I wish I hadn't told anyone the name.

C6091 · February 2015

I am beyond pissed. I know there are a lot of name threads but girls what do I do! I need to vent. My gran told me just last week she thought the name we picked was stupid. I just got off the phone with my dad and most of the call consisted of him throwing name suggestions at me. So I straight out asked 'is there something wrong with the name choice?' To which he said 'personally, I don't like it' I immediately went into pissed-off-mama-protective mode. My SO and I have already started referring to our son as the name we have chosen and we both love it. I'm beginning to regret telling them the name. What do I do? Why do people think they have a say in our child! I'm so annoyed! How would you deal in this situation?.

MamaBish · February 2015

I'm pretty much in the mind set of; "this is our baby. When you had/have a baby of your own, you can name it whatever the hell you want."

sls2015 · February 2015

I would suggest letting everyone know that you have a few names picked, and won't decide on one till the baby is born. Then quickly change the subject. If they keep pushing, say you're not discussing it. I made the same mistake as you, thinking too optimistically about everyone else liking the name we chose. I think you already know this, but it truly doesn't matter what everyone else thinks. Keep calling that baby the name you chose with SO, and enjoy it in private for now, knowing that a name is not going to make anyone love that child any less. They might even love it one day too after they get over themselves.

briafields94 · February 2015

Do what Kim is doing in your gif. Say fuck it I'm going through a similar situation I wish I hadn't told anyone the name because people can't seem to keep their opinions to themselves.

If you and your partner like it then hopefully it'll grow on everyone else if not forget them.

Emilywooddesign · February 2015

Can we know the name? I love a few names that my family doesn't like ( to be honest I like to see my MIL cringe at my name choices) I wouldn't worry about it too much. People think it's fair game to comment on names until the baby is born.

thelittlestbee · February 2015

Well what's the name?!

Honestly, people are always like "oh that's why you don't share the name until the baby is born". But whatever! We didn't wait to share our baby's name. We call her by her name even though she's still in my belly! My MIL wasn't a fan of any of the names we picked. I really wanted to tell her to go fuck off, but I decided not to jeopardize my marriage and politely reminded her that this was MY baby, not hers, and this was the name that DH and I chose.

I'm sorry that some of your family is being so obnoxious about this!

KarasTwin · February 2015

Agreed. They had their children and named them, it's your child and your decision. We've told both our choices and the first name for a boy is Henry. FIL keeps saying he's going to call him Hank. II wanted him to be called Hank, that's what I'd name him. We find out the sex Friday so I guess we'll know then if I have to deal with it or not. I've heard the atrocious names he wanted to name DH and my sister in law and I really have no interest in him helping name my child. If you and SO love the name you've picked, use that name. It's not anyone else's choice to make.

megmama · February 2015

No one in our family seems crazy about our name, but my hubby and I don't care

It's our baby! Those old farts already had their chance as far as I am concerned!

mccall35 · February 2015

Yeah, we aren't sharing our name for this exact reason. It's a lot harder to hate on a name when there's an adorable squishy baby in their face. As for what to do next? If you love the name, then let the comments roll off you're back, these rude people can't do anything about your choice. Then when the baby is born, fill out the birth certificate papers and be done with it.

If you're second guessing the name, then throw it back in the pool and keep searching. People will have an opinion about everything though, so just keep that in mind!

dkleid · February 2015

This why I love the Jewish Tradition of not telling the name of the baby until the baby is born...They can know what letter is going to be the first letter of the name (you name after the deceased so thats why) but once we send out an email/text message saying welcome to the work Baby Girl ____________ that is when they will see the name... After that there is nothing they can do... They can call the baby what we have named her, or not at all. If they dont like our choosen name, deal with it. You didnt create this child or bring it into this world, you get to sit back and love it. Thats it.

kej0004 · February 2015

Before I tell people our names I tell them a) these are the names we picked and they are not changing and b) I love you but I don't care about your opinion in the slightest. I also don't tell people face-to-face so I don't see the initial facial reaction. (My family has a problem masking our facial expressions--we are very easily read.)

That being said, if you are for sure set on the names then just keep using them. Everyone will get used to them by the time the baby gets here. If you're having second thoughts, maybe they weren't the best names to begin with, since a little difference of opinion was enough to change your mind. Take another look through names and see if these still jump out at you.

Katerina&Baby · February 2015

If anyone makes another comment or "helpful" name suggestion, just say "DH and I have already made our decision on our baby's name". If/when they continue to say anything other than "okay", hold up your hand to stop them and repeat yourself verbatim. Keep doing this until they get the message.

C6091 · February 2015

MamaBish said:
I'm pretty much in the mind set of; "this is our baby. When you had/have a baby of your own, you can name it whatever the hell you want."

briafields94 said:
Do what Kim is doing in your gif. Say fuck it I'm going through a similar situation I wish I hadn't told anyone the name because people can't seem to keep their opinions to themselves.

If you and your partner like it then hopefully it'll grow on everyone else if not forget them.

Emilywooddesign said:
Can we know the name? I love a few names that my family doesn't like ( to be honest I like to see my MIL cringe at my name choices) I wouldn't worry about it too much. People think it's fair game to comment on names until the baby is born.

thelittlestbee said:
Well what's the name?!

Honestly, people are always like "oh that's why you don't share the name until the baby is born". But whatever! We didn't wait to share our baby's name. We call her by her name even though she's still in my belly! My MIL wasn't a fan of any of the names we picked. I really wanted to tell her to go fuck off, but I decided not to jeopardize my marriage and politely reminded her that this was MY baby, not hers, and this was the name that DH and I chose.

I'm sorry that some of your family is being so obnoxious about this!

Thanks everyone. They are just major pissing me off. And telling us different names... Urgh. The name is..

Max.

Not sure 100% yet if we are sticking with just Max or Maximus ect..

I was a bit reluctant to post it because I know baby name board can be brutal and many don't like nn for first name.

Katerina&Baby · February 2015

C6091 said:

MamaBish said:
I'm pretty much in the mind set of; "this is our baby. When you had/have a baby of your own, you can name it whatever the hell you want."

briafields94 said:
Do what Kim is doing in your gif. Say fuck it I'm going through a similar situation I wish I hadn't told anyone the name because people can't seem to keep their opinions to themselves.

If you and your partner like it then hopefully it'll grow on everyone else if not forget them.

Emilywooddesign said:
Can we know the name? I love a few names that my family doesn't like ( to be honest I like to see my MIL cringe at my name choices) I wouldn't worry about it too much. People think it's fair game to comment on names until the baby is born.

thelittlestbee said:
Well what's the name?!

Honestly, people are always like "oh that's why you don't share the name until the baby is born". But whatever! We didn't wait to share our baby's name. We call her by her name even though she's still in my belly! My MIL wasn't a fan of any of the names we picked. I really wanted to tell her to go fuck off, but I decided not to jeopardize my marriage and politely reminded her that this was MY baby, not hers, and this was the name that DH and I chose.

I'm sorry that some of your family is being so obnoxious about this!
Thanks everyone. They are just major pissing me off. And telling us different names... Urgh. The name is..

Max.

Not sure 100% yet if we are sticking with just Max or Maximus ect..

I was a bit reluctant to post it because I know baby name board can be brutal and many don't like nn for first name.

Max is a GREAT name - they seriously couldn't get on board with that? I thought for sure you had chosen something radical.

Frogger5 · February 2015

I don't quite understand this whole thing. If your family is relatively normal (and I realize that's a big "if"!) wouldn't you take their consistent negative feedback as a sign that maybe you should rethink things? Of course it's unreasonable for everyone to love the name straight off, but that's a far cry from telling you it's terrible. Also, of course you can name your child whatever you want, but reactions like that would make me at least question whether I had made a solid decision. I guess I just don't see why people who love you would have that strong of a reaction without cause.

I really want to know the name, too!

C6091 · February 2015

Katerina&Baby said:

C6091 said:

MamaBish said:
I'm pretty much in the mind set of; "this is our baby. When you had/have a baby of your own, you can name it whatever the hell you want."

briafields94 said:
Do what Kim is doing in your gif. Say fuck it I'm going through a similar situation I wish I hadn't told anyone the name because people can't seem to keep their opinions to themselves.

If you and your partner like it then hopefully it'll grow on everyone else if not forget them.

Emilywooddesign said:
Can we know the name? I love a few names that my family doesn't like ( to be honest I like to see my MIL cringe at my name choices) I wouldn't worry about it too much. People think it's fair game to comment on names until the baby is born.

thelittlestbee said:
Well what's the name?!

Honestly, people are always like "oh that's why you don't share the name until the baby is born". But whatever! We didn't wait to share our baby's name. We call her by her name even though she's still in my belly! My MIL wasn't a fan of any of the names we picked. I really wanted to tell her to go fuck off, but I decided not to jeopardize my marriage and politely reminded her that this was MY baby, not hers, and this was the name that DH and I chose.

I'm sorry that some of your family is being so obnoxious about this!
Thanks everyone. They are just major pissing me off. And telling us different names... Urgh. The name is..

Max.

Not sure 100% yet if we are sticking with just Max or Maximus ect..

I was a bit reluctant to post it because I know baby name board can be brutal and many don't like nn for first name.
Max is a GREAT name - they seriously couldn't get on board with that? I thought for sure you had chosen something radical.

No not anything too weird haha

. It just came into my mind one day and it just felt right. I also have his middle name sorted and it just fits. They said it's stupid and they aren't a fan. That hurts my feelings. I feel protective.

mccall35 · February 2015

Frogger5 said:

I don't quite understand this whole thing. If your family is relatively normal (and I realize that's a big "if"!) wouldn't you take their consistent negative feedback as a sign that maybe you should rethink things? Of course it's unreasonable for everyone to love the name straight off, but that's a far cry from telling you it's terrible. Also, of course you can name your child whatever you want, but reactions like that would make me at least question whether I had made a solid decision. I guess I just don't see why people who love you would have that strong of a reaction without cause. I really want to know the name, too!

It's Max (or potentially Maximus).

OP: I don't mind the name Max, NMS personally, but it's a solid name. FWIW, DH's cousin named her little guy Maximus, and they only call him Max.

C6091 · February 2015

mccall35 said:
Yeah, we aren't sharing our name for this exact reason. It's a lot harder to hate on a name when there's an adorable squishy baby in their face. As for what to do next? If you love the name, then let the comments roll off you're back, these rude people can't do anything about your choice. Then when the baby is born, fill out the birth certificate papers and be done with it.

If you're second guessing the name, then throw it back in the pool and keep searching. People will have an opinion about everything though, so just keep that in mind!

We're certain of the name. We love it. It's just when they say they hate it as they're close family it makes me think... Well is it the right choice? I don't want them to have a bad taste in their mouths about our child

walshbunnie · February 2015

Max is a great name. Your family needs to shut it.

tinybugsmom · February 2015

Just ignore them. We have started telling people the name we have chosen, and a few have had strong opinions. Buy DH and I love our name choice, so that is all that matters.

C6091 · February 2015

Frogger5 said:
I don't quite understand this whole thing. If your family is relatively normal (and I realize that's a big "if"!) wouldn't you take their consistent negative feedback as a sign that maybe you should rethink things? Of course it's unreasonable for everyone to love the name straight off, but that's a far cry from telling you it's terrible. Also, of course you can name your child whatever you want, but reactions like that would make me at least question whether I had made a solid decision. I guess I just don't see why people who love you would have that strong of a reaction without cause.

I really want to know the name, too!

My family are kinda.. off the wall I guess. I mentioned the name above ^^

. But my gran named my dad Alan Magnus. & she's suggesting really old fashioned names.. A huge generation gap I guess. I don't know. I'm just confused and torn. I love the name but it bothers me that they're saying this. They also said 'it is your choice but we think.. yada yada yada.' I'm like well if it's my choice why are you telling me you don't like it?.

mccall35 · February 2015

C6091 said:

Yeah, we aren't sharing our name for this exact reason. It's a lot harder to hate on a name when there's an adorable squishy baby in their face. As for what to do next? If you love the name, then let the comments roll off you're back, these rude people can't do anything about your choice. Then when the baby is born, fill out the birth certificate papers and be done with it.

If you're second guessing the name, then throw it back in the pool and keep searching. People will have an opinion about everything though, so just keep that in mind!
We're certain of the name. We love it. It's just when they say they hate it as they're close family it makes me think... Well is it the right choice? I don't want them to have a bad taste in their mouths about our child

Well I can't speak for your family per se, but I have a hard time believing anyone would hold a grudge/have a bad taste in their mouth about a baby/child once they've met them, even if their name is different from what they would have picked. It's Max FFS, a solid, timeless name.

If you love it, then ignore them and move on.

FirstbabyKu · February 2015

If you share the name before the baby is born, people think it's ok to comment. Maybe because it's not a permanent name yet? So, that is why we are keeping it to ourselves until the baby is born. Then, they can't really say anything. In your case, I would just ignore them and stick to your name choice and be confident. It must be wonderful to have a name you are set on! I'm still brainstorming!

thelittlestbee · February 2015

My BFF's little brother is named Max. He was the cutest kid ever when we were growing up and now he's a very handsome and polite adult.

How can people hate on Max?

housewifebecomesher · February 2015

No one will think twice about the name once the baby is born. Do what you like.

And Max is a great name.

C6091 · February 2015

thelittlestbee said:
My BFF's little brother is named Max. He was the cutest kid ever when we were growing up and now he's a very handsome and polite adult.

How can people hate on Max?

mccall35 said:

C6091 said:

mccall35 said:
Yeah, we aren't sharing our name for this exact reason. It's a lot harder to hate on a name when there's an adorable squishy baby in their face. As for what to do next? If you love the name, then let the comments roll off you're back, these rude people can't do anything about your choice. Then when the baby is born, fill out the birth certificate papers and be done with it.

If you're second guessing the name, then throw it back in the pool and keep searching. People will have an opinion about everything though, so just keep that in mind!
We're certain of the name. We love it. It's just when they say they hate it as they're close family it makes me think... Well is it the right choice? I don't want them to have a bad taste in their mouths about our child

Well I can't speak for your family per se, but I have a hard time believing anyone would hold a grudge/have a bad taste in their mouth about a baby/child once they've met them, even if their name is different from what they would have picked. It's Max FFS, a solid, timeless name.

If you love it, then ignore them and move on.

I'm just going to politely tell them
It's our choice and they'll love it when he's here, it won't matter. Sorry I just needed to vent.

dirtymartini · February 2015

If you tell people the name before the baby is born, certain people are going to assume the name is still up for discussion and they will throw their opinion out there. Right or wrong, rude or not, it's just what people do and it's not going to change. It just is what it is. It's annoying. But to many, sharing the name before the baby is born is simply perceived to be soliciting their opinions.

That's why we're waiting until the baby is born. Would I like to share the name(s) (we're team green) with the people we love? Yes! But, I am not interested in negative opinions about the names. So, not doing it.

Emilywooddesign · February 2015

I agree with PP I thought you were going to say some terrible name.. I like the name Max and I can't understand how someone wouldn't like it.

erbear84 · February 2015

Yep this is why we're waiting to share, too. I love Max, fwiw.

disney815 · February 2015

I love Max! That was on our list of names too! I don't care what others think of our name. We have already named our baby boy, and are calling him by his name daily. That's who he is. I don't care what anyone else says. There are some CRAZY names out there and clearly those mamas didn't care either, so basically, tel your family to screw off and go with Max!

lilitaliangirl · February 2015

Screw them! FWIW - I love the name Max

mamahawk12 · February 2015

Are you kidding me?? They're giving you a hard time about MAX? It's adorable, not to mention completely normal and 100% acceptable. What on Earth could they possibly want you to name him?

I'm sorry. This is exactly why we don't share. I would just suggest doing your best to ignore them and let it roll off your back. Stick with the name, you'll regret changing it based on other people's opinions.

elrumbee · February 2015

I love the name Max! It's one of our names on our list too!

mcb0903 · February 2015

My son's name is Maxwell, but we just call him Max. Obviously I love the name, so I say what PPs have said, tell everyone it's not up for discussion and go with your gut.

ajgerber · February 2015

Max? Wow! I was expecting some random name. Max is a normal name. Tell them to stuff it.

Frogger5 · February 2015

C6091 said:

I don't quite understand this whole thing. If your family is relatively normal (and I realize that's a big "if"!) wouldn't you take their consistent negative feedback as a sign that maybe you should rethink things? Of course it's unreasonable for everyone to love the name straight off, but that's a far cry from telling you it's terrible. Also, of course you can name your child whatever you want, but reactions like that would make me at least question whether I had made a solid decision. I guess I just don't see why people who love you would have that strong of a reaction without cause. I really want to know the name, too!
My family are kinda.. off the wall I guess. I mentioned the name above ^^ . But my gran named my dad Alan Magnus. & she's suggesting really old fashioned names.. A huge generation gap I guess. I don't know. I'm just confused and torn. I love the name but it bothers me that they're saying this. They also said 'it is your choice but we think.. yada yada yada.' I'm like well if it's my choice why are you telling me you don't like it?.

Missed your post with the name because I was typing at the same time . . .

Anyway, I suppose you followed what I said already to a T - they had objections, you thought about it again and decided you had made a solid choice (which I totally agree with; thought you had picked something crazy!). So now they can suck it .

nicolec3 · February 2015

Max is a great name. I would tell them it is your decision and that's his name so get over it.

TheNewMrsY · February 2015

I'm sure their opinions will change once they meet him, he'll just "fit" the name, ya know?? Sorry you have to deal with that, though. I'd be mad, too!

ElRuby · February 2015

Well I am a little disappointed that the name is Max.... I was really hoping for a made up name with no vowels or something!

With that being said Max is a great strong name! I actually quite like it as just Max ... No need to use a longer version unless you want to!

ooopswediditagain · February 2015

Max is an awesome name! Screw them!

CateOfChicago · February 2015

Max is really cute and really popular right now so I'm surprised they don't like it. I know 3 little maxs right now and they are all adorable. One is Maximus.

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