The party is to celebrate a new baby coming into your life. It doesn't matter if it's your 1st or 6th. Go ahead and throw a party.
It will be nice to have a party. Hell, a baby is plenty of reason to celebrate! Just because it isn't your first doesn't mean that you should sit at home and be sad that you feel like you can't have a party.
If people care about you they will attend, bring a gift and even offer to help. Never mind what people say. Haters gonna hate.
I think everyone needs to remember that different things are considered acceptable and tacky in different geographic areas. Where I am from, it would be considered in really poor taste, but that's bc it's not done here. Other areas may have no problem with it! So, OP- there is no correct answer here - it depends on what is typical and acceptable where you're from. Maybe ask your girlfriends or family for their opinion?
I agree that it depends on your area and what's normal. For example it wouldn't be frowned upon to have subsequent showers or sprinkles. It isn't even considers poor taste to throw your own but that doesn't happen a lot here. I say if it's not considered tacky where your from then go ahead.
I was told its in poor taste to throw your own shower but idk if it matters really. My mom compared it to throwing your own bridal shower. Someone close is supposed to do it for you. I was also always taught that you have a shower for the first baby, and a meet and greet for all the others ( if you choose) where gifts are optional, but not expected. Honestly I wouldn't throw my own, but I don't think it matters what myself or anyone else thinks. Ppl who want to support you will support and ppl who think it's tacky or "gift-grabby" won't. Simple.
Oye this is a fun topic... There are usually two buckets of people - the ones who follow the etiquette rules which say this is tacky and the ones that either culturally/regionally or within their circle say its acceptable. This is like the crips and the bloods. No one will surrender. So you will need to judge the people you would invite. Are they going to view it as tacky and gift grabby or think yeah lets party? Only you know them!! Good luck!!
Your crips and bloods reference was great and I needed that laugh today, so thanks! )
So not tacky! We kept things from our daughter but now we're having twin boys! I sent out invitations to my own baby shower but I'm having a non-traditional shower where guys can come too and we are basically just going to visit with our friends since we know that once the boys are here we won't have a lot of time to get together with friends for a while.
This is a tough one. I can not judge since i am not in your situation, I am blessed to have someone hosting. BUT I don't have any problem with it being my 2nd shower, because my kid are 6 years apart and I have a daughter, and I'm having a boy this time around. But I can say that I think the PP all have good points, a lot of people frown on throwing your own shower, and this is good for you to know. If you still don't care, after knowing this information, then go ahead and throw that shower girl!
I wouldn't think it tacky at all, as a surprise baby but especially as a different gender - even if you had saved stuff from your daughter, you might like a few cute boy outfits!
This is my second baby and third boy (also have an older step-son), so I have plenty of STUFF, but a friend offered to throw a shower so I asked for a diaper party! Always need those. If no one had offered, I'd probably throw a meet-the-baby party after his birth.
I think it's as tacky as hell. If someone offers and your second baby is the opposite sex of your first, then that would be the exception IMO. Any other scenario, tacky. Buy what you need yourself.
Honestly it's up to you. But I've always heard that you only do a shower for your first baby. But really I don't think it matters. Go for it. If it were me though in this situation, I'd just do a little party thing like everyone was saying after you have the baby. [: that'd be fun and everyone will get to meet the baby all at once.
I think it would be tacky if you threw yourself a shower and registered for things like a new Prada bag or a big screen tv. But I've found that regardless of whether or not you have had showers for previous children, when people hear you're having a baby, they want to buy it stuff. Let em. If they don't want to they don't have to.
Super tacky to throw your own shower. If someone doesn't want to throw you one what makes you think anyone would want to come to one you threw yourself...
Re: Throwing your own baby shower
It will be nice to have a party. Hell, a baby is plenty of reason to celebrate! Just because it isn't your first doesn't mean that you should sit at home and be sad that you feel like you can't have a party.
If people care about you they will attend, bring a gift and even offer to help. Never mind what people say. Haters gonna hate.
This is my second baby and third boy (also have an older step-son), so I have plenty of STUFF, but a friend offered to throw a shower so I asked for a diaper party! Always need those. If no one had offered, I'd probably throw a meet-the-baby party after his birth.