How are Dads to be holding up?!

krittag · February 2015

I took my first test last Wed, 5 days before missed period. My husband has come up with every excuse in the book on why I'm testing postive! And how my period is going to come. He had me take 7 tests! All +! This is our first pregnancy and was not planned. We had planned on trying this time NEXT year! To be honest it took me until Saturday to believe it myself. Any advice on how to assure him this is real and happening and that it will all be OKAY! Thanks mama's! ♡

last14real · February 2015

You could go to the dr and have a blood test, he really can't argue with those results:) and it may be earlier than planned but it will be great!! My DH enjoys our kids so much and I know yours will too!

kristikayy1124 · February 2015

My DH is extremely excited about our surprise. But this is baby #3, so he has experience. He was just like yours the first time around. Having a doctor confirm might help him, an ultrasound might help, or he might just need some time.

krittag · February 2015

Thanks ladies, I'm thinking of calling the dr today. I'm 2 days late now and tested postive almost a week ago. I'm not sure how I want to go about it. I have a Dr I don't overly care for, I have just seen her once. I know who I'd like to see for OB, should I call the old dr or the hopefully new dr for the blood test?

kristikayy1124 · February 2015

My OB does not do blood tests unless you have a reason, usually for recurrent miscarriages. I would call who you would like to see and ask what their policy is. For my confirmation on this pregnancy, and my last, all I did was take a urine test.

on_the_move · February 2015

I agree with @kristikayy1124 you really don't need a blood test. Just call the new practice and ask to be set up as a new patient. As for DH, mine is excited and randomly says things like guess what, we're having another baby. I wouldn't worry too much, everyone is at least a little scared at first, good thing we have 8 months to get ready. I would suggest putting any baby talk on the back burner for right now and letting him come to grips with it in his own way.

MamaOwl15 · February 2015

If he's able to accompany you to your first prenatal visit, hearing the heartbeat and seeing the baby on the screen may make it seem more "real" to him.

My first baby with my husband was a complete surprise, and while j don't think he was in denial the first few weeks, after he saw and heard the baby, I could tell something just clicked for him. We lost our second child together (MMC, baby stopped developing at 6 weeks) back in September, and my husband said he never felt quite "bonded" to that child because we never heard a heartbeat or saw a fetus on the ultrasound.

It might take your husband a little time to accept the reality that you're pregnant, but once he hears a heartbeat, feels a kick for the first time, etc, he'll connect to his kid. And by the time baby is born, I'm sure he'll be just fine. My husband changed our son's first diaper and it was his first time changing a diaper in his life. It was like instinct.

jgreardon1 · February 2015

My fiancé didn't believe it (even with several bold positives and me vomiting at the slightest off smell). I had Hcg done yesterday and now he does and is excited (surprise pill pregnancy over here).

Weird question but what does DH stand for? New to this whole baby making nomenclature.

anorthro · February 2015

My husband is being an angel. He was skeptical about the first positive test but I've taken a few more and now he's on board. He's been reading a book and calling the baby "the poppyseed." I seem less excited than he is.

Tourmaline15 · February 2015

This baby wasn't planned. We've been doing natural family planning since I'm still breastfeeding DS1. DH, of course, says this is my fault, I wasn't paying attention and/or keeping track correctly. I can't tell if he's excited about the baby, he just seems so irritated with me.

str13 · February 2015

jgreardon1 said:
My fiancé didn't believe it (even with several bold positives and me vomiting at the slightest off smell). I had Hcg done yesterday and now he does and is excited (surprise pill pregnancy over here).

Weird question but what does DH stand for? New to this whole baby making nomenclature.

It's okay! It means dear husband.

DH didn't believe me one bit ever! With DD2 he even said it wasn't my ultrasound. Sometimes DHs go a little crazy, but they come around!

BadWolfofNNY · February 2015

My husband was excited after he finished freaking out how I had handed him something I had peed on. Ha!

Callory14 · February 2015

I think my DH is still processing it. He's excited but it's almost like it hasn't sunk in yet. He still doesn't understand why I can't really take anything but Tylenol lol. I have to keep reminding him and I have to remind myself that he moves slowly with change.

vfosmire · February 2015

My hubby is in freak out mode...we java been trying for 10 months and now that it is here he is so worried about money and says we did not have a good plan and he did not think it through...I feel awful..he says he is happy but that right now he needs to warp his head around it..Idk all I see is him freaking and not in a good way

dizzyc8 · February 2015

My DH was the same way kept telling me that my period will come but every test I took was positve. We have had misscariges before so we were scared to be pregnant, being high risk I had and US Monday and there was the little monkey, that changed everything. Him seeing the little bitty babu has made him more excited I think he thouches my belly and talks to baby all the time now. Which is exciting!! He will come around to it it's just scary you two made a human that your going to have to care for forever and he isn't seeing the fun about that yet maybe start talking about names and future activities you guys will soon be doing

pinkiepie04 · February 2015

Hubs is excited. We were trying so it wasn't a shock to him or anything, and he is doing awesome.

pinkiepie04 · February 2015

vfosmire said:

My hubby is in freak out mode...we java been trying for 10 months and now that it is here he is so worried about money and says we did not have a good plan and he did not think it through...I feel awful..he says he is happy but that right now he needs to warp his head around it..Idk all I see is him freaking and not in a good way

No worries! It is a lot to take in and his mind sounds like it's going a mile a minute. He will settle and ease into everything. I think they all secretly panic a little like we do, but about different things.

mamasnowwhite · February 2015

DH didn't believe it at first "well that second line is pretty light...." Uhhh, the second line's existence is the kicker here, dear... LOL digital one convinced him

now he's in full on dad mode

Kishybishy92 · February 2015

Hubster is so excited! This is our first and we've been trying for a few months so we're ready! He keeps saying cute things like "this time next year we can take the baby for a sled ride!" So cute.

Jbo375 · February 2015

krittag said:
I took my first test last Wed, 5 days before missed period. My husband has come up with every excuse in the book on why I'm testing postive! And how my period is going to come. He had me take 7 tests! All +! This is our first pregnancy and was not planned. We had planned on trying this time NEXT year! To be honest it took me until Saturday to believe it myself. Any advice on how to assure him this is real and happening and that it will all be OKAY! Thanks mama's! ♡

My husband was the same way!!! Haha! I finally went and got a digital test that said "PREGNANT". That did the trick. He said ok. It's ligit now. Lol maybe try that if you haven't!?

Jbo375 · February 2015

mamasnowwhite said:
DH didn't believe it at first "well that second line is pretty light...." Uhhh, the second line's existence is the kicker here, dear... LOL digital one convinced him now he's in full on dad mode

Haha!! Too funny! Same thing with my husband! He just needed to read the word "PREGNANT"

MrsJohnston&Labradors · February 2015

@mamasnowwhite‌ my husband was in shock and is now reading this too

KTNewbsbaby · February 2015

I feel so lucky that my SO has been so excited and wonderful. He is constantly going out of his way to make life easier for me.. a total night and day difference from my ex husband. We were married for over 3 years when I got pregnant and acted like his life was over. He actually made my life more difficult after he found out. I ended up having a mc... which again, he made more difficult on me.
I'm hopeful I will have a healthy pregnancy! I think it will be much easier and more likely this time around!

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Oneill614 · February 2015

True. And some have two moms! But not all threads are for all board members.

My SO is being really sweet. Reading articles and trying to learn. He started Pinterest boards to pin ideas for the nursery and articles on fatherhood. He may end up being the better parent!

oxsarah7ox · February 2015

We just found out on Saturday night and my husband is very excited, but is being very cautious. This is our first baby and he is nervous about everything. Is a little nervous to get too excited until we have a dr visit. I am on the hunt to find a good dr for our first appt now!

MSturtebury · February 2015

My husband is cautiously excited, because I miscarried last time, and he doesn't want us to be too disappointed if this one doesn't stick either. I think he'll be totally on board once I go to the doctor!

DoeEyedMama · February 2015

I don't think it really hit my husband until we went into the doctor for an ultrasound after some complications. This is his first, my third, and it was a whole new world for him. He was scared and nervous and edgy at first. Now he's just plain cute about it. He told me he wanted a 'stroller that is also a car seat slash baby hauler' (his words. LOL) for his Valentine's Day present.

samjane95 · February 2015

My boyfriend is in no way excited or happy. I've been given an ultimatum to choose between baby and him
You are all very lucky to have such great support.

Ree0123 · February 2015

samjane95 said:
My boyfriend is in no way excited or happy. I've been given an ultimatum to choose between baby and him
You are all very lucky to have such great support.

I guess you will see him in court.

ThePecks · February 2015

I know my husband is excited, but I don't think it's completely set in yet. He's a little distracted since we have a lot of plans to work on the house this year now that we could finally afford it, and I really want to get them done too. It's just going to be a little different since I won't be able to help as much as we'd planned. I'm sure once I start showing and we go to the first appointment it will be a whole new game

AshleyEH1 · February 2015

I think my husband was ready to have kids at like 10. He's over the moon. We've been trying for over 5 years and our first IVF was a success, which we were totally not expecting.

He bought pregnancy books before I did and has been "educating" me about pregnancy ever since

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