How do you make it through the day?!

Nikelizabeth · February 2015

I cannot seem to get any energy! I am 23 weeks pregnant and so far I haven't had any energy in the second trimester

This is my third baby so it's not what I was expecting! Luckily I am SAHM, but just the daily chores of the house and running to and from schools everyday completely drain me! I definitely tip my hat to working moms, I just don't know how you do it. If I could stay in bed all day I would, in fact, I did it all weekend while hubby was off! Please tell me how you manage! I have a 5 and 6 year old and as soon as I sit down they need something else.

I really wanted to enjoy this last pregnancy but all I can think is, Man I can't wait for him to come, but then I'll still be tired with waking up every two hours lol

jbatch · February 2015

I just keep moving. If I stop I will hate getting back up but if I keep moving I can keep myself distracted. I have been having some cramping though so I have had to slow down a bit.. But I work about 8-9 hours a day and then chase my almost 2 year old around until my husband gets home. Usually by the time he is home I make dinner then sit on the couch the rest of the night.. It is exhausting at times..

lilitaliangirl · February 2015

It is hard. I work full time and honestly find my energy level is better when I'm at work compared to when I'm home.

rklinge0 · February 2015

I still try to exercise a few days a week. Also I know I shouldn't admit this but caffeine. My energy is drained by my insomnia.

amhowell14 · February 2015

Caffeine gets me through the day, and I am not ashamed to admit it.

ngaines27 · February 2015

Same here! 3rd pregnancy and totally drained ALL THE TIME. I drink caffeine, but still can't hardly stay awake during the day. . Then when night comes, insomnia hits.

Jna0407 · February 2015

I'm a FTM and also 23 weeks pregnant. I have energy from the time I wake up until around 1 or 2 in the afternoon. I try my hardest to get everything done between those hours and nap for a short time in the afternoon. I go the gym in the morning but that just drains me for the rest of the day. I'm a nurse, so when I work I drag all day. The only nights I sleep through the night are those after work. I'm not sure there is any way to maintain energy other then to just keep powering through.

heidiiwa · February 2015

Maybe try motivating yourself with something you are interested instead of just doing chores. Errands and housework are not always very motivating. Try doing some crafts or hobbies or taking a walk during the day, with the kids too, for a change of scene. I work all day and sometimes I don't know how to get enough energy to get through it, but for me it makes a big difference if I'm interested in what I'm doing, and my midday walk outside really refreshes me.

frankengibbs · February 2015

amhowell14 said:
Caffeine gets me through the day, and I am not ashamed to admit it.

Coffee! Oh how I love coffee!

[Disclaimer: Ok, so as I'm writing this I literally have huge bags under my eyes and feel like I'm running on empty but here's what I do...]
I'm a FTM but as a nanny to a 3, 4 and 11 year old, wife to a hubby who works long hours at a blue-collar job and constantly needs laundry done and doesn't chip in much on the household chores, I feel your pain. I indulge in caffeine, nap when I get the rare chance, go for walks when I can (it's in the high 70s where I live so that's an option), and take the time to do things to me...sounds lame, but if I have something to look forward to, it keeps me going and sometimes exhausted sleep is the best for me.

gabriellamason93 · February 2015

I honestly just keep counting down the hours until bedtime and the weekend. I look after my 6yo brother 3.30pm-7pm Tuesday, Thursday, Friday then work from 9.30pm to 6am Friday-Tuesday it's getting hard to want to do household chores and I'm getting annoyed with myself for not being as able as I was 22weeks ago, but it's for a good cause so i'll just continue to plod along

klkonwi · February 2015

I was actually rested a bit this last Saturday at a friends baby shower and one of my friends said to me," man, you look tired." ......... Which usually means you look like crap!!!! I was very sad. Insomnia is real some nights but come on!!!

OnWayto3 · February 2015

I'm with you completely. I'm nearly 23 weeks and fatigue has really hit recently, much like the first trimester. I'm single, on baby #3 and do work outside the home... So in some regards it isn't surprising, yet I'm struggling to find motivation to move. I know some of it for me is Depression, though. Might it be for you as well? That can cause a serious lack of energy, especially if untreated .

canadianbride24 · February 2015

I am 22 weeks today, I work full time, my husband leaves for work before I do and is home after I get home. We have a four year old as well.

Its cold, winter sucks, I am tired. You do what you gotta do.

KaLikeAWind · February 2015

I have not had any energy this entire pregnancy. It's like it's the curse I get for otherwise having a very smooth pregnancy (no morning sickness, no nausea, just general aches and pains). I'm also older (above 35) so I tend to get tired easily anyways. When I need to do something I just suck it up and do it so I can get back to laying on the couch and napping as soon as possible.

toodaloo · February 2015

Yeah, right there with you. I have stayed in bed until lunch time more times than I should. I have to force myself to get out of bed sometimes. My advice, get up, open all the blinds, and force yourself to get ready for the day. Do your makeup and wear something that makes you feel like"yeah, I look good

." If you feel good about yourself, your energy may pick up. If you live somewhere where there is no snow, take the kiddos to the park after school. Get some fresh air/sun. Also have a friend that you can call that can help you get going. Maybe she brings your mood up or gets you out of the house. Just some suggestions:) Hope things get better for ya;)

Oh yeah...try making some fruit, veggie/kale smoothies. I have one every morning and they do wonders for bringing up your energy levels. All you need is a blender and search the net for a recipe you may like.

kerrymarie44 · February 2015

Starbucks lattes.

Nikelizabeth · February 2015

These are all great suggestions! I need a change of scenery and some sun, I live in Florida so I can't even use snow as an excuse

Nikelizabeth · February 2015

You working mommas rock, I wish I could function like you! Thanks and hope you all get some energy soon!

dkleid · February 2015

Nikelizabeth said:

I cannot seem to get any energy! I am 23 weeks pregnant and so far I haven't had any energy in the second trimester This is my third baby so it's not what I was expecting! Luckily I am SAHM, but just the daily chores of the house and running to and from schools everyday completely drain me! I definitely tip my hat to working moms, I just don't know how you do it. If I could stay in bed all day I would, in fact, I did it all weekend while hubby was off! Please tell me how you manage! I have a 5 and 6 year old and as soon as I sit down they need something else. I really wanted to enjoy this last pregnancy but all I can think is, Man I can't wait for him to come, but then I'll still be tired with waking up every two hours lol

Not gonna lie, i dont feel bad for you. Sorry if that comes off rude, but I work full time, im an advisor for a youth group (on average about 20 hours a week of my time between inperson, emails, phone calls, meetings and events) and I teach Sunday school. I also have a husband who leaves after I do but I still get up at 5:15 shower get ready walk the dog, make lunches, go to work (on average 45 hours a week) run 99% of the errands that need to be ran, come home cook dinner take care of the dog and the rabbit. Do the laundry, do light house work (we have a maid for the heavy stuff since im pregnant (24 weeks 3 days)), do the laundry. You get to stay in comfy clothes (probably most of the time). You have children, you deal with being tired. Its just a way of life. Do I have kids?? NO but my sister has a 2.5 year old and 1 month old twins. 99% of the time when I get home the dog gets taken for a good 45 minute walk (its currently 20 degrees here right now) and we are expecting another snow storm tonight. Drink a cup of coffee and do your chores. G-d I really wonder what would happen if you had to actually WORK and do everything around the house. Most nights I would like to come home and do nothing but that doesnt happen because something always has to be done. You have children, dont get pissed off when they needed something from you. As you stated you take the kids to school and pick them up...if you are really that tired take a nap during the day when they arent home...you obviously have the time.

amhowell14 · February 2015

dkleid said:

Nikelizabeth said:

I cannot seem to get any energy! I am 23 weeks pregnant and so far I haven't had any energy in the second trimester This is my third baby so it's not what I was expecting! Luckily I am SAHM, but just the daily chores of the house and running to and from schools everyday completely drain me! I definitely tip my hat to working moms, I just don't know how you do it. If I could stay in bed all day I would, in fact, I did it all weekend while hubby was off! Please tell me how you manage! I have a 5 and 6 year old and as soon as I sit down they need something else. I really wanted to enjoy this last pregnancy but all I can think is, Man I can't wait for him to come, but then I'll still be tired with waking up every two hours lol

Not gonna lie, i dont feel bad for you. Sorry if that comes off rude, but I work full time, im an advisor for a youth group (on average about 20 hours a week of my time between inperson, emails, phone calls, meetings and events) and I teach Sunday school. I also have a husband who leaves after I do but I still get up at 5:15 shower get ready walk the dog, make lunches, go to work (on average 45 hours a week) run 99% of the errands that need to be ran, come home cook dinner take care of the dog and the rabbit. Do the laundry, do light house work (we have a maid for the heavy stuff since im pregnant (24 weeks 3 days)), do the laundry. You get to stay in comfy clothes (probably most of the time). You have children, you deal with being tired. Its just a way of life. Do I have kids?? NO but my sister has a 2.5 year old and 1 month old twins. 99% of the time when I get home the dog gets taken for a good 45 minute walk (its currently 20 degrees here right now) and we are expecting another snow storm tonight. Drink a cup of coffee and do your chores. G-d I really wonder what would happen if you had to actually WORK and do everything around the house. Most nights I would like to come home and do nothing but that doesnt happen because something always has to be done. You have children, dont get pissed off when they needed something from you. As you stated you take the kids to school and pick them up...if you are really that tired take a nap during the day when they arent home...you obviously have the time.

Was it really necessary to be so freakin hateful? You don't have kids at home. You have a dog, rabbit AND a maid. You have no idea what it's like. Good lord, I can't wait until you're back here complaining how exhausted you are after taking care of your baby, and your various animals.

dkleid · February 2015

amhowell14 said:

Nikelizabeth said:

I cannot seem to get any energy! I am 23 weeks pregnant and so far I haven't had any energy in the second trimester This is my third baby so it's not what I was expecting! Luckily I am SAHM, but just the daily chores of the house and running to and from schools everyday completely drain me! I definitely tip my hat to working moms, I just don't know how you do it. If I could stay in bed all day I would, in fact, I did it all weekend while hubby was off! Please tell me how you manage! I have a 5 and 6 year old and as soon as I sit down they need something else. I really wanted to enjoy this last pregnancy but all I can think is, Man I can't wait for him to come, but then I'll still be tired with waking up every two hours lol

Not gonna lie, i dont feel bad for you. Sorry if that comes off rude, but I work full time, im an advisor for a youth group (on average about 20 hours a week of my time between inperson, emails, phone calls, meetings and events) and I teach Sunday school. I also have a husband who leaves after I do but I still get up at 5:15 shower get ready walk the dog, make lunches, go to work (on average 45 hours a week) run 99% of the errands that need to be ran, come home cook dinner take care of the dog and the rabbit. Do the laundry, do light house work (we have a maid for the heavy stuff since im pregnant (24 weeks 3 days)), do the laundry. You get to stay in comfy clothes (probably most of the time). You have children, you deal with being tired. Its just a way of life. Do I have kids?? NO but my sister has a 2.5 year old and 1 month old twins. 99% of the time when I get home the dog gets taken for a good 45 minute walk (its currently 20 degrees here right now) and we are expecting another snow storm tonight. Drink a cup of coffee and do your chores. G-d I really wonder what would happen if you had to actually WORK and do everything around the house. Most nights I would like to come home and do nothing but that doesnt happen because something always has to be done. You have children, dont get pissed off when they needed something from you. As you stated you take the kids to school and pick them up...if you are really that tired take a nap during the day when they arent home...you obviously have the time.
Was it really necessary to be so freakin hateful? You don't have kids at home. You have a dog, rabbit AND a maid. You have no idea what it's like. Good lord, I can't wait until you're back here complaining how exhausted you are after taking care of your baby, and your various animals.

Did you not see the part where i said I work a full time job (typically 45-50 hours a week) PLUS Do 90% of the house hold chores and 2 part time jobs?? Sorry but I'm not sorry. Do I have a maid your right I do, so that I don't have to be around the chemicals that could potentially HARM my unborn child. I also have a whole house to run because my husband works crazy hours. She sends her kids to school, do some of whatever it is she has to do, take a two hour nap, get up and finish it. I go to work, most days I'm out of the house from 7:30 am-6:30 pm, I run the errands that need to be run, come home cook dinner clean up around the house and then typically do some more work from home. Getting to bed around 11 pm, only to wake back up at 5:15 to do it all over again. I don't feel bad about a single word that I said. If it makes me a meanie because I'm real and not feeling sorry for someone, then I guess I'm a meanie. While I might not have any kids, once they go to bed you can clean up after them. I am sure they aren't up till 11 pm at night. A dog you can clean up his toys no matter how many times you want but 2 seconds later they are just going to be all over the house. Is it the same as a child NOT AT ALL. Never said it was. But the rest of us work and many of the women on here are working moms and have kids, and you don't see them complaining about making it through the day. Drink the 1 cup of coffee that you are allowed to have mid day (like most of us do) and get your stuff done. If are really that tired, try not laying in bed all day. Studies have shown that when you are ACTIVE you actually have more energy then when you aren' t.

Claire&Cub · February 2015

@amhowell14‌ Maybe you didn't read @dkleid's explanation and response to the OP. @dkleid‌ works full time, volunteers, has animals and takes care of light chores (as she stated, a maid is only for the heavy duty stuff). Reading her response was tiring in itself in comparison to, I'm a SAHM with 2 kids and one on the way HELP! BTW this is the internet, you cannot dictate the way people respond, @dkleid can respond as she pleases just as I am responding to you. I would hope that since you even have the gumption to say that her response was hateful that you work and volunteer as much as she does. We need more people in this world to volunteer, I don't find her response full of hate but rather full of KEEPIN IT REAL.

aliciac2008 · February 2015

It's not a competition to see who is the most tired. We are all effected by exhaustion differently and some can cope with it better than others.

dkleid · February 2015

Thank you @Claire&Cub for realizing that while it might of been mean to some it was just honest. Sure I have a maid. to help with the HEAVY Duty stuff. I'm sorry if you @amhowell14 aren't lucky enough to have one, but I work hard for my money and that's how i choose to spend it. It helps my body by not having to do anything crazy while im 6 months pregnant and helps the baby because she isn't around any of the toxic fumes. Welcome to the INTERNET where people can post whatever they want...you don't like what I have to say move along.

amhowell14 · February 2015

dkleid said:

amhowell14 said:

dkleid said:

Nikelizabeth said:

I cannot seem to get any energy! I am 23 weeks pregnant and so far I haven't had any energy in the second trimester This is my third baby so it's not what I was expecting! Luckily I am SAHM, but just the daily chores of the house and running to and from schools everyday completely drain me! I definitely tip my hat to working moms, I just don't know how you do it. If I could stay in bed all day I would, in fact, I did it all weekend while hubby was off! Please tell me how you manage! I have a 5 and 6 year old and as soon as I sit down they need something else. I really wanted to enjoy this last pregnancy but all I can think is, Man I can't wait for him to come, but then I'll still be tired with waking up every two hours lol

Not gonna lie, i dont feel bad for you. Sorry if that comes off rude, but I work full time, im an advisor for a youth group (on average about 20 hours a week of my time between inperson, emails, phone calls, meetings and events) and I teach Sunday school. I also have a husband who leaves after I do but I still get up at 5:15 shower get ready walk the dog, make lunches, go to work (on average 45 hours a week) run 99% of the errands that need to be ran, come home cook dinner take care of the dog and the rabbit. Do the laundry, do light house work (we have a maid for the heavy stuff since im pregnant (24 weeks 3 days)), do the laundry. You get to stay in comfy clothes (probably most of the time). You have children, you deal with being tired. Its just a way of life. Do I have kids?? NO but my sister has a 2.5 year old and 1 month old twins. 99% of the time when I get home the dog gets taken for a good 45 minute walk (its currently 20 degrees here right now) and we are expecting another snow storm tonight. Drink a cup of coffee and do your chores. G-d I really wonder what would happen if you had to actually WORK and do everything around the house. Most nights I would like to come home and do nothing but that doesnt happen because something always has to be done. You have children, dont get pissed off when they needed something from you. As you stated you take the kids to school and pick them up...if you are really that tired take a nap during the day when they arent home...you obviously have the time.
Was it really necessary to be so freakin hateful? You don't have kids at home. You have a dog, rabbit AND a maid. You have no idea what it's like. Good lord, I can't wait until you're back here complaining how exhausted you are after taking care of your baby, and your various animals.

Did you not see the part where i said I work a full time job (typically 45-50 hours a week) PLUS Do 90% of the house hold chores and 2 part time jobs?? Sorry but I'm not sorry. Do I have a maid your right I do, so that I don't have to be around the chemicals that could potentially HARM my unborn child. I also have a whole house to run because my husband works crazy hours. She sends her kids to school, do some of whatever it is she has to do, take a two hour nap, get up and finish it. I go to work, most days I'm out of the house from 7:30 am-6:30 pm, I run the errands that need to be run, come home cook dinner clean up around the house and then typically do some more work from home. Getting to bed around 11 pm, only to wake back up at 5:15 to do it all over again. I don't feel bad about a single word that I said. If it makes me a meanie because I'm real and not feeling sorry for someone, then I guess I'm a meanie. While I might not have any kids, once they go to bed you can clean up after them. I am sure they aren't up till 11 pm at night. A dog you can clean up his toys no matter how many times you want but 2 seconds later they are just going to be all over the house. Is it the same as a child NOT AT ALL. Never said it was. But the rest of us work and many of the women on here are working moms and have kids, and you don't see them complaining about making it through the day. Drink the 1 cup of coffee that you are allowed to have mid day (like most of us do) and get your stuff done. If are really that tired, try not laying in bed all day. Studies have shown that when you are ACTIVE you actually have more energy then when you aren' t.

Please. I'm sure OP didn't start the thread to get any sympathy votes. Who cares if she complained how tired she was. We're all tired. I'm a SAHM, I go to the gym every morning, and I'm very active. But I'm still exhausted. You're telling OP to suck it up, and you don't even have kids yet! That's great you work, and volunteer, and whatever else it is you do. Let's get you a gold star! But good lord, women are supposed to empower other women, not talk down to them because God forbid they are pregnant & exhausted.

dkleid · February 2015

Please. I'm sure OP didn't start the thread to get any sympathy votes. Who cares if she complained how tired she was. We're all tired. I'm a SAHM, I go to the gym every morning, and I'm very active. But I'm still exhausted. You're telling OP to suck it up, and you don't even have kids yet! That's great you work, and volunteer, and whatever else it is you do. Let's get you a gold star! But good lord, women are supposed to empower other women, not talk down to them because God forbid they are pregnant & exhausted.

NEWS FLASH I'm pregnant and exhausted as well. But that doesn't mean I complain about it to random internet strangers. We all have stuff to do. Get up and do it, and stop complaining. The time spent complaining could be used to get some of the stuff done... Do you want a cookie because you are a SAHM??? The volunteer for an all girls group, I do empower young women, and you know what when they sit there and tell me they are tired because they have school work to do and chores? I tell them good, its part of life. You have responsibilities to do and you are doing them. Your parents are instilling good morals in you that will come in handy down the road. So i'm not sorry if i offended you by being real and not all rainbows and lolly pops. But we all have challenges in our lives. You don't like it or don't want to do some of it, then get help. Until then Suck it up and do what you have to do.

rrcameron21 · February 2015

Clearly some people get through the day by putting others down

amhowell14 · February 2015

rrcameron21 said:
Clearly some people get through the day by putting others down

Totally agree!

dkleid · February 2015

Not putting anyone down, just being honest. If you don't like my answers then don't read them. Sorry that I am real and don't reply to everything with Rainbows and glitter.

Sammadden27 · February 2015

Wow this thread got all cray cray real fast.

Anyway....

My husband and I are in the process of selling our house and living with my parents while that's going on. We've both started new jobs. My new job requires me to be up at 1:30 AM. No matter what I do I can't get used to it. I find it hard to fall asleep when I need to. I bake all day which can be pretty physical. Without being pregnant it's very tiring.

I think we are all tired. I don't know how we are all gonna get through it.... But I think we just will!!

rrcameron21 · February 2015

dkleid said:
Not putting anyone down, just being honest. If you don't like my answers then don't read them. Sorry that I am real and don't reply to everything with Rainbows and glitter.

Well you pretty much responded with a list of all the stuff you do. That's not really helpful that's just an attempt to make OP feel bad about herself. Not everyone is superwoman and we all need support sometimes.

twinky0915 · February 2015

rrcameron21 said:

Not putting anyone down, just being honest. If you don't like my answers then don't read them. Sorry that I am real and don't reply to everything with Rainbows and glitter.
Well you pretty much responded with a list of all the stuff you do. That's not really helpful that's just an attempt to make OP feel bad about herself. Not everyone is superwoman and we all need support sometimes.

When I need support because of everything that I piled onto my plate, I turn to my husband and my family. Not Internet strangers that probably could care less about how busy my life is. How would you like us to empower a SAHM? Oh you got the kids to school on time? Here's a gold star!! Oh you put the dirty dishes in the dish washer? Pin a rose on your nose! She asked how we all manage, she was informed how most people manage, by sucking it up and getting things done and not staying in bed all day.

Nikelizabeth · February 2015

Wow I did not expect to see so much hate in this post! I clearly stated a couple of times that I tip my hat to working moms and don't know how you do it. But @dkleid‌ you're not a mom. I'm not a lazy mom that just doesn't do anything. I obviously take care of my children, starting my day at 5:30am. I do every single household chore because my husband works and that's the agreement. I cook dinner and do every single thing that has to do with the kids such as homework, baths, stories etc. I don't apologize for being a SAHM, I was simply wondering how some women make it through the day without getting exhausted because I'm clearly tired and needed ideas to switch things up. But thank you for the hate ms rabbit lady, I don't want you to feel bad for me. Thank you to the ladies that did stick up for me, I didn't know it was such a crime to be a tired mom!

twinky0915 · February 2015

@Nikelizabeth‌, so what you're saying is even though @dkleid‌ is pregnant, she's not a mom yet? Because that makes sense... And you probably wouldn't have received the response you got if your post didn't come off as whiney and seeking coddles and hair pats.

laurendutch · February 2015

Ladies...Welcome to the "Mommy Wars"! Better get used to it! If it's not SAHM vs Working Mom than its formula fed vs. breastfeeding or cloth diapering vs disposable diapers. And I can go on and on...

rrcameron21 · February 2015

twinky0915 said:

rrcameron21 said:

dkleid said:
Not putting anyone down, just being honest. If you don't like my answers then don't read them. Sorry that I am real and don't reply to everything with Rainbows and glitter.
Well you pretty much responded with a list of all the stuff you do. That's not really helpful that's just an attempt to make OP feel bad about herself. Not everyone is superwoman and we all need support sometimes.

When I need support because of everything that I piled onto my plate, I turn to my husband and my family. Not Internet strangers that probably could care less about how busy my life is. How would you like us to empower a SAHM? Oh you got the kids to school on time? Here's a gold star!! Oh you put the dirty dishes in the dish washer? Pin a rose on your nose!

She asked how we all manage, she was informed how most people manage, by sucking it up and getting things done and not staying in bed all day.

I'm just stating that her response was a giant list of all the things she does. Sorry but she seems like the one looking for a gold star.

And if we all need to go elsewhere for support and answers then what is the point of this forum?

dkleid · February 2015

Am I a mom to a child no, bit I am a mom. I'm growing a child in me just like you are. I also have 2 four legged children. You might not see them as children but they are part of my family. They still need to go to the doctors and have play time and be fed and taken care of. Don't you dare tell me because I don't have a human child I'm not a mother already. Even if I didn't have pets, growing s child takes work. I have to take care of myself do that in June when I go into labor u bring a healthy human child into this world.

devyns2nd · February 2015

Nikelizabeth said:
Wow I did not expect to see so much hate in this post! I clearly stated a couple of times that I tip my hat to working moms and don't know how you do it. But @dkleid‌ you're not a mom. I'm not a lazy mom that just doesn't do anything. I obviously take care of my children, starting my day at 5:30am. I do every single household chore because my husband works and that's the agreement. I cook dinner and do every single thing that has to do with the kids such as homework, baths, stories etc. I don't apologize for being a SAHM, I was simply wondering how some women make it through the day without getting exhausted because I'm clearly tired and needed ideas to switch things up. But thank you for the hate ms rabbit lady, I don't want you to feel bad for me. Thank you to the ladies that did stick up for me, I didn't know it was such a crime to be a tired mom!

I feel ya!! I get up at 5:30 and here's how my STAHM no job day goes:

Walk the dog
shower
Cook breakfast for 7 people
Clean up
Get 4 kids ready for school
Drive 20 min to drop them off
Go to the grocery
Cook lunch for me and DD
Clean house
Start dinner
Do 3-4 loads of laundry (a day)
Pick up boys from various sports
Finish dinner
Clean again
Get everyone in the bath
Put kids to bed
walk dog again
get in bed around 11 or 12

Add games (6+ a week sometimes), pta functions, campaign events, church 3 nights a week, Dr appointments and running my granny here and there on some days.

So being a SAHM is a full time job and yes it's exhausting as well. I worked full time for years and this is just as hard. I take naps when I can now that I'm pregnant. We have that luxury because we do stay home. Doesn't mean we are lazy or not as busy.

My advice OP is to rest your ass off on the weekends.

Nikelizabeth · February 2015

I love you @devyns2nd‌! Just because our work is different doesn't mean it's any less work! Thanks!

MrsWiggleWaggle · February 2015

Should I start an open thread where we all try and defend and justify our day, from hateful wenches who feel best when they point out how much harder they have it and therefore how much better they are? And then have other moms defend their own choices or show proof that SAHM really do work hard or working moms really do participate in their child's life. Or that having a house keeper does/doesn't make a moms hardships irrelevant?

I'm going to be a SAHM for my kid; my mom wasn't. The difference was that someone else raised and took care of me when my mom wasn't there. They worked their ass off to care for my while my mom worked her ass off to put food on the table.

After all that's why we are here right? To shit on each other, that's how we "keep it real" right? I sure didn't join this board for support and solidarity, or even to find another human being who was where I was, since no one else in my life is doing this gestation thing too! I did it so that stranger on the Internet could put me in my place and give me a reality check, we special snowflakes seek out that condemnation!

So let me keep it real: poor people people suffer, rich people suffer, SAHM AND WORKING MOMS BOTH SUFFER! no one is immune from being overwhelmed, getting sick, losing a loved one, not knowing what the hell to do when their kid cries or screams or punches their brother in the face for the 1000th time, or having financial hardship or any of the other terrible crazy setbacks we call life. SO PLEASE STOP BEING ASSHOLES TO EACHOTHER!

laurendutch · February 2015

devyns2nd said:

Nikelizabeth said:
Wow I did not expect to see so much hate in this post! I clearly stated a couple of times that I tip my hat to working moms and don't know how you do it. But @dkleid‌ you're not a mom. I'm not a lazy mom that just doesn't do anything. I obviously take care of my children, starting my day at 5:30am. I do every single household chore because my husband works and that's the agreement. I cook dinner and do every single thing that has to do with the kids such as homework, baths, stories etc. I don't apologize for being a SAHM, I was simply wondering how some women make it through the day without getting exhausted because I'm clearly tired and needed ideas to switch things up. But thank you for the hate ms rabbit lady, I don't want you to feel bad for me. Thank you to the ladies that did stick up for me, I didn't know it was such a crime to be a tired mom!
I feel ya!! I get up at 5:30 and here's how my STAHM no job day goes:

Walk the dog
shower
Cook breakfast for 7 people
Clean up
Get 4 kids ready for school
Drive 20 min to drop them off
Go to the grocery
Cook lunch for me and DD
Clean house
Start dinner
Do 3-4 loads of laundry (a day)
Pick up boys from various sports
Finish dinner
Clean again
Get everyone in the bath
Put kids to bed
walk dog again
get in bed around 11 or 12

Add games (6+ a week sometimes), pta functions, campaign events, church 3 nights a week, Dr appointments and running my granny here and there on some days.

So being a SAHM is a full time job and yes it's exhausting as well. I worked full time for years and this is just as hard. I take naps when I can now that I'm pregnant. We have that luxury because we do stay home. Doesn't mean we are lazy or not as busy.

My advice OP is to rest your ass off on the weekends.

Here's the thing...you do all that stuff but you also have the constant demands that a small child can bring, or the constant fighting/bickering that happens between siblings. It's not just physical exhaustion but emotional and mental exhaustion.

Working Moms have a whole set of different struggles...getting kids out the door, missing out on some milestones, feeling torn in a hundred directions, etc etc.

No one has it easy in this life...we all have our struggles. Mine has been raising twins, my SILs is raising her son with aspergers. Are both our lives difficult..yes! Are they the same difficult..no!

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