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July 2015 Moms
sprinkle or not to sprinkle?
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Re: sprinkle or not to sprinkle?
Way to many hormones going on in this thread but no point in name calling, or being rude to one another.
Take a deap breath ladies and remeber that what is need here is support and friendship. No one should have to worry about being bullied or hurt when coming here to ask a question or give an opinion.
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@kaylee918 You obviously are like 16 and have no idea what you are talking about so I'll let your stupidity slide.
I think at time when people feel strongly about a situation it is easy to be a tad snippy and not even realize how you are coming across to others. No one knows each other in real life, you cant see mannerisms when typing. It easy to think your opinion isnt rude even when 10 others see it that way.
All I am saying is everyone has an opinion, they arent always going to be the same, but no one should be made to feel bad for asking a question. It good to get others opinions, it is why we all ask questions.
Personally if I ask a question and have not posted much on a board and people start going hormone crazy, it leads me to not want to post anymore, and I think thw board has a great balance right now and dont want to see people who need to be here run off because adults are acting like children.
People were rude and thought it was funny and I have no patience for rude people who are rude just for fun.
Im raising 4 children another on the way. Im educated and not a young mom, and I would have "spanked my kids rearends" for acting like 90% of the woman who were posting on here!!
Calling someone stupid one time doesn't even sort of fit this description/definition.
Yeah that is part of the definition of bullying but calling someone stupid isn't bullying. Welcome to the Internet where you can't dictate how people speak to one another.
I just have to say something here. First of all if you scroll up to the top of the page you will see that I did give OP a constructive answer. Second yes, we were going back and forth, but the name calling was one sided and notice how when she started with that I stopped posting. Figured once you resort to name calling you have nothing to say worth reading. I certainly don't believe I was acting like a child as you seem to be insinuating, merely explaining why I don't think others should be responsible for providing what every baby 'deserves' as pp was trying to say. I just don't appreciate being lumped in with the other poster here, I decided to stop posting once the name calling started, decided not to take part in the name calling and also chose not to report her even though that would presumable be a violation.
If you don't want gifts then don't call it a shower/don't have a registery and spare yourself the massive side eye from people who are in your life and will judge the shit out of you for having a shower for every single child you have.
It drives me crazy when people say it's for the mom. That's like saying their 1st or 2nd or any other birthday parties are for mom, too. Guess you can only throw your kid one birthday party, because more than one is just gift grabby, right?
It's true that the onesies and toys and etc make it easier to be a mom, but that doesn't make those gifts FOR mom. I'm sure as hell not wearing those onesies or chewing on any rubber giraffe.
The whole etiquette of showers has always turned me off, and people always seem so snobby about it. It's the whole reason I'm terrified to even want a shower now with my first child, because God forbid I seem greedy or like I'm unable to provide for my child. Geez.
Sorry if I've upset some people who are into the whole etiquette thing.
I just don't understand how you could see it as anything but a birthday party. You're literally celebrating the birth of a child. Their first BIRTH day. You have the option to give this baby one of their first birthday gifts they'll ever get.
If I wanted stuff for myself at a baby shower, I'd put a new computer, an iPad, and. DSLR camera on my registry. Not obnoxiously loud toys i know I'll be sick of in -3 seconds
/rant I know I'm going to get crap for, but I'm too tired to care at this point.
Basically OP, do what you want. It's your baby, you can have a sprinkle if that would make you happy, and anyone who wants to celebrate this baby will be glad to join you. If you don't want one, don't feel bad telling your mom that. She'll understand, and can still buy lots of gifts for your baby girl! ❤️
I'm so damn tired, I doubt I'll even remember posting this comment in the morning. Damn these migraines.
But yeah, etiquette says tread lightly, I personally couldnt give a hoot about that kind of etiquette. (Obviously don't be greedy, but come on.)
Unfortunately there is etiquette for everything we do in life but you don't have to follow it of course.. Just be prepared for some funny looks if it's not something that is completely acceptable in your culture/circle of friends.
Some people argue every baby 'deserves' to celebrated, OK, but if that was the case wouldn't the guest of honor...the baby, in fact be in attendance? Making hosting a 'meet the baby' party after the baby comes appropriate, the purpose of the party is to meet the baby, people will probably bring gifts but that is not the intention of the party.
As I said in my post to the OP in some circles they have showers for STM+ moms if that is the case then I guess that's one thing. However, if you have to ask as OP is doing that seems to indicate that is not common in her circle and probably would be frowned upon.
And for the last time.. A baby shower does not celebrate your baby it celebrates YOU! YOU Are the guest of honor, YOU are opening the gifts and its your name on the invitation so stop acting like etiquette is a big meanie for not letting you "celebrate all your babies." It you want a party for your baby maybe they should at least be in attendance.
Amazingly I miss some of the old "meanies" who would have shut this conversation down a while ago.
::SIGH::
Just saying.
If I were you I would let her celebrate with you with a small party with diapers and other small items. Have fun
but to answer the posters question, it honestly doesn't matter what other people think, all that matters is what you think and you want, if you want another baby shower/sprinkle then have one, if you don't then don't, at the end of the day the ppl that matter most will be there..
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Some would argue if people don't like it they just don't have to show up, but it's not always that easy, due to social or family obligations it may not be so easy to just decline. Prime example, I remember when my cousin was getting married, their wedding date and the bride's due date were about a month and a half apart. In that time, the plan was for her to have her bridal shower, wedding and baby shower all in the span of about 50 days. Now in our circle you give a bridal shower gift along with a wedding gift, a baby shower gift along with a 'welcome home' baby gift when you go to meet the baby. So basically that's 4 gifts in about 2 months. I remember when I heard there was going to be a bridal shower I called my mom to complain and said I was considering not going to the bridal shower (also the bride's second marriage (she had had a bridal shower with her first marriage as well). My mom was like, "You should be there to support your cousin and your other cousins who are hosting it, etc" So out of guilt and a sense of family obligations I RSVP 'yes'. They ended up canceling the bridal shower in the end anyway because I was not the only one who felt that was a little over the top, it was actually the mother of the groom who was the most vocal and said, "You are asking too much of people." Anyway a long story to explain why it doesn't work to just say, "Those who don't like it don't have to come." because it's not always that simple. Was I annoyed at the time? Yes. Do I hold it against them? No. It didn't change my opinion or love for them, I just think they were not being very considerate of their guests.
Anyway, you have a nice way of explaining your side of things and I enjoyed chatting with you, but I think it's safe to say we are not going to agree on this one
Like I said before, my family does welcoming parties for me. My cousin has 8 years between her first and second child. We had a full on shower for her, with the family. It's simply what we do, for all babies. If your circle wants to do something for you, isn't it rude and a slap in the face to say no you don't want it? Or even go and act like an ungrateful ass to your closest circle of family and friends for doing something so thoughtful? Or maybe I'm one of those people trying to justify improper etiquette, I don't know and don't much care. I do think everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but I also encourage thinking outside the box. Not everyone's circle is the same. Personally, the OPs mom wants to Sprinkle her, I'm assuming it is not improper etiquette within their family.
And I wouldn't be so quick to assume that just because one person, her mother thinks it's proper etiquette with her family then it must be. Perfect example, my mother was hosting my baby shower in a hotel in downtown Chicago. Parking is outlandishly expansive and when I heard the proposed location I gently asked my mom to either choose a different location or make sure the hotel was willing to validate the guests' parking. She really and truly did not see a problem asking guests to pay $25 to park on top of their already generous gifts. To me that just seemed like it was asking too much. She fixed the problem and the guests were validated, but even after that she didn't see the big deal.