conversations with husband during 2WW

Francookie · March 2015

are you the type to bring up your possible phantom pregnancy symptoms every day during the 2WW? I kind of WANT to with him but I don't want to drive us both crazy...

TheBorg7of9 · March 2015

Nope. I don't ever do that. Even if I keep noticing them myself, I wouldn't want to share my unfounded hope with dh and get his hopes up.

yl1m32015 · March 2015

I do, and every month we are disappointed together. I don't want to be in this alone, my DH wants to be as involved as possible. Just depends on your relationship I suppose.

27alex · March 2015

Don't do that.

My DH doesn't need that stress, hell I don't even need it. The only symptom of pregnancy is a positive test in my opinion.

ALK2008 · March 2015

I don't know if it's because of how sick I have been for a few years, but I know my body really well and when something changes (like not having illness symptoms) I notice them. In January was the month we decided not to try but not prevent, and the TWW I noticed a lot of changes. Not instantly, I wasn't temping or anything like that but when I was cramping for over a week and didn't have my normal things going on I could tell something was up. I did speak to my husband about it because it was really strange to go from being in pain a lot, to having none, being tired remained the same, but the over all feeling of being unwell wasn't there. I would never be able to keep food down before getting pregnant but once I was pregnant I was able to.

I know they say you are not pregnant until the test turns positive, but for me at least (and I am not trying to give hope to anyone with this) I knew from the physical changes in my body. Luckily the baby healed so many of my issues and even though at 8 weeks I lost the baby, I'm still feeling better. It will be interesting to see once all the hormones are out of me if I go back to being sick or not. I really hope that my little miracle was here to cure me to make it possible for future miracles to happen, but only time will tell.

If you have drastic changes, I'd say it's ok to talk to your husband or SO about, but if not I wouldn't. If my illness symptoms didn't just go away I would have never said anything to my husband.

PrimRoseMama · March 2015

I generally just keep it to myself unless I get a positive HPT. If I told him every time I felt pregnant I think it would get annoying.

DR53114 · March 2015

I told him how I was feeling and when we got a BFN this month we were disappointed together but it helped me personally to have him knowing what I was dealing with. He actually was very supportive and was encouraging. I think it all depends on the guy I guess!

PumpkinTi · March 2015

For the moment, DH likes to be involved and know what's going on - I don't tell him every little twinge during the TWW (or about CM and that fun stuff) - but I do tell him about some of the crampy, tired, nauseousness... Yes, they are probably all psychosomatic - and he helps gently remind me of that - so its a good thing. I am also really crabby when crampy and tired - so its something of a head's up for him too after a long day! But I'll agree with PP's that it totally would depend on your relationship. With my ex - I NEVER would have been as open as I can be with DH, because the relationships are drastically different (but I suppose its probably a good thing for me that he's my ex now and I am married to DH....)

janeyintrouble · March 2015

I did at first. Then I got tired of him bugging me to test when I knew it was too early. And it just became a source of stress and frustration for both of us. I can ignore my phantom symptoms much more easily if I keep them to myself.

Pontot31 · March 2015

If it's something bigger, I might. But I don't want to stress him out either.

Last month I had 5 days straight of a horrible upset stomach where I was in the bathroom constantly (sorry for the TMI) and that happened to be the only symptom that made me decide to take a test when I found out I was pregnant with my daughter. He could tell I wasn't feeling well and I told him it was the same I felt the last time I was pregnant. But that's it.

I try to ignore everything else. Easier said than done, I know.

concreteayngel · March 2015

For my first TWW, he wanted to be all involved. He stood outside the door while I POAS. When I had to tell him it was a BFN and saw how disappointed he was, I decided I didn't want that kind of pressure, so I told him I'd tell him when there was something to tell.

4N6s · March 2015

Nope.

PageNJewelz · March 2015

I do. He keeps me from going crazy.

Hodgefamily · March 2015

My ovulation day was 3/7/15 and now 3/11/15 I've been nauseous, hiccups all day, and tired. I know it's too early to tell but I can't explain these symptoms other wise. It's so hard to pass them off as nothing when all I want is a positive test! I tell my husband and he keeps me from going crazy haha.

TheBorg7of9 · March 2015

Hodgefamily said:
My ovulation day was 3/7/15 and now 3/11/15 I've been nauseous, hiccups all day, and tired. I know it's too early to tell but I can't explain these symptoms other wise. It's so hard to pass them off as nothing when all I want is a positive test! I tell my husband and he keeps me from going crazy haha.

Hello! Many people have experienced this. They are called phantom symptoms. It's amazing what our minds can make our bodies do. At 4 dpo, if the egg fertilized, it is still floating in your Fallopian tube and cannot possibly cause symptoms. Your body wouldn't even know it's there.

Hodgefamily · March 2015

It's crazy what our minds and bodies do lol.

apclove · March 2015

My hubby overanalyze everything! While WE have had our rough TTC moments, he generally enjoys hearing deets and asks of my temp went up lol but he always ends his thought with, "but I don't want to over think it" ha. Sure honey

Francookie · March 2015

thanks for all the comments ladies, sorry i didn't reply sooner, i had exams this week. Anyway, I got a BFN this morning, maybe I will try a test again in two days, but its hard to balance all the noise that goes on inside my brain and what comes out of my mouth in thoughts. DH and I have a great relationship but I totally see also what you ladies are saying about not annoying him with every twinge. It already drives ME crazy I imagine it would drive him bonkers.

wildbaker · March 2015

Yeah.. we were both in on the first TWW. Now I keep it to myself. He doesn't need my phantom feelings to get his mind cluttered.

kymberheinze · March 2015

I discuss all with my husband. I figure we are both trying and in this together he may as well hear about it too! He normally keeps me grounded and tells me when I'm reading too much in to something so I don't really feel like he gets his hopes up the way I do.

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