How do you make it through the day?!

devyns2nd · February 2015

Thats exactly my point. Just because i stay home and another works doesn't mean I or any other mom is less tired. The "I have a job how dare you complain" crap is just that, it's crap! No one asked for that battle. she even gave working moms props. She didn't break her day down like I did so it was easy for some to assume she was whiney when really she wasn't.

We are all going to have sweet new babies around June and we are all dealing with that change differently. I personally feel exhausted and overwhelmed and dare I say over worked. I'm happy about it though.

My MIL is currently cooking for my XL family because my body was just to tired today!

KaLikeAWind · February 2015

MrsWiggleWaggle said:
SO PLEASE STOP BEING ASSHOLES TO EACH OTHER!

Just, this.

dkleid · February 2015

rrcameron21 said:

Not putting anyone down, just being honest. If you don't like my answers then don't read them. Sorry that I am real and don't reply to everything with Rainbows and glitter.
Well you pretty much responded with a list of all the stuff you do. That's not really helpful that's just an attempt to make OP feel bad about herself. Not everyone is superwoman and we all need support sometimes.

That's what she has a husband for...support... not internet strangers. Sorry but if its really that difficult to do light chores around the house and to take the kids to school without being exhausted then maybe OP needs to see a doctor about her Iron level. I never said that I was superwoman, but come on. IF you sleep all day you are going to be more tired. Studies have shown that, get up and get moving and you will get your energy level back. But just wishing for it to come back isn't going to work. You need to get moving for it to come back.

Ncoleman9 · February 2015

@dkleid‌ normally I don't comment I just read and like and keep scrolling, but I need to say this.... First off if you so busy like you say you show do have the time to sit up and write pages to a person and if you so busy you show have the time to be on this site.... Seems to me you unhappy with yourself misery loves company!!

dkleid · February 2015

Ncoleman9 said:

@dkleid‌ normally I don't comment I just read and like and keep scrolling, but I need to say this.... First off if you so busy like you say you show do have the time to sit up and write pages to a person and if you so busy you show have the time to be on this site.... Seems to me you unhappy with yourself misery loves company!!

I am actually very happy, but I personally don't feel sorry for someone who is looking to compliments and roses. Am I busy?? Sure as hell am, but it is how I choose to live my life. I have time to take 2 minutes out of my work day to write a post. No one goes to work and actually works for 8 hours straight. Anyone who says that they do is full of shit. I am also not writing pages, you do not know how long it takes me to type a 10 line response to anything. It is probably a good thing you do not comment on a lot of things, it would be very hard to understand.

finchfeeder80 · February 2015

I don't think that the crux of what @dkleid was saying was to start working vs stay at home mom wars. The point is, no matter what, we're all pregnant and exhausted but most of us are just sucking it up and getting our shit done without going online and whingeing about it. It's part of being an adult. You do your day's tasks to the best of your ability, rest when you can, get up and do it all over again.

And it is so true, activity begets energy. You just have to force yourself up and moving (again, part of being a functional adult). A body in motion stays in motion. I am much more exhausted on the days I don't get up and work out first, no matter what I have going on the rest of the day, be it a work day or a weekend day. We all just put our big girl panties on, suck it up, slap a little extra concealer on those under eye circles and get moving.

twinky0915 · February 2015

Well said @finchfeeder80‌

Nikelizabeth · February 2015

@dkleid‌ when did I ever state that I sleep all day every day? Luckily last weekend my husband was kind enough to take over and let my pregnant body rest. Other than that Im moving constantly, my spotlessly clean house does not clean itself while my kids are at school and errands to not get done on their own. You are ridiculous and I can't believe you're still on here defending your initial rude comment. If you thought I slept all day everyday and had no energy, you could have simply said something about my iron.

dkleid · February 2015

Nikelizabeth said:

@dkleid‌ when did I ever state that I sleep all day every day? Luckily last weekend my husband was kind enough to take over and let my pregnant body rest. Other than that Im moving constantly, my spotlessly clean house does not clean itself while my kids are at school and errands to not get done on their own. You are ridiculous and I can't believe you're still on here defending your initial rude comment. If you thought I slept all day everyday and had no energy, you could have simply said something about my iron.

If my comment was rude then so be it. You asked how people get through their day... I gave you details of how to get through the day. We all have to put our big girl panties on and go about our business. If you cant handle someone being honest then maybe you shouldn't be posting on the internet. Where people have the RIGHT to say whatever it is that they want to say. I'm sorry but welcome to the world of being an Adult where there are days that we want to stay in bed and not do anything, but that isn't possible. As a SAHM you do have that ability to take a nap in the middle of the day...us working moms don't. OH I'm sorry I forgot I am not allowed to call myself a mom yet because i don't have any HUMAN children. I forgot that cleaning up after pets and having them rely on you doesn't make you a parent it just makes you a farmer of some sorts.

Get over yourself. You asked for how people go about their day, don't like my response? Then don't read it and go about your day. But what one internet STRANGER has to say really shouldn't get you so hell bent.. If it does then I think you have other things to worry about.

Edited: Your husband should help out on the weekend. Ive never heard of a relationship lasting where 7/24/365 the wife has to do 100% of the responsibilities even on the weekends. Marriage is about being equals. He comes home from work or he is off on the weekends he should let you sleep in and relax. Making you do everything 7 days a week is kind of rude... You arent his slave, you are his equal, and with a baby on the way you should be requiring him to be doing more work for you. Sharing the responsibilities...Because you are his EQUAL not his slave or his subidorniate.

OnWayto3 · February 2015

There are so many friggin' variables about one another's lives that to make judgments is asinine. The OP said she's tired and then complimented moms who work outside the home. She wanted to know if anyone else is having the same difficulty. Responding with a litany of the 'great' things you do, about how you are so much better and she ought to just suck it up, seems to serve no purpose other than toot your own horn. No one needs to shove rainbows and glitter up the OP's butt, yet the tone of your response is that you're doing just that with yourself.

From what I can tell, the OP IS working-- she just isn't doing it according to your standards. As someone who works a full-time career outside of home, is single with two boys and no support, who volunteers in the community several times a week, and who is pregnant, I have no empathy for people who pull the holier-than-thou card.

All said, congrats to dkleid if your attempt was to get some controversy and 'life' into this board! Too bad if you really think your post was useful beyond that.

dkleid · February 2015

I am so mean wa wa wa. Welcome to the real world where everyone isn't praising you with roses and chocolates. Don't like my response...dont read them.

devyns2nd · February 2015

What's so ridiculous is that she wasn't whinging and she made it clear she keeps in motion and doesn't even get to sit. Exhaustion is a NORMAL pregnancy symptom. So if a person still suffers morning sickness or back aches we should "suck it up" right?! No, because I and many others could easily say, oh your back hurts? Try having herniated discs and nerve damage...we don't. The daily symptom board is not called the "whinging about normal pregnancy symptoms board"! It's hilarious because anyone who says suck it up here could easily get the same response when you state your symptoms anywhere else.

finchfeeder80 · February 2015

If this had been put in a daily symptoms thread, it probably would have been received without a blink of an eye. That's what the DST is for, to commiserate with other people, see that other people feel the same way, and maybe pick up a tip or two along the way. We're all exhausted, we don't all need our own special post about it.

devyns2nd · February 2015

Hmm that would have been more appropriate than "suck it up"!!! And yes OP the symptom board would be better placement and would help you avoid the "drama" or whatever all that shit is. just make sure to keep the whinging to a minimum

we are all exhausted.

dkleid · February 2015

devyns2nd said:

What's so ridiculous is that she wasn't whinging and she made it clear she keeps in motion and doesn't even get to sit. Exhaustion is a NORMAL pregnancy symptom. So if a person still suffers morning sickness or back aches we should "suck it up" right?! No, because I and many others could easily say, oh your back hurts? Try having herniated discs and nerve damage...we don't. The daily symptom board is not called the "whinging about normal pregnancy symptoms board"! It's hilarious because anyone who says suck it up here could easily get the same response when you state your symptoms anywhere else.

Hi welcome to the world of getting older and being pregnant.. That nerve damage thing...yeah I have it in my back as well. My L5 and S1 are grinding and have been for the past 6 years. Whats your point?? This wasn't posted on the Daily Symptoms Thread it was posted in its own AW thread... Again i repeat myself.. don't like my response... then don't turn to internet strangers for roses and chocolates. that's what your husband is for not us. Ehaustion is a very normal thing to deal with during pregnancy, but if you are so tired that it takes it all out of you to take the kids to school, then maybe you should talk to your Doctor about that because you shouldn't be tired beyond belief from getting in a car and driving for maybe 20 minutes in the morning and 20 minutes in the evening.

devyns2nd · February 2015

Haha the world of being pregnant isn't new to me and my point is exhaustion is a normal pregnancy symptom like back pain but, we wouldnt jump in and say "my back hurts worse because I have this"! It's pointless and pig headed!!!

Also driving kids to school isn't the only thing a SAHM does! like I said I had a full time job, a house, kids, and animals to tend to. Being a SAHM is just as hard.

... and I don't like you jumping in saying you do this and that like a person can't possibly be tired because they don't have a paying job and a rabbit. Its the internet remember I can disagree on what you wrote. If you dont like my response you can get over it

amhowell14 · February 2015

dkleid said:

Nikelizabeth said:

@dkleid‌ when did I ever state that I sleep all day every day? Luckily last weekend my husband was kind enough to take over and let my pregnant body rest. Other than that Im moving constantly, my spotlessly clean house does not clean itself while my kids are at school and errands to not get done on their own. You are ridiculous and I can't believe you're still on here defending your initial rude comment. If you thought I slept all day everyday and had no energy, you could have simply said something about my iron.

If my comment was rude then so be it. You asked how people get through their day... I gave you details of how to get through the day. We all have to put our big girl panties on and go about our business. If you cant handle someone being honest then maybe you shouldn't be posting on the internet. Where people have the RIGHT to say whatever it is that they want to say. I'm sorry but welcome to the world of being an Adult where there are days that we want to stay in bed and not do anything, but that isn't possible. As a SAHM you do have that ability to take a nap in the middle of the day...us working moms don't. OH I'm sorry I forgot I am not allowed to call myself a mom yet because i don't have any HUMAN children. I forgot that cleaning up after pets and having them rely on you doesn't make you a parent it just makes you a farmer of some sorts.

Get over yourself. You asked for how people go about their day, don't like my response? Then don't read it and go about your day. But what one internet STRANGER has to say really shouldn't get you so hell bent.. If it does then I think you have other things to worry about.

Edited: Your husband should help out on the weekend. Ive never heard of a relationship lasting where 7/24/365 the wife has to do 100% of the responsibilities even on the weekends. Marriage is about being equals. He comes home from work or he is off on the weekends he should let you sleep in and relax. Making you do everything 7 days a week is kind of rude... You arent his slave, you are his equal, and with a baby on the way you should be requiring him to be doing more work for you. Sharing the responsibilities...Because you are his EQUAL not his slave or his subidorniate.

Are you freakin serious with this shit? Now you're bringing her husband, and a bunch of BS into this convo? Slave? WTF? I'm done.

toodaloo · February 2015

OnWayto3 · February 2015

I am laughing my ass off right now! Why? Because Dear dkleid keeps saying that the OP shouldn't turn to the Internet with a bunch of strangers for support, yet that's EXACTLY what she does! Look at the history-- looking for support because mom is ill, because sister fell, because you have the flu and want your mom's support... Come on. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black.I hope no one is really taking her seriously here!

toodaloo · February 2015

HoosOnFirst · February 2015

My only two cents is that working moms might feel a little condescended to when a SAHM asks "how we do it". I'm gonna chalk the bad juju on this thread up to that. I had a daycare provider ask what I did that would require a 10/hr day coverage and I wanted to smack her. I know she meant it in a "wow I don't know how you do that" way, but it came across as her being out of touch with reality. So, I get the inclination to take these things the wrong way.

virginiaunicorn11 · February 2015

OnWayto3 said:
I am laughing my ass off right now! Why? Because Dear dkleid keeps saying that the OP shouldn't turn to the Internet with a bunch of strangers for support, yet that's EXACTLY what she does! Look at the history-- looking for support because mom is ill, because sister fell, because you have the flu and want your mom's support... Come on. Talk about the pot calling the kettle black.I hope no one is really taking her seriously here!

QFP. hilarious! @dkleid‌ since the tag didn't work before

JessHeppell · February 2015

im exhausted constantly. i work every single day and my apartment looks like shit. i rarely get to see my husband because of our work schedules, i envy the women who have office jobs and sit in chairs most of their shift. im on my feet for 8+ hours a day. im lucky to sit down for a collective 15 minutes. why? because my job is the place people go when they're too exhausted to cook for themselves/their families. yes the moving bodies stay in motion this is true. but only for so long. when its 9pm and time to clean up im ready to fall over and just sleep there.
creating a tiny human is exhausting, depression is exhausting, insomnia is exhausting, things are hard. we all deserve gold stars and some chocolate or a cookie. its no contest.

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