Adoption

onegoodthing · February 2015

i know this might be controversial but I do need help and guidance. I am pregnant but cannot raise this baby. I have opted for adoption instead of abortion, but I have no idea how to find an adoption agency to work with that is legit. Anyone have any words of wisdom?

jendee85 · February 2015

Try asking your midwife at your next appointment, or phone the local hospital or your local/town council. That's all the advice I have though, sorry. And hope everything goes well for both if you! x

porchial · February 2015

that's a very noble decision. best of luck

carpetmatchesdrapes · February 2015

Google? Hospital? Doctors office? Just ideas! Best of luck. You're a very special person for choosing adoption.

swads2008 · February 2015

You really are going to make someone so happy by giving them something they can't have. My brother and sister in law have been waiting for a call for 1 1/2 now. Incredible couple. It is through a Christian adoption agency in Indiana. I know it's a ways away but if at all interested let me know. They are praying so hard daily for a sweet baby to come into their lives.

oliviabeare · February 2015

Alot of states have an organization called catholic charities. I would definitely try to find a private adoption agency though so you can choose your babies parents. What state are you in? I have a lot of contacts in the foster care world that goes hand in hand with adoption world.

kaylaef · February 2015

Not controversial. very admirable. I have no suggestions, but wanted to express my respect for your decision.

estarz · February 2015

Lutheran Social Services is another reputable organization that handles adoptions. I would check them out-I know they are national.

KYmama9286 · February 2015

Google crisis pregnancy centers in your area- I was a counselor at one near my house and I worked with a lot of moms on adoption plans. Those agencies will help you get connected with the right people to help you move forward with your adoption plan.

Choosing adoption is nothing to be shamed or embarassed of, it shows you are making the most loving step for your baby in choosing a life that will be best for baby, even if it's hard and emotional for you.

KYmama9286 · February 2015

This is a good site to start with, just click on your state for a list-

https://www.lifecall.org/cpc/kentucky.html

megewy · February 2015

A lot of hospitals and Ob's have someone they work through for adoptions. You aren't required to use their options but that would be a good start

cjstats87 · February 2015

No advice on where to find an agency...but way to go! You are an amazing mom for your choice and will be fulfilling someone else's dreams! You have a heart of gold and be proud of the decision you are making.

Cupcakequeen1000 · February 2015

There are some agencies that let YOU pick the parents. And even get to bond/ getting to know the parents while your pregnant and giving you the choice of an open or closed adoption. I think thats pretty awesome and i am proud of you to do something so selfless for someone else. I would contact local children services or a pregnant womans support group they should be able to give you more information

jessababyphoto · February 2015

swads2008 said:
You really are going to make someone so happy by giving them something they can't have. My brother and sister in law have been waiting for a call for 1 1/2 now. Incredible couple. It is through a Christian adoption agency in Indiana. I know it's a ways away but if at all interested let me know. They are praying so hard daily for a sweet baby to come into their lives.

How neat would it be if they could adopt this baby. Like a love story!

musicmomma00 · February 2015

You should be so proud of yourself for making this brave decision! I know that wasn't easy. You are going to impact so many lives through your selflessness!

PregNancyClark · February 2015

I could cry! What an awesome thing to do! You are changing lives forever in a powerful way! For the rest of your life, too! Whenever you have a rough moment or someone isn't treating you the way you deserve at work or whatever - you can remember your selfless choice and know that you completely rule. I don't know you, but I'm so proud of you.

bracybabies · February 2015

I was adopted, and it was arranged privately with a lawyer as my parents (the ones who adopted me) knew the parents of my birth mother. It's a wonderful thing you are doing. I'd look up local adoption help in your area like they stated- Google or through your hospital or local churches even.

mkf519 · February 2015

https://www.adoptionhelp.org

Check them out

bpv101283 · February 2015

I don't have any information, but I want to commend you on your bravery and selflessness. You are a wonderful person to consider this option.

WDDCH · February 2015

I think everyone else has mentioned plenty of places to find a reputable adoption agency. I just wanted to say that what you're doing is beautiful and so selfless. Thank you for giving your baby a chance.

GingerPop79 · February 2015

I do not have any advice, but I also wanted to express what a commendable and brave decision you have made.

onegoodthing · February 2015

I'm out in Arizona.

onegoodthing · February 2015

Wow all the kind words just floor me. I was afraid to ask. Afraid to be judged. But it is such a hard decision. I have two boys, ages 4&6 (different dad). I cannot be a single mother to three. Also this baby's dad wants absolutely nothing to do with it. I couldn't bring myself to have an abortion. I am just hoping I find the right couple. I just know that giving this baby a chance to experience life is a thing I need to do. My screen name, onegoodthing, is exactly about this situation. A bad situation with one good thing. Changing the lives of other people. It's what's keeping me going. I figure my life is already changed forever, I would love the opportunity to change someone else's life as well.

cakes27 · February 2015

You are doing a truely amazing thing!

My parents adopted me and I am so thankful to my biological mother for making such a tough decision but the right decision for everyone involved. Kudos to you!!

I was adopted through the Boys and Girls Aid https://boysandgirlsaid.org/ though I'm sure your doctor/hospital could give you plenty of good options or a list of resources.

Good luck!!!!!!!

lcarp203 · February 2015

I have struggled with infertility for over three years and live in AZ.

During my journey I have become part of a group of ladies at an infertility support group based in AZ.

Here are a few of the places ladies have adopted through:
Adoption Law Network Center
RISE
Adoption Services of AZ

As someone who has struggled with infertility and actually got pregnant while we were trying to figure the next step in our journey I can tell you that you will make someone very happy. I personally have connected with many women on this journey that are just waiting for the call.

Good luck and God Bless!

tigerfish227 · February 2015

I have no advice but like some of the PPs I wanted to say that I am very proud of you for making the choice to give someone else the happiness of raising your child because for whatever reason they can't have one of their own. There are so many people in this world that have no concept of the absolute selfishness that it takes to get an abortion because they can't or won't raise the child while so many people out there can't have their own and would desperately like to be parents. I commend you for being a selfless person and recognizing that even tho you may not be able to give your child the life you would like them to have, that doesn't mean you're child has to die. Some lucky couple is going to be so overjoyed that they are going to have this opportunity. I have heard that it can be very difficult for some women to do what you are doing because of the bonding between a mother and child during pregnancy so I will be keeping you and your baby in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you find what you are looking for and I have faith that your baby will be very loved by whoever you choose to be his/her parents.

Just me being hormonal and emotional but this thread made me cry both happy and sad tears.

onegoodthing · February 2015

All you ladies are so sweet. I'm so happy to be in this birth month. I go for my first true appointment on the 3rd, I hope my doctor is supportive. I don't wanna have to find another haha. But I'm sure she will have some resources for me as well. Thanks again ladies

wifemomslp · February 2015

I am sorry but I don't know of any good resources for you but just wanted to let you know that I commend you for making what I know has to be a very difficult decision. You are amazingly strong and are doing such a wonderful thing. God bless you!

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