glad I did it :)
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  • cheeks1891cheeks1891 member
    Every day! My sex drive was high before the pregnancy and lucky for me, my SO has been on board with sexy time even with the big belly at 30 weeks!
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  • sbride68sbride68 member
    My drive was low in the first trimester but once we got into the second and I felt better my drive went wayyyyyyyy up and I could have it two or three times a day and not feel completely satisfied. DH and I have tried all sorts of things including role play so it's not just sex all the time. Once in awhile I have to go solo because DH isn't always in the mood but it works. He said sometimes the belly freaks him out when he thinks of having sex but most of the time he gets past that.
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  • blitzy23blitzy23 member
    How do you all deal with the baby's movement in middle of sex!? I started giggling, and my husband asked me what was funny.... So I told him that the baby was kicking the crap out of my ribs. Whoops, sorry for the mood killer!
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  • jdiZzleeeejdiZzleeee member
    Everyday still but I'm really, really self conscious about my body at the moment so I'm pretty concentrated on "omg do I look horrible" the whole time :(
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  • xxyourstrulyxoxxyourstrulyxo member
    Wait I'm sorry but what is sex? I think I forget. I think it's that thing that got me pregnant?? It's been like 7 months now though... hmmm...

    Maybe this summer DH can reteach me what this "sex" thing is. But until then I'm totally not interested.

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  • YunicornYunicorn member
    edited March 2015
    Same here!!
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  • englishbreakfastenglishbreakfast member
    Sex? What's that? lol. We had fertility treatments so sex had already become kind of a chore before we conceived. Then we were too nervous to do it. Then I had surgery to remove an my Fallopian tube at 6 weeks due to an ectopic twin. Then I felt like crap for the first tri. We finally had it a few times in the early second tri but he got weirded out when my belly really started to grow, then he learned I had a low placenta and forget it after that. I guess we both just take matters into our own hands at this point and are still very loving and affectionate. We do look forward to getting back to some version of normal after the baby comes though.
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  • BabyjavensBabyjavens member
    I too have been waking to orgasms... breathing heavy etc... but it's always at 3 am... don't want to wake hubby to really do it...
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  • mars8kmars8k member
    It's been so long i think my hymen grew back! Last time i forced myself to do it for DH's sake was horrible for me! Everything felt differently and it hurt!!! Add hormones to the mix and i spent the entire night crying!
    I wish i was the type the had an increased drive during oregnancy but i cant even remember how enjoying it felt.. Hoping it'll go back to normal after baby
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  • Vivian811Vivian811 member
    We have sex about 3 times during the work week and usually 3 times over the weekend (used to be daily), but it's changed in that I find myself initiating more than in the past. I think it's because he knows that I'm not loving feeling like a blimp, and we have to try to find positions that work. The other day though I told him that I feel more attractive when he initiates so he has been.
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  • kenziekathleenkenziekathleen member
    My sex drive has sky rocketed! I want it all day, every day. Unfortunately my husband doesn't seem to want it... ever. It has really taken a toll on my self esteem.
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