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Has anyone ever heard of a baby sprinkle?

carolynmarie112212carolynmarie112212 member
edited January 2015 in June 2015 Moms
Sorry I don't normally post on here, so I'm sorry if this is a special snowflake post. My MIL and I are on the same page that you only have one baby shower unless there is a big age gap, or so I thought. Today she informs me that she wants to throw us a baby sprinkle as she calls it. She said its like a baby shower just not with big expensive gifts, so like cloths and what not. I feel as though that is being greedy, when this baby is born our DD will only be 2.5 years old, and she's not really listening to how I feel about it. I feel bad because I know women are lucky to have someone throw them a baby shower, but at the same time I feel like its just like "okay people we're having another baby, give us more stuff". What are your thoughts on a baby sprinkle?
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  • robynjeannetterobynjeannette member
    I don't know the technical etiquette for this, but is there a way to make it more of a party that's focused on celebrating the upcoming baby/enjoying time with family and friends without making it seem focused around the gifts? That wouldn't seem too bad to me.
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    @robynjeannette‌ I would be okay with that of it wasn't focused on the gifts, I just don't want people to think "oh they just want more stuff'. She just mentioned it today so I don't know for sure exactly what she is planning. We did a gender reveal party this past Sunday so we could announce what we are having and spend time with family so I thought that was a cute alternative to having a baby shower, so the baby sprinkle is throwing me off just a bit. I'll have to talk to her more tomorrow to see what she is thinking, I'm probably just over thinking it too much.
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  • carolynmarie112212carolynmarie112212 member
    @dedebush02 thank you for the sarcasm, it made me laugh.
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  • robynjeannetterobynjeannette member
    Hmm, I didn't realize you had just had a gender reveal party cause that sounds similar to what I was already suggesting. Still, at least someone else is throwing the "sprinkle" for you so it's not like you're necessarily going out asking for gifts? I dunno. But go with what feels right to you.
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  • carolynmarie112212carolynmarie112212 member
    @robynjeannette‌ that's what I was thinking. When I announced that we wanted to do a gender reveal party she was almost upset because she wants to plan everything. So I feel like it is just her way of trying to be involved and planning things but I'm not sure. I guess I just have to talk to her more, and hope that she let's me know what she is thinking.
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  • robynjeannetterobynjeannette member
    Yeah... I definitely have relatives that are the same way. Good luck! :-)
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  • carolynmarie112212carolynmarie112212 member
    @robynjeannette‌ so you can relate, thank you!
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  • dedebush02dedebush02 member
    edited January 2015
    @carolynmarie112212‌ Your welcome :) it's literally what comes to mind when I hear sprinkle. I do totally understand what your feeling. My DS will be 8 when this little guy comes and my mom and MIL are going to through me one. I feel kinda weird about it but I made a registries and DH and I bought all the big things on it. It is my DH first child so I understand why his mom wants to throw one. It does make me feel a little weird even with the 8 year gap between children.
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  • desndesn member
    I have 3 kids age 12, 9, and 5 and i am expecting my 4th and final. I have had a baby shower for all of them. Now I had kept all of my big stuff (swing, bouncer, playpen, etc) fore the two boys 12 & 9 so it was just mostly the smaller things and some new clothes that i needed. My 3rd was 4 years later and a girl, i had given away most of my baby stuff to friends in need and obviously since she is a girl i needed new clothes. We still bought most of the big items or got them used. My work friends all put in $5 to buy me her pack n play. I am planning on having another one add well. It has been 5 years since my last one and it is another boy so weer need app new clothes. We are all for used items except a carseat ams will buy mousy of the big items on my registry ourselves, but it is always fun to have a party.
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  • delujm0delujm0 member
    edited January 2015
    I think a sprinkle is fine if it is a very small party (close family and very close friends only) and there is no registry...some people even do a theme (ask for books or something). It's small gifts and a small casual get together.

    If your mil is actually planning a second shower with a large guest list and calling it a sprinkle, I would pass and maybe do a sip and see once the baby is born instead.

    I'm not going to touch the previous post here...but even if your children are different sexes and you opted to give away your big items previously, having multiple large showers looks gift grabby and entitled. If people want to buy you gifts they will do it without a formal invitation to do so.
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  • bradley9bradley9 member
    If your not ready for a party any time soon compromise suggest a Sip n See. After the baby is here welcome him or her with all the family and friends just like a shower/sprinkle.
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  • lshylkolshylko member
    If your family and friends want to throw another shower/sprinkle and you have the energy then I say go for it! If you feel less awkward you can explain to everyone that you have the necessities and their presence is your present. If they enjoy shopping and buy something anyway then graciously accept and don't make a gift opening the main focus of the event.
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  • lilitaliangirllilitaliangirl member
    I hosted a "sprinkle" for my sister's second. Although, we did it a month after her DD was born so it was more of a "meet the baby party", and specifically asked that no gifts be purchased. Of course, some people brought something little, like an outfit or diapers.
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  • CateOfChicagoCateOfChicago member
    My sister wants to throw me one and I told her no way. My dd is only 15 months. Between the shower, christening and first birthday, I feel greedy enough. I also threw parties this year for my mils 70th, my dads 70th and my bils wedding shower. People are sick of me, I'm sure.
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  • courtyowl427courtyowl427 member
    I threw a sprinkle for a girlfriend of mine last summer. It was just our close group of friends having brunch on my deck. We all pitched in and gave her a group gift. It was her 2nd child, opposite sex, about 5 years apart. It was more about celebrating her and the baby and spending time together. We wanted her to know we love her and were excited for the new baby. She really appreciated it and it was a great excuse to have champagne on a Sunday morning!

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  • alcrimminsalcrimmins member
    You could suggest a sip & see after the baby is born. Then everyone could focus on seeing the new baby instead of gifts. Just a thought.
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  • ksimo6ksimo6 member
    My sister lives in the south and sprinkles are part of the norm down there.  Her friends threw her one for her third baby.  I am in the midwest, and sprinkles are just anohter term for a "shower" and they are a GIANT no no ettiquite wise up here.  I would politely decline it...
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  • mamahawk12mamahawk12 member
    My girlfriends threw me a surprise sprinkle for our last - I would have turned them down had I known about it beforehand. But they literally just showed up at my house one night, so I couldn't necessarily say no then. It was 6 of us... they all brought practical gifts (diapers, wipes, new burp cloths, etc) and my favorite sweets. It was really low key and fun. Anything more and I would have been embarrassed.
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  • sidebothsideboth member
    I was offered a sprinkle yesterday by two friends.  We agreed super casual at a restaurant, no games, no registry, bring a small gift if you feel like it.  My first is 4, a boy and I lived in a different country when he was born (hence no shower).  I am having a girl this time.  It will be small with good friends.  We are all on the "older" side so I am at the tail end of baby having and this is just an excuse for us to have a get together.  It was a very nice offer and I took it with appreciation.
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  • thelittlestbeethelittlestbee member
    I think full blown showers for anything after your first baby (with some exceptions) are gift-grabby. That being said, I think a smaller "sprinkle" is OK. I think the major difference is having tons of guests and a full on gift registry. Meaning, it's OK for baby #1, but I think it's inappropriate for baby #2. 

    I think you should go ahead and have your sprinkle, but just don't have a gift registry that gets shared with everyone, because that's what can turn a lovely get together into something that gets major side-eye from your guests. 
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  • carolynmarie112212carolynmarie112212 member
    Thank you everyone for your responses! After everything that went down on here I was very nervous to post anything, but thank you guys for your responses! I'm going to talk to her more today to see what exactly she is planning and trying to suggest something different such as a sip and see :). Thank you guys so much!!
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    KonaCoffeeBean said:


    Trampslikeus said:

    @desn   no. just no. everything about this, no.  I feel like it would be wrong not to tell you, there is NO way that people aren't saying "are you kidding me, another shower? is she for real?" behind your back. consider reconsidering.





    Agreed. If I was invited to a fourth baby shower for the same mother, it would take all my strength not to buy her an etiquette book and a box of condoms.

    I would buy her an etiquette book, but I'd mail it, a FOURTH BABY SHOWER?? - my time is more important than showing up for that shit.
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  • GASuzukiGASuzuki member
    My best friend just asked me if it would be OK to throw me a sprinkle and I said it would be wonderful. I don't really care about the gifts, but it's nice to celebrate my second LO, who is actually arriving six years after his big sister. Anyway, as I understand it, a sprinkle is a small shower to celebrate the second baby. 

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    megron said:
    Trampslikeus said:
    @desn   no. just no. everything about this, no.  I feel like it would be wrong not to tell you, there is NO way that people aren't saying "are you kidding me, another shower? is she for real?" behind your back. consider reconsidering.
    Agreed. If I was invited to a fourth baby shower for the same mother, it would take all my strength not to buy her an etiquette book and a box of condoms.
    I would buy her an etiquette book, but I'd mail it, a FOURTH BABY SHOWER?? - my time is more important than showing up for that shit.
    You guise are so mean! You don't know her lyfe!!! 

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  • ElRubyElRuby member
    I don't have a problem with sprinkles, but I think it is really tacky to register for gifts. I was invited to one for her THIRD child and there was a registry.... I was like is this for real?! I would have been completely fine with the party and even the gift but the registry just was really ridiculous!
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  • ajgerberajgerber member

    Calling it a sprinkle is cutesy but it is still technically a shower.  In my neck of the woods, second showers are not overly tacky.  Most of the time there is no registry and people buy diapers, outfits or other relatively inexpensive gifts.  It's really just a hangout with cake and a few presents.

    I would judge if you are on kid #4.  It doesn't matter if you gave the stuff away or if it is a different sex, it's just greedy to me.  I would gift diapers or a cute outfit but that is probably it.

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  • carolynmarie112212carolynmarie112212 member
    Just to clarify this is only my second and last child, not my fourth lol!
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  • ajgerberajgerber member
    carolynmarie112212 said:
    Just to clarify this is only my second and last child, not my fourth lol!
    Sorry OP!  Someone else mentioned they were on kid #4.  I should have clarified in my post!  I don't think a second small shower is a big deal but it is common with my friends or family.
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  • carolynmarie112212carolynmarie112212 member
    ajgerber said:

    Calling it a sprinkle is cutesy but it is still technically a shower.  In my neck of the woods, second showers are not overly tacky.  Most of the time there is no registry and people buy diapers, outfits or other relatively inexpensive gifts.  It's really just a hangout with cake and a few presents.

    I would judge if you are on kid #4.  It doesn't matter if you gave the stuff away or if it is a different sex, it's just greedy to me.  I would gift diapers or a cute outfit but that is probably it.

    That's how I feel. I think it is basically a second shower and that is what is making me uncomfortable about the whole thing. I will definitely not being doing a registry. I'm waiting for my MIL to call me back.
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  • ooopswediditagainooopswediditagain member
    This is my 3rd.. It's a DD and my other DD is 11 my DS IS 4. He was planned and we got rid of everything after him. I did not have a shower for DS. Now my friends are insisting on a Sprinkle for me. I said no a million times but they insist. It is a rather large group of friends I've only come to know since after my DS was born. Sprinkles are fine. Just role with MIL on this one.
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