Baby Showers: I'm actually being nice here...

DawnLilly · January 2015

Baby Showers are surprise parties you accidentally found out about.

You don't throw yourself a surprise party.

You don't get to decide the food served, decorations used, or the games played.

Every birthday does not deserve a surprise party. You got one when you were 30. Don't expect another at 31.

However, crazy circumstances might mean you get another surprise party when you say, happen to be promoted at work.

You do not get to drop hints that you want a surprise party.

MissRissx3 · January 2015

That's your opinion

MissRissx3 · January 2015

GFJ48 said:

MissRissx3 said:
That's your opinion
That's etiquette you fucking moron.

Again, your opinion.

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DawnLilly · January 2015

Here's another:

If you throw yourself a surprise party or question the one you accidentally found out about: don't expect guests or the host to be thrilled or ever ever throw you another.

cassietegtmeier · January 2015

MissRissx3 said:
That's your opinion

That's every person with a little bit of class & tacts opinion.

MissRissx3 · January 2015

Some people like to help plan and they think it is fun. My theme is Dr Seuss and I'm so excited that I got to be part of it. It gives me something else to look forward to. We're also making all of our own decorations!

I mean if you find that "wrong" so be it. I can't wait.

MissRissx3 · January 2015

It's definitely just an opinion. Not everyone has to go with what you deem "right." Get over it.

DawnLilly · January 2015

MissRissx3 said:
Some people like to help plan and they think it is fun. My theme is Dr Seuss and I'm so excited that I got to be part of it. It gives me something else to look forward to. We're also making all of our own decorations! I mean if you find that "wrong" so be it. I can't wait.

Make sure you don't forget to thank yourself when you mail out Thank You notes.

MissRissx3 · January 2015

DawnLilly said:

MissRissx3 said:
Some people like to help plan and they think it is fun. My theme is Dr Seuss and I'm so excited that I got to be part of it. It gives me something else to look forward to. We're also making all of our own decorations! I mean if you find that "wrong" so be it. I can't wait.
Make sure you don't forget to thank yourself when you mail out Thank You notes.

... Alrighty then. It's not like I expect to be patted on the back. It's something my MIL and I will bond on

she actually wants me involved and loves my enthusiasm. I'm sorry it's not the same for you? idk what else to tell you.

obimom · January 2015

Nobody said you can't help if you've been asked to help. You can't PLAN your own.

You can't dictate what the host does for you.

My MIL is throwing mine and with the amount of time and money she is putting into it I'd have to be the biggest piece of shit on the planet to say one negative word to her about it. It will not be done entirely "to my taste" and I will not be making suggestions on food or games or anything else.

@DawnLillyis on point. If you disagree you need some fucking manners.

Moral of the story... Don't be a dick.

DawnLilly · January 2015

They come in pop up

MissRissx3 · January 2015

GFJ48 said:

MissRissx3 said:
Some people like to help plan and they think it is fun. My theme is Dr Seuss and I'm so excited that I got to be part of it. It gives me something else to look forward to. We're also making all of our own decorations! I mean if you find that "wrong" so be it. I can't wait.
I know you're a child but buy a book on etiquette.

Is that all you ladies can say?
How about you read a damn dictionary and look up the word "respect."
Because you all are lacking that very important way of life. Your mouths should be drenched in soap for the things you've said and the names you've called us "newbies." Get a grip.

MissRissx3 · January 2015

Move on, nobody wants your negative "advice."

MissRissx3 · January 2015

Your cute little gifs that are so meaningful, your choice of words to use, the way you handle your anger.. it all should be fixed.

DawnLilly · January 2015

I have never and will never use that word. You are an ignorant child. I have not been rude to any newbie. I either ignore if something is a repetitive question, or I offer advice as I have done here so they know what the majority thinks. You are a troll that disagrees with any sort of intellectual information for the sake of disagreement. Newbies actually sometimes have legitimate questions and thank goodness none of them have actually been serious situations that you have replied to with incorrect information.

MissRissx3 · January 2015

DawnLilly said:
I have never and will never use that word. You are an ignorant child. I have not been rude to any newbie. I either ignore if something is a repetitive question, or I offer advice as I have done here so they know what the majority thinks. You are a troll that disagrees with any sort of intellectual information for the sake of disagreement. Newbies actually sometimes have legitimate questions and thank goodness none of them have actually been serious situations that you have replied to with incorrect information.

I disagree with name calling and threatening to leave tb without following through. I disagree with the way you ALL decide to hand out advice by bashing anyone who dares to ask a silly question. I disagree with your annoying gifs with penises on people posts. I disagree with the way you all Think you can just waltz in and run people. It's not happening. I promise you that.

lgsdesigner · January 2015

GFJ48 said:

You are the one who waltzed in to an already established community thinking you could run things on this board little girl. We are trying to leave the bump but they won't delete us so maybe they don't want us to leave and they hate you too.

lgsdesigner · January 2015

Also @MissRissx3 - We have suspicions you are a case of catfishing. You never post pics of yourself, keep changing out your avatar, and I am fairly certain you are more than one person on this board logging in at various times to create drama.

I challenge you to show a handful of real pics of yourself. Especially full-body shots of you pregnant.

adetheridge · January 2015

MissRissx3 I'm sorry..I have tried to say out of this and be an adult but I thought you were taking care of your "sick father" or whoever it was that you keep mentioning. But every time I look, you're posting again. Not even just responding but actually creating posts. For someone who is so busy doing "adult" things, since you like to keep pointing out you have degrees and all from 6 years ago, you sure seem to keep stirring the pot of drama. I just can't deal. I feel like my 3rd graders are more mature.

MissRissx3 · January 2015

lgsdesigner said:
Also @MissRissx3 - We have suspicions you are a case of catfishing. You never post pics of yourself, keep changing out your avatar, and I am fairly certain you are more than one person on this board logging in at various times to create drama.
I challenge you to show a handful of real pics of yourself. Especially full-body shots of you pregnant.

I'm on my phone I have a pic of me right here! Lol

MissRissx3 · January 2015

How do I do it on my phone?

lgsdesigner · January 2015

MissRissx3 said:

Also @MissRissx3 - We have suspicions you are a case of catfishing. You never post pics of yourself, keep changing out your avatar, and I am fairly certain you are more than one person on this board logging in at various times to create drama.
I challenge you to show a handful of real pics of yourself. Especially full-body shots of you pregnant.
I'm on my phone I have a pic of me right here! Lol

Uh-huh. Many of us post from our phones. That's no excuse.

magicpie33 · January 2015

I may be a little late on this but I think that different cultures do things a little differently. My mother and sister told me that they are throwing me a shower and they want my help and opinion on things. I'm not planning it but they wanted me to still have a say in things. Not everyone does things the same way and I think it's important to respect different people's opinions and methods of doing things.

MissRissx3 · January 2015

I've even had a pic of my husband d and I so wtf?

NanSee3 · January 2015

MissRissx3 said:
How do I do it on my phone?

I can only post/view from my phone. I have an iPhone abs don't know how android phones work. For me, I click on "Attach a file", then "choose file". It should take you take your picture album.

lgsdesigner · January 2015

@MissRissx3-
If you are real-- take a photo of yourself holding a piece of paper that says "The Bump" on it. Anyone can post any random pic of a person they steal pics from. I want to make sure you are really real, so you have to post something that a thief can't steal.

And to post via mobile-- reply to the post and click on "Attach a file". Upload the file and click "post reply". It's that simple.

DawnLilly · January 2015

Holy crap! Don't give out your Facebook.

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combs797 · January 2015

I am throwing my own shower. And I am fine with it. For myself personally there are a few reasons. Mainly I feel bad putting a financial obligation on my friends who allready struggle. My sister is only family here with me and she is going to co-host by helping me plan and decorate. I will not be sending myself thank you cards. I will be sending personal notes thanking each person for the gift they brought for my baby girl. I am an older mom and this will most likely be my last. I didn't get a baby shower with my last two and I want this one to be special. I got a cricut craft machine for christmas and I can't wait to use it for my shower! I'm picturing a pintrest baby shower lol. So if this is wrong well then it's wrong. But no matter what me and my friends will have a beautiful day together celebrating this wonderful thing.

Lezzie82 · January 2015

MissRissx3 said:

Some people like to help plan and they think it is fun. My theme is Dr Seuss and I'm so excited that I got to be part of it. It gives me something else to look forward to. We're also making all of our own decorations! I mean if you find that "wrong" so be it. I can't wait.
I know you're a child but buy a book on etiquette.
Is that all you ladies can say? How about you read a damn dictionary and look up the word "respect." Because you all are lacking that very important way of life. Your mouths should be drenched in soap for the things you've said and the names you've called us "newbies." Get a grip.

Bahahahahaha did you really just take the "wash your mouth out with soap" route???

You're really cool.

EVPwed · January 2015

MissRissx3 said:

Some people like to help plan and they think it is fun. My theme is Dr Seuss and I'm so excited that I got to be part of it. It gives me something else to look forward to. We're also making all of our own decorations! I mean if you find that "wrong" so be it. I can't wait.
Make sure you don't forget to thank yourself when you mail out Thank You notes.
... Alrighty then. It's not like I expect to be patted on the back. It's something my MIL and I will bond on she actually wants me involved and loves my enthusiasm. I'm sorry it's not the same for you? idk what else to tell you.

Is this the same MIL that you were complaining about a few weeks ago for dumping grandma on you? You also complained about how grandma always wants to be the center of attention, yet you are on here all day, every day, doing the same thing. Oh wait, I forgot, everyone else is mean and you are just an innocent victim. I think you forgot that most people gave you TONS of support until you went and started mocking them and what this board stood for.

jessicamaister · January 2015

Speaking of etiquette your other post about this topic leave something to be desired

GFJ48 said:

MissRissx3 said:
Some people like to help plan and they think it is fun. My theme is Dr Seuss and I'm so excited that I got to be part of it. It gives me something else to look forward to. We're also making all of our own decorations! I mean if you find that "wrong" so be it. I can't wait.
I know you're a child but buy a book on etiquette.

starisamommy2bof2 · January 2015

Love is in the air ♡

MissRissx3 · January 2015

Just waiting on you all to be banned...

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aniquinter1 · January 2015

I hope this doesn't get taken the wrong way, but what does it matter if the account is deleted or not? Can't you just walk away from the account? It seems like upping the ante and intentionally posting things that would get your account deleted is a lot of work. Are there ramifications for leaving the account inactive?

aniquinter1 · January 2015

With regards to the thread, I offered to help my younger sister plan my shower. My grandma basically told her that according to etiquette it was her responsibility to plan the shower (my lil sis). And in my family you do what grandma tells you to do

My sister sounded a little overwhelmed so I decided to offer my help and so far we have been having a lot of fun picking through Pinterest for party theme ideas and decoration ideas.

You definitely shouldn't push yourself or your ideas on the folks hosting a shower for you. But etiquette has to bend here and there.

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aniquinter1 · January 2015

blackpearl08 said:
Deleting the account robs The Dump of posting history and hurts their analytics and what they can charge for the crappy ads. Many of their longtime users with thousands of posts over the years are using it which is why the leaderboard looks so lame with people with a few posts.

Thanks for the explanation, makes a lot of sense.

svrevels · February 2015

Everyone's situation is different. I'm helping with my shower too. Doing as much work and spending as much money as the moms. Together we are all supporting one another and getting all the cooking, planning, and other work done. It will be a very fun occasion. I didn't ask for one and was not going to throw one for myself by myself but the moms reached out asking if I wanted to do one. Things are not always black and white.

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