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I'm scared to give birth

mamasitabonitamamasitabonita member
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This is my first pregnancy. I'm so scared that my butthole will be cut and that I will not be able to hold my caca anymore.
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  • snikaisnikai member
    edited March 2015
    ...unless you're unnecessarily induced ( AND I STRESS THE UNNECESSARY PART!!) and then labor is horrible!!! Avoid if at all possible or at least get the epideral BEFOREhand. But at any rate.. It is a bit scary, but it will be OK. You're body knows what to do even if you don't and the pain goes away pretty quickly. Also, a few women have talked about the movie and show called the Business of Being Born which is a great show to watch and get a sense of pregnancy and birth from a different perspective (they will also say to not get UNNECESSARILY induced if at all possible!!)
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  • cmjlee90cmjlee90 member
    Actually, I was induced for both of mine. My awesome nurse even turned up my Pitocin because apparently 2cm/hr wasn't fast enough for her. Also, epidurals are timed with your contractions so you hardly feel them
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  • snikaisnikai member
    edited March 2015
    cmjlee90 said:

    Actually, I was induced for both of mine. My awesome nurse even turned up my Pitocin because apparently 2cm/hr wasn't fast enough for her. Also, epidurals are timed with your contractions so you hardly feel them

    You're lucky and it sounds like the inducing wasn't unnecessary in your case. I went from 2cm to 10cm in 30 minutes, baby almost stopped breathing, and i wasn't able to hold still for the epidural which resulted in them sticking the needle in too far, a spinal fluid leak and the worst headache imaginable. Clearly in my case the inducing was NOT necessary.
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  • pinkstarr6pinkstarr6 member
    aprilmay92 said:

    Because every woman I know who's ever had a child regularly shits herself? I hope you're just being a troll and not serious.

    I think you are a horrible person for saying this. I am a FTM and scared as well. The unknown is scary and exciting. She was voicing her concerns. They have a saying about not saying anything if you have nothing nice to say. Just move on if you don't agree.
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  • awsmallzawsmallz member
    I heard giving birth on your hands and knees rather than lying down reduces your risk of tearing.

    You could also try doing "perineal massages" I'm not sure when you would start them? check with your doctor first though.

    If it can help prevent the need for an episiotomy I'm willing to try it lol!

    You're definitely not alone,I think most of us are just as scared,I know I am!
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  • asilva63010asilva63010 member
    My advice is to not listen to everyone else as labor is so different for each person. Although some above said being induced was painful... mine wasnt. I was on potocin the the max and similar to you was afraid if the epi. I did fine with both and had a great labor. This is my 2nd delivery and I hope it's as enjoyable as my first. Best thing I heard that helped me: it can't be that bad if people keep doing it over and over again. Best,
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  • ForeverEverAfterForeverEverAfter member
    I'm a stm and still occasionally scared of labour, but more the possibility of something going wrong. I had a natural birth and did not remember the pain. About an hour after birth (incl 20 min of stitching) I hopped off the bed and walked down to our postpartum room holding our baby. I remember panicking and telling the nurses I couldn't push and breaking my nails from clutching the bedrail, but the high you get from delivery is very real, I was on cloud nine afterwards.
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  • bpv101283bpv101283 member
    Millions and millions of safe, uneventful births every year around the world. Of course it's a huge deal to the individual, but when it comes down to it, baby is coming out one way or another and being able to trust the people around you that you are safe is all that matters. It's ok to be scared, but maybe try to stick to real births from people you know and not focusing on births that were crazy insane. It's rare for something to go wrong, it happens, but that's why birth plans need to be open and changeable.
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  • Jenten810Jenten810 member
    And to add to what @WDDCH said, from my experience they were just little rabbit turds (as my DH described it), it's not like your going to push out the biggest poop of your life trying to get the babe out.

    @bonniecouture try not to think about it too much, which I know is easier said than done. Once you get there nature takes over and all of those fears fall away as the anticipation of meeting your baby overshadows the fear.
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  • mybabynumber2mybabynumber2 member
    Jenten810 said:

    And to add to what @WDDCH said, from my experience they were just little rabbit turds (as my DH described it), it's not like your going to push out the biggest poop of your life trying to get the babe out.

    Haha typical male response, I'd love see them go through it

    =))

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  • twinamatotwinamato member
    WDDCH said:

    viwwo said:

    I was under the impression that everyone poops themselves while giving birth.... No?

    When you're pushing, anything in your bowels will also be pushed. The nurses and the doctor and midwife all know this and still signed up for the job. It doesn't phase them. They quickly and discreetly wipe it away, you may never know it happened.

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  • WDDCHWDDCH member
    Jenten810 said:

    And to add to what @WDDCH said, from my experience they were just little rabbit turds (as my DH described it), it's not like your going to push out the biggest poop of your life........


    Bahahahahahahaaaaa! Rabbit turds. Nice!

    Yes it's like the tiniest amount. Usually you get diarrhea some time during prodromal labor (very early stage that can last for days; you may not noticeably feel anything during that stage except Braxton Hicks and loss of the plug) so you're pretty cleared out by the time you're birthing.
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  • Nessy430Nessy430 member
    preggersinparis said:

    Omg, did anyone else get a hearty good laugh out of this? I think I'm losing it because I'm laughing out loud with a few tears coming out. Great, what kind of mom will I be? I still find poop comments funny. I also enjoyed @Nessy430 and @aprilmay92 's responses. Thanks for the Sunday morning giggles.

    Hahaha ;-)
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  • lesliecostalesliecosta member
    edited March 2015
    This whole thread has me in tears! I'm going to make sure I share it with my husband. "See honey...if it happens it happens".
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  • v1wwov1wwo member
    Ok so that is what I thought. Everyone poops :)
    I also read that mamas poop is beneficial for the baby because of all the gut bacteria the baby will get. So now if a mom is having a c-section doctors may take a little bit of momma poop and rub it on the baby.
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  • crys6crys6 member
    You wont worry about pooping yourself once you are pushing and usually your legs are up high so u cant really see..nurses and doctors a discreet and will not even tell you if it happens and if you have an epidural you wont feel it happening. In my expierence
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  • Cupcakequeen1000Cupcakequeen1000 member
    This feed is great, I needed this laugh.
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