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Due date today, need to vent

jbeth1616jbeth1616 member
in March 2015 Moms
Today is officially my due date..yet the little one isn't ready to come out. So while I'm super uncomfortable and feel nausea for the last week I also have constant phone calls and texts from well meaning family and friends. I can't tell you how many times I've had the same convo each and every day for atleast a week now. Is the baby coming? Are you in labor yet? Why haven't you had him yet? Have you had a contraction? On and on it goes. I don't even feel like a person right now, just a walking incubator! It seems I have no other value than to pop a baby out, and it seems no one is interested in any other type of conversation with me. Like once I say, no baby yet, the are done talking with me. Anyone else getting anxious to have their first baby and getting these calls and texts all day and night?
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  • mariawahlmariawahl member
    Well I haven't been bothered too much since I'm not due until the 16th. But I just wanted to say I'm crossing my fingers for you. I can only imagine how ready you are if I'm feeling anxious myself. Good luck!
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  • vtmejia21vtmejia21 member
    I'm right there with you. This is my 2nd pg and I am due Friday and to everyone it seems like eternity (yet were the ones pregnant)
    Hang in there and GL!
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  • MeganG216MeganG216 member
    Yep. Also due today, my mother in law keeps asking. Not to mention people on Facebook asking if I'm dilated, effaced, had my membranes stripped, etc. Things that are a little too personal to share with hundreds of "friends." It's like come on people, when there is a baby we will let you know!
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  • marleymilesmarleymiles member
    My due date is today , but I'm measuring 38 weeks so I believe they miscalculated due date. I'm planning on getting induced though . Good luck
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  • EricandKarenEricandKaren member
    Yes! I was due Monday and it was tough to listen to all the comments at work this week (I'm part time so today was my last day this week). Think people just feel obligated to say something... I had a girl look me dead in the eye and say "so what's the deal!!? ... You are still pregnant!"
    Oh, thanks! I didn't realize that
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  • aframe77aframe77 member
    I'm due Sunday and the doctor just told me that because I'm measuring small and because my cervix are still super tight that my due date is probably off by at least a week. Looks like I could be pregnant for most of March so I feel your pain.
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  • corysgirlscorysgirls member
    I've been ignoring phone calls/texts/messages/etc because I don't have the energy to keep telling people the same thing over and over. I will call or text those who are important and then Fb when I'm admitted. No need for anything else, my sanity is important at this point!
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  • asmoleyasmoley member
    After two false alarms, I know your pain. Plus I work with high school students who I love, but they have no tact. Every time I see them they comment on how big or why I'm still pregnant. Drives me crazy each day and the sarcastic remarks are definitely more and more in danger of slipping out.
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  • YoungDuoYoungDuo member
    DH and I have decided to not tell FB or friends until after his birth. We are not calling family until we have been admitted into the hospital just to avoid getting everyone excited/anxious in case it's a false alarm. We have informed family and they all seem to be ok with this--but it wouldn't matter even if they weren't. This is our first child and I want to be able to enjoy the process.

    I hope things get better for everyone, and you all quit being bothered! I can only imagine how frustrating it is.
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  • myjessesgirlmyjessesgirl member
    Not quite there, but after six weeks of contractions, even my OB is asking what's up with all the waiting. I still have a week and a half to go until my due date, so I'm trying to be patient. Thankfully family has been more tactful and I'm no longer working, so I'm just trying to stay positive. Besides, she is healthy and must have a good reason to stay inside for awhile longer! This WILL come to an end at some point.
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  • Flowerstar1023Flowerstar1023 member
    If it makes you feel better, I'm only 33 weeks and 2 days and my boss saw me today for the first time in awhile and said "What, you're still pregnant? How is that possible?" Um, yeah.
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  • AshleyAllen87AshleyAllen87 member
    Oh I also had this one lol...one of my best friends is a teacher and said to me a while ago "March break for the kids is the week after your due, so if you could wait till then that would be great"! ...I know she was joking, but I thought to myself, are you kidding me?! You want me to be overdue?! Lol I'm not going to be a happy camper if that's the case lol
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  • Chris&AngChris&Ang member
    I understand your frustration! My due date is tomorrow and there is no sign of my little guy coming out! Even with a crazy snow storm and full moon, I'm not even dilated. : (
    Between the texts, emails, and my mother-in-law calling me literally every hour and I just want to throw my phone out the window!
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  • mattandlyndamattandlynda member
    My due date isn't until the 25th but I had a woman (at my daughters dance class who I don't know at all!) randomly tell me that my "face had changed over the past week...looking fuller and really exhausted. You just look ready, you know?"

    No. I didn't realize how much weight I had gained in my face and I was totally unaware of how tired I am..thank you for the reminder!!

    Ready for this baby to avoid comments like that.
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  • ju123ju123 member
    I have a friend that messages me everyday with the countdown...
    She is begging me to be at the delivery room :|
    Im like "why" just "why"
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  • YoungDuoYoungDuo member
    ju123 said:

    I have a friend that messages me everyday with the countdown...
    She is begging me to be at the delivery room :|
    Im like "why" just "why"

    That would drive me insane! And how rude of her to beg to be in the delivery room! That is a very intimate request that I assume you have either already decided on or are thinking about but don't need outside influence. I hope she leaves you alone!
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  • ju123ju123 member
    @YoungDuo
    Yes!!! This is it! My husband couldn't believe it :(
    Why would you want to be there with the couple and looking at your friends vagina in that situation?! She even mentioned she would love to see if it is c section! Hmmm no, I don't think so /:)

    I would never offer a friend to be there, I think SO and very close family only!

    The countdown drives me nuts too
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  • hannah0513hannah0513 member
    I know exactally how you feel. My due date was the 2nd. But they have told me he is too big for me to have and I am having to have a scheduled csection Monday. Trying to keep it on the down low though because I have a couple friends who txt and call me every day saying you have to call me! Or let me know when your on your way to the hospital! So we have only told mine and SO's close family members cause we don't want everyone showing up. Too much stress for such an intimate time. Although they haven't went as far as to ask if either of them could be in the room. That is just crazy. One of them has had the baby gaga app on her Facebook for MY baby. It seems that now that all of her friends are married and having babies she know EVERYTHING about it. Even though she is neither married nor has kids.
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  • Knottie32364231Knottie32364231 member
    Due the 13th and still working. But honestly I get almost nothing done now because half of my day is everyone talking about the baby to me and asking those questions. (Contractions? Are you dialated? Going to have an epidural? Have you dropped? Boy she is going to be big. Boy she is going to be small. You are gaining weight! You haven't gained any weight! You look tired. Are you uncomfortable? Throwing up any? When is your last day? When are you coming back? On and on.) What irritated me most was through almost my entire pregnancy one woman at work insisted I would be at least 2 weeks early because I was so fat. (I've only gained 30 lb and actually look fairly small now actually.) She even told people my due due date was march 1 and posted it online on social networks. When she knew it was the 13th. And evvvery day she would tell me I would have baby by March 1. ("You dont know what you're talking about. Baby and I have a connection. She told me shes coming March 1.") I wanted to slap her after a while. People do text but not too much. I do post a weekly update so I think that satisfies them. Have already told everyone that we are having no visitors whatsoever until we get home from the hospital though so we did cut that craziness off at the pass, so people stopped asking about that.
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  • leila81leila81 member
    I feel you! Tons of random texts and calls asking "how are you doing?" Aka still pregnant? My mom was insistent that I would go early and now that I'm past my due date, she wants to buy a ticket for a random day because "ticket prices are going up." (They're not; I checked.) Also, I have a small house and am planning a natural birth, which requires a calm and relaxed atmosphere. As my mom has no concept of a natural birth and has even said she wishes she had just had a c-section because it's easier, she will not contribute to that atmosphere. Also, it appears to have never crossed her mind that my husband and I might want to savor our last few days alone together. It's maddening!

    I think it comes down to it seems these questions and requests are more about what other people want than what is good or healthy for the pregnant lady.
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  • mybabylove3415mybabylove3415 member
    Due date today still no signs of baby coming
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  • ers23462ers23462 member
    When I first told my folks that I am pregnant, they gave me the advice that I only give an approximate timeframe of when baby is due instead of the due date to avoid that kind of situation. I only give my date nowadays because baby's c-section is scheduled, and unless she decides to come early we know when she will be here.
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  • babystarinbabystarin member
    ers23462 said:

    When I first told my folks that I am pregnant, they gave me the advice that I only give an approximate timeframe of when baby is due instead of the due date to avoid that kind of situation. I only give my date nowadays because baby's c-section is scheduled, and unless she decides to come early we know when she will be here.

    That's a great idea!! I never thought of that. Will make a mental note for next time.
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  • ngolimentongolimento member
    It's boggling my mind too how fucking rude people are about birth. I've had one friend demand that she be on some mysterious text list to be notified before FB (my DH will probably post as soon as baby is out). And working till I go into labor has turned onto a nightmare. Everyone stares at me and says "you're still here!" Like I failed at something, or am an unwanted houseguest. "I am? Fuck I thought I was a ghost!"
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