Does anyone else just want to be left alone?

lizard1892 · March 2015

I feel really selfish for just wanting time and space to myself. Absolutely horrible for pushing my kids and partner away but I'm constantly fighting the urge to puke and suffering from SPD to the point every movement is sooo painful I want to cry. Just don't know what to do I hate being laid up its upsetting my OCD and nesting instinct but the pain is unbearable

babystarin · March 2015

I want to be left alone too but in other ways... My mom is always asking me questions, wanting to come over or me come over, wanting to come to the hospital. Now friends are asking about coming up to the hospital and waiting for me in the waiting room... It's driving me nuts!! I already know I only want my husband and I at the delivery but I also don't want people popping in to say hey when I'm in labor (either at the house or hospital). It's making me feel like a bitch but I don't want to be by anyone and don't want my husband and I to be rushed once the baby is born cause there are a ton of people waiting to come in. I hope u get to feeling better soon and get to meet ur LO soon!!

Christina80xoxo · March 2015

Yes !
I feel awful ! I only want to be around my daughter right now. I feel so bad and don't say anything because my friends and family are trying to be supportive. Getting on here, Facebook whatever is fine. I just don't feel like really having to conversate or entertain people right now. Plus, my relatives are against breast feeding (and I want to) and it's annoying.
I think we are all just super drained at this point.

noodlienoodles · March 2015

Christina80xoxo said:
Yes !
I feel awful ! I only want to be around my daughter right now. I feel so bad and don't say anything because my friends and family are trying to be supportive. Getting on here, Facebook whatever is fine. I just don't feel like really having to conversate or entertain people right now. Plus, my relatives are against breast feeding (and I want to) and it's annoying.
I think we are all just super drained at this point.

Against breastfeeding? Whaaaat?! Tell em to shut it! Do what's best for your family. (Not that you weren't planning on it anyway.)

suziemags · March 2015

I can totally relate. I'm a week past my due date, I'm stressed and physically exhausted and people are constantly bugging me about "when the baby is going to get here!" I don't know! Don't you think I would also like the baby to get here!? My MIL even had the nerve to tell me that she's way more excited than I am about the baby coming and that the anticipation is killing her. Really, bitch? It's killing you? Must be really hard to wait for a phone to ring.
Anyway... I don't like anyone anymore and am really sick of it.

noodlienoodles · March 2015

Vent! My step mom just criticized me for making 6 meals ahead of time. Wtf? She said it's a baby, not the apocalypse and that if I needed time to cook when the baby got here then grandparents should be watching her. Ummm... Sorry I'm not sorry for wanting to prepare 6 meals! I just don't know why she has to make me feel stupid for wanting to prepare for arrival of a newborn. So. Angry.

babystarin · March 2015

noodlienoodles said:
Vent! My step mom just criticized me for making 6 meals ahead of time. Wtf? She said it's a baby, not the apocalypse and that if I needed time to cook when the baby got here then grandparents should be watching her. Ummm... Sorry I'm not sorry for wanting to prepare 6 meals! I just don't know why she has to make me feel stupid for wanting to prepare for arrival of a newborn. So. Angry.

I can't believe she said that!! A lot of people make meals ahead. I only did a couple meals and have other easy meals in mind but I want everything here at the house so we don't have to go out unless we WANT to. I feel like I'm preparing for a disaster. Lol. I just know that I will spend less money than my husband due to couponing and sale shopping. I already told my mother that when she comes over I might need her help with chores so I can bond/relax with the baby. No way am I gonna be the one waiting on people. I also am going to limit the amount of people who come each day so we don't get more tired.

noodlienoodles · March 2015

babystarin said:

noodlienoodles said:
Vent! My step mom just criticized me for making 6 meals ahead of time. Wtf? She said it's a baby, not the apocalypse and that if I needed time to cook when the baby got here then grandparents should be watching her. Ummm... Sorry I'm not sorry for wanting to prepare 6 meals! I just don't know why she has to make me feel stupid for wanting to prepare for arrival of a newborn. So. Angry.
I can't believe she said that!! A lot of people make meals ahead. I only did a couple meals and have other easy meals in mind but I want everything here at the house so we don't have to go out unless we WANT to. I feel like I'm preparing for a disaster. Lol. I just know that I will spend less money than my husband due to couponing and sale shopping. I already told my mother that when she comes over I might need her help with chores so I can bond/relax with the baby. No way am I gonna be the one waiting on people. I also am going to limit the amount of people who come each day so we don't get more tired.

I think that limiting the amount of people that come each day is smart! You shouldn't have to entertain while caring for a newborn. I really feel like people are selfish when a new baby comes. I mean, I know they're excited and mean well, but no one thinks about how hard it can be on the parents.

lizard1892 · March 2015

Ha! @ suziemags - Just the thought of actually telling someone that makes me chuckle! Love it

lizard1892 · March 2015

I'm so glad I'm not the only one feeling like this, it makes me feel so much better knowing it's not just me x

adelems · March 2015

@noodlienoodles she would I guess chew me apart then... I have twenty meals all frozen! Some lunch but mostly dinners. People offer to come help but they never seem to actually "help" .. They just want to hold the baby. Which is what I want to do. After suffering through 9 months of pregnancy I get to hold my own baby. Not everyone else. Haha. And if I can't hold the baby I've got plenty of bouncy seats and newborn loungers and all that stuff to keep him safe temporarily. So... Unless you're going to vacuum don't you dare step foot in that door or say you're coming over to "help". Haha

ju123 · March 2015

@adelems
Yes I totally agree I have had a rough pregnancy in my many ways and people keep asking if I need something but I think it's more for politeness lol

At the end of the day people don't really come to my house to clean and cook for me!

ttc11786 · March 2015

I spent the whole day crying in my bed! I'm 38 weeks and my daughter whose about to turn 3, is driving me completely nuts!!!! She's started throwing tantrums about wvey single thing!!! Plus she's totally anxious about the baby and has become a ball of fears and so attached to me- I can't take it anymore- I literally told my husband to take her out of the house for the day or else I'd leave for the day! Lol
I feel like such a silly selfish girl right now but the feelings are just overwhelming me!

ju123 · March 2015

I have had those days! You may be needing a break for sure!!

noodlienoodles · March 2015

@adelems I feel the same way! I struggle because I don't want to seem selfish, but I was the one who had to change my life style and ruin my body -- I want to hold the baby! My husband doesn't get it.

meh

liesed · March 2015

Reading all these comments definitely makes me feel better! I thought I was the only one with these feelings. Dealing with a two yr old and an almost here newborn. I can hardly stand my relatives and everyone is telling me I should just be grateful and excited as if I'm not. Thanks for letting me know I'm not alone

cmcintos · March 2015

I'm due march 24th, and my MIL asked me if I could please wait until the week after to have the baby, because she has a conference at work that week and won't be able to slip away.

Ummmmmmmmm it's not like a dinner party I'm hosting, where I can just post-pone!!!! Plus being late sounds like the last thing I want to do!!! I know she's half-joking because obviously she knows the baby will come on it's own time, but Geeze!!!! Just annoying at how everyone only thinks of themselves and how the baby will impact them!

AshleyAllen87 · March 2015

I have certain friends that I'm currently avoiding like the plague. One in particular bc she is a post op nurse, and any time I mention the baby or the pregnancy she has to offer her medical opinion. My opinion may not be right, but I'm sorry, you are NOT an OB and I'm going to take MY drs experienced advice over yours (she doesn't even work with babies or pregnant woman!). Some other friends I avoid bc I kind of feel like they are sick and tired of hearing how tired and achey I am.

I try and remember the amazing ppl in my life, like my mother and my neighbours. One set of neighbours in particular have been so helpful! From helping us get the nursery ready, to lending me a bunch of newborn clothing, to offering to care for our 3 dogs when I go into labour. My mom spent the weekend cooking for us, so now our freezer is stocked up for the first several days that baby is home AND she is planning on staying with us for a couple days to help. I'm so thankful for her bc my father is not really in the picture (my choice) and my husbands parents are deceased, so she really is the only grandparent.

angelaguiniga · March 2015

I'm now 40+ a day. My mom's husband is driving me insane. I live with them which does not help. But I've been working up until 2 days before my due date. He hadn't had a job from November to about 2 weeks ago. I was sitting on the couch and he came at me telling me I'm a bad person for not doing more. That I need to be willing to have more kids and that he really knows what is best for me. My mom just sat there. I said I appreciated his opinion and walked away. I am more than tired of everyone around me at this point. Please get this baby out of me!

Ambethsco · March 2015

Yes, yes and yes. I'm a week overdue and my inlaws have been here for TWO FREAKING WEEKS waiting for me to go into labor. If we don't go out of our way to spend time and cater to my FIL he gets his feelings hurt and starts telling everyone else in the family how uncomfortable he is and how he feels like he's in the way. I'm going to lose my mind. Add to that a million calls and texts a day with people asking me personal questions about my cervix.. Yeah, I'm done.

Does anyone else just want to be left alone?

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