My grandfather passed today

MrsJMendez · February 2015

My grandfather had a stoke this past Halloween. We thought he was going to be better soon, but today he stopped breathing. Im trying to be strong for my mom and stay calm for my baby. Should i keep staying calm or should i let my emotions go? Im 9 weeks and a day.

My mom is a wreck. He was so excited that I was having my first child. I have the teddy bear he gave my mom when she was in labor with me. I will take it to the hospital when my baby comes.

jen83mn · February 2015

I'm so sorry to hear that

There is nothing wrong with a good cry and you're not going to hurt the baby by allowing yourself to grieve. Trying to be strong is probably going to give you more pent-up stress than anything, so I would give yourself time to grieve. I lost my favorite grandpa when I was only 13 and know how tough it is (I also have the teddy bear he gave me as a baby). Thinking about you!

kjjellybean · February 2015

So sorry for your loss. Eventually your emotions will get the best of you if you chose to bottle them up. Do what feels right. If you need a good cry then go ahead. Your mom will pull through even if you have a weak moment.

Cupcakequeen1000 · February 2015

I am so sorry for your loss ! I wouldn't keep it bottled up for to long. Maybe confide in a close friend one you can breakdown and just let it all out to, so you can stay strong for your mom at the same time. The teddy bear is so sweet i am glad you have something so special from him to your sweet little baby!

tigerfish227 · February 2015

I unexpectedly lost one of my grandpas last May and it was incredibly hard to hold myself together not pregnant. I can't imagine trying to do it now. Holding in emotions like that and bottling things up is not healthy. Please allow yourself to grieve. I'm sorry for your loss and I'm sure your grandpa would have loved to meet your little one but at least he got to know that you will be having one. My grandfather took great joy in his grandchildren and great grandchildren and it sounds like yours did too. Maybe you could pass that little teddy bear on to your baby so that he/she can have a special token to know that your grandpa would have loved him/her very much if he could still be here. My heart goes out to you and your family. Let yourself cry. Let yourself grieve. If you need someone to talk to, we are here for you.

You can PM me if you want. I found that it helps me to talk about my grandpa. It keeps his memory alive to me. Maybe it will help you too?

mrscate88 · February 2015

I'm very sorry for your loss and wish I had words to ease your pain. Cry if you need to cry, take time to grieve, and lean on your family for support. We're here as well if you need someone to listen. Take care of yourself

v1wwo · February 2015

I am so sorry for your loss.

I just had a loss of my own last week and let me tell you that it is better to cry then to keep it in you. It is really hard and you need time so let yourself have that time. Do not fear your little baby will be fine. It's a tough little person.

You may pm me as well if you need someone to talk to.

GingerPop79 · February 2015

I am so sorry for your loss. I think it is much better to let your emotions go rather then keeping them bottled up.

Izzies · February 2015

I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

WDDCH · February 2015

I am so very sorry for your loss. Do not try to keep it together. Allow yourself to grieve. My mom died when I was pregnant with my first, just two weeks after I got married (I was about 8 weeks pregnant when we got married). Bottling it up, IMO, is worse than letting it go. I don't believe my daughter suffered because I grieved my mom. I HTH and again, so sorry for your loss.

rablissful · February 2015

So sorry for your loss! As other posters have said, definitely allow yourself to grieve.

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jenybats · February 2015

I am so sorry about your Grandpa, I know exactly how you feel right now take your time to be sad, but also use all of the good memories to cheer you up. You will have good days and you will have days where you just have to cry! Let it all happen!

My Grandfather passed away recently and our little babes is due on his Birthday. I think it's a sign and I really hope baby makes an appearance for him that day.

vjlanier · February 2015

I got my positive pregnancy test results the morning before my grandfathers funeral so I understand where you are coming from. I didn't have all the hormones just yet like I do now but I did my fair share of crying. I also just lost a very close family friend (well he would have been a father-in-law if things had of went differently in HS). I cried like a baby! Let it go, grieve how you need to. God made us strong enough for child birth and he wouldn't put more on us that we can not handle.

1 Cor. 10:13 says: "But God is faithful, and he will not let YOU be tempted beyond what YOU can bear, but along with the temptation he will also make the way out in order for YOU to be able to endure it."

I'll keep your family in my prayers!

WheresTheGlow · February 2015

I am very sorry for your loss

dmbfan46835 · February 2015

I am so sorry! Nothing replaces a grandparent. They are the most amazing people and I am so sorry he won't get to see his great grand child in person. I hope you find some peace for you and the baby and can get through this.

ScoutLiberty11 · February 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss, my Grammy passed away in June and it's a sad time for sure. Thinking of you and your family.

megans35 · February 2015

Hugs! My grandmother just passed February 5th. I was just turning 7 weeks I don't think I had all my hormones yet. Flying to her funeral March 6th......I feel bad for my other family members, I'm sure I'll be a weeping mess, I'm not normally like that I'm blaming hormones!

pandora794 · February 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss. My advice, to grieve and not hold it in - and to spend as much time as possible with your family - the good memories you share will ease much of the pain.

Ali+Cee · February 2015

I am so sorry for your loss! Hang in there♡

MrsJMendez · February 2015

Thank you everyone. He was a perfect example of how to be a good person. He loved children. Even though he couldn't talk at the end, he smiled when he was told im pregnant. My uncle wrote a beautiful eulogy. He was talking about the circle of life, how he passed and i will bring a new life.

Shundiec · February 2015

Very sorry for your loss.

tattoosnpearls30 · February 2015

My heart goes out to you, I lost my grandfather tHe day after I found out I was pregnant..I never got to tell him.. I'm right with you, but they are watching us

insomniack17 · February 2015

So sorry for your loss. It is healthy to cry. Cry and grieve as much as you want. Just remember to drink fluids to replenish yourself, eat a healthy snack, take a deep breath and tell yourself, "for every death comes new life" and you dear, are creating that new life! Have a great rest of the day and we all wish you the best!