Are you sharing the name before baby is born?

Jna0407 · January 2015

We are first time parents, and expecting a little girl! My husband and I have come up with two names for DD that we love. We keep referring to her as one, but we may change our mind when we see her. We are getting pressure from our parents to share the name, and we don't want to, especially since we haven't completely decided which name.

Any other mommies planning on waiting until delivery to share your LO's name? (For similar or different reasons)

girlymama79 · January 2015

Nope. Not a single person will know besides DH and me. My MIL has issues with this but she can suck it.

firsttimer86 · January 2015

I'm the exact same way. We have two names although I am calling her one of the two mostly but we wanna keep the name a surprise since everyone knows the sex

ksimo6 · January 2015

We didn't share DDs name. It wasn't to piss people off... We just didn't want any opinions on name choice. When people started to offer us cash to give it up... Things got entertaining!

We are having a son this time around and will not share his name either. My SIL is threatening to kidnap him from the hospital as payback. Lol

moret07 · January 2015

My boy name has been set in stone for about 2 years now so the whole family knows. If baby is a girl I think we will keep it a secret. We just can not decide on a name and I think that once we are set on one I won't want to hear anyone's opinions so we will just wait until delivery day. We have a handful of names in mind and we really don't even share them with people. We just say if it's a girl we aren't sure. I intend on continuing to say that til the due date lol

mccall35 · January 2015

We did not share DS's name with anyone prior to him arriving (except my BFF, who DH accidently let slip to after a few beers at dinner one night). As much as it drove my mom and MIL nuts, I think they appreciated the reveal (especially since we already knew and had made public the sex). We will do the same for this babe. You gotta leave something for the day of!

plus. We didn't and don't want any unsolicited opinions on our name selection, so there's that as well.

Jna0407 · January 2015

I'm glad we're not the only ones. I just keep telling people that we haven't decided yet, which is true! What if we tell everyone one name, and when we see her, decide that the other name is more appropriate. Also, we don't really want anyone's opinion. I'm finding that people (especially older people) are very annoyed with this notion. I don't understand why.

mccall35 · January 2015

Jna0407 said:

I'm glad we're not the only ones. I just keep telling people that we haven't decided yet, which is true! What if we tell everyone one name, and when we see her, decide that the other name is more appropriate. Also, we don't really want anyone's opinion. I'm finding that people (especially older people) are very annoyed with this notion. I don't understand why.

I don't understand either, considering a lot of them probably named their LOs at the hospital, or at least finalized the name there (considering finding out the sex beforehand wasn't as common-place- or even possible depending on how old these people are).

moret07 · January 2015

I've had ppl straight up tell me "we aren't announcing name until delivery because we do not want unsolicited advice and ruin our name for us" and I thought "good for you" I mean really that's a thought thing to do but it totally makes sense. And if that's what works for you then wen people get upset tell them "I'm sorry but that's our decision and it's not up for discussion"

dakotahbaby · January 2015

My husband and I are keeping baby's name to ourselves until baby is born. I want to avoid his brother's wife who is due a few weeks before us from stealing little ones name. Plus we don't want people trying to sway us from the name we've already chosen when it's not there child or choice what we name our little one

karaelaine1991 · January 2015

We have, but we're both set on her name so we're not worried about sharing it. If she were going to be a boy we probably wouldn't have told anyone because we weren't settled on one yet and DH was interested in waiting till baby was born to decide for sure since we kept going back and forth. But, since ultrasound says she's a girl and we're both set on the name we've chosen, we didn't see a reason not to tell - neither of us are good at keeping secrets haha

thelittlestbee · January 2015

We had our baby girl's name picked out long before she was conceived. We've actually shared the name with our family (upon request) and so far everyone loves it. My MIL is the only one who isn't a fan, but I don't really care...

mlindzz · January 2015

We didn't share our baby names with family or friends until we were decided. Then when we had a few people who didn't seem overly thrilled about the name, it didn't matter because we were both in love with it anyways.

It's a boy, we just found out today! And we're naming him Kingston

sls2015 · January 2015

Being a FTM, I didn't know how interested people would become in the names we were considering. I also didn't know how beneficial it is to keep people in the dark! We have decided to keep our name to ourselves until our son is born because some people dislike it. We love it though, and it's so much less stressful to avoid the unwanted opinions, while also having this secret (for now) name we both call him.

ktbear9512 · January 2015

Nope. We didn't with DS either. Here are the reasons:
1. I might change my mind once I see her. I tell people I don't want to commit to anything.
2. I don't want to hear people's stupid opinions about the name we pick. DH and I are the only ones who matter.
3. It's nice to have something a surprise. We like to find out sex ahead of time and the name is something special we can announce.

MJMum524 · January 2015

My advice- don't share the name. Period.

kyleegail89 · January 2015

We're having a boy and we had decided on a boy's first name at least a year ago, but we were undecided on the middle name. Well when we found out it was a boy, we decided to use my FIL's first name. He passed away 2.5 years ago.

We can't wait to meet Lincoln Christopher!

KonaCoffeeBean · January 2015

Probably not. It's pretty CBH at this point. We're making backwards progress on even choosing names.

mamahawk12 · January 2015

Nope, we don't share names. A- I don't want to hear anyone's opinion. B- we use family names so I love that meaningful moment of revealing the name to people. Handing my father his grandchild for the first time, and revealing that they share a name, has been one of the most incredible moments of my life. I can't wait to experience it again with #3.

AmyCee · January 2015

Nope! Not even my parents! It's not up to anyone else what we name him and I don't care about hearing their opinions. We named DS1 a trendy but new name and by the time everyone heard it it was too late to do anything -- but many family members thought we were nuts. Now everyone loves it - but to be honest it only mattered that we did

MissIntentional · January 2015

We shared right away with #1. We are waiting with this one.

sarah2064 · January 2015

We planned to keep our DD's Name A Secret Until After She Was Born. It was a good thing because we went to the hospital still totally unsure which name we would chose. I thought and still do think that it was a nice surprise for our families.
We plan to do the same with this baby. I actually think we have chosen a name but it's still hard to commit.
I don't want people's negative opinions, or for someone to say somethibg that ruins a name for me/us. I care too much what other people think, especially family.

sarah2064 · January 2015

I did dislike the constant name suggestions. I would deflect the pressure to spill the name by saying we hadn't decided and that just got me a ton of unwanted suggestions. I think this time I might say "we have chosen a few but won't decide until birth"
Maybe that will work haha

Katerina&Baby · January 2015

We shared our top choice boy name with a few super close friends and our moms (and my sister - I can't keep anything from her) but are hopelessly far apart on girls names. I'll probably tell my sister once we decide but literally nobody else - I can't risk having to start that process all over again

JessHeppell · January 2015

this will be my H's and my first child and we are keeping both the gender(once we find out(if we even decide to find out)) and we are also keeping name ideas secret. so far i have only told one person and its because she too is pregnant and she told me hers. only fair right? we dont want any unnecessary/unpleasant opinions on the names as they are on the more uncommon side.

dedebush02 · January 2015

We shared because DS helped pick it and 8 year olds aren't the best at keeping things secret. Good news is every one loves it. If they don't they don't and that's OK to. I just say we'll it's a good thing he's not your baby. We haven't had too much if that.

lmfs90 · January 2015

I can't keep that to myself. I am a blabber mouth even on my own things. Pretty much everyone knows our baby girls name even as we change it from week to week. lol so in a way people may not even know at the end what we choose.

tinybugsmom · January 2015

We have not shared names with anyone. No plans to either. If we find out the sex today we may keep that secret too.

erbear84 · January 2015

I've shared online but not with people I know. I don't need the judgement from my mom, basically.

effthisnoise · January 2015

I accidentally told a friend, "That's our name!" when he said that he and his wife had picked out a girl name for their baby. Luckily, they're having a boy and this conversation happened a couple months after they found out. I'm glad that I did blurt that out so they won't be surprised when we use the name if this one turns out to be a girl. I don't need to be known as "the bitchy former friend who stole our name after we told it to her."

I have mixed feelings on name sharing. If you're not going to be swayed away from the name, then I don't think it matters if you announce it early. And if I had close friends or family due around the same time or before me, I'd be more worried that one of them might have chosen the same name as us than I would that one of them would "steal" our name.

FloGirl82 · January 2015

Yep-within my close circle of friends, 6 of us are pregnant or have just had babies (trust me, it wasn't planned amongst us, lol). I didn't want to chance it that I would fall in love with a first name, and have someone else want to name their child the exact same name. That would be awkward. I also don't care what people think of the name we picked out-not everyone's going to love it anyway.

neongreen · January 2015

Nope. We tell people we're using family names for middle names (and our families know which grandmothers we're naming for), and that's all they get for now. However, we had one girl's name picked out for a while, which my mother knows about, so she can make an educated guess for one of the twins. The other, no one knows except for some online friends I confided in.

mamayo26 · January 2015

We did with DS1 beacuse I knew that was the name and so I didn't care what anyone said. With DS2 we are having a harder time naming him and since we are still determining the FN (MN we are pretty set on) DH wants to wait until he is born to decide, which I think I am ok with. I have a front runner of the 3, so I think at this point especialy since this is #2, I'm not as against not sharing,b ut you have to do what you think is best and everyone else can grow up and wait...

megron · January 2015

We are already referring to her as Eva. MIL is the only one who doesn't like it, but I don't really care. She named all for of her kids Br names and that kind of thing drives me nuts, so I'm not too worried about her approval. Plus, the name we chose is a family name and it's special to us.

mindaa · January 2015

DH and I totally disagree on this. I would rather keep it to ourselves until finalized...for the many reasons mentioned above. I know too many people who will start sewing things with the name on it, and then what if we change our mind in the hospital? Embarrassing.

Before we even know it was a boy, DH was already talking to anyone and everyone about the names we're considering. Grrrr.

We've kind of agreed on a compromise... he has some funny names and movie names that he can throw out in response to questions.

But still, once we do decide, I don't think he'll ever be able to keep it from his parents, who are the most opinionated of all... and I'd rather not have their opinions. (MIL has already flat out asked him to name LO after FIL. She was smart not to bring that up in front of me

)

deutschbaby · January 2015

Nope. I doubt we will even make a final decision. We plan to have a short list, and then decide when we meet him.

NO ONE gets to know the short list either. I don't want and don't care about their opinions. Just Nope.

deutschbaby · January 2015

I have had a few work colleagues get really frustrated that I am noncommittal about name options. I'm also not sharing my exact due date with them. They were all NIGHTMARES when my colleague had a baby last summer... constantly stopping by and counting down to her due date, and then badgering her when she went "over due". I had my DS at 42 weeks, and I don't need the added pressure. Baby will come when he is ready. All work needs to know is that I plan to take 12 weeks maternity leave, and for planning purposes, it could start at any time in June or the first week of July (assuming a full term birth).

People feel they have a right to know all kinds of private crap from pregnant women. I have been asked about when my LMP was, when and where (?? wtf??) we conceived, questions about my bowel movements (are you constipated?), the location of the placenta, was this a planned pregnancy, are we happy, are we sad it's a boy (WTF?), etc, etc. My coworker had our boss ask her about her mucus plug. No, just no.

I am having a baby. He is healthy, I am fine, and I will take 3 months maternity leave likely starting in June or early July. End of story.

I realize most people are just being nice, and I don't mind being asked. But it's when people get ANGRY that I won't answer personal questions that I get annoyed. No random coworker I've known for 2 years, I'm not telling you about my menstrual cycles.

alcrimmins · January 2015

We are not sharing. We are team green and I don't want to share the name that we don't use in case I want to use it later. Also, it keeps the name haters at bay. We've shared a few names with our family, but I've ways left out our top names.

MamaBish · January 2015

We will be sharing it once we know the sex (hopefully Wednesday!). A couple people already know but it's not really public yet.

KJKNAJ · January 2015

I'm sure you're getting lots of the same responses here. But, no, we won't be sharing for 3 reasons:

1. I don't want to hear people's opinions. They are much less likely to give them once the name actually belongs to your baby.

2. I am English and it is very rare to name your child before birth. My parents would panic, lol.

3. We usually struggle to come up with ANY name until the 38th week so there's that.

ajgerber · January 2015

I can't believe how many of you aren't sharing the name! I guess I never have known anyone to do that before. Just not normal in my family or circle of friends.

We waited until we knew for sure before telling anyone and did at least tell people close to us the narrowed down list to get their thoughts. Will do the same this time around but we are no where near coming up with a name yet.

But if someone doesn't like our choice I am usually vocal about telling them what I think about their opinion.

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