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When are you all telling your friends?

kemallmannkemallmann member
edited February 2015 in October 2015 Moms
I will be 6 weeks tomorrow!! :)  I am very excited and we already told our parents and siblings.  

My only problem is we do not know when to tell our friends.  Mardi Gras is huge in my city and every year my husband and our friends have a great alcohol induced time.  Well this year the Mardi Gras parade is on Valentines day and I will be about 7 weeks and 2 days.  Our first U/S will be the following Tuesday.  I want to tell our friend there for a lot of reasons,one being because I know they will ask why I am not drinking and another that I am soooooo excited. Part of me wants to wait until after that Tuesday U/S, but another part cannot hold it in this awesome news. 

Any thoughts that may help? I know its my choice and I can tell people whenever I want, but it is still hard to decide!
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  • ClvndSteamerGurlClvndSteamerGurl member
    I can't tell anyone because the father doesn't want me to! I want to tell everyone I'm so excited!! Maybe another month
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  • smlowe9311smlowe9311 member
    I have no idea. I've told my close group of friends for support if something were to go wrong. And we'll probably make it Facebook official when we hit the sexism trimester. I let it slip to my mom yesterday and her reaction was "oh boy". So that kind of made me want to wait a while knowing dh's dad and step-mom won't be too thrilled either...
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  • KRomo16KRomo16 member
    We've only told our parents and siblings! We are making it Facebook Official on March 21st. I wil be 3 months. I think that's a safe time frame.
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  • kemallmannkemallmann member
    razzlemydazzle said:

    I have already pretended to drink -- I slyly ordered a soda and cranberry and then people assumed it was vodka and cranberry.

    Hahah me too, I found on on Superbowl sunday and we had a party... that was difficult...
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  • Tourmaline15Tourmaline15 member
    Mardi Gras is not on Valentine's Day. Mardi Gras is always on a Tuesday and this year V-day is on a Sat...
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  • kemallmannkemallmann member
    Tourmaline15 said:
    Mardi Gras is not on Valentine's Day. Mardi Gras is always on a Tuesday and this year V-day is on a Sat...
    Yes, I should have specified, the Mardi Gras parade is Valentines day.
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  • Tourmaline15Tourmaline15 member
    kemallmann said:


    Tourmaline15 said:

    Mardi Gras is not on Valentine's Day. Mardi Gras is always on a Tuesday and this year V-day is on a Sat...

    Yes, I should have specified, the Mardi Gras parade is Valentines day.

    Where do you live? If you don't mind saying. I'm assuming it's not New Orleans since there is only one parade for Mardi Gras?
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  • kemallmannkemallmann member
    St. Louis :)
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  • krittagkrittag member
    I've had to have a fake coctail too!! Haha my husband doesn't want me to spill the beans till 12 weeks. Not even our parents!
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  • Cynthia1207Cynthia1207 member
    edited February 2015
    We're not telling anyone until after the first tri. I had an ectopic in November and it was truly devastating so I want to keep this one all to myself for now. We have an u/s next week to see if the baby is in my uterus so I might change my mind if I know everything is ok. I'm still apprehensive though
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  • BadWolfofNNYBadWolfofNNY member
    Our families already know and also our friends that are like family.

    Mocktails are a good way to go if you want to keep it secret for a little longer. Or volunteer to be the DD if you are driving to the parade.
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  • nperezwhitenperezwhite member
    JustHyr said:

    I've told several very close friends that I would want their support if things don't work out.  I'll tell more friends after the first ultrasound and then be FB official 2nd tri.

    Same for me. I had a couple close girlfriends who were really supportive while I was TTC and so it's fun to be able to share that I'm pregnant with them since they answered every weird and dumb question for me lol
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  • Samtheman0214Samtheman0214 member
    I've told several close friends and my parents. I haven't told my older kids. I plan on waiting until I'm 9 weeks before I tell them I think.
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  • babealertzbabealertz member
    If I could, I'd keep it a secret until delivery day! Telling people good news always makes me a little embarrassed, and irrationally afraid that the good thing will be taken away from me (yes, I know that is nuts). However, I have a bunch of weddings to go to this summer, and it would be way worse to show up obviously pregnant as a surprise and take any attention away from the couples getting married. I'd like to wait until mid-May, but I'm sure I'll slip and tell someone sooner.
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  • KHTWKHTW member
    edited February 2015
    I told my best friends the day I found out. How could I possibly not? Besides, If anything bad should happen (touch wood!!) I would need their support - that's what friends are for :)
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  • nperezwhitenperezwhite member
    babealertz said:

    If I could, I'd keep it a secret until delivery day! Telling people good news always makes me a little embarrassed, and irrationally afraid that the good thing will be taken away from me (yes, I know that is nuts). However, I have a bunch of weddings to go to this summer, and it would be way worse to show up obviously pregnant as a surprise and take any attention away from the couples getting married. I'd like to wait until mid-May, but I'm sure I'll slip and tell someone sooner.

    I feel the same way about good news! I'm trying hard to change that about myself, but it's hard! And I definitely don't think you're nuts!!! :smile:
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  • lkaylee721lkaylee721 member
    We'll shit. I kind of accidentally did it today. I was texting my one friend that does know and accidently texted on a previous group text to my other three close friends. They probably didn't get it exactly because it was all in dpo and beta speak, but I'm sure they could get the gist of it. I immediately replied 'f*** I didn't mean to send that to you'
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  • danixbanani24danixbanani24 member
    I want to shout it from the rooftops but I'm keeping it locked up until I see my doctor.  I'm going in on Monday to talk to her but I'll only be 5w4d at that point so no u/s.  I will probably tell my parents/husband's parents at around 8 weeks or when I can get an u/s.  I'm just too nervous!  

    I'm going to wait to tell friends until further along I think.  Although, I'm planning a big surprise party for my husband's birthday in March and it might be hard to avoid the drinking thing since we only have beer and wine!  eek.
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  • EricaOOEricaOO member

    I've told 3 coworkers I'm friends with (who I would also tell if I miscarried) and my sister.  Going to wait until after the first doctor's appointment to tell parents.  I'm a little worried because my mom will freak with the thought of me having 2u2.  DD will be 22 months when the baby is born so close to two!  I'll probably tell a couple of close close friends soon.

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    TTC #1 December 2012
    DD born December 2013 
     
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  • hottkarlahottkarla member
    I wish I cold tell but the news isn't going to be well received. I guess I will be drinking mocktails when I go out to the clubs with my gfs.
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  • gerbiesgerbies member
    My DH and I decided to wait until the end of the first trimester to tell people, but then I already told a few friends and my parents (my husband doesn't know, though).  I just couldn't contain myself.  We'll probably tell my in-laws and then my work at 12-13 weeks). 
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  • kemallmannkemallmann member
    Thank you all!!! I am thinking about just telling my friends on the 14th (odds are I couldn't lie to them all day about why I wasn't drinking or what I was drinking) . I know I would tell them all if I did have a m/c.  So why not tell them that I am expecting now and have them be happy!!!  But I will probably wait to tell my Aunts, Uncles and Cousins until after 9 weeks..

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  • shantyraeshantyrae member
    So glad there's so many ladies out there telling "early" - DH has told every person under the sun that I'm pregnant (he's a little excited) and now it makes me nervous that we've jinxed it! U/S next Friday at 7 weeks!
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  • mrsjstradermrsjstrader member
    My ultrasound is the 20th at 7 weeks 4 days and we have been enjoying our little secret so far, just DH and I. We celebrate this life with each other right now and really wanted to have U/S pic to show when we tell! We pray for this baby daily, sometimes multiple times, just don't want to tell too soon because nuggets life is so fragile right now. 1st pregnancy so we are cautiously bursting at the seams!!
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  • bchandler79bchandler79 member
    We are announcing the rest of family next week, (5weeks pushing 6) and everyone else next Sunday ( just over 6). I am and have been extremely nauseated since 3 1/2 weeks. Strong positive home tests at almost 4 weeks. (Hoping for twins.) I can't hide it either my belly is starting to poke a little, and yes my dates are accurate, we have been charting for a year.
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  • therealmrsevantherealmrsevan member
    We told parents and siblings in the first couple of days after we found out. We told our daughters on Tuesday, the first time we had all three of them together. They had the big news on Instagram within 5 minutes! Lol
    So I posted their reaction video on Facebook and let the whole world know.
    I kept my first two pregnancies secret (with the exception of my sister and a few close friends) until after I went to the doctor. But I didn't want to keep it from the girlies and I knew they would be telling everyone.
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  • MrsJohnston&LabradorsMrsJohnston&Labradors member
    We told 2 close friends each, my mom,dad and aunt and that's about it. I'm finding it hard to get to everyone in time so that nobody is offended about not knowing lol
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  • youngnproud2000youngnproud2000 member
    I told my 2 best friends because I was freaking out.
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  • danamarie13danamarie13 member
    I told my close friends (bridesmaids) earlier this week, and am having a hard time not telling everyone I know! Someone else said that they wanted to celebrate life no matter what and that's really stuck with me. I'll make it a few more weeks without telling, but definitely not out of the first trimester. :)
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  • SHAYD12SHAYD12 member
    moonseeds92 said:

    I told family and close friends the day I found out I'm KU. Not really one for posting things on FB other than for sharing pics with family, but as soon as I have an U/S pic it'll be on FB. While everyone is entitled to their own way of doing things, I don't understand keeping a pregnancy a secret for fear of miscarriage. There's no reason to be embarrassed about something like that and family and friends are there for that exact reason. Things happen that are out of anyone's control but that's no reason not to be excited about your pregnancy while you're experiencing it.

    ETA: I have had a pregnancy end in miscarriage and I was glad my friends and family knew so they could help me through it.

    This is how I feel also. But since my last loss was just last month. I am so scared to even really say anything.In two weeks I have my ultrasound then we will probably tell people after that.

    Although I did tell my parents right when I found out.

     

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  • rahnae22rahnae22 member
    I'm at 6 weeks. We are planning to start spreading the word after my first appointment at 9.5 weeks. It's our first. I feel pretty good about the pregnancy, but still feel more comfortable waiting a little while. It'll go on Facebook around 14 weeks, after a family gathering, so I know the important people will know.
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  • marylynn07marylynn07 member
    I'm just over four weeks. My BFF knows. Other than DH, that's it. We live about seven hours from our family. Next time we'll see them is Easter, so that's when we're planning to tell them. I'll tell work after and then go public with everyone else.
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  • bean2813bean2813 member
    I'm in my 6th week and we have only told his immediate family and mine. Not saying a thing to anyone else until 12 weeks are up.  
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  • drjenmartindrjenmartin member
    We did our first IVF cycle in June of 2013 and have twin girls who will be 1 on the 19th. Everyone knew from the beginning. We did an embryo transfer on 2/3 and should find out in the next couple days if i am pregnant. We don't plan on telling anyone until I start to show...hopefully around 16-18 weeks. I will be 4 weeks next Thursday if the transfer was successful.
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