TTC after miscarriage

Louser2be · March 2015

Hello everyone! My name is Karen and my hubby and I will be ttc again when the Dr. says it's safe. I just had a miscarriage on March 12th(I was 4w4d) and I'm doing better than when it first happened but I'm still really emotional. I didn't know till after my hubby and I, did it, that you are supposed to wait. I'm going to talk to my Dr on Monday to get the results from my blood tests and ask about if having sex could cause problems. Has anyone else had a miscarriage recently and is wanting but scared to ttc again? I'd love some support, a listening ear and I'd be up for giving advice also. Blessings from Wyoming!

27alex · March 2015

I'm very sorry for your loss.

mrsgillham14 · March 2015

I miscarried at 6 weeks on March 11. Today is the first day that I haven't been super emotional. Hubby and I are going to try again as soon as possible. I totally understand what you are going through.

lilp2015 · March 2015

I had a d&c a week ago. I had found out 2 weeks before that. I feel it gave me some time to come to terms with it. I still have my moments though. We are hoping to start ttc here soon! So sorry for your loss.

aroch412 · March 2015

Hi Karen!
Sorry for your loss. I miscarried on February 12 (we were 6+1). It was such a stressful couple weeks from the day we tested positive to the day we miscarried. As upsetting as it was, we tried to keep focusing on what we thought to be "the silver linings". Through the process we saw both my family doctor and an amazing ER doctor, both suggested waiting anywhere from 1 to 3 cycles, but advised that I was early enough that it wouldn't do any harm to conceive asap. Waiting would simply help them date the next pregnancy. We were eager to keep trying and couldn't quite catch that darn egg this month. I wouldn't say I'm scared to try again as we are so excited to have little feet running around but I am nervous about the process. This cycle was slightly off for me so every little "thing" had me on guard lol. Best of luck to you!!!

4N6s · March 2015

I'm sorry for your loss.
I didn't wait, but also bled for 2 weeks after my miscarriage...

PrimRoseMama · March 2015

I'm very sorry for your loss. In my experience it's best to listen to your individual doctor about your unique situation.

Some doctors are alright advising couples to try again right away. Others are more conservative & ask for a benched cycle or two. Most often I've read/heard experiences of couple's being asked to sit out one cycle to make it easier to date any subsequent pregnancies.

Good luck!

Laura&brad1 · March 2015

Hi I'm new here also I had a miscarrage in jan at 9wks +5 and am now ttc it's so scary but I am just trying to think positive i have a 9 yr old daughter already so found it really hard when it didn't work out for me this time

the doctors at the hospital after d&c and midwife and gp all said to wait one cycle before trying again took 5weeks so hopefully back on track now but from all the info I have read it can be so different for everyone I just wanted to give my body that one cycle to recover. All the best and sorry for your loss!!

KillaKermie · March 2015

I miscarried at 11w5d back on jan 20th... I'm not ready to try again yet was our first and I still get really emotional. I think you'll know when your ready x we've given ourselves 6 months so we'll try again in July x everyone's different and you'll know when it's time x

mekaswifestyle · March 2015

I miscarried naturally at 7 weeks on Feb 12 this year I'mtTTC again and so far I'm hopefully this month we got a hit. My doc said wait till you get your period then if your ready try again aafter having 1 misscariage your chances of having a healthy pregnancy actually go up a little higher than if you never have a miscarriage now remember that is 1 miscarriage. But just relax don't stress yourself out trying! Have fun and go do date nights maybe drink some red wine and just live you will get preggo so much faster ... At least that's how it happened for me(: best of luck dear if u need anything I'm here

Louser2be · March 2015

Thank you everyone for your support!! I really appreciate it! I called my OBGYN office today and I had to leave a message so hopefully I'll hear back soon. I know I'll probably be able to get pregnant again right away since I'm young but I am so worried about everything that could happen or not happen. Praying for all of you that have had a loss!! Thank you for sharing your stories!! Thank you @mekaswifestyle !

LizJohnson3 · March 2015

I miscarried at 19 weeks 4 days on October 28, 2014. I tried for 9 years to have a baby. Now my partner and I are trying again.

watusigurl · March 2015

(Sorry this is long-winded, but apparently I needed to share, lol) I had a natural mc starting Feb 14, only finally got a faint BFP the day before, so it was SUPER hard for us too. We weren't TTC then, but we are now!! We MAY have succeeded this go around since AF was supposed to come last week (and prior to the mc my cycles were like clockwork at 28 days, AF for 4-5 days tops), ending CD 30 today with no AF, so I'm hopeful!

My gp said the because it was a natural mc and everything passed that we could try as soon as we wanted, but that most people waited one cycle. We weren't necessarily going to try this time, it just kinda happened that we felt comfortable with it, and went with it.

So IF we succeeded, I'm roughly 4 weeks +2 (based on LMP), but still haven't gotten my BFP. Only symptoms I've had so far that are consistent is emotional swings, headaches, and HORRIBLE constipation, gas and bloating(sorry, TMI I know, but never had that issue with PMS like some do). Only other signs are BBT has stayed higher than normal, CM, and C position/texture are tracking as preggers.

Coming from me, Basically trust your body, and don't push yourself to jump back in too soon. Fingers crossed that everything works out for both of us!!

desiredshots · March 2015

I miscarried at 4w4d on feb 8th. I just found out were pregnant again last night:) my doctor said there is no reason why you cant get pregnant and have a perfectly healthy pregnancy with the very next egg. Ive miscarried twice and he says to go for it as soon as you stop bleeding completely:) so i vote to go for it! My dr says only drs that cant read ultrasounds correctly tell you to wait for a period so they can calculate you properly. Your body can do it though! He said you should have a period within 4-6 weeks post mc and you can get pregnant during that time (i just did!). Good luck! Keep positive. Make sure you keep your mental and physical health as your number one priority right now

Louser2be · March 2015

Thank you so much @watusigurl and @desiredshots !! I appreciate it! My dr said everything is passing normally and I've stopped bleeding and emotionally I'm doing much better than last week. I think we'll try soon but make sure not to stress and have fun trying

cmorrisrn15 · March 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks on February 6th. It was the worst day of my life and I was an emotional wreck for a good week. I was able to bury the remains in a special baby blanket. I cut out a small piece of the cloth beforehand and wear it in a locket, so that my tiny little one is always near my heart. It was hard to bear the loss, and I had such extreme feelings of guilt and anxiety over wanting to conceive again. We've waited the doctor prescribed one cycle and are ready to try again. I'm very excited and nervous at the same time. Pamper yourself and try to focus on the positive. I wish you the best!

mekaswifestyle · March 2015

No problem dear I know how hard it is but just keep up the hope

2reeflovers · March 2015

We recently mc at 4 weeks but are doing ivf. We have to wait until my hormone levels return to normal and bleed. Then wait at least one cycle and start the calender of preparation again

Louser2be · March 2015

@cmorrisrn15 thank you! I'm sorry for your loss! I love the idea of saving some of the baby blanket. I work at a preschool in the infant room and I make the girls blankets for their birthdays. I think making blankets for babies that I care for has helped m heal. I have the yarn picked out for the baby I lost and I've been debated getting it and making it for my next baby.

DaphneMoon1 · March 2015

I had a natural miscarriage last month at 5 weeks. Doctor okayed TTC right away. As disappointing as it was, I find it helps to remind myself that it happens to 1:4 pregnancies. Lots of people who miscarry go on and have healthy pregnancies. I'm not nervous to start trying again, but I will probably be nervous if/when I get another BFP. Good Luck!

heawilliams · March 2015

Hello all - reading your posts is very encouraging. We just miscarried in February (4w1d) after a positive result. My doctor told me to wait six weeks to allow my body to recover, but I'm really on the fence about it. I would like to try start trying sooner because I'm considered higher risk at 35 and my DH wants at least two more children.

yl1m32015 · March 2015

After my mc in December we started ttc right away. Unfortunately I've had 4 cycles since with no luck. It's been really rough emotionally. I feel like every month I'm disappointed that I grieve all over again for what I've lost and still don't have. So try when you're ready, but that doesn't mean it'll happen again right away. It can, but may not.

c129n106t821 · March 2015

Good luck to you. We lost our angel in December at 10 wk 2days.. Dr said we could try after one cycle and cycle came back 30 days after mc. It has been an emotional roller coaster as we are 40 and feel time is not on our side but pray God can make anything possible!! God bless

Esburks · March 2015

I also miscarried this past Saturday at 4w3d. I was emotional the first couple days but not so much now. I haven't really bleed much at all. But anyways we are going to try as soon as we are told its Safe. Good luck

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