I registered and target and babies are us it was where ppl could easily see it on the baby shower invite and Yep very few people went off it for the shower . Why bother registering if people are just going to get what they think you need! Sorry I'm venting .. Can't vent anywhere else because I don't want to seem ungrateful because I do appreciate what they took out the time to buy . I just wish they got stuff off my registeries instead of just buying clothes . I'm done now lol
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Either way, a registry is a list of suggested items and you really don't sound very appreciative! You will still get a completion discount and have a list of what you still need to buy, so it wasn't a waste of time.
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You DO sound ungrateful.
I can understand your frustration because a registry takes a while to put together. But no one HAD to buy you anything.
I hope you come to peace with this soon.
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Gift grabby? no. I just don't see the logic in setting up a registry to inform people of things you NEED and desire for them to turn around and spend $30 on 4 pink onsies. Am I grateful for them showing support? Absolutely. But it's frustrating when people are constantly calling, emailing, texting, and asking, "Where are you registered?" But hey, that's just my own personal opinion. :-)
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I completely understand the other pp about her mom. Think about it. People have asked me one million times about a shower (I didn't want to do one because I'm not working and we didn't want someone else to have to pay for it). But because even my husband is getting asked, we said we would combine it with our house warming. I didn't go running up to folk being them to come to a shower and clearly we want to take care of our own child. But, if I pay $300 to have a shower, that's $300 not going to my child. The least I can hope is if you ask me where I am registered, I tell you or you read it on the invite, you will actually heed it. Pampers.and stuff are not cheap, so having people get things you don't need, you still have to get things you need and more you (or someone) is out of a lot of money...It is upsetting.
AGAIN...BABY SHOWERS ARE FOR GIFTS (HENCE THE NAME BABY SHOWER...I.E. SHOWER YOU WITH THINGS YOU NEED FOR THE BABY). I don't need 12 pink frilly dresses in size 0- 3 months. Sad part is, it will mainly be other mothers doing it add if they don't get what you really need. So no you don't sound ungrateful, you sound frustrated because you still have everything you have to get and plenty you can't use.
Oh dear!
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You will get a discount from the store to complete your registry and people may buy an item off of the registry when the baby is born. So making a registry is not totally pointless.
Just warning you, people may bring you and the baby a gift when the baby is born, something you didn't ask for, but just as a welcome our congratulations. Try not to be disappointed.
Be grateful. Many people don't have loved ones to throw showers for them. Be happy people didn't know that all you cared about were registry gifts so that they actually came to honor and spend time with you.
As far as throwing your own shower...who the hell cares what you think is tacky? Were you invited? Nope! And trust I still have people emailing and texting that they can't wait to come. Don't have one, makes me nor the op, no never-mind. But, if I spend the money because people ask me to, I would APPRECIATE registry items. I registered for pampers, wipes, onsies and bottle supplies. I plan to get her clothes in bulk from EBay (my last child outgrew everything and I still had tags on half his clothes...that's a waste of money). Will I smile and say thank you for the 10 blankets...sure (as I'm sure the op did), but I will also regret spending the money for the shower as that could have gone towards pampers, wipes, onsies and bottle supplies no one got (btw getting a discount doesn't equal free so we still have to purchase those items). People who genuinely want to give you a gift, would do it without a shower, so miss me with that motherhood party crap. Y'all love making up stuff to look right!
"It takes a village to raise baby"
Not "it takes a village to provide for my baby"
I don't think i could ever leave the important stuff late enough to be given as shower gifts... Not that we have registries for showers here, but i don't think i'd use it! All i anticipate is clothing to be honest, and a lot of towels and blankets from what my MIL said haha
I can understand being disappointed if you wanted/ needed x but got y instead, but a lot of people wont be able to afford more than clothes or misc stuff anyway, id just appreciate the gesture ;p
Plus surprise gifts are fun!
I'd like to have a shower just to celebrate the baby, gifts or no... It's a nice social gathering of friends and family.
Why would you NEED to spend $300 on a shower? I wouldn't spend that, nor expect my host to spend that! (And none of my guests would expect that much spent on a shower either)
You can do invites, get finger food, make some cupcakes and come up with some games for under $50. About the same cost of hosting any other event really.
Just like everything else, it's a matter of budgeting and not inviting every person under the sun.
Nobody "needs" a motherhood shower, just like nobody "needs" a baby shower. If a loved one offers to throw you one and you don't want one, simply decline! Or as a few entitled ones one here have written- be honest to your hostess and just ask them for the cash they would have spent instead. I believe the phase "it takes a village to raise a child" does not mean, "it takes a village to buy my child a bunch of crap that I don't want to buy myself". Most likely, friends and family will still buy you gifts anyways, without a shower. If they don't- suck it up and buy it yourself like an adult, geez. And I don't know what is so hard about exchanging un-needed items.
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Whatever you decide to do, baby showers are not charity events. It is not your friends' and family's responsibility to provide for your child. A registry is a list of suggested items, not demands. So what if people asked where you were registered? Simply inquiring doesn't mean they are required to make a purchase. So what if people ask if you are having a shower? That doesn't mean you have to have one, nor should you be hosting it yourself. Maybe your friends are just looking for free cake, sounds like you don't have a problem asking your nearest and dearest to open up their wallet. Perhaps they are tired of having to 'shower' you with gifts, this isn't your first child after all!
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My registry consists of things that I (and I do stress "I") need to buy. Most are big ticket items, and items that I would never expect others to purchase for me. It is a way for me to keep track, goodness knows I have been forgetting lots lately.
It would never cross my mind to buy someone baby wipes or pampers. Really? Something that is going to end up in the garbage.
Maybe it is that I am AMA, or that my mother raised me to be appreciative and gracious, but I am astounded by the entitlement of some of you.