Ectopic @ 8 weeks, recovering from surgery :(

foreverbree

Hi ladies, It looks like I won't be joining you as a mummy in July. After a second round of bleeding (my first was at about 6 weeks) and some severe abdominal cramping, I was diagnosed with an ectopic in my left tube. It has been a rough end to the last 8 weeks. I was admitted to Emergency on Tuesday night, and after much discussion, and a specialised scan to find its exact location (it wasn't appearing on a regular sonogram scan) and many, many tears, I made the decision to remove the left tube as there was damage that prevented it from been clear, which is why our baby stuck where it did. I had keyhole surgery yesterday (friday) morning, and I'm now recovering from the loss of a tube, and our first baby. You may be wondering why I didn't go down the option of Methotrexate to terminate the pregnancy - my hcg levels were too high, and there was only a 50% chance that it would work with levels like mine. If it didn't, I'd require emergency surgery. With a damaged tube, if it was not removed there was a chance that this would happen again in the same tube. The decision to remove it was not an easy one, I'm 26 and thought I was healthy. During this process, we also discovered that I have a bicornuate uterus (slightly heart shaped at the top, instead of flat) which *may* mean that I may deliver prematurely or require a c-section as the baby may not have room to turn so will be breech. It not ideal, but will not stop us trying for the family we dream of. We simply hit a bump in the road, and we just need to heal, and move forward. My husband, he's been incredible during this time. The outpouring of love and support from our family and friends has been immense. I just wanted to let you all know that this experience has made me strong, but it is something that I will always carry with me. Bree

mlebates

So very sorry for your loss. I hope you recover quickly. ((Hugs))

SweetTamale38

I am so sorry, Bree.  I hope you heal quickly.  Your positive perspective will see you through this, but I am also wishing you peace and comfort right now.  It sounds like you are in very loving arms.  Please accept my thoughts, prayers, and hugs.  

JKGordon

I'm very sorry for your loss. You have great perspective. Wishing you all the best!

bzbear2

So sorry for your loss.

I just wanted to share that a friend also had an ectopic and had surgery to remove a tube and she got pregnant the very first cycle they started trying afterwards. She is 35 and they have a healthy 4 month old girl!

lizzybeth13

Very sorry for your loss. T&P with you and your husband as you continue on your journey.  Sounds like you have a great support system that you can lean on while you heal (physically and emotionally).  Wishing you all the best in the future.

katiebug58

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope you recover from the surgery quickly. T&P to you and your husband!

PregsMcSnoozalot

very, very sorry    best wishes for the future!

starlight0412

I'm so sorry for your loss. I hope your road to recovery is brief. Take care.

Artistmom30

So sorry for your loss. I can say that when you become pregnant again, it is possible to have the baby naturally. My cousin has a heart shaped uterus as well, is pregnant with her 3rd and had her first 2 naturally. Good luck to you.

mcvgal

sorry for your loss

tourqeyes

I'm so sorry. Thinking of you.

chance_encounters

I am so sorry. I do want to share with you that a very good friend of mine has 1 tube and she has two beautiful children. Do not give up hope. My heart, thoughts and prayers go out to you (hugs)

cakebatter27

I am so sorry Bree. I can't imagine how hard this is. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

flmomof4

I'm so sorry for your loss and what you had to go through. Best of luck to you.

rattlecanqueen

I'm so sorry for your loss. please take care. I'll be keeping you in my prayers.

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I'm so sorry

brooklynesque

I'm so sorry.  I hope you recover quickly and are pregnant again soon.

mrscurlygurl

Very sorry for your ordeal. Best of luck in the future.

mamabc14

Positive thoughts of you. Very sorry you are going through this. Please remember to take care of yourself.

reils500

So sorry for your loss. I have a heart shaped uterus too, my son was born past term & vaginally. I wish you the best.

yurmom

I am so sorry for your loss. I think you made the right decision to have surgery, I would've done the same. Just wanted to add that I have a bicornuate uterus and had an uneventful pregnancy with DD. Best of luck to you and again so very sorry for your loss.

hutsellwilson

I'm so sorry for your loss.

LuluPMW

So sorry you had to go through something so difficult. But you've got a good attitude and lucky to have real life love and support through this.

iris427

I'm so sorry.

SuperKim13

I'm so sorry for your loss.

JMCB09

I am so very sorry for your loss

ahjahbaba

So sorry for your loss. Hang in there

Jing22

I am so sorry for your loss!  I hope getting that take home baby comes your way very soon.  Take care of yourself.

INmommy871278

So sorry for your loss.

TRS48

I am so sorry, please take care of yourself and know we are here for you. Praying for you!

likeanoldtimemovie

I'm so sorry. Thinking of you and your husband.

ashx3renee

((Hugs)) So sorry for your loss!

clk723

I am terribly sorry for your loss. I hope that your positive spirit helps you through this tough time and wish you the best of luck when you decide to try again.

lrendon

@foreverbree I am so sorry about your loss. I'm not sure if you read my post titled Ectopic Pregnancy Loss, but you and I had the exact same thing and I too was admitted to the hospital on Tuesday night. I had my surgery Wednesday morning since my hcg levels were too high for medications as well. It was my first pregnancy and my RE told me the surgery would be best because then they could go in and see any possible problems for conceiving in the future. I did not want to lose my tube, but the doctor obviously felt it was too damaged. I just want you to know you are not alone and we both have great husbands who will make our dreams of becoming moms come true and when we hold our babies it will be that much sweeter! Lots of hugs and prayers coming your way!

nicole336

I'm so sorry for your loss. Wishing you a speedy recovery.

Crissy&Charlie

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had an ectopic pregnancy in September. It was a really sad, difficult experience that I'm not sure anyone who has not lost a pregnancy, especially a very much wanted one, can understand. When I was in the hospital waiting for surgery (I refused methotrexate because I was still breastfeeding my older daughter then), the nurse in the ER told me a story about her best friend. Her first pregnancy was tubal, and she lost her tube. She went on to have six in eventful pregnancies and six healthy kids, and then had the remaining tube tied. Sending you prayers, light, and healing thoughts.

hupp0013

I am so so sorry for your loss.

Kristy917

I am so sorry. I hope your heart and body heals quickly. Thinking of you.

acciovino

I'm so sorry for your loss and having to go through that. Prayers for you and your DH that you can get through this difficult time and be successful in the future.