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June 2015 Moms
mccall35
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Unpopular Opinion (UO) Thursday
mccall35
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Let's try to get a bit of normalcy back on the board. I'm getting bored with little to read during DS's nap time.
For any newbies, this is where you can post (ideally) pregnancy/bump-related unpopular opinions.
*disclaimer* be aware that your opinion may or may not be flamed
For any newbies, this is where you can post (ideally) pregnancy/bump-related unpopular opinions.
*disclaimer* be aware that your opinion may or may not be flamed
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Re: Unpopular Opinion (UO) Thursday
Is it really that horrible to have to wait until halfway through your pregnancy?
And maybe adoption would be something your DH would be willing to consider in the future if you guys decide wanted to expand your family!
~~~ EDD for Baby #2 6/28/15~~~~
Haha I suppose there are always exceptions to the rule. I'll make an exception for your birthday
~~~ EDD for Baby #2 6/28/15~~~~
~~~ EDD for Baby #2 6/28/15~~~~
Keep me updated on how your 3D scan on the 9th goes
~~~ EDD for Baby #2 6/28/15~~~~
Ok, so I agree with the two other posts about elective U/s @starrysmile18 I'll give you a pass as it is your birthday (Happy Birthday BTW). And I hate being pregnant too (althought this comes and goes with #2, but with DS1 by 28 weeks i was so swollen from edema and had GD too, I was so over it and just all the stupid comments and questions on top of it made me want to never do it again.
My own OU is that I hate naming DS2--DS1's name came so easily and this time I can't make heads or tails of what I think about names. We also have so many names we "can't" use for various reasons, and I just wish I had a sign of what we are supposed name him. UG why is naming humans so hard!
@mccall35 thanks for trying to get some normalcy back to the board. i
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Oh boy, here I go...this is related to everything that has occurred this past week. I really don't care that TB has paid MODs. Maybe the approach wasn't the best (and I 100% do not know the details, only tidbits of hearsay). The way I see it, is that the ladies here can still support, give advice/opinions to one another the EXACT same way as before. If someone is getting a warning or eventually banned for consistently cussing ladies out or consistently posting ignorant replies because someone didn't use the search bar, then so be it. Don't get me wrong, I've rolled my eyes on several questions, myself. But, quite frankly I find it a waste of time to respond an entire paragraph just to call someone stupid, etc.
Also, pregnancy related - I really cannot stand hearing people tell me "you ONLY have 19 weeks left - it's going so fast" Um, I feel like "I STILL have 19 weeks left, but I'm glad it's going so fast for you"
I feel truly bad for a lot of people dealing with infertility but some of the people I know need to shut the fuck up. Bear with me here..
I know at least three people who want everyone to feel bad for them because they are trying and failing to get pregnant who I have no sympathy for, let me tell you why..
One of my friends has been trying and failing to get pregnant. She is 1.) extremely obese and making no effort to diet or work out 2.) a more than a pack a day smoker and 3.) a daily (usually heavily) drinker. She went to her doctor who started to give her shots and her directions were 1.) diet and exercise 2.) cut back smoking and eventually stop 3.) not to drink while undergoing treatment. This girl has made no effort what so ever to do any of these things. The day she took her first shot she got tipsy before her partner gave it to her and continued to drink immediately after and every day since and has not even attempted to cut back.
My sister in law is hating on me because I accidentally got pregnant while her no her husband have been trying with no results.. She and her husband are morbidly obese. She smokes more than a pack a day and also drinks daily and gets wasted a couple of times a week, like over a dozen beers wasted. They both eat like pigs and make no effort to control their diet whatsoever. She's a nurse so she knows being more than 100 pounds over weight, drinking and smoking all cause fertility issues and has made no attempt to change anything.
So I'm not allowed to be sick and feeling crappy about being pregnant because they can't get pregnant?! You've got to be fucking kidding me.
I do have seriously cases of the feels for women struggling with fertility, but sorry about your luck- if you're not following doctors orders or willing to put in any work I DONT FEEL BAD FOR YOU.
In order to carry this baby to term I spent countless hours in the hospital, in the cancer center getting blood draws and transfusions, traveling to specialists in another state, etc.
If you can't even put down the fork, the beer, and the cigarette what makes you think I need to throw you a pity party because you're not pregnant?? Go on a diet, go to the gym, quit smoking, stop getting hammered, and follow doctors orders.. If you're not pregnant after that I'll go buy a party sub and some streamers and throw an epic pity bash in your honor- until then, shut the fuck up.
My husband and I had fertility issues as well. Had multiple m/c's, got serious and changed our lifestyle. The doctor told my husband to stop drinking red wine and take vitamins. Lo and behold 3 mos later we got pregnant and it stuck!
No sympathy for people who aren't dedicated to having a child.
Also, I am in the "the name is a secret" club and people keep digging to figure it out. When I told coworkers that I didn't want to name the baby until I actually see the babe, I got some side eyes, oh well.
There you go.
I think people who ask their doctor (a person who spent a great deal of time and money on medical school and knows their medical history and individual pregnancy) a question, then instead of following the advice they give, ask people in the Internet what they should do.
People are idiots. If you want to know about literature, ask me! I went to college for eight years to get a PhD in literature.
If you want to ask a medical question, ask your doctor- then follow the advice they give you instead of asking a bunch of people on the Internet.
It worries me that se of these people are breeding!
Can you just say this it personal and you are not comfortable discussing the situation? and just leave it at that. If it really isn't their business they should back off and if not, just repeat yourself.
People totally lose all social graces when it comes to pregnancy/babies (and weddings too, for thsoe of you in that boat).
I also have seen a lot of fertility people who I have the deepest sympathy for post a lot of articles lately... How every time they see someone post about their new pregnancy, baby etc it makes them so sad and upset and how the rest of the world should be more considerate. I agree 100% but it works me that somehow I can't be happy and post on "my" facebook page how happy I am for my child because "you never know who is struggling"... I have so much sympathy for these people and would never ever want to hurt them ever!!! But, can I not post about what is happening in my life and show my excitement??? Or will it always be considered rubbing it in their faces??? Ugh...