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19, pregnant, & baby daddy issues.

gingermomma14gingermomma14 member
in October 2015 Moms
Hey there! I just want to share my story and maybe get some feedback, or something. Well, today is March 11th, and I'm 8 weeks pregnant. I'll be 20 in December and my baby will be here in October. The thing is, my baby daddy. He's 31... 32 in September. He has 3 kids, and one was just born in January. I'm usually smarter than this. I don't usually fall for guys like him, but it was just supposed to be some fum before I went off to school, and it ended up being a lot more than that. Now it's a year later, I'm pregnant and we don't know what we want to do. He claims that he'll be there for his child, but he doesn't have a job and I can't support myself and a child and a dead beat man on my McDonald's salary. My mother is helping me the best she can, but she is having financial struggles aswell. She's a midwife, so thank God for her. She's helping me with morning sickness and every crazy symptom I have. I'm just extremely stressed out and I feel so alone... I'm lost. All I know is that I already love this child, and I want to give it everything in life.
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Re: 19, pregnant, & baby daddy issues.

  • naka92naka92 member
    Hey gingermomma! 
    Quite the situation you find yourself in, but you just have to think, this happens to people all the time and everywhere. Youre not the first, and certainly wont be the last. All I can tell you is, you will be absolutely fine, no matter what the baby daddy decides. Definitely steer clear from supporting him as well though, your first priority is yourself and baby. If he wants to be a part of it all bad enough, he'll find some sort of job, or he'll at least understand that you cant possibly support him and a baby in this situation. If he doesnt get that.. well that'd be his loss really. 
    You obviously already love your little one, and thats the important part. You'll find yourself willing to do literally everything for him or her, so you will certainly find a way to make it all work :) You already have a job, so youre already putting forth a good effort! 

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  • BabyCupp15BabyCupp15 member
    I can kind of relate, I'm 23, totally not planned. I'm going to school for nursing or I was I'll be stopping after my first year is complete and I work part time now, I at least have the dads support but we are worried bc now we have to move out of our parents house n not only get and apt to move into but buy and support a baby? We are both scared but say it will work out, I believe everything happens for a reason. This baby will make you the happiest every n ull wonder why u ever worried. That's what I keep telling my self. You can do it
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  • kayceetomasitakayceetomasita member
    I'm 26 and my husband doesn't have a job. Most times he wants to be their for our baby and me but other times he is focused on just him. I am the one who supports us and I am concerned about how we will support ourselves when I go on maternity leave in October. Hopefully it will all work out of you and us. I'm currently in school also and working on my bachelors degree in psychology.
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