family drama!

agallaher12 · January 2015

What do I do if we announce the name and hubby's grandmother can't say it or spell it, my mom and sister hate the middle name and my grandmother hates the whole thing. They are really overbearing. I love our name, I don't think it's to weird or something no one has heard before. I know that our opinion is the only one that matters but I just keep feeling rejection from my family at every angle...

bbiutmcph · January 2015

What is the name

louloutte87 · January 2015

Now you have to tell us the name!!

Dr.Loretta · January 2015

This is why you don't share names before the birth, especially if you think your family will be critical.

If you love the name, and have decided on it, stick with it. Often family will come around once there's a person attached to the name.

FWIW a couple of my nephews have unusual names, but my mom kept her mouth shut. Now she can't imagine them having any other name. And DH's grandma can't pronounce DD's name either. She just calls her The Baby. I feel like she's afraid we'll get mad if she pronounces it wrong, but it's a TOUGH name!

coaster102516 · January 2015

What's the name?!

This is also why we aren't sharing our name with anyone, I have very opinionated family members! Anyways, if you love the name, stick to your guns. I would be shocked if they continued to still despise it (at least openly) once your baby is born.

If your sick of hearing them talk about how much they dislike the name, just tell them over and over again until they get it that the name discussion is closed and change the subject. As far as pronunciation and spelling, that is easy. Write it on a piece of paper for her and remind her how it is pronounced. My niece has a very unusual name and it is not how I thought you would spell it but after a few tries, I got it down. Good luck!

agallaher12 · January 2015

The name is Ian Sawyer. It's nothing to crazy... but they all hate it. I've told them since I disclosed the name that there would be no discussing it. That was his name, and that's it. They just keep nagging... next time around I won't disclosed the name until it is signed on the birth certificate.

Edited to say: the grandmothers seem to think Ian will get misspelled as EN literally, that's what they keep telling me. Last time I checked Ian was the only CORRECT way to spell it. Other than the kre8tive spelling Ean.

Dr.Loretta · January 2015

Iain is another legit spelling, but whatever.

The name is fine, they'll get over it

Koalaknuckles · January 2015

Ian may not be 'common' to them, but pretty much everyone else in the English speaking world knows how to say/spell Ian

I thought you were going to say they had more of a problem with the Sawyer part.

Stick to the name. You love it and it's a good name. If they don't like it, tough titties.

I think the only person I'd share my name choice with is my mom. She wouldn't judge and she'd keep it to herself.

Everyone else would have to wait

gnomemom · January 2015

I was expecting something totally weird. Ian Sawyer is a great name.

agallaher12 · January 2015

Thanks guys! I needed a little reassurance that I wasn't crazy thinking that most people had heard it before. My mom and sister wanted Kameron Elijah (that being said... it's a nice name but his initials would have spelled KEG) and the grandmothers wanted something more dated (i.e. Joseph, Johnathan, Matthew, etc.) While all are nice I'll stick to my gut and Ian Sawyer will be his name

LNic5 · January 2015

Definitely stick with it, I also was expecting some crazy name, but it's really great. Your family will just have to learn to live with it

Dr.Loretta · January 2015

Kameron is awful. Ian is miles better

nublet · January 2015

It's a great name! Stick with it.
FWIW My father-in-law tried to talk us out of naming DS1 Elliot (we stuck with it) and my brother's name is Ian and when he was born (40 years ago) my grandmother said 'David's a nice name.' And then proceeded to give him seventy five different nicknames for the rest of her life

Do you love all the names your family has chosen? Probably not. To each their own.
Ian is perfectly normal and still somewhat unique/uncommon. I would definitely consider it myself if it wasn't my brother's name!

saham07 · January 2015

Such a nice name. Please keep it.

marthah05 · January 2015

agallaher12 said:
What do I do if we announce the name and hubby's grandmother can't say it or spell it, my mom and sister hate the middle name and my grandmother hates the whole thing. They are really overbearing. I love our name, I don't think it's to weird or something no one has heard before. I know that our opinion is the only one that matters but I just keep feeling rejection from my family at every angle...

Well I would say thank you for your opinion, but you have had your chance to name your children, but this is ours and you don't get a vote.

MandMLeona · January 2015

Obviously you have different naming styles. NBD. You probably don't shop for the same clothes either.

astrat017 · January 2015

My response would be: for every negative comment that you share despite me telling you not to, is one more day away from meeting him. Love him as Ian or GTFO. May be harsh but with my family it would do he trick

marthah05 · January 2015

agallaher12 said:
Thanks guys! I needed a little reassurance that I wasn't crazy thinking that most people had heard it before. My mom and sister wanted Kameron Elijah (that being said... it's a nice name but his initials would have spelled KEG) and the grandmothers wanted something more dated (i.e. Joseph, Johnathan, Matthew, etc.) While all are nice I'll stick to my gut and Ian Sawyer will be his name </p>

Tell them if they want to name a baby to then to get pregnant and name that child, but until then your son's name is Ian Sawyer.

4N6s · January 2015

Ian is normal...

KateLouise · January 2015

I love Ian. Prefer the spelling Iain, but Ian is defeinitely legit and normal.

kmvisioli · January 2015

Ian Sawyer is a good name! I don't think anyone in the general public will have problems spelling or pronouncing either one.

Renisra+2 · January 2015

You really have to know your family to decide whether or not you should share names. I am very certain that no one in my family would say anything rude about a name I chose, unless it was a stupid name, and in which case, I would probably thank them! So, we do share. We are also extremely confident with the choice before sharing, so that helps deter any comments we might get. If you have a more brass family who will say offensive things about your name choice, then I agree with the others that avoiding sharing is best. I think it's a great name and certainly lightyears better than Kameron!

mommabird77 · January 2015

Ian Sawyer is a great name. My mom was not really a fan of Vivienne's name, but after she was born she got over it. They will just have to deal, it is your child not their child.

jburdet1 · January 2015

I can understand your family issues; DH's grandparents couldn't pronounce Isla and MIL replied with "You're kidding, right?" MIL still misspells her name as Islam :S

I'm currently pregnant and we still plan to share our names before birth. However, we're confident in our choices and don't mind judgement and confrontation if a family member is rude enough to offer an opinion when not asked.
I find it really strange that your mother suggested a name both first and middle like this is her baby to name. I would get that straightened out before baby comes. You are the mother and she is the grandmother. Times are changing. Period.

HeavenBlessedMom · January 2015

I thought it was going to be pretty out there, but IanSawyer is fine. I actually like it, it's not my style, but I do like it keep it please.

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