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12 weeks FMLA/maternity leave and coworkers. ..

lilitaliangirllilitaliangirl member
edited March 2015 in June 2015 Moms
I'm not 100% sure what I am going to do as far as taking off work for baby. Some days I plan for 9 weeks off and take 3 weeks part-time to ease back into work. But, I've made it clear to coworkers I may change my mind while out and take the full 12 weeks. A couple seem to be trying to make me feel guilty. I understand I am having baby during our busiest time, but it's my right to take off. Anyone else have coworkers making you feel guilty?
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Re: 12 weeks FMLA/maternity leave and coworkers. ..

  • kbbtahkbbtah member
    "Wow, must be nice to take a 12 week vacation." I heard this on the other day from a coworker who now lives his life as a woman. Seriously? Aside from working 60 hours a week every week and running myself into the ground for this company, it is my RIGHT to take time off to start a family. I dont judge that person for living his life as a woman, dont judge me for living my life as one either. Grrrr...ok...calming down. Calming down...
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  • KonaCoffeeBeanKonaCoffeeBean member
    edited March 2015
    kbbtah said:

    "Wow, must be nice to take a 12 week vacation." I heard this on the other day from a coworker who now lives his life as a woman. Seriously? Aside from working 60 hours a week every week and running myself into the ground for this company, it is my RIGHT to take time off to start a family. I dont judge that person for living his life as a woman, dont judge me for living my life as one either. Grrrr...ok...calming down. Calming down...




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    Bitchy coment for sure, but what does your coworkers gender identity have to do with anything?
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  • kbbtahkbbtah member
    @KonaCoffeeBean I have always been completely supportive of her decisions and defended her when others have not. She uses comments like "we ladies have to stick together", but apparently that only applies when she wants support. I expect support as a FTM from her, or at least she could keep her mouth shut. She's made other insensitive references, but it's just getting ridiculous now.
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  • rrcameron21rrcameron21 member
    So far no ones made me feel guilty! It's just been more of "what are we going to do without you?" "Can we call you with work questions?" Type of stuff.
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  • allicat300allicat300 member
    My coworkers were a bit on edge about it too 'wow it must be nice to be guaranteed full time pay and not have to do anything' i kindly reminded them that my 12 weeks is NOT paid and having a baby isnt doing nothing.... Its the most labor intensive job a person can have and not being paid is a really sucky thing
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  • laurendutchlaurendutch member
    I think people forget that FMLA is more than just maternity leave, it also covers illness (ie Cancer). It's just that maternity is a "happy" way to use it.
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  • APagoAPago member
    Frogger5 said:

    It's not like we're having a baby to get an extra 12 weeks of vacation this year! Wouldn't that just be hilarious? "Man, I wish I could have three months off work this summer - I know, I'll have a baby! Then I can relax and take it easy for 12 weeks." Anyone who makes a negative comment is only thinking of themselves. 12 weeks is nothing; it's a shame most of us have to go back that early (if not earlier).

    12 weeks is a short time! And it's most definitely not a vacation as you adjust to having this little person in your life. All the power to the Moms getting 12 weeks (or possibly less)! You deserve more time in my opinion. We get one year here, and I couldn't imagine going back to work after 12 weeks.
    FTM - EDD June 16 2015
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  • MCRM14MCRM14 member
    I get people that are shocked I am coming back to work at all! As much as I would love to stay at home with my LO we can not afford for me to. There's no reason for a person to be made to feel guilty about how much time he or she takes off when their child comes I wish our country was like others in the fact that parents get more time with their child.
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  • seeseaseesea member
    @dancegurl1118 I like your attitude!

    I can't help but feel guilty. No one at work is trying to make me feel bad, I'm just doing it to myself. I'm a teacher and had to take my leave unexpectedly. I'm at a pilot school that just started so it's A LOT of hard work that I left behind. I felt so bad when they had subs come in that weren't a good fit so there wasn't any consistency in my classroom. Luckily they found someone long term but I can't help but feel guilty when I hear from the office manager saying things like they miss me and that it's chaos since I've been gone.

    The sucky part is that because the dr put me off work, I'm using my maternity/FMLA days. I've already used up 4-5 weeks at this point. The good thing though is that after the baby is born, I'm entitled to extra bonding time (it's unpaid but I keep my benefits). I know I'll have 6 weeks for summer break but I wanted to use some extra time to be with the baby. Now I'm torn about using the extra time for fear that the school may not want me back since I've taken so much time off. I love my job and my students but I love my own kids too so I don't know what to do.

    Ugh. I just needed to vent. I wish we had a year's worth of maternity leave like they do in other countries.
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