Hi Ladies, so my husband and I found out that our twins are one boy and one girl. I'm an interior designer (and a pretty good one if I say so myself) so naturally like all new moms I'm very excited to design a nursery. I'm having an impossible time convincing my husband to agree to any of the pieces I have chosen- he seems to think he knows what he is talking about and is being so stubborn. Anyone else have a tricky husband? How can I convince him to just let me do my thing? Should I try to compromise with him and let him feel included? I want to start getting stuff and he is being a real buzz kill. Rant over! Help me, what would you do?
Re: Tricky husband
If he wants to be involved I would totally let him. Pick out 2 themes you love and have him choose one. That way you still have some control but dad gets a say and feels included. Good luck!
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Can you let him pick out the less nursery things like car seat and stroller?
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My two solutions are talking to him about his ideas and then fitting the ideas into my reality (which is how we ended up with a mid- century modern couch that doesn't look like we robbed the Smithsonian) and showing him ideas instead of telling him about them (which is how I won the chair debate last night)
For what it's worth, we plan to come to a 100% mutual decision on baby girl's name (difficult because like in all matters of taste, our styles are fairly different). BUT I plan on approaching the nursery in the same way as we have the rest of the house, which is to say that ultimately I'll have more influence on the space than he will.
Because we've worked through these issues on other rooms in the house already, I don't anticipate too much difficulty in the nursery; here are some things we've learned about ourselves in the past few years: probably the biggest is that I'm simply more affected by the details of my surroundings on a day to day basis than my husband is. He does have strong opinions initially, but a few weeks later he goes fairly blind to most of the details, where I still feel affected when I enter the room, by the paint color, furniture layout, etc. We've learned that, ultimately, what my husband wants is a clean, comfortable space that looks well put-together, and I can work with that. So if he has initial hesitations, I remind him of past experiences and ask him to live with it for a couple weeks, and if he still has strong feelings about it then, he has complete veto power. This has worked well for us.
Also, a PP's suggestion about showing rather than telling is very helpful. My husband is great with words, but no matter how well I feel like I describe my vision verbally, his acceptance rate is significantly higher if I show him a few pictures of what I'm aiming for.