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September 2015 Moms
PreggersinParis
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Snarky response to announcement...
PreggersinParis
member
You ladies may get a kick out of this. It's in the same vein as some other conversations we've been having about inappropriate responses to our announcements. Lately I have been having to tell friends piece meal what's going on because I'm usually a somewhat social person and have been visibly off the radar (including social media) since I found out (a result of the ms and exhaustion gives me zero energy). I emailed a friend and told her why I've been MIA and instead of congratulating me she felt the need to REMIND me of how much Champagne I drank on New Year's Eve but capped it off with a "don't worry" (I wasn't) she was sure everything was okay. She then said "Omg, if you have a baby this year AND get your book published I will kill you!"
OKAY....We conceived on the 30th of January so no, (UPDATE: meant 30th of December! Sorry for the confusion!) I wasn't worried about the NYE bubbly I drank and two, I've spent 3 years of my life writing a book that I finished before Christmas that you'd think a friend would hope I got the damn thing published. It may be my hormones on speed right now, but all I could think of was: THAT'S your response?! I responded politely and blithely oblivious to the snark but still, it just goes to show that pregnancy makes people strange, not just us who have been inseminated! Anyone else have a horror story to share?
OKAY....We conceived on the 30th of January so no, (UPDATE: meant 30th of December! Sorry for the confusion!) I wasn't worried about the NYE bubbly I drank and two, I've spent 3 years of my life writing a book that I finished before Christmas that you'd think a friend would hope I got the damn thing published. It may be my hormones on speed right now, but all I could think of was: THAT'S your response?! I responded politely and blithely oblivious to the snark but still, it just goes to show that pregnancy makes people strange, not just us who have been inseminated! Anyone else have a horror story to share?
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Re: Snarky response to announcement...
Background on that a bit, my sister and I don't have the best relationship. It's not awful, but it's not that great. She skipped my wedding because she never cared enough to get to know my husband enough to decide whether or not she should like him except based off appearance (he doesn't look like her type, therefore he MUST be a horrible person with no ambition or love towards me). She also has recently been angry about someone else's pregnancy. When my SIL told everyone she was pregnant a couple months ago, my sister got mad and still hasn't said congratulations because our brother was so excited to be a dad again, he accidentally said their daughter, born last year, wasnt going to be the youngest in the family much longer. Sister assumed he meant entire family and must have obviously been leaving out the baby in her uterus and can't have merely been referring to my brother and SIL's family of soon to be six and he was just so excited he didn't specify further.
So yeah, everyone in the family is kinda scared about how she's going to react to our news. I'm going to tell my parents to make sure she knows how inappropriate it is for her to talk about me and this wonderful blessing I'm carrying behind my back, because she will.
Besides that, for the most part I've had really great reactions. Sorry, I tend to rant especially when I say something about my sister. Lol
I have a very healthy lifestyle and pregnancy so far. I don't cave to cravings very often, all in moderation!
So, imagine my shock when I told a friend I just went to Long John Silvers and she judged me and said: UMM, aren't you suppose to be like watching what you eat or something?? And the look on her face was like I just took 4 shots of alcohol! I was so pissed that she said that! I mean, for F's sake I wanted some chicken and a hush puppy. I eat healthy 80% of the time but that sounded good, so I ate it. Now because I ate Long John Silver while pregnant, she thinks I'll be the worst mom ever. These idiots. I swear!! All I said to her was: I didn't see no fast food on my list of no-no's!!
...And THAT, I find interesting.
The way all of you ladies share the weird stuff we preggos hear is fascinating to me. Love this group!
This one isn't related to the announcement, but it's coworker related. When I first told this coworker that I was pregnant she was happy, but then the next thing out of her mouth was "you drank a lot at the holiday party." I would've been about 3 weeks then and had no clue obviously that I was pregnant. A few weeks later we went out of town for a work meeting and there was a meet up at the bar after our awards ceremony. I was about 9 weeks at that time. After the awards ceremony I was exhausted and I went back to my room to sleep. The next morning she said everyone was asking about me and then referenced how another coworker, who was about 6-7 months, was at the bar socializing. Bite me hag.
After I told her about it she was like, "oh wow.
Well our kids won't play together Bc I'm breaking up with my Bf."
.. No congrats, no happiness, no nothing...and who cares if they don't play together, I assumed I was your friend, and you'd be ecstatic
She's never asked me anything ab my pregnancy or my health, etc.
I guess she's jealous, but it took me and my husband 8 years to conceive.
This is my (our) time ladies!!
That is horrible! Who says things like that?! You are better than me girl that would have turned into WWIII.
My husband told my MIL in person about the baby (even though I don't feel like she deserves to hear the news in person since she has been MIA for 3 years). All she said to him was "oh. I am happy for you". A week later she stopped by our house to pick something up from my hubby, and she just walked past me without even saying congratulations. Whatever.
The next day his younger brother sends a message saying "Wow, probably won't see this nephew either. Oh well. I'm just the Uncle." No congrats, my husband only talks to his older brother, my husband has helped his two younger brothers with getting into school only to fail out, got them jobs with good companies and they didn't show or were lazy, etc. Needless to say they don't make attempts to call or visit (we live in Indiana, they live in Ohio).
The next day, his other younger brother sends us both a message saying "heard your having another kid, that's great and all but I can't say I respect that as I used to look up to you but it's clear you picked your wife and kids over your family here". Wth???
I've told my husband before I'm done with that side as his mother has questioned multiple things only for my husband to shut her down. They have caused so much stress on us until my husband broke ties with his mom and 2 younger brothers. And all this with just announcing a simple happy announcement, we will not be interacting with them for years lol.
Sorry for the long post, feels good to vent some of this to other people.
I reply with silence and she says, "So what, I guess you're happy then?"
Yes. Yes I am, you stupid b***.
Sorry. I have a bit of a history with this aunt. Come to think of it, I think that's been her reaction to all my pregnancies. She really is a miserable old woman. I know it shouldn't have but her reaction did bring me down a little.
Thanks everyone else for sharing your stories! Some of them were gasp worthy! It feels good to vent, doesn't it? ☺️
So silly though! I was in the tww over nye and definitely had some champagne! My doctor didn't even ask me about it - her question was "have you had alcohol since you found out you were pregnant?"
It's funny how people hone in on the holiday drinking (I still find this so rude to point out to pregnant women) but what about the smoked salmon bagel and raw meats I was nibbling on or other no nos we consumed? Again unknowingly, but I guess that's less taboo! @kajordan09 is right in suggesting we keep our distance. Pregnancy is hard enough; we certainly don't need a plate of snarky comments handed to us to boot!
Well I'm not a huge fan of his grandma never have been she is the type to say what she wants when she wants without thinking of anyone's feelings. I was obviously very pregnant at this point and we were over at her house visiting and she was talking about his brother getting too serious about a girl he was seeing in high school and said he was going to get her pregnant and ruin his life then looks over at me and said no offense Ashley like it was actually directed at me and I ruined his life. When she tells story's to my kids about my husband she always starts it this was before you were a nightmare in your daddy eyes (instead of before you were a twinkle in your daddy's eyes like normal people say).
Oh and of course this is our third, we will have 3 all ages 3 and under. So I get the you guys were busy with a wink gross comments and also the haven't you guys heard of birth control or someone needs to get fixed are you getting your tubes tied after this??? First off that is rude on so many levels my kids never need or want for anything so screw you. And how is that any of your business whether I'm getting my tubes tied. I am but that is because we both wanted 3 this is our third we are done not because I think we have to many or because I don't know how to use birth control. People these days just don't have a filter and will say anything and not think of who they will hurt. My kids are to young to understand the things his grandma say for now but they won't be forever and that makes me so mad!