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Brag about your DH/SO

Let's admit, IF sucks a big fat one, but most of us are in it together with our DH or SO.

Tell us something awesome about your spouse.

Bonus: How is your relationship different because of IF?

@luvboson I'm dying to hear your response! I've wanted to throttle YH a few times. 
TTC Since 3/2010
Me-36, Unexplained Infertility, DH-35, all clear
Clomid 50mg 12/2011 = BFN
Clomid 100mg 1/2012 = BFN, with Cyst
IVF #1 Lupron/Menopur/Gonal-f/HCG Trigger
ER 4/19/12 = 11 retrieved, 6 fertilized,
ET 4/22/12 = 2 transfered (day 3), remaining 3 weren't good enough to freeze
Beta 5/3 = BFP, 87 Beta #2 5/7 560.9 Beta #3 5/9 1376.5 First u/s One Baby, 125bpm!
Second u/s, 176bmp! Kicked over to the OB by the RE at 8w. Team Green!! 
Baby girl J arrived two weeks early! Born into water, med-free. Hooray for Team Pink!

TTC #2 - back to the RE, treatment started 12/2014. 

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Re: Brag about your DH/SO

  • CarrieB.CarrieB. member
    edited January 2015
    Oh, I have a good one. My DH was just contacted by an agent in NYC and is writing 50 pages on spec for a novel. This is his dream to get a novel published and I am so proud of him.

    Bonus- I think we are closer bc of IF bc it's this weird tragic mysterious thing we went through together and came out the other side with these awesome kids. Plus we have lots of inside jokes. Like this one doctor who had a Japenese toilet.
    IVF, acupuncture, meditation and a miracle. 

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     Our sweet Valentine's Day FET.

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    Mrs.AmyDylan[Deleted User]Mayzie15
  • I'm a SAHM and I admit I can be a little lazy or unmotivated. MH is awesome at picking up the slack even though he shouldn't have to. He can also bounce a newborn/baby/toddler to sleep in record time. I don't have the patience for that.


    TTC#1 for 19 months with PCOS and MFI IUI#3 + injectables = BFP!!!!  Beta#1-134(13dpiui) Beta #2-392(15dpiui) 
    #1 born December 2011
    TTC#2 - Beta #1 [email protected] Beta#2 -1353 @16dpo
    #2 born May 2013
    TTC # 3 June 2014 BFP 12-1-14
    #3 born August 2015 
    #4!!!!!!! due June 2017 
    [Deleted User]Mrs.AmyDylanMayzie15
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  • My DH is awesome because he is so hands on with J. He got up with her at 6:10 and gave me another 40 min of sleep. He is very happy to watch her so I can still do stuff with my non-mom friends.

    Bonus - it has made us closer. When our first cycle was going poorly, he worked from home and took me to all my monitoring appointments. He stayed home the entire 2ww. He can be a bit too puppy dogs, rainbows and unicorns in cycle, but I turned into a grumpy troll. I think IF had made us more grateful parents.
    TTC Since 3/2010
    Me-36, Unexplained Infertility, DH-35, all clear
    Clomid 50mg 12/2011 = BFN
    Clomid 100mg 1/2012 = BFN, with Cyst
    IVF #1 Lupron/Menopur/Gonal-f/HCG Trigger
    ER 4/19/12 = 11 retrieved, 6 fertilized,
    ET 4/22/12 = 2 transfered (day 3), remaining 3 weren't good enough to freeze
    Beta 5/3 = BFP, 87 Beta #2 5/7 560.9 Beta #3 5/9 1376.5 First u/s One Baby, 125bpm!
    Second u/s, 176bmp! Kicked over to the OB by the RE at 8w. Team Green!! 
    Baby girl J arrived two weeks early! Born into water, med-free. Hooray for Team Pink!

    TTC #2 - back to the RE, treatment started 12/2014. 

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    [Deleted User]Cwhitaker27Mayzie15CarrieB.
  • While I am kind of ready to throat punch my husband today (for spontaneously deciding to go out all day yesterday and spend oodles of money) I will give credit where credit is due. He is a FANTASTIC balance to my nervous self. More specifically - last week when we went for my first OB appointment I pretty much had a panic attack in the waiting room becuase of nerves. He was cool, calm and refreshing to be with - I have never been so happy to have him with me as I was at that moment. He really does balance me out nicely.

    Bonus - it has most definitely made us more grateful as parents. It's not lost on us what a miracle DD is and how lucky we are to have her.  Unfortunately however both fresh IVF cycles were really difficult on us, we definitely struggled with the stress and emotions involved. this makes me sad, but I'm hopeful we won't be in that position again.


    "I won't give up on us, even if the skies get rough, I'm giving you all my love, I"m still looking up."
    TTC #1 since August 2011 MFI Diagnosis - April 2012
    IVF #1 - July 2012 - Stims start 7/2, ER 7/12, 20 retrieved, 16 mature, 13 fertilized!
    ET - 7/17 - 1 blast transferred. Beta - 7/26 273, Beta 2 7/30 - 1143. Beta 3 8/6 - 11,597
    12/25 - Santa tells us "IT'S A GIRL!" EDD - April 4th

    Our Little Easter Bunny has arrived!

    Molly Mildred born 03/31/13


    TTC A Sibling....... FET #1 11/14/14, Transferred one beautiful blast

    Remaining four frosties arrested due to "embryologist error"

    Plllllleasssee stick little icicle.....Beta 11/23...BFN

    Starting ALL over with a fresh IVF cycle

    Stims start 11/28/14, ER December 10th, 13 eggs retrieved, 11 mature, only 4 fertilized 

    1 Blast Transferred on December 15th..... Beta Christmas Eve... Please Santa, bring me a baby!

    Beta #1 345.....Beta #2....750/ First U/S 1/13/15/HB 131....EDD 9/2/2015

    [Deleted User]Mrs.AmyDylanMayzie15CarrieB.
  • My pregnancies have never been easy - this one has been really tough. My little guy is 16 months and wants to wrestle, be thrown in the air, etc. He's a typical boy and MH works long hours- he gets home tired and will just jump in and entertain my son. He's not missed any doctors appts for either child. My mom has lived with for almost a year and he has more patience than I do with her - that's amazing!

    Bonus - I'm convinced we were supposed to be on this IF journey together. I really don't believe without his humor and strengh we would have our children.

    Me 38 MH 41 - TTC since June 2010 - dx with Severe MFI. Straight to IVF with ICSI. IVF #1 - ER 06/13/12 - 9 Eggs Retrieved - 4 ICSI'd - only 2 fert. 06/15/12 - 2DT - 3 cell & 6 cell with fragmentation. Beta 06/29/12 - IVF #1 = BFN. 07/20/12 - WTF Appt -Told by our RE to quit IVF. Second Opinion from RE is good. IVF#2 - November 2012. Estradiol Pills Started 11/6. Stims start 11/16. ER 11/26 - 7 eggs retrieved - all mature. 4 fertilized with ICSI. ET 11/29 Transferred 3 embryos. Beta is 12/10. 1st Beta 81 2nd Beta 160 and 3rd beta 360!!! First U/S 12/21/12 - We saw one beautiful gest. sac. 2nd U/S is 01/04/2013 - H/B 183 02/05/13 - NT Scan - everything looks good and IT'S A BOY!  Aiden was born 08/20/2013.

    IVF #2 is in progress.  ER was 05/12/14 - 11 eggs retrieved, 8 fertilized with ICSI.  ET was 05/15/14 - we transferred 3 embryos as we did on the cycle my son was conceived.  We were able to freeze 3 embryos. Beta is scheduled for 05/26/14.  1st beta - 111.  2nd beta - 159 didn't double :( 3rd beta Friday 5/30) - not a lot of hope left. Beta # 3 is 247 - probably ectopic.  Beta # 4 is 813 - possibly vanishing multiple sydrome?  06/05/14 - 5w4days - first U/S - we see a gestational sac and yolk - still have hope!  06/17/14 - 7w1day - U/S and saw and heard the heartbeat - Finally!  06/27/14 - 8w4days - Baby and heartbeat look and sound great :)  EDD 02/01/14 and It's a boy!


     "Everything will be okay in the end. If it's not okay, it's not the end."


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    [Deleted User]Mrs.AmyDylanCwhitaker27CarrieB.
  • @chiwifey‌ My DH is an EE too! I love that he is seriously the smartest person I know (even though he is pretty introverted). He is is always exposing the boys to classical music and math! He is such a hard worker and so kind and thoughtful. He deeply cares about those struggling with illness, disability or poverty. And, he is such an incredibly patient father. Sometimes, I lose my temper and take it out on him and he is so fair and willing to compromise.

    Bonus: I think we had a strong foundation, but IF really forced us to be a team. It was kinda "us against the world." I also saw my husband experience absolute and real grief and it made me love him more (does that sound super weird?). I mean, I knew I was struggling, but to see this desire to be a father and the pain he went through during that time, changed the way I saw him.
    TTC in 2009, Dx: Unexplained IF
    Three TI cycles (BFP...miscarriage), five IUI attempts and 2.5 IVF cycles later...BFP!!
    12dp5dt: 765; 15dp5dt: 1979; 17dp5dt: 3379...TWINS!!!!!
    Our perfect baby boys were born at 36w1d!! 








    [Deleted User]Mrs.AmyDylanMayzie15CarrieB.
  • I'm sure we can all relate to the lack of romance that goes into baby making for those with IF. After IF we really began to put some effort into making our relationship romantic! There were so many times we just dtd because "maybe" I was ovulating instead of focusing on our love for each other. So now we try to be romantic on many occasions inside and outside of the bedroom.
    I can totally relate. Especially since we've just been through a year and a half of maybe-unexplained-infertility-is-fixed-with-a-pregnancy sex. I'm glad you guys are "back on track". AFM, I start lupron in a week and a half, so we are going to be off-track for a few months. Sigh. 
    TTC Since 3/2010
    Me-36, Unexplained Infertility, DH-35, all clear
    Clomid 50mg 12/2011 = BFN
    Clomid 100mg 1/2012 = BFN, with Cyst
    IVF #1 Lupron/Menopur/Gonal-f/HCG Trigger
    ER 4/19/12 = 11 retrieved, 6 fertilized,
    ET 4/22/12 = 2 transfered (day 3), remaining 3 weren't good enough to freeze
    Beta 5/3 = BFP, 87 Beta #2 5/7 560.9 Beta #3 5/9 1376.5 First u/s One Baby, 125bpm!
    Second u/s, 176bmp! Kicked over to the OB by the RE at 8w. Team Green!! 
    Baby girl J arrived two weeks early! Born into water, med-free. Hooray for Team Pink!

    TTC #2 - back to the RE, treatment started 12/2014. 

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  • luvboston said:
    Hmm you really made me think because I just want to strangle him lately. Due to this storm he will have been gone for a month when he finally gets home.

    Tell us something awesome about your spouse:
    He always has accepted me and my truckload of allergies and diseases and never has run away or said he couldn't handle it. He never was bothered by brushing his teeth before kissing me or eating gluten free, corn free so he could kiss me.
    He is a good dad.
    He puts up with my family.

    Bonus: How is your relationship different because of IF?
    DH knows that I will never give up and I know he can be stretched far outside his comfort zone without breaking. 

    @luvboston I'm glad you could think of some good things. Hopefully, he will get his tail home before the baby arrives!
    TTC Since 3/2010
    Me-36, Unexplained Infertility, DH-35, all clear
    Clomid 50mg 12/2011 = BFN
    Clomid 100mg 1/2012 = BFN, with Cyst
    IVF #1 Lupron/Menopur/Gonal-f/HCG Trigger
    ER 4/19/12 = 11 retrieved, 6 fertilized,
    ET 4/22/12 = 2 transfered (day 3), remaining 3 weren't good enough to freeze
    Beta 5/3 = BFP, 87 Beta #2 5/7 560.9 Beta #3 5/9 1376.5 First u/s One Baby, 125bpm!
    Second u/s, 176bmp! Kicked over to the OB by the RE at 8w. Team Green!! 
    Baby girl J arrived two weeks early! Born into water, med-free. Hooray for Team Pink!

    TTC #2 - back to the RE, treatment started 12/2014. 

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  • My hubby is like the perfect compliment to me. He calms me down when I'm upset, he calls me on my crap (most people won't) and he has become silly to make me laugh! He is always willing to try new things with me and encourage me to grow into a better person. 

    Bonus: it has made us so much closer. Iron forges stronger through fire, I feel like our marriage was tested through our loses and we came out more in love and way stronger than before.
    Diagonsed PCOS TTC since May 2009
    First M/C December 2010 Second M/C August 2011
    Oct 2011~Second round clomid 50 mg; BFN
    Nov 2011~Third round clomid 50 mg: BFP
    Dec 11- Beta #1 91;Dec 13- Beta #2 186.2
    Dec 27- third miscarriage
    May 25th- Beta #1 369;May 27th- Beta #2 798
    Baby girl born Jan 23, 9lbs 3oz, 21 1/2" long
    May 27th-Beta #1 80; May 29th- Beta #2 304; May 31st- Beta #3 860
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  • DH is an amazing dad. I obviously knew he would be from the beginning but the bond he has with DS is awesome. They both get so excited to see each other, it's the sweetest thing ever. He is also working his ass off so I can be home for 6 months on maternity leave.

    Bonus: It has made us much closer. While you're going through IF, no one really gets it. DH was always there to pull me out of those super emotional lows. And I was able to really see his emotion and how he wanted it as much as I did.

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    Trying for #1 since May 2010   l   DX ~ Unexplained Infertility June 2011

    IUI #1&2 = BFN; IUI #3 = BFP, m/c @ 6 weeks

    November '11 ~ IVF#1 ~ ER 11/18 (29R, 17F) ~ 5dt of one beautiful blast on 11/23 = BFP!!

    Beta #1 9dp5dt = 116, P4 = 28 ~ Beta #2 13dp5dt = 700 ~ Beta #3 20dp5dt = 9500, P4 = 26

    1st u/s 12/27 - hb of 156!! EDD 8.10.12 :)   **TEAM GREEN!**

    Sweet baby boy born 8.18.12

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    Trying for #2

    FET #1 - October '13 - c/p   l   FET #2 - December '13 - cancelled :(   l   FET #2.2 - 1.30.14 - BFN

    ~ More testing - hysteroscopy, endometrial biopsy & more b/w - all normal / negative~

    Surprise BFP while waiting on FET #3 ~ beta #1 500; beta #2 1600; first u/s 4/3 - measuring 5w5d, no hb yet!; 2nd u/s 4/10 - hb 132, measuring 6w6d - EDD 11.29.14 :)    **TEAM GREEN!**

    Beautiful baby girl born 11.24.14

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    Mrs.AmyDylan
  • DH is amazing with H and my shortcomings. He always tells me to go do something by myself and takes H. He's patient with both H and I, taking time to put effort into us.

    Bonus - IF brought us closer. I got to see a side of him I've never seen and he got to see how sensitive I can be, both emotionally and with hormonal changes. His dad is a he-man woman hater and says there's no such thing as hormones making women "crazy," they're just crazy. DH got to see first hand how that is not true and was great throughout it all.

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    TTC #1 since 3/2011
    DX: anovulatory and severe MFI
    DH is a testicular cancer survivor
    IVF#1 w/ICSI lupron, gonal f, ovidrel
    ER 6/15/12 6R 6M 6F! ET 6/20/12
    Beta #1: 154 Beta #2: 509 Beta #3: 7326
    Baby Boy born 3/1/2013
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    TTC#2: 6/2014 all testing came back normal

    IVF#2 (#1 for LO#2) 9/2014 - 17R 10M 10F 4 blasts frozen on day 6.

    FET #1 10/15/14 - Beta #1: 216  Beta #2: 823


    Baby Boy born 7/10/2015


    Mrs.AmyDylan
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