Definitely let the nurses be your guard dogs and don't allow your name on the visitor list, so no one will be able to find you without permission. I didn't have any visitors at all until the second day with my first because I wanted to bond and breastfeed and relax as much as I could. That's HEALTHY and best for you and your baby, not selfish. And then we only allowed immediate family for short visits, no young children. Another really good reason to limit visitors is the threat of pertussis (don't even get me started on measles!). The CDC is now recommending that everyone who holds your newborn have a current pertussis vaccine. The protection from this vaccine begins to decline at the 2 year mark, so this is basically EVERYONE. We introduced our first to extended family and friends after she got her 8 week vaccines. For our second baby, we are going with the stance of get a shot a month before, or no touching at all. Family politics are tough, hang in there and good luck!
Thank you SO MUCH for sharing the pertussis info! I had no idea.
I think just during the flu season or if some other bug is going around. It's not at the hospital that I'm going to go my coworker had a grandchild there and told me about it.
I know that my daughter was born in October and even with it being flu season her sibling was allowed to come and visit, though other people were not allowed to bring their children, which we were 100% fine with!!! lol
Who cares if you are being selfish? It's your hospital room!!! It sounds like you'd be more comfortable inviting immediate family when you're ready to see them. Everyone else can come to the house once your chill. This is your delivery, your baby, you family. Do what feels right for you guys.
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