June 2015 Moms

Handicap parking??

sandreahsandreah member
edited February 2015 in June 2015 Moms
I was wondering if any of you ladies have ever had your doctor authorize a handicap parking card during your pregnancy?

I know that pregnancy is not considered a disability, but I attend a fashion design program at my college which requires me to lug 2 sewing machines, drafting supplies, a dress form, and a crap ton of other large items to and from class twice a week. The parking is outrageous and even taking 3 trips to my car each way is starting to take it's toll.

I go back to the doctor next week but was just wondering if anyone has ever had a card issued just during their pregnancy. Thanks!!

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  • laurendutchlaurendutch member
    edited February 2015
    A couple of my twin friend Moms asked for one when they hit the tail end of their pregnancies. Looking back, I wish I would have asked for one. Carrying twins to 38 weeks was excruciating, but it wasn't bad until the last month or so!
  • I'd ask your school for help. Maybe closer parking or help packing your things.
  • I would definitely seek out assistance from your school - just not necessarily a handicap space. Maybe a fellow student or two could help?

    As for mommy and expect and mommy spaces - I actually am a fan. Last pregnancy my son was pressing on a nerve for about the last 2 months - I tried physical therapy and other things to move him, but only delivery worked. When I had to walk far distances it was excruciating. And once the baby is born, it was helpful at the grocery store of doctors office to have a closer place to park - when I was allowed to drive but still recovering from a c-section.

  • That's a great idea @mamahawk12! I'd see if you can't park in front of the building long enough to unload, and possibly see if anyone would be willing to tote your things inside while you go park. Then vice versa after class. I also do not agree with taking handicap parking spaces from those who are truly handicapped. 
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  • My mother is truly handicapped and it is devastating when she needs a handicapped spot and they are all taken... I have the same beef with using the handicapped restroom and not being handicapped when there are other stalls available. Since you do have a complicated pregnancy I do think talking to the school is a great idea like what @mamahawk12‌ suggested. I don't doubt you need help, but it is devastating for a handicapped person to not have a spot...
  • SportzchckSportzchck member
    edited February 2015

    EDITED: In California you are considered handicapped for your second and third trimesters If you have a medical need and a doctor's signed approval and can get a temporary pass. I try not to use it unless I am at my office where I cannot get out of the parking spots when a car is parked next to mine because the spaces are sooo small.

  • SportzchckSportzchck member
    edited February 2015

    @allrightmeow I agree with you. This is how my company told me to handle the parking situation at work though. I only use mine there. 

  • The symptoms that OP describes sound like a handicap to me. I have pretty painful scoliosis but thankfully not like she describes (yet?). And belly pains in a high risk pregnancy must be terrifying.

    Like PPs, I also have a paralyzed family member and other family members with legitimate passes/need for those spots... Would be curious though to hear from someone with a disability (or who is differently abled, however you prefer to term it), as I wonder if those of us who are pregnant and feeling good are perhaps pretty protective of our friends and family who need those spaces way more than we do (and more than most of the jack a$$es who often steal those spots!). I am often livid on behalf of my wheelchair-bound uncle, and he often just tells me to calm down. But that's only my personal experience, so just wondering aloud, not judging.

    Good luck to OP. Hope your pain eases, you find a solution, and you have a healthy pregnancy and babe.
  • I don't have a problem with a pregnant or elderly person getting a handicap pass, assuming there are ample handicap spots available. I'm assuming at your school there are. I park pretty far away at work. In Chicago, the temp is a few degrees above 0, -20 with windchill. I'm fine walking in each day but I'm having pains on my way home each day. It kind of feels like contractions. I guess it's just the shock of the cold but it scares me. Being pregnant clearly isn't a handicap but it is a medical condition that may require special treatment in special situations.
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  • @allrightmeow I agree with you. This is how my company told me to handle the parking situation at work though. I only use mine there. 

    My side eye is for the state of California just passing out passes like Babies R Us goodie bags.  

    @amark11  My friend for sure hates it.  Because of his injury he has to drive a van with automated seats to get into and out of his chair.  He has confronted people and he has had the cars of people who abuse the spaces towed.  
  • @allrightmeow‌ Of course he hates it! So does my uncle, when the pass seems invalid or is completely missing (he is a lawyer and just parks on a sidewalk or wherever and dares the city to ticket him... But that's a whole other thread!). Every decent human being should hate that situation. I'm just wondering if you read your friend a story about a woman with a high-risk pregnancy, having belly pains and back spasms so bad that she can't sit, if that is really the person who would get the side eye. But even my question suggests people with disabilities would share the same opinion on the topic, which is offensively untrue.

    All I'm saying is this isn't an inquiry as if pregnancy itself is a disability. And while I share the instinct to get defensive about handicap spaces, and love that the thoughtful folks on this board share my opinion on that, I do think OP is unfairly criticized here for her pretty sensitive, thoughtful question in what sounds like a horrible situation for her.

    Internet posts are hard to read for tone. Not trying to argue or do anything here but engage in thoughtful consideration of the entire circumstance. I like making myself think through all angles of moral issues like this and have found myself more willing to give people the benefit of the doubt, or at least to consider alternative perspectives, since becoming pregnant.
  • I've never heard of a pregnant woman being issued a disabled parking pass in my community (however, this doesn't mean that it doesn't happen). As such, I'm not sure how I feel about that. I just wanted to chime in on the "Pregnant/Mom+Baby" desginated spots. 

    I'm not sure where those ladies who are hatin' on them are from, or whether or not you are FTMs (I suspect you might be). But until you've had a c-section in the middle of March and are trying to waddle you tired, sore, swollen butt from the parking lot to the doctor's office/grocery store/pharmacy/etc. with you precious little bundle of joy in a -30 celcius (-20 fahrenheit) snow storm, don't even. If you'd still elect to walk from the back of the lot *slow clap* for you, you are truly magical. 
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  • I just catch a ride anywhere I can. I'm lucky enough to live close to work so DH can walk me to the car and drop me at the door. It's not that I'm lazy, I've just taken two too many falls this pregnancy and no one around here knows how to salt (yay for apartment living.
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    @allrightmeow‌ Of course he hates it! So does my uncle, when the pass seems invalid or is completely missing (he is a lawyer and just parks on a sidewalk or wherever and dares the city to ticket him... But that's a whole other thread!). Every decent human being should hate that situation. I'm just wondering if you read your friend a story about a woman with a high-risk pregnancy, having belly pains and back spasms so bad that she can't sit, if that is really the person who would get the side eye. But even my question suggests people with disabilities would share the same opinion on the topic, which is offensively untrue. All I'm saying is this isn't an inquiry as if pregnancy itself is a disability. And while I share the instinct to get defensive about handicap spaces, and love that the thoughtful folks on this board share my opinion on that, I do think OP is unfairly criticized here for her pretty sensitive, thoughtful question in what sounds like a horrible situation for her. Internet posts are hard to read for tone. Not trying to argue or do anything here but engage in thoughtful consideration of the entire circumstance. I like making myself think through all angles of moral issues like this and have found myself more willing to give people the benefit of the doubt, or at least to consider alternative perspectives, since becoming pregnant.
    Nope that does not get a side eye.  Our sideeye is for Cali's apparent blanket policy of giving one to all women who ask just because they are in the 2nd/3rd trip of their pregnancies.  That's just an invitation to abuse those spaces.  Im completely and totally sympathic to OPs situation.  Trust me.  I'm in the OP should talk to her school about helping to get something better set up for her camp.  From what she said she'd still be having to make multiple trips to her car to retrieve all her materials.  I hope there is something they can do to eliminate her having to do that.  
  • @allrightmeow I should clarify my original statement. Your doctor still needs to approve a requesting need in California, like those of the OP. You can't just walk into a DMV and get one. There needs to be a valid reason. Sorry if it was misleading. I was just trying to say that there are procedures in place in California for a pregnant mother starting in her second trimester if there is a medical need.
  • Thank you for sharing this. I'm sorry for what you are going through. You make very important, valid points and I will keep your story in mind and check my behavior. 99 times out of a hundred, less judgment is usually the better response. A lesson I am learning and relearning.
  • It sounds like your situation really sucks. I do think it's a bit ridiculous to try to get a handicap pass though.
    My mother has been paralyzed since I was a year and a half old. I can say for her, that she needs the handicap spot because they are larger, not closer to the entrance. This allows her to open her door all the way and put her wheelchair together or take it apart and get in and out of the car.
    You really should talk to your school before you take the route of getting a handicap pass. They could be accomodating. Or, ask someone in your class for help. Maybe you could trade picking them up for class for them to carry everything in? There are other options to consider before you try to get a pass.
  • This could be a good opportunity for you to practice with your stroller, you can load up your stuff and push it to class ;)
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