Sex is... not fun. Super TMI.

CrystalEve12 · January 2015

I don't really know how to describe what's going on with my sex life at this point. It's really sad because DH and I used to be pretty darn hot and heavy. Don't get me wrong, I do whatever I can to please him, and he's still hungry for it and satisfied, but we are having trouble with ME. I can NOT enjoy sex, and I don't know if it's all in my head, or if I'm really experiencing something strange. For starters, baby will be perfectly still and fine unless DH wanders down to the nether regions with his mouth. THEN she wants to move around like no tomorrow and I can't concentrate on what he's doing, and it's so WEIRD that she starts going crazy ONLY at that momentEVERY.SINGLE.TIME. Sex itself doesn't really feel like anything. IT's almost like I'm numb down there. Is this happening TO ANYONE ELSE? It is SO incredibly, extremely frustrating!

ashby83 · January 2015

Yes! My hubs and I had sex almost everyday and always had fun. Now I just want him to do the deed and go to bed!!! He wants me to feel pleasure but the O freaks me out EVERYTIME!!

CrystalEve12 · January 2015

I get frustrated because I miss how good it used to be, and it isn't like that anymore. It's like my vagina isn't even mine! AHHHHH.

TBsquared · January 2015

im the opposite...better than ever now!

louloutte87 · January 2015

My hubs is the one being hesitant, I'm getting desperate!

blankenbakerh · January 2015

I am sorry ladies:( I have not had these issues so I am not much help! My LO stays pretty still during the deed. I hope it gets better for you as I am sure that's frustrating! We aren't having issues but we haven't been able to get "busy" since before Thanskgiving because we have been waiting on MIL to move out of the house so we can move our stuff in. Well we have had to share the bed with our 5yr old and yeah! Frustrating!!!!!

gkrenzel · January 2015

Baby likes to move right whenever we start anything! Super distracting for me. TMI warning; leaky breasts suck. It got all over us last night. Turn-off. I don't even want to think about when the milk comes in...

blankenbakerh · January 2015

gkrenzel said:
Baby likes to move right whenever we start anything! Super distracting for me. TMI warning; leaky breasts suck. It got all over us last night. Turn-off. I don't even want to think about when the milk comes in...

Oh no! I am glad the leaky boobs have not started with me yet but I know once the milk comes in........My poor DH found out the hard way when my DD was born! Lol! Needless to say for awhile my bra and nursing pads stayed on;) lol

aniquinter1 · January 2015

I feel your pain, I feel nothing down there. So sex has become something I have to remember to give my husband. I just haven't had any interest in having it.

chavez2685 · January 2015

Yes, it's not fun anymore. I can still get the O but it cause a loooong contraction and is painful after, like 3 mins long! And I feel way too big and fat to just let him have fun and be done.

MissRissx3 · January 2015

Yeah our sex has gotten weird. Like I feel so weird being pregnant and having sex. Not to mention, I'm so so sensitive down there

my doctor swears it's normal for sharp pains, but I dont know. Hubs loves me pregnant or not so that's not the issue. The issue is me.. wah

Mom2enb · January 2015

I have varicose veins in my lady parts!! It's a pregnancy symptom and causes EXTRA blood to pool in those veins down there! With the extra blood flow every sensation is exaggerated! So im wanting it ALL THE TIME! Lol so I'm the opposite than you! :/I'm

Ash1103 · January 2015

When we do find a chance to have sex I definitely enjoy it, maybe even more than before I got pregnant. My issue is that I'm either extremely exhausted or just not in the mood. My libido sucks this time, it dropped with my first pregnancy but it's even more this time.

swiftrr · January 2015

My libido has gone insane, one minute I do want it and next minute I don't. DH is also very weirded out by the fact there is a baby in there. I'm just hoping will go back to the norm once she's here

blankenbakerh · January 2015

swiftrr said:
My libido has gone insane, one minute I do want it and next minute I don't. DH is also very weirded out by the fact there is a baby in there. I'm just hoping will go back to the norm once she's here

I wished I could say my DH was weirded out! He is worse now than before!!! I can't say anything as I am the same way! We figure we better get our time in now since there won't be as much time for that once the LO is here.

Guess this is why we are on #4! Haha!
6 in total counting the two I had when we met.

swiftrr · January 2015

As soon as he remembers there's a baby in there he freaks out lol

traceyade11 · January 2015

Since recently I been feeling like that. Am not enjoying sex anymore. I do it sometimes to please him but everytime we r doing it, all I can think about is it's hurting the baby or something. Even thou I now it's not possible. I can't get horny by him anymore I have to watch porn and all but all a while of doing it, I just seem to get them baby hurting thoughts lol.

fotocourtney · January 2015

I'm 25 weeks and my sex drive is nonexistent at this point. At least you're making an effort.

Jillio31 · January 2015

I feel like my libido is so low that I don't even want sex most of the time. My nipples and vagina no longer have sensation so that is a major bummer. Finding a position that works without laying on my back and with this huge baby bump in the way just makes it too much work. DH loves me just the same and when I say I'm not in the mood he says "ok" and is so good about still showing me affection. I do try to enjoy it and have sex to please him but it's frustrating! I want to enjoy it too! boo!

aniquinter1 · January 2015

Jillio31 said:
I feel like my libido is so low that I don't even want sex most of the time. My nipples and vagina no longer have sensation so that is a major bummer. Finding a position that works without laying on my back and with this huge baby bump in the way just makes it too much work. DH loves me just the same and when I say I'm not in the mood he says "ok" and is so good about still showing me affection. I do try to enjoy it and have sex to please him but it's frustrating! I want to enjoy it too! boo!

Preach sister. When I am giving my hubby the pity sex I just can't find a position that is comfortable. Either it's a position that makes the LO start doing somersaults or I suddenly feel like I need to pee. I haven't even gotten that big yet, so I am not looking forward to the future.

(Btw, thanks CrystalEve12 for starting this thread. I have been looking for a way to talk about this issue, but I was too chicken s**t to say it out loud)

lola2bee · January 2015

My mind says "yes!" but my body says "no. Just no."

CrystalEve12 · January 2015

I get worried like it absolutely can not be normal that you're all numb down there. I might bring it up at my next appointment. IT just seems too weird.

CrystalEve12 · January 2015

aniquinter1 said:

I feel like my libido is so low that I don't even want sex most of the time. My nipples and vagina no longer have sensation so that is a major bummer. Finding a position that works without laying on my back and with this huge baby bump in the way just makes it too much work. DH loves me just the same and when I say I'm not in the mood he says "ok" and is so good about still showing me affection. I do try to enjoy it and have sex to please him but it's frustrating! I want to enjoy it too! boo!
Preach sister. When I am giving my hubby the pity sex I just can't find a position that is comfortable. Either it's a position that makes the LO start doing somersaults or I suddenly feel like I need to pee. I haven't even gotten that big yet, so I am not looking forward to the future. (Btw, thanks CrystalEve12 for starting this thread. I have been looking for a way to talk about this issue, but I was too chicken s**t to say it out loud)

I thought about not bringing it up, but .. I know someone else had to be going what I was going through! I used The Bump with my first born and it got me through a lot of stuff, it's so nice to have a place to go to talk about stuff I may not discuss with DH or friends and family. A lot of my friends haven't been pregnant yet so I figured it was better to bring this here. Hah. I know what you mean about the positions though, on my back DH squashes me no matter how hard he tries not to.. It's just.. all out of whack!

cpolicella · January 2015

I was diagnosed with placenta previa right before Christmas and was put on "pelvic rest" meaning no anything, at all for me. And to top it all off, crazy sexual dreams at least a few times a week doesn't make it any easier to abstain

agallaher12 · January 2015

Sex has kind of turned into something I have to remember to give him. He knows I feel bad so he doesn't like asking (which he never had to ask before) I never thought I'd feel that way! I feel awful that I just don't enjoy it.

toddabunny · January 2015

Sex? What's that!! The last time I had it I got pregnant, DH is toataly freaked out by the fact there's a baby in there, luckily I have not been overly bothered myself which is definitely not normal for me

shelles423 · January 2015

My husband is so turned on by my preggo belly which was really surprising to me. But with back aches and just feeling big I'm never in the mood.... Except for when I'm asleep. ..my dreams are crazy steamy !!

cookiesmac · January 2015

Sex? what's that? My DH is petrified to touch me and I hate to say it but I'm not super interested. I'm a bad wife...

meli987 · January 2015

Thank god others feel this way! This is our first and I feel like we are falling into that stereotype that this is the end of being a sexual couple haha! I never want it and he just stops trying after a few days till I feel bad and am basically like "ok just get it over with"...then he insists on trying for me too but I'm just not into it. STMs+ please tell me this is just a phase of pregnancy and that it is possible to get back to feeling like it!

monidanielle · January 2015

I'm going through the same thing

I don't know what's happening, but my vagina has gotten sooo tight! Like it doesn't want anything up there. I'm 27 weeks today, & I've heard of things like this happening around this time. Before a few weeks ago, sex was the best thing ever!! But it's been so different lately. RIP old vagina </3

manacita · January 2015

Third baby and I'm totally with you gals. Sex is blegh at best. I'm not in the mood ever and when I have maintenance sex, it is so uncomfortable and well... Wet and squishy (tmi! Sorry!).

One position that is tolerable is forking. Belly is supported to the side and often with a pillow and there isn't a lot of wiggling around. Just a suggestion as we all move into our beached whale trimester.

Joy.

blankenbakerh · January 2015

meli987 said:
Thank god others feel this way! This is our first and I feel like we are falling into that stereotype that this is the end of being a sexual couple haha! I never want it and he just stops trying after a few days till I feel bad and am basically like "ok just get it over with"...then he insists on trying for me too but I'm just not into it. STMs+ please tell me this is just a phase of pregnancy and that it is possible to get back to feeling like it!

It's definitely a phase!!! You will get your mojo back after LO comes! At first you may be really tired but after a few weeks things will fall back into place;) Trust me......5 kids ....1 on the way;)

sb184 · January 2015

My hubs has been kind of freaked out to have sex since we found out I was pregnant. He can't get mentally past the fact our child is in my uterus sloth ouch I've explained 100 times that LO is not in my vagina and it's perfectly fine to have sex! Well until yesterday.. I had to go back to the doctor and now I'm on pelvic rest which I know my husband is loving because he was so freaky out! (We only have had sex like 5 times because he freaks so much!!) So for you ladies that are able I hope you enjoy it!! Also we're going on our anniversary trip today and no sex!!

mebryant94 · January 2015

I get turned on but once we start having sex it's like I just want it to be over. On top of that there's so much extra blood flow that I swell up afterwards and its so painful. I'm hoping things go back to normal after the baby is born.

Shaikha+Ali · January 2015

Same.. This month, I dont feel like I want to have sex with my husband. When i was 4 months and 5 months pregnant I was crazy about having sex and reallyyy enjoy it! But now not.
My husband understands my setuation. ♡

04RMWC · February 2015

So relieved to see so many facing the same thing I am. My hubby and I used to be hot and heavy all the time, but I just haven't felt into it the last couple of months. I'm only heading into my 24th week and not even that big yet, but I just don't seem to have much of a drive and feel so unattractive. It seems to be causing such an issue these days that I end up feeling like a failure of a wife and in tears - gotta love those hormones. I usually just give in and move along, but it seems to be causing more of a problem each time that I don't seem into it.

louloutte87 · February 2015

Curious - does pelvic rest just mean no penetrative sex or literally no orgasms at all?

sb184 · February 2015

Literally no orgasms.. We did have a fun trip to Savannah, but no sex on an anniversary trip is not ideal. Not to mention it will be the same on Valentine's too

bdhelmd · February 2015

Well my problem is a little different. I want to have sex a lot ..... But by the time I get off work and settle in the bed I'm knocked out....

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sbride68 · February 2015

I feel like all I want is sex now! My poor DH can't keep up! Lol it used to be the other way around. I think he is enjoying it though

NanSee3 · February 2015

I'm 24 weeks and recently had my first orgasm since this pregnanxy began. (Third pregnancy and my 2nd child is only 17 months old). I HAD PAINFUL BRAXTON HICKS FOR AN HOUR AFTER. I don't remember having BH this early for any reason but dr said it's normal when you orgasm and your uterus is this big. That said, I had gained weight after baby #2 and don't have a cute belly like a lot of you ladies...so, even 10 years into this relationship, I feel self conscious. AND TOO FREAKIN TIRED. My husband will be lucky if we have sex again (at this rate) before summer. (I swear...there's therapy for people like me! Haha!). With my previous pregnancies, I was MORE sensitive and interested than I am now. Hormones and blood flow...le sigh.

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