The "Wow, you don't even look pregnant!!" comments

rodriyessi94 · February 2015

I'm 5'9, 20 weeks pregnant and no bump. Gained maybe like 2 pounds since the start , doctors say is everything is good

sassysis555 · February 2015

I just turned 20 weeks yesterday as well with a boy and I still get told I don't look pregnant. I have gained maybe a pound or two. But baby is growing Thats all I care about. I haven't really popped yet Either as a ftm

Kooiker14 · February 2015

Don't worry I'm 22 weeks and very long torso so my baby doesn't show much either. I think the rudest thing I've had said to me was my sister in law told me she hoped I got as big as she did and couldn't get out of chairs easy. I was taken back by this comment as it's my first and not only are we built different but what's the competition? Needless to say I'm pretty sure she is jealous as I'm still not "huge" in her eyes but I've already gained 20lbs. I just shrug it off and go about my way cause all that matters is me, my husband, and our first little.

mjschenk · February 2015

Ok I am 22 weeks and clearly showing for about a week or so but wore a dress to church that sits higher and actually hid my bump(one who is due as well but at the end of June) really well. Some well meaning ladies asked when I was due and then followed with you don't even look pregnant. It is my first but believe me I do look pregnant. I can't help but feel my slow growing bump makes other pregnant ladies look at me loathing.

luenchoo · February 2015

I think it's a wonderful compliment when people tell me they didn't realize I was pregnant even though I've now gained 12 pounds. I started pretty small so it's a big percentage gain for me. I think I look 8 months preggowhen I look in the mirror, but everyone still says they can barely tell.

I have tried pretty hard to remain active and I like telling random strangers that I'm pregnant (if appropriate) so I get the wondering out of the way. I appreciate when others do so too because I'd never ask another woman if she was pregnant - we all know how dangerous that is. Might as well celebrate it and be proud of exactly what size your body needs to be at!

mindaa · February 2015

Yeah, by 18-19 weeks, I was feeling pretty terrible, too. Had gained 15 pounds and looked/felt really chubby. I "popped" right after that and it was a huge relief to actually have a pregnant belly not just a spare tire.

I do think it's weird how often people (strangers) still tell me I don't look pregnant... uh, yes I do. (now at 23 weeks, the belly constantly gets the "side-eye", so I know it's obvious)

I agree with PP... I've had to learn to just let the comments go...for the most part people are just making conversation, they aren't trying to be rude, they just don't really know what to say.

kbooth412 · February 2015

I was at a party this weekend (built in DD, the DH better take advantage of it!) and I got lots of those comments: 'wow, you're pregnant, you're not even showing!' 'You're pregnant? You can't even tell!' I'm 19 weeks and the more I heard it the worse I felt because I feel like I have this huge belly! Every comment, all I could think was 'Jeeze, I hope I didn't look like this when I wasn't pregnant...gah!'

jmkelly18 · February 2015

This is my 3rd and I thought I'd be pretty round by this point (19wks). However, friends and family all say I don't look pregnant and not a single stranger has asked how far along I am (not that that's a bad thing lol!) I wish I looked as pregnant as I feel and my clothes think I am! I never got huge with DD or DS but it would be nice to have a noticeable bump

awolfff · February 2015

It's been such an encouragement reading these responses and to also know that I'm not the only one who feels this way!! Thank you ladies!!! I'm sure regardless of what weird comments are made, we all look beautiful and I'm even more sure it will all be worth it once we get to meet our bundles of love :x

P.s. Found out today that it's a boy and I'm 20 weeks (not 19)!!!

kml1993 · February 2015

I'm 20 weeks and I just found out I'm having a boy. I bought the ultrasound in and showed my newest coworker. He was really surprised to see a full baby because he thought I was only 5 weeks pregnant. I couldn't believe that because I've gotten really big.

btm013 · February 2015

Ya at first this baby bump was fun...now it's not haha. I had a woman ask when I was due and when I said June 4th she looked at my bump and said "Eek, you still have a long way to go." Thaaaaanks!! Coworkers have come up to me all last week saying "Look at you, you popped!" I want to pop them. I've never been more self conscious in my whole life. The bump will come. Trust me!!

Dpatto93 · February 2015

I got this a couple of weeks ago. My friend said 'wow you can't even tell your pregnant for 18 weeks. A girl at college is only 9 weeks with a bigger bump'. I haven't seen her since, my hormones are raging haha!

DCCB31408 · February 2015

Lol all of these make me feel so much better. At work I've been told all of the above mentioned from "you definitely don't look like you're 5 months already!" To "you can't even tell you're pregnant!" My all time favorite (NOT) remains "where are you carrying her?!?! Your ass?!!?!" :-w

Lynn&Andrew+1 · February 2015

Yup, me too! I just look fat.

KaLikeAWind · February 2015

I took a 20 week bump photo on Superbowl Sunday and a 22 week bump photo yesterday (my 20 week pic was WAY late, last day of week 20) and the bump is small and cute-ish at week 20, obviously obvious in week 22. As for people, when I work people can't tell as much. My work uniform is jeans and a polo shirt which hangs pretty loosely, the bump is visible if you know to look for it, but not so much if you're not in the know, just looks like a beer gut. Also since I am behind a bar if I am closer to the person the bar cuts off their view of my middle. I've had regulars that I see every other week who only last week noticed I was pregnant, and that was cause I saw them in my street clothes and I've taken to wearing bump accenting tops. They're talking to each other - "did you know this?" "I've known since she took off her coat just now!" In that sense its fun to me, people who see me often are just now beginning to see the bump for what it is. There are a bunch of old timers in my every other week bowling league and from them its always "hey mama, how you feeling?". Which I appreciate. Didn't so much appreciate the belly pat that came with it last week, but the gentleman it came from is a fun dude who makes me laugh, so I let it slide.

frnknstnluvr · February 2015

I'm right there with you! I did HIIT workouts every other day with Power Yoga the other days, jogged, lifted weights and ate a very healthy diet. With in the first trimester all I did was sleep and gained 20 pounds. At first I didn't even know I was pregnant, I never 'got sick' but I thought something was wrong with my body. A lot of people can't even tell I've gained the weight, and my boyfriend says I look healthier. Now I'm 22 weeks and my weight gain has paused but I've learned to love my new 'baby body' so far.

dakotahbaby · February 2015

I was at target a few days ago shopping with my sister and my 3yr old daughter and the cashier smiled at me and said to me,"Oh my you look like you'll be due any time." I just responded by laughing and saying,"oh no I'm due in early June I'm just having a healthy baby is all." I'm barely 5'2 and my husband is 6'2 so my little one is definitely taking after there daddy and makes me look a bit big for 22weeks

malgosia21s · February 2015

dakotahbaby said:
I was at target a few days ago shopping with my sister and my 3yr old daughter and the cashier smiled at me and said to me,"Oh my you look like you'll be due any time." I just responded by laughing and saying,"oh no I'm due in early June I'm just having a healthy baby is all." I'm barely 5'2 and my husband is 6'2 so my little one is definitely taking after there daddy and makes me look a bit big for 22weeks

I got the same comment yesterday from some lady. I just started laughing and said that I'm expecting twins. I think she felt pretty stupid. Hahaha

mlgroot · February 2015

fTM and really started to show at 23 weeks. I'm 120 prebaby so I figured it'd be obvious but even still "it's like you just ate a big sandwich" was a common comment. To me, I think it depends on what we choose to wear - tight clothes are more noticeable- but also how often we are seeing people. You can't tell I'm preg if I'm in "winter clothes" but you'd wonder if I was in tigh ones. And people don't want to put their foot in their mouth so I think it ends up they sort of stare unintentionally.
I also think people are just really excited when they hear someone is pregnant and what they say is always good intentions, whether our mood swings and hormones choose to agree!

dancegurl1118 · February 2015

I 100% am showing now at 23 weeks, but still very small. Since I wear scrubs ALL I constantly (still) get are comments on why I don't look pregnant. "Oh you have such a long torso!", "oh you're so tall!" People are constantly asking me to pull up my scrub shirt so they can "actually" see the bump. I guess it's par for the course working in obstetrics but it just makes me wonder when I'm going to be able to stop defending my bump..

I guess I just don't understand why it's ok to comment on a pregnant woman's body, ever. The only comment allowed should be "you look awesome!"

KarasTwin · February 2015

I had a coworker approach me the other day and pat my belly and say, oh you're getting nice and fat! I know she didn't mean it like that and all I could do was laugh. I was shocked but I'm glad to be showing. I've still only had one person that didn't know I was pregnant comment and notice I was pregnant. It's funny though because some people seem annoyed that I'm not huge yet and they ask where my bump is. Baby is measuring exactly what he's supposed to be, so I'm not too worried about it.

emilylistman · February 2015

I totally get this. I am 21 weeks and I call my current state "ambiguously heavy." People who know I'm pregnant will say that I'm totally showing, but strangers have no idea and often will exclaim, "Wow, I wouldn't have noticed!"

My favorite is when people point out that it's not obvious because I'm so "curvy." Uhm, thanks for that.

Between the progesterone I had to take in the beginning, and my baby girl's determination to make mommy as voluptuous as possible, I've gained my 20 pounds everywhere. It's frustrating, and sometimes I want to scream, "I'm pregnant, damn it! I'm not just getting fat!" LOL.

Hang in there, I'm guessing we'll look plenty preggers by the time the tiny humans are ready to make their live appearance!

A+B2010 · February 2015

The best reply I got was last week (@ 21 wks) from an old work colleague I ran into at lunch. We were talking about summer vacation plans and I touched my stomach and said 'I'll be on maternity leave taking care of this little guy!' I had forgotten she didn't know I was pregnant (she left before I announced) and her response was 'Oh! Congratulations! I really was just thinking you had gotten quite thick!' - I at least appreciated the honesty

KaLikeAWind · February 2015

There is another girl (strangely, whose name is ALSO melissa. Weird) here who comes into my work once a week or so, who is 2 weeks behind me in pregnancy. So of course we always talk about the various bs going on, milestones (she just had her a/s and found out she's team blue) etc. My co worker comes up while we're talking and says to me "its weird how she looks so much bigger than you!". #-o both of us preggo ladies just looked at each other like 'we were both just dissed!'. This same co worker poked my belly the other day and said 'op, getting hard!'. I don't mind the co worker tho, cause she's the closest thing I have to a friend here, and her kid is just over a year old, so she was in my same shoes not that long ago, really

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trytry38ever · February 2015

I get these comments still I usually take them as a compliment. However I had this one rude lady say oh you don't look that big is everything okay how did your last appointment come out was it measuring small if they could find its heart beat etc.

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