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Showers for second babies!

weddingwinterweddingwinter member
in November 2015 Moms
What should you do to celebrate a second baby we will not need big stuff as we went all neutral 2 years ago for our first! I want to have a party just not sure what to do with a second baby?
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  • weddingwinterweddingwinter member
    I was thinking of that or a coed party/diaper shower!
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  • weddingwinterweddingwinter member
    I would not be hosting but my family is the type that is going to want to know exactly what type of party we want! And I really don't want a shower I am just trying to come up with fun alternatives!
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  • mrskelly731mrskelly731 member
    I don't like the idea of a second shower personally. But I don't like showers in the first place when the attention is all on me. We are team green and were for our 1st so we went with gender neutral and kept most things. I have a feeling my SIL will ask if she can but I will thank her for the thought but decline.
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  • LythorntonLythornton member
    I think it's ok to have a 2nd shower depending on how long it has been since you're first. For example, if it's been 6 years or more, your car seat may have already expired. Etc.
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  • YummeeCookeeYummeeCookee member
    I have a feeling my family will want to have a shower bc I was living out of the country when I had my first baby so they never got to have one for me. Personally, I find it a bit tacky to have a 2nd baby shower so Im just going to tell them lets just have a party, no gifts.

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  • CupcakesandquiltsCupcakesandquilts member
    I'm in the camp of no showers for second pregnancies. One thing that your family could consider hosting is a Sip and See after baby arrives though...
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  • weddingwinterweddingwinter member
    Thanks for some of the great ideas!
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  • groovymama1216groovymama1216 member
    We are doing a gender reveal! Our large equipment is gender neutral too, so the only things we need are diapers and bottles as well. It's more fun if you give the gender out with everyone else!! Have them seal it and give it to a trusted family member who won't spill the beans. Like mamaroni, we love to party!!!!
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  • JustDoIt62009JustDoIt62009 member
    I was planning on a sip & see with my 2nd but a friend offered to throw me a shower and I accepted. It was much smaller and more intimate than my first, I think I enjoyed it much more.
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  • Pontot31Pontot31 member
    Another vote for a sip and see. People want to see the new baby and will likely bring something small.
    I have gone to small lunches for friends having their second, though. Where a bunch of us girls got together and ate and gave small gifts. Those were more excuses to get our group together.
    I believe very baby should be celebrated but a full on shower is tacky to me.
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  • professorscienceprofessorscience member
    If someone offers I wouldn't turn them down, but like PP, we have lots of things that this baby can go ahead and use (although none of it is gender neutral).
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  • pink*sheeppink*sheep member
    Our son is turning 6 this year, and we purged a lot things, with the exception of clothes, so a lot of things would be needed. Either way though, if you have friends who want to put something on for you, I don't see that as tacky.
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  • oliviaann91oliviaann91 member
    Ditto to the above post. DD turned 6 yesterday and all I have left are her keep sake outfits, her crib, and an umbrella stroller. The clothes will not be size/season appropriate since her birthday is march and this baby will be born in November, not to mention possibly a different sex. So planning on having to buy most everything. If friends at work or church offered a shower I probably wouldn't turn it down, but would be perfectly fine without one. I'm super excited to host a gender reveal though-no presents required of course but love the idea!
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  • kateliznelsenkateliznelsen member
    I'm less offended by a shower for a second baby than I am by those that have multiple showers for one baby! (One in particular that felt it necessary to have 4 showers for her first baby, the last one she put on for herself!) That being said, I didn't have a shower the second time around as we already had all the girl stuff and only needed a new car seat and crib. If this one is a boy, my MIL will definitely throw a shower because I have zero boy things and I'll accept all the free diapers I can get my hands on. :-)
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  • oliviaann91oliviaann91 member
    Well so sorry, if someone wants to throw me a shower I'll politely decline and say that according to strangers, that's just not done. Personal preference. I don't mind buying every single thing my baby needs. But if someone wants to throw a party and bring diapers or clothes or whatever, WHO CARES?
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  • LythorntonLythornton member
    Car seat is just one example. Also after 6 years, someone may have sold or given away all of their stuff not planning to have another baby and they change their mind. Just saying! Thanks for your replying!
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  • kmnewton1kmnewton1 member
    Bliss+Berry said:

    CC.to.be said:

    Here it is beyond tacky. You get just one shower. That's it. It's customary to bring a new gift though when a new baby is born. Generally clothes or toys. I know from being on The Bump for quite some time second showers completely depend on your region.

    This is where I'm at.  I had never even heard of showers for 2+ babies until posting on TB.

    I also think that diaper showers rude, in that you are dictating to your guests what to buy you.  I would never bring diapers as a gift to anyone, so I would feel a little put off by that.  

    I think a Sip and See is the most appropriate thing to do if you're looking for a way to celebrate the baby.  That way, the baby is actually there.
    I always buy diapers. That's the one thing you can never have to many of. They were probably the gifts I was most excited about at my shower LOL
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  • weddingwinterweddingwinter member
    No reason for us to be upset with each other. Honestly maybe my post title was misleading or misnamed. I will not be having a "shower" that's what I meant by saying we have everything! I needed ideas on what to do instead for a second baby! Because even though I am set except for clothes and diapers I would love to celebrate this baby and my growing family!
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  • LythorntonLythornton member
    kmnewton1 said:

    WOW clearly there are some raging hormones or some people are just rude. She asked for opinions. Why can't people respect that? I think a shower...sprinkle...reveal...whatever you have is meant to celebrate baby and mommy. Every healthy pregnancy is a celebration. It's up to you honey. Do whatever is right for you and your family. I would tell you what I'm planning but I'd rather forgo getting my head bitten off

    I agree

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  • Pontot31Pontot31 member
    See I would never buy diapers unless I know people are using cloth. You just don't know what will work for your kid and I wouldn't want them to either be stuck with them or have to go return them.
    We cloth diapered my daughter and had to specifically spell it out to people no diapers unless they were cloth.
    We got a pack of disposables when we visited my parents and they made DD break out. Also she was 9 and a half pounds and never wore newborn size and barely lasted in 3 month clothes so we would have been stuck with small sizes.

    Even pre kid I was never a fan of buying diapers for people. Maybe it's where I'm from but I think it's weird!
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  • kmd91kmd91 member
    Bliss+Berry said:

    Lythornton said:

    Car seat is just one example. Also after 6 years, someone may have sold or given away all of their stuff not planning to have another baby and they change their mind. Just saying! Thanks for your replying!

    But why is that the responsibility of your friends and family?  Because you gave away all your stuff and changed your mind, they need to buy you all new stuff?  

    It's the parents responsibility to provide what their baby needs.  Just saying!
    I don't mean this in a rude way at all, I'm just having trouble understanding the thought behind this. I know it all varies in different circles (I happen to come from one where it's common to have a baby shower for someone if it's been a while since their last, because they're basically starting over). But can you explain how the first baby's needs are the responsibility of family and friends? If a second shower isn't okay because it's the parents responsibility to provide for all their needs, but a first shower is completely acceptable, that basically means that the responsibility for the first baby is shared, but any later babies not so.

    I totally get it when they've had kids recently, there isn't as much that they need. But for example one of the baby showers I've attended, her youngest kid was 10. She had given everything away because they had no intention of having any more, and had a surprise baby. She was in the same position as a first time mom would be, so we threw her a shower.
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  • kcmommy99kcmommy99 member
    No second shower. I've read some comments about depending how long it has been.... I agree it it's been like 10 years, maybe a different gender, then okay. But just because your car seat has expired.... Or you have your crib away .. Or something like that.. It's not your family and friends responsibility to provide for all of your
    Children!
    For our second were having a gender reveal/diaper party. We provide beer, food, snacks, etc. And they bring some
    Diapers!
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